Final Episode of VH1's "The Pick Up Artist" with Mystery, Matador, and J-Dog

So, I finally managed to catch the final episode of the VH1's The Pick Up Artist, and I've got to say, it was just awesome!! Seriously, I was really impressed with the concept of the final challenge, and although some parts of it seemed to be exaggerated or a little faked, it still got me all pumped up, and in the end, isn't that the point?

The thing I like the best about it is the fact that the guys [Kosmo and Brady] only had a few hours to get all kinds of things taken care of with their students [Kip and Dylan], including avatar-building, routines, proper delivery, and body language, which are the most important things in my opinion. The reason I like this so much is that it shows that the bootcamps that these guys run are not only hardcore, but they get the fucking results! If these guys, Kosmo and Brady, are able to boost up Kip's and Dylan's skills with women as much as they did, in only a few hours, imagine what the professionals like Mystery and Matador can do working with you for an entire weekend! Mind-boggling, right?

Honestly, I was kind of rooting for Kosmo, as well as Big Joe, all the way through, so it was awesome that those 2 made it as far as they did, and even more so that Kosmo won the whole thing. The only thing that bothered me a bit about the way things "worked out" is that both of the finalists were good-looking guys, and I don't want that to reflect in viewers' minds as being a major [if any] factor as to their success; granted, I myself am an incredibly good-looking guy, but that doesn't mean that women are going to throw themselves at you! ..well, not all the time..haa

I've found that the two major effects that good looks have for a guy are to allow him to make more mistakes in his pick up [basically giving his game more lee-way to not be as tight as it should be] and to be able to very much shorten, if not completely by-pass, A2 [the female-to-male attraction phase] because the physical looks the guy possesses already work as a major DHV to the girl, and it's a constant DHV [since it's literally in front of her the whole time] - girls, like guys, will assume certain things about others based on their physical appearance..so in the case of a good-looking guy, she'll assume that he's socially-calibrated and has women in his life, to mention a couple of DHVs created by the physical looks alone. However, this does not mean that without them, a guy can't get the girl; rather, he just has to work a bit more, especially to properly convey these same DHV qualities to the target and/or group.

Back to the show: one thing that struck me as a little oddly coincidental - how did Brady have such a good idea as to really charging up Dylan's appearance, especially with some of the more drastic changes Brady had him under-go [such as trimming off his beard and shaving]?? I feel like he might've had some help in figuring that part out..

Another odd coincidence was the way in which Kip seemed to have such hardcore approach anxiety at first, then Kosmo gave him a few words of encouragement, and all of a sudden, Kip's unstoppable! ..strange, huh? The dude goes from practically having a panic attack to pulling girls back to the VIP couch? Hmm..

Well, I'm tired, and I still have some shit to take care of before crashing for the night, so I'll have to leave it at that for now..maybe more on the weekend..

~h

Straight-Up African Chicks Can Be Pretty Freakin' Hot - Especially in Two's

I'm on the bus, on my way to campus [already late for class, of course], and these 2 girls who are from Africa [1 way or another - they might not/don't live there now, but they were born and partly-raised there, with their family still living there] get on, whom I know from last term. At the same time, HBGottaBeMixed is sitting directly behind me, but I "didn't see her" [because I don't want to be spitting game on her every time we run into each other - let her miss me, even need me, while I'm the non-needy one]. We stop at the gym stop, and I have to get off the bus, as does 1 of the African chicks, HBAfricanGlasses, to allow the people behind us to get off [including HBGBM].

When we are standing out of the bus, I initiate HBAG, whom I haven't seen but maybe once earlier in the term, and even then, I was rushing to a meeting and so couldn't properly engage her..but I had texted her a few times [mass-texting, a la Sinn and Future from my The Mystery Method bootcamp this summer]. Anyways, we are fluff-talking, and HBGBM gets off with a friend of hers. As she passes, she taps me on my arm..I pause for a second, then look out of the corner of my eye and see that she's kept walking [regardless of her looking back as she walked away], so I kept engaged with HBAG. From my perspective, what this did is 2 things: it causes HBGBM to see that I'm not only talking with another girl [jealousy plotline] but also that we are so into our conversation that I didn't even realize she'd passed by [neg], thus setting her up to be even more excited about working to win me the next time; it also causes HBAG to see this other hot girl [HBGBM] pass by and tap me and look back at me [social proof/pre-selection + jealousy plotline] while at the same time showing that I'm more interested in my interaction with her to not even notice HBGBM tap me [IOI/indirect SOI].

After we get back on and then reach the top bus stop, the 3 of us [me, HBAG, and HBAS] start walking together, and I continue with my thing, just fluff-talking for the most part [I busted on them for being lazy and taking the bus instead of just walking up the hill, and they qualified their actions to me..wasn't even going for that, oops]. As we're walking, I run into a couple of guys I know and slow down to engage them [which also works as more social proof since I'm cool and popular as well as well-liked..and of course, non-neediness]. I catch back up to the girls, and then I slow down almost immediately because we reach my lecture hall, and they are headed towards the library..they slow down, too. I stop..they stop, too. Nice.

So, we continue talking. The class now has a break, so there's most of the class, chilling around us at this point, so I use this opportunity to display social proof/pre-selection to other girls in the class by having these two chicks with me, and also since they'd both stopped, I decided to reward that with more game [nice reward, right? Give 'em more]. I go into a little explanation bit about some stuff that happened this past summer, blahblahblah, and used it in such a way as to work as a little comfort-building piece. It works, as I can see in both girls' body language as well as in their facial expressions and even in their eyes [they really seemed to soften up..this would've been a great time to look for that whole pupil dilation thing - I always forget to do this]. At this point, HBAS wanders off to some other friends she spotted, but HBAG stays with me to hear more. She is then rewarded with more kino and verbal playfulness.

Out of nowhere, HBAG starts asking me how many "HBAG"s I know [girls with her name], and I tell her like 2 or 3 others [I used this opportunity as more pre-selection because it's more like 1, and even her number I don't have]. As it turns out, she thought that maybe I'd texted the wrong one the past few times! When I realize this, I decide that I need to tone down my negging and pre-selection stuff, because it will become detrimental soon [if it hasn't already]. In the moment, however, there's not much I can do about that, so I get all overly-dramatic and start playing all lovey-dovey with her, "Awwwww, babyyyyy..commmme heeeeeeerrre!!!" and hugging her, repeatedly, even talking to her while still holding her, etc. I could tell by her body's relaxed state that she was all about this, so I kept it up and held her longer and longer, even grazed her face a few times [should've gotten in at least 1 kiss on the cheek here!], all the while keeping up this role-playing..and of course, looking over her shoulder to see all the other girls from my class watching this whole thing happen haa

Finally, I decide that I need to end this before she does [always], and I'd rather end it on my terms rather than be rushed into it because my class is starting up. As soon as I notice people starting to head back in, I let HBAG go [physically and verbally] and head into class.

This girl is probably gf-material, but I'm not sure if I want that..especially because I'm not quite sure where she stands, especially in terms of conflicting interests [like another guy or something] - sounds pretty weak, but since I don't usually see her around due to out schedules and her constant studying, I don't want to put in the time and energy to pursue her and then not even be able to get where I want to with her..

Plus, her homegirl HBAS is reaaal cute, too, and they have another friend who is from Africa originally, but now lives near/in my city back in the States..and she's got the phaaat ass, son! We'll see how things unfold..

~h

Wanna Study Anatomy with the New Secretary

I don't even remember how this started..

Basically, I was walking down "the hill" towards the cafeteria area, which I was going to cut through on my way to a further-away eatery at the edge of the campus, and I was on the phone, waiting to place my order for my food. I notice, passing by me, is this tall black girl, dressed really nicely [business-style], with a phaaat ass [!] and mini-heels. So, of course, I say my usual comment about walking in heels up/down the hill, etc, and at first she keeps walking. She looks back at me, and I say "I'm talking to you", and she looks away..only to look back again, and I say "Yeah, you!", and she stops..the matches my pace while already opening up her body towards me [remember, I'm behind her]. The lady picks up on the other end of the phone.

I place my order while completely ignoring HBSecretary, and in the meantime, she keeps up with me. After I get off the phone, I start talking with her. I don't remember what I said, but it was all about body language, IOIs back and forth, and major kino from the get-go, the whole way. I high-fived her right off the bat, and then slightly moved my fingers as though I was going to hold her hand, and she responded, so I continued into the hand-hold, which she [of course] followed through on, too. She's giggling and talking, and I can tell 2 things already: 1) whatever she's supposed to be doing and wherever she's supposed to be going, that's all on-hold right now so that she can interact with me [nice], and 2) she's really trying to ensure that the interaction here keeps on going [I can just read it on her face and in her eyes], thus meaning that #1 is getting even stronger. However, I'm on a bit of a time-crunch, so I'd rather end this before we stall out [and then it becomes "my" fault that the bad interaction happened - silly females].

As it turns out, we start walking in the same direction, down some steps, and I tell her "I promise I'm not following you..", and she busts out laughing and asks "Then what are you doing?"..which I ignore, because this is just going to end up killing the joke [I don't have a humorous response, and anything else will seem to be almost qualifying myself, to a joke, which is going to be even worse than just simply qualifying in response to a statement or a question or something]. She sees the line at the bank and is disappointed [haa], and I go on past her while I say something about having fun with that..

I get my food, flirt a bit with the girl who works there [she's got a reTARded ass, but..she's apparently 37 years old! Whaaaaaaat?? Definitely not pursuing that, not because I care about the age, but because it seems like it'd be a lot of work to get her over it..], and head back to the main campus to get to my small group discussion for biochem, and HBSecretary is still in line haha

I laugh at her, and then we just pick up right from there. I start getting some A3 stuff on her to qualify her, and she's off!! She's trying to impress the shit out of me, so I make sure to really reward her [which was great for me, too, because it was a reminder that not can I escalate kino really quickly, but I need to do so], and before you know it, I was holding hands with her and hugging her and doing all kinds of random shit, right in front of the bank, after only having talked to her for like 2-3 minutes. I also found out that she's the new anatomy secretary [the other one is maternity leave for the rest of the term], so I promised her I'd definitely swing by and chill with her sometime, but I needed to get going for now [non-neediness..it was hard, I really wanted to stay - she looks reaaal good, and that BODY of hers..wow..].

As the title of this post suggests, I definitely want to get some hands-on anatomy work done with this body..

~h

VH1's "The Pick Up Artist" Stars Mystery, Matador, and J-Dog Interviewed by Fox News

I caught wind of this and wanted to pass it on, in case anyone had missed it/not heard about it..

VH1's "The Pick Up Artist" Stars Mystery, Matador, and J-Dog Interviewed by Fox News

A few things I found quite interesting about this:

1) The original speaker [the interviewer] plays into the stereotype when introducing the segment, but then he goes the other way and admits that they are really nice guys..more on this a little later..

2) Mystery definitely has a set answer for a number of questions [the more common/expected ones], so in essence, he treats the interview just as though he were gaming a girl..which is good and bad, since it makes sure he's prepared and comes off saying exactly what he wants to say, but at the same time, it makes him seem to be a little less "human" in the sense of relatability

3) Mystery's looking kind of aged here, at least at the beginning of it [it's his birthday, by the way: September 24]..and Matador looks like he's high and/or fucked up during his camera-time

4) As a whole, all these guys [especially Mystery, since he's the one who's relatively been interviewed all over the place] have gotten much better at interviewing, especially at avoiding hardcore community lingo that doesn't make any sense to anyone outside of the community [i.e. neg, IOI, etc] and discussing things in more layman's terms

5) The interview tried to bait Mystery into qualifying himself, especially in terms of being arrogant/possibly sleazy [going back to the stereotyping of "pick up artists"], and he completely loops around it by just talking about whatever he wants to say, in this case that he loves women

6) When they cut back to the studio, the interviewer corrects himself, from saying "they've tried to sh-.." to "they've showed them their techniques..", I think due to his being impressed and having met the guys, knowing that this shit is legit, and wanting to give them their due credit..more on this in a little bit..

7) I thought it was kind of funny when the interviewer was trying to make a joke of the thing, and these guys were taking it much more seriously than it was intended, each of them giving him advice on what to do while he keeps asking "Do you think it's going to work?"..finally, J-Dog catches on and just busts on him for it haa

8) At first, I was a little concerned as to why the guy would've staged such a bad attempt at the pick up, again, going along with reinforcing the stereotype of the community, but then - the guy actually defended it! Little bits at first, as in explaining that it was just a set-up and that these guys know what they're doing, but then ..

9) This whole time, the other guy who's there has been completely serious, no laughing, not even a crack of a smile..can someone say non-believing AFC..?? Nice..he's already been trying to interrupt the interviewer guy, from his own segment, and when he's been unable to, he shifts around uncomfortably..we know what's going to happen now..

10)The interviewer goes on to defend the PUAs by stating that they make it very clear that "pick up" is not about jus getting some girl to go home with you but rather about making a connection with a person

11)..and super AFC has had enough, interrupts, and does his AFC best to AMOG Mystery, Matador, and J-Dog!! hahah

12)..and the greatest part of all [leading all the way up from pts. 1 & 6]: the interview's getting all worked up now!! He's trying to interrupt the super AFC, in order to defend the PUAs and basically shut super AFC up! hahahah

13)..and super AFC is just not letting him, busting on the goggles and saying that the interviewer was wearing them, too..and the interviewer's upset yet trying to remain professional..hilarious!

14)..and of course, the dumb bitch, who has no idea, writes off the fact that these guys wouldn't appeal to her [or at least their clothing, if we give her the benefit of the doubt], and yet..here they are, running a segment on them and their hit VH1 show The Pick Up Artist, and she's been very interested to hear all about the interview, and she's not even there with the PUAs..

15)..and super AFC's still upset..poor guy..can't stop shifting around, still trying his best to bust on the PUAs as well as the interviewer for defending them, even though the guy brought up a great point about not blending in like everyone else and instead standing out from the crowd..super AFC has nothing to say regarding the point itself, so he tries desperately to reclaim some ground by dissing on the PUAs again ["..No dates..no dates..", and then the only smile he's had, since he got in the precious last word that AFC-types are always so concerned with getting..haa]..I almost want to game his daughter[s], in the roughest way, just to show him how much of an idiot he is for being so close-minded, especially when he is a news reporter..sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeez, guy

~h

Some Feminists Hating on the Game, the Seduction Community, and PUAs

I came across a couple of feminist blogs that were really hating on the seduction community:
http://thinkinggirl.wordpress.com/?s=pick+up+artist

http://thinkinggirl.wordpress.com/2007/01/29/professional-pick-up-artists-run-woman-tricking-business-to-help-guys-get-laid/

http://feministpitbull.wordpress.com/?s=pick+up+artist

http://feministpitbull.wordpress.com/2007/07/05/beware-the-open-ended-question-an-opportunity-for-anchors/

I posted a similar comment on each of their pages, but they moderate their comments, so I might not make the cut [we'll see how fair things turn out; considering their whole fight is for women to be true equals, I am trying to give them the benefit of the doubt], so here it is/they are:

The Same Part

"I think that you have really misunderstood, as well as very broadly generalized, this entire “movement” that is the seduction community. It really is like a self-help group for guys, who want to get their life in order, including the aspect dealing with women. All this stuff really does is allow guys to understand how humans, in general, communicate [specifically sub-communication, like body language, which cues you in on what’s going on in the interaction (with a guy, girl, group, at work, whatever) and where to perform which action (i.e., showing YOUR high value that is attractive to her, demonstrating YOUR vulnerability, etc)] to provide a sense of Attraction as well as true rapport and Comfort and providing genuine feelings and an interesting conversation deeper than the typical interview-style interaction [“what’s your name?”, “where you from?”, “what do you do?”, etc] {NOTE: some will take advantage of this sense of Comfort and trust in order to satisfy their own motives, but not NEARLY all}.

Seriously, this goes MUCH BEYOND just picking up girls. You can look at it for its face-value, as well as by checking out some of the examples of these methods being used, and you can clearly see the perspective that you hold, which is why I'm even bothering to try to engage you to broaden your understanding of all this. Mystery's entire explanation, etc, is based upon YEARS of studying human interactions, specifically that of guys and girls in a bar/night club setting. And, all of his findings/theories are scientifically TRUE - you can easily find these same types of ideas/observations being reported by zoologists studying animal behaviors/interactions AND by psychologists studying human behaviors/interactions. In fact, I recently told MY psychologist/counselor/therapist about this whole community, and SHE [yes, SHE] was incredibly excited about it, and we actually began discussing information that I know [from both my studying psychology and from the community] and that she knows [from human psychology, her area of expertise] - it matched completely, because it was exactly the same. We even acted out a scene, in which I was some guy, and she’s not interested, and SHE says, “I’d do this” and turns her body about 45 degrees away from me. Then I said, “Now, if I do it..”, and she immediately felt exactly what it was that I’d felt when she did it to me. So if knowing this stuff and implementing it, in general, by anyone, is manipulation, then we are all guilty of it, whether consciously or sub-consciously, especially women [who mostly do it on a conscious level when interacting with guys..at least, when blowing them off].

All Mystery actually DID was map out social interactions, and then provide a guide to follow to reach one's goal[s] with a woman, WHATEVER it/they may be. For most, this really does mean finding The One – this whole system simply gives you more options. Having success with women along the way to finding The One is just evidence that you’re improving your ability to “put your best self forward” [like in a job interview (speaking of, is that an example of “deception”? By your definition..yes), except at ALL times] as well as refining down exactly what it is that you are looking for in that ideal woman, so that when you DO meet her, you'll recognize her and be able to succeed in beginning the courtship process [and your eventual life together] properly.

I've met Mystery [as well as Matador, and many other top of the tops instructors out there], and let me tell you this - he is a genuinely charming and intellectual individual. And in relation to girls, he has actually turned DOWN more women than he has slept with – thus, his purpose is not to simply get laid. All of these guys, they aren't just running tricks or manipulating women or anything else like that; in fact, they genuinely love women. For example, Mystery is not going to be telling the same “scripted” stories that Matador would be; the stories/interactions each individual guy has is SUPPOSED TO BE unique to that individual's personality. The words you use are only a vehicle for conveying who you truly are to the woman.

One problem is, a lot of newer guys entering the community don't realize this for shit, and so they are all looking for some “line” that will get them laid, and that's not what this is all about - but you CAN find info to help you get into a girl's pants, if that's what a specific person is looking for, and there are definitely guys out there who are only after that, so don’t think I’m denying this. But, they are single-minded and are only looking for this one thing, and they use other people’s stories/“lines”, which for that other person it is genuine and based on his life but becomes completely incongruent when someone else pretends it to be from his life – this is obviously a lie and very deceptive. This is not what the community tells you to do; however, the community also can’t prevent people from doing this, either. Just like gun control – it’s a weapon, and it can be used for good or evil, but the gun itself is neither. Basically, you get out of the community whatever it is you are seeking.

I really want to go on, deeper, with all this stuff, but I can’t, and I’m sure even now, due to the limitations and restrictions of typed word on a comment board, I’ve already been unable to get the full meaning out of everything I’ve said, but hopefully it’s enough to help you try to be more objective and see things from a moralistic pick-up artist’s viewpoint."

The Different Parts

thinkinggirl's site
"And in regards to Gary and his email, one thing that I just had to comment on was that he states that he treats “women with respect and as human beings..value[s] their opinions and their thoughts”, etc, and he “approaches them to chat” – what is his purpose in approaching random women in the first place? Is it because he found them attractive [whether physically or intellectually..although I’m not sure how he’d know what they’re like by seeing them..but regardless..]? When other men have approached these same women [which, by the way, not all women react this way, so not all women have been approached by men with only one underlying motive], they obviously were also attracted to them to some degree; otherwise, they would’ve have approached them. So, the woman assuming that the guy is attracted to her is not only accurate in the past, but it’s also true for Gary to be approaching her, too. However, the women he is approaching may have been approached by guys who only wanted sex from them or expected it too soon or whatever else, so it’s only natural that they assume he wants the same..which, eventually, he does, as do the women [“so the sexual tension builds naturally between both people over time”]. Also, I was a little confused as to how a woman can respect you treating her well but also expect it, without taking it for granted..? Isn’t that the definition of taking something for granted – expecting things to be a certain way?"

feministpitbull's site
"Um, just a quick note from the first comment [Rocky's, I think]: ANYONE can do something like that, it has nothing to do with one's association [or lack thereof] with the seduction community. If a person has issues, they have issues..

And I genuinely think that you took the drug analogy a little too literally; you did acknowledge that you think he was joking, but the joke wasn't funny in your opinion. The thing to keep in mind here is that not every joke is going to go over well with every single person in the whole world [trust me, I've had my share of "jokes" [usually racial] thrown my way that I definitely didn't find funny..]..I'm sorry for the experience[s] that you've had, but you have to remember: not everyone out there is like that ONE guy; and just because someone can/did have that effect on you does not mean he was a PUA. And even if he was all PUAs do NOT go for this same interaction/effect, and in fact as different as people are, so are their needs and desires, including what they desire from the seduction community.

Onwards.."

Their pick up artist-hating posts are from a little while back, but the two appear to be quite active on their blogs, and even on those posts still, so let's see what [if anything] they have to say..

[It seems someone else got a kick out of this, too:

{LOL and a half.

"When strange men are approaching you, be extremely wary of the open-ended question. The open-ended question is a question that does not have a yes/no answer and requires thought and/or imagination to answer. The last thing I want to do is to advocate paranoia for my readers, but I very much urge caution and care when someone you’ve just met is asking you questions."

Hear that? Guy's asking you questions, it's BAD. At least, open-ended questions are bad. But so are yes/no questions. At least ones that involve a "yes" answer; that's a "yes-ladder." So if a guy asks you a question, it's bad.

"The important thing to avoid is allowing yourself to go into states of ecstacy, euphoria, or pleasure when thinking about a new man you’ve just met. Habitual patterns of emotion or action is *precisely* what you want to look for."

If a guy makes you feel good, it's BAD.

"I don’t care how “different,” “unique,” or “special” they many appear from all the other men you’ve ever met. In fact, the more “different, unique, special,” or “standing out from the crowd,” a man seems to be, the more of a red flag this actually is. This is what PUAs strive for, to stand out in a woman’s memory, thoughts, or viewpoint as being separate and different from all the other men she’s ever met."

RUN AWAY FROM INTERESTING MEN
THEY ARE EVIL
BANALITY IS GOOD

"So, these guys think they are teaching men how to be “natural” with women. It couldn’t be that they’re teaching men how to be sleazy and dishonest? Why is it that teaching men to be confident with women is automatically about tricking women into thinking the man is something he’s not - smooth, suave, charming?"

Ow, my brain. Sooooo, acting charming somehow isn't the same as BEING charming? Is charmingness not in the eye of the beholder? Only if it's taught, I guess. The true naturals get grandfathered in.

"Gross, right? Treat her a little bit like s!#%, then she’ll like you and think you’re clever and charming. Women, learn these methods well. Don’t get sucked in."

So does it not work, or is it eeeeevillllll? The two concerns are mutually exclusive.
But wait! Even being honest about one's intentions is manipulative.

"Note: these ‘direct’ moves include things like how to stand, when and where to touch a woman (on the arm, the on the small of the back), and *exactly what to say*. Yeah. Real “natural.”

She really isn't leaving a lot of room for guys to communicate with women here}

..nice]

~h

What Is the Deal with O.J. Simpson??

Like, seroiusly - what is going on with O.J. Simpson?? He just keeps doing stupider and stupider things; first, he was involved with the huge murder scandal [not to say whether or not he did anything, but obviously he was intertwined with the case, since he was the prime suspect]..then, he did some silly little "reality" show, where he was trying to sell off the white Bronco that had become notorious since the infamous low-speed chase


..later, he decides to come out with a book titled If I Did It, in which he describes how he would've undertaken the murder[s] had he been the murderer..and now, he goes off and does all this theft, burglary, robbery, kidnapping, assault, etc, and it's caught all over the place..

I really think the guy either 1) has some serious mental issues [maybe from being knocked in the head too many times?] that don't allow him to think things through, 2) he's broke as fuck, 3) loves the attention he used to get, always being watched by the media in "the trial of the century", and is doing stupid things to try to get back into the limelight, or 4) a combination of the above

~h

More Money, LESS Problems..?

Well, well: it seems the rich are getting richer. They really need to spread the wealth, literally..help a poor student out, huh? I mean, they're living large, regardless of where they may be geographically..

And you don't even have to be in oil, real estate, stocks, or computers to be super-rich - look at how much these top-earning musicians make..definitely nothing to scoff at..

Regardless of how you get the money, there's no arguing that some toys are only for the rich.

.. {sigh} perhaps one day, I, too, will be able to take money for granted and indulge in that type of a lifestyle ..

I bet if this Japanese lady had been rich, there wouldn't have been any problems with her making her sumo ring-entering attempt.

And despite this guy not being rich, he had the backing of a lot of rich and powerful people [if not solely in finances, then definitely in numbers] to get his deer back from the state of Oregon's Department of Fish and Wildlife.

Of course, if we're going to speak of money here, we can't not include mentioning the new $5 bill that we'll all be seeing soon:
~h

Random Dating "Advice"

I was taking a break from my work and checked my email real quick, then decided to browse around on the MSN page that I ended up on after logging out. And this article caught my attention, and I knew I had to check it out:

Texting etiquette, explained
So, in this piece, the author provides a few tips on what is/not acceptable when it comes to texting, in order to provide some "aid in cultivating some warm-and-fuzzy feelings between you and your intended"..

"Do text on noteworthy occasions. Texts are a great way to let the object of your affections know that he or she is on your mind—especially when a response isn’t really required. “One text-worthy occasion is the morning after a great date,” says Regina Lynn, author of The Sexual Revolution 2.0. “A note saying ‘I had a great time last night’ or ‘Thinking of you’ is less intrusive than a phone call but very sweet.” Other prime texting times would be if your date has mentioned an important upcoming meeting or event. Sending a quick “Good luck at your meeting; you’ll do great!” beforehand or a “Hope your interview went well—looking forward to hearing about it” afterward are the equivalent of little love darts into your date’s heart. Keep ’em coming!"

Agreed. I think texts are a really great and yet very simple way to keep the spark going with your girl [regardless of what stage you're at, but definitely if you are still in the initial stages, i.e. just met, dating, etc .. or, in The Mystery Method, anywhere from A2 to the Comfort stages]. Especially with a follow-up text like was suggested here, or something to reference future-projections or demonstrate the fact that you were listening when she was talking to you from a previous conversation. The idea is to not only initiate and continue contact with the girl, but on a deeper level, to become a part of her daily life - that's the goal here.

"Don’t text when a phone call would be better. Though it can get addictive, having endless and lengthy text conversations in place of voice-to-voice action is a bad idea. Why? It’s all about making that human connection. “Texting is OK for simple exchanges of information — meet me here, see you there — but I want to hear my girl say hi,” notes Adam Dreyfus, 37, of New Canaan, CT. “I was dating a woman who texted me all the time, but it wasn’t the same as being at work, stressed out and behind schedule, then hearing the phone ring and hearing her voice. Just a simple ‘hi’ can make everything right in the universe.” So if it’s been a number of days since you’ve spoken to each other, consider picking up the phone to remind your sweetie what you sound like. Also keep in mind that texting can often be more cumbersome and time-consuming than a phone call, so before you compose your text, ask yourself: Would a phone allow us to hash out our plans more quickly? If so, save yourself (and your date) the trouble and use the phone."

This is another solid point. I find that it can become almost a habit of simply texting, which is really cool to keep things light and comfortable by not calling and hounding [since society's teachings lead us to follow silly rules, like the 3 Day rule, or other such things that can cause feelings of discomfort if you call too soon/often but can also cause you to lose the girl if you don't call soon/often enough..it's great to be the ones for whom these stereotypes and "rules" were created, simply to keep us in line]. Basically, texting creates really quickly the rapport you aim to have through phone calls, especially if implemented in a way that I suggested in the earlier point. However, whatever Attraction and rapport/Comfort she feels, it must be directed towards you rather than towards random words on her phone. Otherwise, when you meet next, it can very easily be an awkward situation, since the Comfort levels are not associated with the physical entity of you, due to her being detached. By talking on the phone, it makes you more "real" in terms of existence.

"Do flirt with caution. Nothing can break up a mundane work day better than a few texted sweet nothings… but if you’re thinking of steaming things up, proceed with caution. It’s all too easy to risk offending the recipient with a message that’s a little too titillating, too soon. “You shouldn’t start with porn words. Some people who can get really creative in bed still do not want to see certain words on their phones,” warns Lynn. “I would begin with some general flirting — I want to kiss you — and see what they say back.” If the person responds in kind and even escalates (questions like “What else did you like about last night?” are an obvious welcome sign), feel free to up the ante, slightly, with racier confessions. In short, before you dig into full-on dirty talk, you should pave the way with numerous texts that make it clear this is the direction you’re going and that the recipient is fine hearing them."

See, I don't know about this tip here. I've found that the quicker you escalate things, the better off it is [especially for later]. And, I've also found that it's easier to escalate quickly through text, simply because it is completely "casual" and already has the connotation of flirting/messing around built-in, so there's no sense of responsibility or consequence; then, with the increasing levels of rapport and Comfort, it makes it that much more normal to be "titillating", since you're both comfortable with each other. The feeling here should be that of you both going way back, so it's perfectly natural to be talking to each other this way. One thing that obviously helps this is making sure to have been initiating this kind of talk from the very beginning, so that she knows to expect that from you and can allow herself to be less inhibited about her own thoughts and feelings [let's be honest here: girls want sex just as much as guys].

"Don’t text at odd hours. Just as you wouldn’t call at all hours of the night, nor should you text then, either. “Always be sensitive to what the person is likely to be doing,” says Lynn. “For example, don’t text before 10 a.m. unless you know for sure he or she gets up early and enjoy mornings. Don’t text after 10 p.m.” Not only could you wake the person up (cell phones still ring when they receive a text), but even if your date's cell is turned off, he or she can still see you texted at 3 a.m.—and that makes you look inconsiderate, needy, or just plain weird."

Another point at which I don't agree..at all. The difference between calling and texting is that whatever message you wanted to convey, the 3am-text will get it to her with much less [if any] signs of neediness/clinginess than the 3am-voicemail would: a text is a very low-investment means of communication [plus, considering the content of it, it could be used/seen as a DHV - you're out at a party or having a blast with friends doing ____, etc]. As long as the message content isn't weird or needy [i.e. "I-I miss you.."], the actual time of the text has little to no bearing on the situation.

"Don’t say anything you wouldn’t say in person. Hiding behind your phone is a sure fire way to start a new relationship out on the wrong foot—especially if what you’re trying to avoid saying in person is important. “I once dated this guy who chose to text me about having an STD,” recalls Sharlene Smithers, 32. “I wasn’t as bothered by the STD so much as I was bothered that he texted me about it. It felt like a cowardly way out, and it left me wondering what else he was incapable of communicating to me.” It’s best to save texting for fun and flirty notes or where-to-meet-what-time type of plans. Save heavy conversations and first “I love you’s” for face-to-face chats."

Okay, this falls into both "agree" and "disagree" categories. Basically, I see it like this: to a certain degree, you can say just about whatever you want in a text. However, there are what I would think to be obvious, common-sense things that you don't try to convey through a text but rather need to address in person [such as the STD issue mentioned by the girl in the article].

"Don’t text if you’re tipsy. This one’s kind of obvious, but just about everyone does it so it bears repeating: Do not text someone when you’re nearly-falling-off-your-bar-stool drunk. “I was dating this guy who would send me drunken booty call texts when he went out with his boys,” recalls Erin Street, 30. “I’d get them in rapid succession, starting with, ‘r u coming over?’ And then if I didn’t respond he’d say, ‘r u on yr way?’ When I talked to him the next day, he didn’t even remember sending them. We laughed about it later, but in the beginning of our relationship, I found it way too forward.” So take note: If you’re soused enough that the numbers on your touch pad are swimming, your judgment’s probably impaired enough that you’ll regret whatever you’re about to text. Go home and go to sleep. If whatever you wanted to say is that important, you’ll remember it and can text away tomorrow."

This one does seem to be pretty obvious; however, as much as the author simplifies this down, I think it's not that basic, and it goes back to the 2 factors I mentioned earlier [the level of Comfort you've built with the girl as well as if/how early you'd initiated this kind of joking/flirting talk into your interactions] - sending a text in the middle of the night, talking about a booty call, etc, can be just fine if talking like that is congruent with your interactions. Notice in the above, if this girl found his comments to be offensive, then there wouldn't have been a "later" when the two of them "laughed about it" - it wasn't the comments themselves that were "too forward" for her but rather the fact that they were coming from this guy, who obviously had not demonstrated this to be a part of his natural way-of-being.

Alright, back to studying..for now..

~h

"And the Winner Is.." - The 2007 Emmy Awards [Part 1]

Although I didn't get a chance to see the actual show [now, is that a good thing or a bad thing..? Hmm..], here's a list of the winners Sunday's 59th Annual Primetime Emmy Awards, presented by the Academy of Television Arts & Sciences:

Drama Series: "The Sopranos," HBO.
Comedy Series: "30 Rock," NBC. Miniseries: "Broken Trail," AMC.
Variety, Music or Comedy Series: "The Daily Show With Jon Stewart," Comedy Central.
Variety, Music or Comedy Special: "Tony Bennett: An American Classic," NBC.
Made-for-TV Movie: "Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee," HBO.
Reality-Competition Program: "The Amazing Race," CBS.
Creative Achievement in Interactive TV: Current.
Actor, Drama Series: James Spader, "Boston Legal," ABC.
Actor, Comedy Series: Ricky Gervais, "Extras," HBO.

~h

"And the Winner Is.." - The 2007 Emmy Awards [Part 2]

Actor, Miniseries or Movie: Robert Duvall, "Broken Trail," AMC.
Actress, Drama Series: Sally Field, "Brothers & Sisters," ABC.
Actress, Comedy Series: America Ferrera, "Ugly Betty," ABC.
Actress, Miniseries or Movie: Helen Mirren, "Prime Suspect: The Final Act (Masterpiece Theatre)," PBS.
Supporting Actor, Drama Series: Terry O'Quinn, "Lost," ABC.
Supporting Actor, Comedy Series: Jeremy Piven, "Entourage," HBO.
Supporting Actor, Miniseries or Movie: Thomas Haden Church, "Broken Trail," AMC.
Supporting Actress, Drama Series: Katherine Heigl, "Grey's Anatomy," ABC.

~h

"And the Winner Is.." - The 2007 Emmy Awards [Part 3]

Supporting Actress, Comedy Series: Jaime Pressly, "My Name Is Earl," NBC.
Supporting Actress, Miniseries or Movie: Judy Davis, "The Starter Wife," USA.
Individual Performance, Variety or Music Program: Tony Bennett, "Tony Bennett: An American Classic," NBC.
Directing, Drama Series: "The Sopranos: Kennedy and Heidi," HBO.
Directing, Comedy Series: "Ugly Betty: Pilot," ABC.
Directing, Miniseries, Movie or Dramatic Special: "Prime Suspect: The Final Act (Masterpiece Theatre)," PBS.
Directing, Variety, Music or Comedy Program: "Tony Bennett: An American Classic," NBC.
Writing for a Drama Series: "The Sopranos: Made in America," HBO.
Writing, Comedy Series: "The Office: Gay Witch Hunt," NBC.
Writing, Miniseries, Movie or Dramatic Special: "Prime Suspect: The Final Act," PBS.
Writing for a Variety, Music or Comedy Program: Late Night With Conan O'Brien," NBC.

~h

Hmm..I Need to Sleep More: My Body = a Teenager's

I've realized [yet again] that I need much more sleep than I'm getting, especially these days, especially because of that big quiz on Monday [that weekend, I definitely lost more sleep than usual] - I literally was thiiiis close to falling asleep when I was on the phone with my gf last night..and obviously I didn't finish my post, so here's the rest of it:

HBAlienFace simply could not stop watching me. The thing with her is, I can't "figure out" if she wants me to game her. Here's why I say this: obviously, she wants me - who doesn't want Hrithik?? And more objectively, there've been many signs of passive [and some direct] IOIs from her to me, as well as AIs. But, she's playing the whole "too-cool" role, I guess as a means to protect her own ego..?? Since every time I don't open/game her, she's feeling a little rejected [due to me "rejecting" her AIs and the acknowledgement of her IOIs]. Oh, well, make a note of it and move on [because nothing of any real significance happened]..

After a bit longer, the bus arrives, and I get on. I look around and scope the bus: some chick in the front, a cute Indian-Caribbean girl [I can just know she's Caribbean] who's on the her cell phone, and some random dude in the very back. About a minute after I've sat down [the row in front of the Indian-Caribbean girl, henceforth HBIndian-Caribbean], I'm off the phone with my gf and look back - HBI-C is looking at me, so I smile..she looks away, then begins to turn back [realizing that yes, I did catch her looking at me, but I smiled at her instead of blowing her off]. So, I'm sitting there, just chilling, and I realize that she's off the phone, too. I think of whether I even want to open her, and I realize that she's saying something..to me..oops! So, I make her say it a couple more times, to make her really earn my attention [and see how much effort she's willing to put into opening me], and she really earns it: by the 3rd time, she's leaning across her 2-seat spot, her neck and head twisted around the back of the seat next to me, and her hand reaching out in an effort to catch my eye..I think 'she passed', and turn around.

h - {looking at her like "..yes..?"}
HBI-C - "I just wanted to tell you that I really like your ring.."
h - {No, you don't, trick - it's because you're attracted to me!} "Oh..?"
HBI-C - "Yeah, I really like it..I like the design..those kinds of designs.."

..and the game has begun..this is like what Mystery always says, "Wear at least 1 interesting item, so that a girl can approach/comment on it" [check out The Mystery Method for more free thoughts and ideas like this]. Now, what's interesting here is, I think a large part of this had to with the fact that I flashed my pearly-whites to her, even for a split second, thus allowing her to open me - an AI from me to her. I think, especially for me [since I am, in fact, a really good-looking guy], I need to make sure to do this more often, as it helps in decreasing some of the intimidation that is automatically created by my physical features.

Well, I used this oppurtinty of her needing to tell me so badly that she likes me ring[s] to hop into the seat behind mine, so that we're sitting in the same row [but separated by the aisle]. Since I'm not all that interested with how things go, I decide to use this as as opportunity to just mess around and see how things flow:

h - "So .. blahblah .."
HBI-C - {smile} "Blahblahblah"
h - "Cool.." {turn away} [for the hell of it]
HBI-C - {struggling to think of something to keep convo going}
..
HBI-C - "So..blahblahblah.."
h - "blahblah" [IOI for re-initiating]
HBI-C - ".."
h - {turn away} [IOD for not being interesting enough]

..and this goes on for a few minutes. Another crazy thing that happens is, she apparently realizes that my local "gf" has talked to her about me [this whole "local "gf" " thing needs like 923087643 posts dedicated to it, but since that's not going to happen, I might throw up a couple dealing with all that, whenever the mood strikes me]. So anyways, at this point, I'm thinking 'shit..' but play it cool, and I think I managed to work it..and definitely find out how the fuck they know each other! And as I suspected, it was just one of those 'my luck sucks..' kinds of deals: they just happen to be friends by running into each other on campus when she'd first started school here this August..of course..

I game her some more, not so much verbally [most of it was random talk], but definitely non-verbal shit, like hardcore kinoescalation [time-wise, since I was on a limit before my stop arrived at my stop], and more situation-specific things like just crossing the aisle and sitting in the seat next to her when I couldn't hear her a few times, so that we were sitting together..to let her know that I care about what she's saying and am interested enough to want to hear more, despite the fact that verbally, I didn't say a word, much less anything suggesting the significance of my actions.

So, after only a few minutes, she's telling me how she wants to meet people, and how that's something she's been thinking about a lot lately because she doesn't seem to know anyone and would like to make some friends, get to know more people, etc .. and she can hardly look me in my eyes, except at important times, such as "meet" and "don't know anyone" and "make some friends..and stuff"..this one was an easy #-close, and honestly, if I hadn't been so tired, I know I could've even had her get off the bus with me at my stop and pulled her back to my place..nice..and to think, I not only couldn't even decide whether I wanted to open her, but I didn't open her, and yet she would've been an easy pull..haa

As Craig [from DYD] says, "It's always on!"

~h

Wow! Where Do I Begin..?

Well, as I'm writing this, my head is killing me! Bear that in mind as we continue, as this post may be affected..

I had my major quiz yesterday..I'm not too sure how I feel about it at this point, though, because they haven't even posted up the answer key yet! What is the point of us copying down our answers to compare to the answer key, when there..is..no..answer key..?? Anyways..

I think Anatomy, I pretty much killed it - I seem to know my shit [for the time being] and managed to pay attention to the questions as well as the answers, and also to focus on thinking things through and rationalizing out my answers so as to prevent any stupid errors..hopefully, I'll be proven right real soon..

Biochem..yeaaah..there were too many things on there that could've simply gone either way..so I guess that one is also a wait-and-see game, but one that has much more weight to it [with Anatomy, unless I completely screwed up a lot of things without realizing it, I shouldn't have gotten anything lower than a B, for sure]. It does give me an idea, though, of how detailed I need to know things for the subsequent test..

Histo....it was basically a straight-up vocab test [like the ones from back in the day..?], and at least it'll just go to show how I can be better prepared for the actual mid-term..that, and I keep forgetting to get the "cheats" from the other students that have a question-bank in it as well as a program with all the slides that on which we can/will be tested, right on there in one easy-to-find place..

So, today, I had to be in a lab by 8:30am, until ~12pm - sweet! Well, as it turns out, I had a huge thing [read as: fight] about nothing with my gf last night, so I didn't end up going to bed until about 3:45am..and that's with already having had a near-sleepless Saturday night [8am-10am] and another lack-of-sleep night Friday night [4 hours total]. And at this point of the day, I am dying - my eyes are not able to stay open to save my life [although, medically speaking, if a person were ever in a life-or-death situation, his/her eyes would be wide open: this is due to the eye trying to get in as much of the visual sensation possible so as to allow the brain to make the best decision, and especially your sympathetic innervation of the muscles controlling your pupils - they would actually cause the pupil to dilate - yeah, med school!].

Oh, and of course, the girl-talk for the evening: I was on the phone with my gf after getting out of this academic-supplemental meeting, and there were a few people at the bus stop, including this one girl who I find to be pretty damn cute! She has this like look to her, kind of like..an alien?? Haha, I love it, I'm going with it..HBAlienFace! I don't know, but she's fucking cute, and she's got nice thick legs and a pretty sweet ass [nothing spectacular, unfortunately - strange since she's got the black gene]..anyways, she just could not stop watc

~h

Perfect Location for Lunch Lives Up to its Name

So, this confirmation came quicker than I'd expected: the Perfect Location for Lunch has definitely met the expectations that I had for it, and it's great! I had sat down and began chit-chatting with this dude who was sitting next to the bench, kind of hidden behind a pillar. He seemed very not talkative, so I left him be..and then he was trying to re-initiate the conversation. I would respond and become a litte more invested than 0, and then he'd have nothing to say..

This went on for a little while. However, I realized that the guy was definitely a foreigner..well, technically, so am I [and every other American student, since we're in the Caribbean], but the point is that he wasn't American, nor was English his first language - he was just an awkward non-English-speaking foreigner. So I continued to invest into the conversation, and I realized that it made him feel much better by the end of our interaction than he was feeling before it [the PUA creed: leave women/others better than they were before meeting you].

As I finished up my panini, this really cute Indian girl with a tight body [hence, she becomes HBTheBrownBody] walked by. I've "talked" to her before, again, in my pre-Mystery Method and pre-Venusian Arts days, and things were normal. I had seen her around a few times this term, but I'd always made it like I didn't spot her; this is a bad habit of mine, and despite my new-found mentality and outlook on life in general due to my experiences this summer [especially including my Mystery Method and Venusian Arts bootcamps], I still revert back to that mode every now and then..as a matter of fact, just a week ago I'd read through my notes from my Mystery Method bootcamp, partly as a quick refresher as well as deeper things that may not have clicked but I'd written down during my furious note-taking sessions, but also partly as motivation - this is key, because without motivation, you're done for..game over.

So anyways, this girl walks by and looks over at me. I smile, she smiles back and slows down her pace as she passes. I reward this IOI of hers with an IOI of my own [initiating a fun convo..something along the lines of "Heyy! I haven't seen you around in forever! ..I was afraid you had, you know..died.." - gets them laughing every time, by the way], and she started laughing [see? told you], changed course, and came and stood by the bench. We chit-chatted and fluff-talked, and I was just watching her body language [soo huge..and so simple..yet still such a secret for us men..{sigh}]: totally opened-up, facing me from the get-go. As we continued talking [I'm not usually a good judge of time, but I'd say it had been 10-20 minutes at this point], she continued to stand there, coffee in her hand, backpack still on..I thought to myself 'um, dude..she's not going anywhere anytime soon..she's staying here..with you..for you..and she's not going anywhere anytime soon..I need to tell her to sit down..', and even though I was feeling very hesitant about doing this [thinking that it'll bring to her attention that we've been talking for a little while and that she probably needs to get going to do whatever she was headed to do rather than actually join me..so it's probably in my best interest to not mention anything and thus she'll continue to stay here], I casually mentioned to her, "You know, you could sit down {gesturing to the space next to me on the bench}..", and in 1 fluid motion, her backpack was off, and she was sitting like right up on me..[good thing I ignored the gut feeling and went with what I've learned to analyze and rationalize to happen/work!].

Our convo basically went back and forth, with some fluff-talk and then some attraction/DHV-laced piece..then fluff-talk, then more attraction/DHV-laced pieces..then fluff-talk, then comfort..this was kind of an experiment, to see how I could incorporate in the general ideas of The Mystery Method's Magic Bullets without coming off too gamey [since we're not out at a club setting and thus seeming a little out of context with such hardcore DHVs and attraction/comfort pieces in a day-to-day interaction]. Some of the things I used included future projections [attraction]; taking care of/raising my younger brother [attraction/comfort] -> talking about having kids one day and how great that'll be, especially being a father, etc [comfort]; busting on her about her self-consciousness in regards to her age {"You're 25??..wow, you're fuckin old!!" :-p} [attraction]

It was cool also, during the fluff-talk especially, I'd test to see if I was still in good standing at some point in time or other [because this is something I've also been self-conscious of at times..again, it's gotten much better, but it can arise every now and then, especially with super-hot chicks that I'd initiated some kind of contact with from my pre-bootcamp days] by interrupting whatever she was saying to say something else..and see if she stops talking and listens to what I have to say, and especially if she then jumps onto my new topic, and even more so, doesn't try to go back to the old one afterwards - almost every time, it was just like this, so I knew things were still going good.

The Perfect Location for Lunch comes in handy for one more thing: social proof like a motherfucker. As I'm sitting there with HBTheBrownBody, plenty of people I know walk by, and suddenly I'm Mr. Big Man on Campus, especially in her eyes - it triggers all kinds of the attraction switches right there: social proof, pre-selection, leader of men, etc, since I know so many people and with them coming out of their way just to greet me makes me the top dawg. Also, it works the other way, too: all the people [especially the girls] walking by, both the ones I know and the ones I don't know, all see me sitting there with HBTheBrownBody eating out of my hand, and I've got pre-selection [and social proof as well as possible jealousy plotlines for later on..nice], and it causes those girls to want to be opened by me, either right then and there or at least some other time in the future.

A good while into our interaction, one of my guys friends comes over and chats me up, and it turns out that HBTheBrownBody and he live in the same building. In the meantime, another chick who I'd started gaming a few weeks ago [HBBaller] sees me from across the street, comes over without any hesitation, and posts up right next to me. I use this opportunity to create some jealousy with HBTheBrownBody, but also more specifically to punish her for becoming a little too wrapped up in the mutual bitch-and-moan session she and my friend had gotten into about their place. I slowly began re-positioning my body to send her negative signals as well as verbally not addressing her anymore, and it was soo obvious that all of a sudden, she was trying to win me back, especially since me and HBBaller were having such a great time together! Oh, man..how subtle were the cues that I sent off, and yet how massive was the impact on her..wow..

In the meantime, HBBaller's galfriends start coming over to interact with "her" and end up using her to talk to me, and at some points, they even ended up ditching their conversations with her altogether and just talking to me..and I'm sitting there thinking 'What the hell..?' - craziness. I also noticed much more looks from girls staring blatantly at me as they walked by, since now I was sitting with two different girls [because of my body language and especially the fact that they were literally two different girls, ethnically-speaking].

I saw one of my boys, a real cool Indian guy who's jacked as shit [sort of like this guy, minus the huge legs], and I got up to go talk to him, which ended up being quite interesting: at this point in time, my first class had just ended and so the students were out on break, mingling around..me and my boy are talking, and this one chick [HBWhite-WashedSouthAfrican] is just hovering around me..like, seriously hovering..trying to get our attention because he and I were so wrapped up in our own conversation..so that she finally makes fun of us guys for talking about hair. So, I pulled her in for a hug, but punished her with a hardcore neg/IOD: "Oh, you're just jealous..that's because YOU don't have real hair!!" ;-) She laughed about it, and when I pushed her off me after a second, she literally came back into me [social "rule": if you physically push someone away from you, they will rock/lean back in towards you].

Another blatant proximity situation took place a while later, by the time the next class had started and I had resumed my seat with HBBaller and HBTheBrownBody [who has at this point been with me for at least an hour]. This one chick, who has a ridiiiiiculously noiice ass, especially for her proportions, and who I think is studying psychology [and thus becomes HBPsych], comes over with her friend and hangs out around me and my spot: they put down their stuff, with HBPsych leading her friend, on a bence in front of mine, but just for a few minutes; when I didn't approach her/them, she left with her galfriend following - there was absolutely no purpose in HBPsych doing any of this, especially since the whole time her bag was sitting on the bench = 20 seconds..if that.

Man, this shit is soo crazy and yet soo addictive..it's like discovering you a have an untapped and heresofar unrealized ability: you are amazed and astounded, and you can't stop thinking about and using this new super-power..

~h

Perfect Location for Lunch

Today, I decided I was not going to be late for class..just to switch things up :-p I made sure to grab everything I needed ahead of time: my books, notes, and medication. This actually turned out to be a much bigger and better idea than I'd realized..definitely beyond just being on time..

I went over to the cafeteria area, and I realized I'd completely forgotten about 2 of the girls that work there, whom I've already got massive attraction worked up with [from my looks and a naturally cocky-funny personality..in other words, without even trying]. Seeing them, unfortunately both at the same shift, made me decide to go after them both and see how [far] things can work out. [A bit of quick history: there was another girl, whom I'd really gamed up, before my The Mystery Method and Venusian Arts training, to a #-close and tons of free lunches but never was able to seal the deal with..I play it cool with her, and I honestly just don't care what her deal is at this point - my attitude is to just not fuck with her, because she could very easily fuck me over with the other 2 girls.]

After initiating some random convo with the 1 girl, HBDarkPearl [the side of the cafeteria she works at is called Pearl's], and having a little eye-tension, to the point of causing her to get a little shy, giggling and nervously checking on my panini every 10 seconds to see if it's ready, I went to go pay the other girl, HBLightPearl, and said some random shit to her, got her laughing, and then I rolled out.

I walked through the cafeteria and realized that to increase my face-time around the area, I could jump into the store and get a drink [which has since become my regular pattern because I've always run into at least 1 girl in there that either I know or get to know while there].

I then think of where I can actually sit down to eat, especially with most of the tables being taken and not wanting to negative social proof by being alone at the peak lunch hour..so I just kept walking and end up reaching my lecture hall. At this point, I decide the best thing to do is to sit on one of the benches..and this turned out to be the Perfect Location for Lunch - awesome!
It's placed with its back up against the lecture hall wall but faces the sidewalks to/from the library [basically, one of the two main sidewalks passes a few feet in front of the bench, and the second sidewalk is just on the other side of the street]..anyone and everyone either going to the library or heading to the bus stop/class/etc must pass by this area, one way or another..how did I miss this, all this time? Oh, yeah - I was "blind" to things like this..at least, up until this past summer.. ;-)

Let's see how the Perfect Location for Lunch works out for my day gaming, hmm?

~h

More On Kyla Ebbert, Setara Qassim, and Southwest Airlines .. Newt For Prez?? And This Just In: Hooters Opens In Beijing!

Some things that caught my eye while taking a break from studying..


As I've already mentioned here and there, the affair with Kyla Ebbert and Southwest Airlines' impromptu dress code continues..

Southwest Airlines, after getting grief for telling a young woman her outfit was too revealing to fly, is now using the brouhaha as a marketing ploy — announcing a fare sale to honor miniskirts.
The airline on Friday offered 23-year-old Kyla Ebbert two free round-trip tickets and issued a double-entendre-laced news release announcing “skimpy” sale fares of $49 to $109 each way, available for 10 days.

Ebbert took her case to “The Dr. Phil Show” on Friday. Host Phil McGraw read an apology from Southwest Chief Executive Gary Kelly during the show, which is scheduled to air Tuesday.Ebbert said she was on a Southwest plane ready to take off from San Diego on July 3 when an airline employee asked her to change her miniskirt, top and sweater or get off.

In a compromise, the 23-year-old Californian was allowed to stay on the flight to Tucson, Ariz., after pulling her skirt down a bit and her top up.

Kelly said the airline apologized to Ebbert in August and thought the affair was over. But in the past two weeks, Ebbert went on NBC’s “Today Show” and was scheduled to tape an episode of “The Dr. Phil Show” on Friday to recount her tale.

Ebbert’s account, and a similar one by another young California woman this week [Setara Qassim, whom I'd also mentioned in an earlier post], led to unfavorable news coverage and Internet chatter about Dallas-based Southwest Airlines Co. Newspaper columnists and bloggers derided the airline — which in the 1970s put its stewardesses in hot pants and called itself “The love airline” — as prudish.

So Kelly decided to change the tone Friday by issuing another apology to Ebbert — company President Colleen Barrett was dispatched to phone her — and announce a lighthearted fare sale pegged to the controversy.

“It is quite humorous, given that we were born with hot pants,” Kelly said. “We’re trying to be good-humored about all this.”

Kelly declined to give his opinion of Ebbert’s outfit but said the airline needs to “lean towards the customer.”

“We don’t have a dress code at Southwest Airlines, and we don’t want to put our employees in the position of being the fashion police, but there’s a fine line you walk sometimes in not offending other passengers,” he said.

Kelly said that Ebbert is a regular customer of Southwest and that he hopes to keep it that way. Efforts to reach Ebbert were unsuccessful.

Airline officials said they hadn’t contacted another woman, Setara Qassim, who told a TV interviewer this week that a Southwest employee made her wrap a blanket over her short dress with plunging neckline. Southwest officials said they had no record of Qassim, 21, filing a complaint.


And what's this, about Newt Gingrich possibly running for president..the next time around?


So, the Olympic Games are only 11 months away, and Beijing officials are busily crossing off items on their to-do lists as they await the onslaught of media, tourists, and sports fans.

Refurbishing the airport? Check.

Beefing up security? Check.

Opening up a Hooters? Check.

That's right. On Wednesday, the first Hooters restaurant officially opened its doors in the capital city. The Atlanta-based restaurant chain, known for its spicy Buffalo wings and scantily clad servers, has three other restaurants in China.

According to one report, the grand opening was marked by loud rock music, plenty of cold beer, and a score of young Chinese “Hooters Girls” doing the hokey-pokey in the clingy low-cut tank tops and high-cut shorts.

There was no report if the menu included Buffalo egg rolls.

..I wouldn't mind, though, as long as girls like this are bringing me food..

~h

Diamond in the Rough..? More Like - the Diamond IS Rough!

Ok, time for a quick study break..and by quick, of course, I mean like a few hours! Earlier this evening/night, I had an HB want to come by to see me..a quick background follows:

Around the middle/end of February, I went to this hotel to make a booking for me and my gf, who was coming to see me for Spring Break [how tight is that? Spring Break, in the Caribbean?? Nice!]. Afterwards, I'm walking back, when I notice, in this jewelry store [within a "mall" directly across the street from the hotel], this really cute girl watching me through the glass wall. And she keeps looking, and watching, and staring..and at this point, I'm feeling pretty chill [I'd been reviewing some things at the time, the Venusian Arts Handbook (written by Mystery and Lovedrop, and including passages/posts by others, such as Neil Strauss/Style (The Game, StyleLife Academy), Sinn (The Mystery Method), Toecutter, Wilder, Mad Dash, Tyler Durden (Real Social Dynamics), Papa (also RSD), Thundercat (The Art of Approaching, Thundercat's Seduction Lair), Lance Mason (PickUp 101), Cliff (Cliff's List, Cliff's Seduction Newsletter)) as well as Double Your Dating (written by David DeAngelo), and thus I was feeling very confident in being able to do basically whatever the hell I wanted], so I look right back at her as I walk by and mouth/gesture towards her, "Are you bored?" After a couple of tries, she gets it and mouths back "Very!", so I smile and nod and keep walking. I got this feeling of being watched, so I turn around and spot this girl pressed up against the glass in an attempt to keep me in her visual field, and I think 'Fuck it!!' and make a sharp right to go into the mall to find her.

I get into the jewelry store and basically game the shit out of the girl [HBJewelryStore..very creative, I know] and her co-worker. At the time, I didn't have all the in-sights that I have now, just some basic stuff in terms of b.l., and definitely not as clear an understanding of Mystery's stuff as it applies in-field. Whatever I did know, though, I used it like I had no other choice [which I didn't, technically] and wound up with both of their #'s..nice. I stick around for a bit longer [this whole interaction was probably ~1 hour..a little long, I know now, but back then..whatever]. Since then, I probably only saw HBJewelryStore 2 more times, but we texted/talked fairly regularly..

..and then my gf came, and HBJewelryStore saw us nearly every night, with me blowing her off while walking around with my gf, doing my best not to be holding hands or whatever else, but seriously: what's a guy doing, with a girl who's obviously not from around here, at random hours of the night, especially entering and leaving a hotel?? Ah, well..as bad as things seemed to be at the time, I managed to patch things up [it helped that she accidentally mentioned her bf, and I totally called her out on hiding it, which definitely made her thing against me].

After a few attempts at trying to meet up this term, we finally got together today/tonight. I could tell from her b.l. right off that she was not comfortable being around my place, in such an intimiate setting..greaaaat..I also noticed that as hot as she was back at the Jewelry Store, she wasn't as hot now - in part due to her "fake" hair, but also the fact that she was wearing normal clothes [as opposed to her dressy business-style clothes at work], and you could very easily notice that she could probably stand to lose a few pounds..awesome. And she reminded me that she wasn't older than like 19-20 years. But, her face was still hot, and her ass was looking niiice, so I was cool with it haa

So I manage to warm her up, her b.l. opened up, etc, but it took a lot of effort, and then later on, her bf came up ["He's tracking me down.."], and I realized that must be why she's all off right now..which means that whatever chance I might've had to escalate with her tonight, just got that much smaller..but I continue to game anyway, because I could at least go for a kiss-close or in the very least, I could at least set things up for a better finish for next time [whenever that may be, considering my schedule these days]. I decided I wasn't going to be a little bitch about it - I was going to push myself beyond my comfort zone and escalate as much as possible until I got up to the kissing point.

To get into the proper mind-set, I kept reminding myself that obviously she was here, at my place, 1-on-1, despite having a boyfriend, especially a bf who was trying to find her at the moment. So, I began gaming: random shit verbally [verbal push-pulls were a big one, she even said multiple times throughout the evening that I was crazy or I was driving her crazy "because..well, I don't know, you just are!"], however, most of the game I ran on her was non-verbal, body language things, i.e. take-aways, push-pulls, back-turns, disinterest, etc. At 1 point, I was even texting another girl, who had initiated the texting [Jealousy Plotline (SOO $!)..and it reminded me of how easily I could've done that myself with anyone, even a guy friend - all that she needed to realize was that I have other people who want to get a hold of me, especially on a Friday night..and besides, as far as she knows, unless I tell her otherwise, the person/people texting me are female(s) haha]. Next thing I know, not only has she opened up immensly towards me, but I caught her doing the triangular gazing..and it was just on-going! Completely sub-conscious, and at 1 point, I even tested her by cutting the conversational thread and returning her stare, then doing my own triangular gazing, and I could tell she was just going nuts! It was retarded how easily I had gamed this girl, with her bf on her mind/ass trying to track her down, and all she could think about by the time I was done with her was fucking me!

I ran a few compliance tests on her, really just 1 main one over and over until she "scored" better and better: the high-5 into the grasped hand-holding..initially, she completely failed, but I held my ground and got her to break and comply. Then, she reverted back, but it didn't take more than 1 look from me and another attempt for her to laugh and do it right..and then she got it right from there on out, even leading to a hand-hold once or twice. The other thing I noticed was that in terms of physical touching, she was initially closed off to it, even if I simply left my hand somewhere too long, even on/in her hand, but I plowed through, both verbally but especially non-verbally [again, reminding myself that she was here, despite whatever circumstances, so she obviously had interest in being here..regardless of what verbal and/or non-verbal cues she was giving off]. I had an opportunity to do an old favorite of mine [I've used this from long ago, something I discovered on my own and had already realized/analyzed into how and why it works] - wrestling/play-fighting. It didn't go over too well [my standards are pretty high with it, because it has always led to at least a k-close, if not a full-out f-close], but it was enough to get her to be really cool with the touching and rubbing and holding, especially after I had thrown her up against the wall and over-powered her for a good minute or so, just our bodies pressed up against each other..and then I released and walked back to my couch as though nothing had happened, and needless to say, she followed me and sat right up against me the rest of the time. Later on, I decided to pull a comfort-building routine that I hadn't really done before, but it seemed pretty straight-forward, to the point that I could just wing it..and I didn't really have a choice. At the start of it, I barely glance over at her before pointing at my cheek and arching my neck out, basically putting my face/cheek closer to her..and without any hesitation, she leaned in and kissed it. The purpose in doing this [even though I'd already been getting the triangular gazing at this point for at least an hour, on and off] was that I needed to know if she was comfortable enough to follow through on her Attraction urges. Well, guess what? She was..nice. I continue on with the comfort routine that I decided to go with: showing her a bunch of pics from when me and my family were in Egypt, December of 2005 [I think]. After this, I made sure to throw in some A3-type/Comfort topics, like I was really glad she'd come, she's so great or fun or funny or whatever..I wanted to get her as far away from her initial emotional mindset as possible if I was going to be achieving the goal(s) I'd set goal, right?

Finally, her ride arrives - and it's her bf..so what does Hrithik do? I get her to kiss me, while he's waiting on her outside! Kick-ass! I used the same tactic as before: while she was talking [something about leaving and it was nice that she'd come, etc], I was standing a bit away from her, and then just pointed at my left cheek - she came over and kissed it. Then I pointed at my right cheek, and she came back again and kissed it [and stood closer, hoping/expecting that there were going to be more kisses involved]. Good thing I noticed this, because I was feeling like 'maybe she doesn't want to, or maybe/what if she doesn't come in for any more..??', but I pushed past it and pointed at my forehead, and she kissed it, and then I pointed at my lips [cue the dramatic music], and .. .. .. she leaned in and kissed me [after a split-second of hesitation] - nice. And all the while, her bf is outside waiting on her..haha

Next time, I gotta push for further..get her beyond the point of feeling discomfort dealing with me touching her [for example, smacking her ass, being right up on her, etc - the things that would be happening when we're both naked; if she's not fully comfortable doing that clothed, then..yeaaahh..]

~h

Big Boobs, Low Self-Esteem

Alright, so I'm going to do my best to make this a quick one, seeing as how there was just too much to talk about, but at the same time, much of it would be tangential non-game-related stuff [like how a cute girl with big tits can have low self-esteem..ugh!].


Basically, I had a dinner planned with this 1 chick, we'll call her HBLowSelfEsteem: hot, tall [maybe 6'-ish?], nice body, huge boobies..awesome! We texted back and forth to set things up, and it was a perfect example of taking charge and telling her what we're doing [so as not to come off supplicating] but at the same time, leaving enough of her input [so as not to be too controlling, either]. I end it with telling her to meet me at my place [a la DYD], but I couldn't even get her to come to my place, because she waited at the bus stop and didn't bother to come down to the actual residential area..lazy bitch! I think she was feeling nervous already..


We walk over to the restaurant/bar with cool conversation, and the waitress who seats us I can tell is already giving us [and especially me, of course haa] the eye, and our interaction goes cool: I show my social command by having a good time with the waitress, joking and whatnot, and then also with the HBLSE herself, who's loving it.


It was a bit awkward at first, at least from my side, because I was worrying a little too much about making sure to have stuff to talk about so things don't get too weirdly quiet, but then I snapped out of it, realized I'm awesome and have plenty to talk about, and actually embraced the quiet moments, to let my awesomeness sink in to her as well as to take any awkwardness that may be associated with the quietness and have it be directed towards her, i.e. it's her fault for not having anything to say.


I find that this is best done by making sure that you are the last one to have something insightful or deep [basically, long vs. a one-word response] to say, so that in essence you are the one leading the conversation, even if it was on a topic she brought up, and you end up being the one conversing..thus, any awkwardness from the quiet moment is because she didn't have anything to say, either adding to the conversational thread or starting a new one.


I think this is important, especially in those cases where guys feel this need to make sure to keep talking, don't let it get quiet, etc; it's okay if things slow down or even stop every now and then, just don't leave them that way for long! However, you can use those moments to your advantage, like I said, by allowing your awesomeness to sink in to her [while she's taking in the moment, being with you] and by directing any awkwardness of the moment onto her [to be her fault, so she works harder to prevent it, so that she doesn't come off as the weird conversational-killing person with nothing to talk about]. Keep in mind, though, that this can only be accomplished after substantial Attraction has been created in her; otherwise, it will be automatic for her to associate any weirdness with you, and the whole thing will backfire on you.


Back to me and HBLSE..


So I run a couple things on her, but mostly we're just vibing, doing our thing. She's laughing, having a good time..I know that she's definitely much more relaxed by now than she was at first; a huge part [if not all] of her nervousness has to do with her low self-esteem [shocker, I know] but also with the stigma down here with dating and relationships, because it's not as clear-cut a type of thing as it in the US. What I mean is, back in the States, it's not a big deal to be out or doing something with someone, one-on-one, etc, whereas here, for a number of people, it's like being outside of your comfort-zone, mainly because the whole "dating" thing or even just being out or doing stuff with someone in a one-on-one situation, especially being in a non-public area [such as the mall or campus] tends to become a formal-like ordeal, and it can be a major thing [depending on the person's view], especially when you've got someone like HBLSE, who's esteem's not the best, and she will thus take a situation like this to be much bigger [wanting to make a great impression, etc], which will also cause it to become more formal [best behavior, etc], which will kick in the super-date feelings [ASD, etc]..but I'd managed to disarm this whole process for the most part, and like I said, we were just vibing, and things were good.


After eating, I jumped over to the other side to chit-chat with her some more, using a routine as part of the reason - I ran Cube on her, thus getting in a major jump in Comfort within the time of running the routine. As usual, it was "soo right!!" and accurate that she was all about it and all over me. The problem that I was starting to pick up on already, and then she confessed to at this point, was that she's not a very touchy-feely person..so much for kino, right?


Wrong.


I continued my kino-escalation throughout this time, just making to sure to either slow it down, or use it in a more push-pull manner, or even a 2-steps-forward-1-step-back kind of way, to continue getting things going in the right direction, even using her anti-kino feelings against her to make her feel awkward about the fact [I gave her some shit for being "weird" and how even that thinking was "really..strange.."], and I could tell it was really starting to get to her. Unfortunatley, I also knew that at the end of all this, nothing was really going to come of all of it - she'd already had plans to meet up with her cousin on campus, thus leaving me with no real way of trying to extract the pull.


Oh, well..her loss.


Earlier, we'd played this question-like game, in which I was trying to guess something that she was really self-conscious about with herself, and to get her to finally agree [I almost literally had to forcibly drag her ass into doing this], I told her the same would apply to me - that she'd have to guess something major that had happened to me this past summer which is a pretty potentially-embarrassing thing to have to deal with [not so much, but I had to play it up for her to agree! haa]. So, that definitely also added some major Comfort with us, too, and left up some intrigue [she never guessed what my thing was].

By the end of the night, I knew that she wanted to be able to chill more, but she'd screwed our time together up by having setup this time with her cousin, who'd begun calling her, and at first, HBLSE ignored her, too..then, as we were heading out towards the nearest bus stop, she finally answered her cousin's call.

And when the bus finally arrived, I could tell HBLSE wanted at least a hug, if not more..and so I decided to flip the script on her, using her own shit from before about not being touchy-feely, and told her "too bad you don't like to be touched..no hugs or anything for you!", and she knew I had her - nothing to say about that, because this was based on her own words from before..and this now leaves her feeling really awkward [which I pointed out to her, too, so she knows that I felt it], and she created it, because of her not wanting to touch too much..and now she's going to want to make it up to me [this has already started to take effect, with her texting me a few times already tonight].

At this point, I'm not sure what I want to do from here, seeing as how she's got her self-esteem issues, and she doesn't [or at least, didn't] like kino too much [which I've noticed is true with her interactions with everyone, not just me..that would suck haa], it just seems like it would be too much effort required to make things happen with her. Although, it was a good time to really work the bitch shield, especially in terms of kino, as well as a good practice session of running routines and ad-libbing stuff on the fly..we'll see what I decide to do with this..

~h