Going Out Alone, Kinoescalation Tips, and Getting the Phone Number

I was taking a break from studying Micro, when I started thinking [a lot] about HBAmazon, whom I've been seeing at the most inopportune times lately, and finally had a perfect opening..if only I'd seen it [or rather, her] on Friday - and it [or rather, she] is obviously still on my mind.

And then, my roommate apparently couldn't not run into her today, studying near her at the library, and then ending up at the gym at the same time as her, too - and as luck would have it, he didn't take his cell phone with him the whole day, so he couldn't hit me up to let me know that all of this was going down..awesome



Anyways, I started thinking about how I need to close this [as in, I need to, and how to go about doing so], and these ideas started flying around in my head.

For example, we have exams coming up in 2 weeks..but most other terms don't. Am I going to have people to go out with? Should that even be an issue?

I personally kind of like going out alone. It's less hassle getting everything organized, you don't have to wait for your friends to get there, you don't have the distraction of standing around talking to your buddies, and it's a great feeling to leave your house alone and come back with a beautiful woman. It also makes approaching WAY easier because if you don't approach you're just standing around by yourself, which is not particularly fun.

When I first started going out alone, I always felt like EVERYONE in the bar knew I was there by myself and was judging me for it. So one night I decided to do an experiment. I went to a bar and stood in the middle of the bar by myself, not talking to anybody. I was fully expecting people to give me dirty looks or make comments, but nothing happened. Then the next night I went out alone again and this time did a bunch of approaches, I was sure every group was going to ask me where my friends were. And it never happened. Because people really don't care. The biggest hurdle to going out alone is getting over the feeling that people will think you're less cool for being out alone.

Ok so let's look at some things that can be done to fix that worry or fear.

1. Getting in the batter's box. This is something a buddy once said to me that has always stuck. He said the hardest part of going out alone is getting yourself going. I know how it is, you're sitting around your house debating with yourself about whether to go out or stay in. You list all the reasons for and against going out, flip through your phone looking for girls you could call to come over, etc.. But what if instead of that, you simply started to get ready. While you're debating with yourself, hop in the shower, or shave or pick out an outfit for that night. This will help get the ball rolling and then once you're clean, shaved, dressed etc..you'll feel like you have to go out.

2. Approach the first girl you see in the venue. Nothing kills your state when you're out alone faster than standing around with a drink in your hand. So instead as soon as you walk into the venue, start talking to the first girl you see. If there aren't any girls in the bar yet, then talk to the first guy you see. A lot of guys underestimate the power of being talkative. The more of a talkative mood you're in, the easier it will be to approach.

3. Set a certain number of approaches you HAVE to do. It doesn'thave to be overly ambitious, but make sure that you set a goal for the amount of approaches you have to do and don't let yourself go home until you complete them.

4. Establish a home base. This is one of the best and easiest things to do when you go out by yourself. A home base is where you're going to be when you are in between approaches. You don't want to be standing by yourself, so you make friends with either a group of girls you're not interested in gaming or a group of guys. Then you periodically check in with them throughout the night when you need a break or there aren't any girls you're interested in approaching.

Remember: going out alone is either normal or weird based on how YOU feel about it.

So now, let's say you're out and talking to a girl you're interested in. YOU MUST START TOUCHING ASAP!

It doesn't matter if you're not comfortable touching girls. That's fine, I was not a naturally touchy guy either.

So what I did was I came up with a simple structure to guide my touching. It went like this:

1. Playful touching - This is stuff like playfully shoving her, flicking her on the arm, patting her pompously, etc..this is the stuff that happens early on. With touching the earlier you do it, the more you will seem like a naturally touchy guy.

2. Hand touching - This is stuff like high-fives, thumb wars, playfully slapping her hand, and so on.

3. Arm in arm - This will happen as you're qualifying girls. She says something you like, you take her hand, place it on your arm and say "That's all you get". You can also do this when you're moving a girl by asking her if she's the romantic type and holding your arm out for her to link through.

4. Arm around - This is another reward type of touching. She says or does something you like, so you pull her in by her waist. There's an easy way to tell if she's attracted here, because she will put her arm back around you if she likes it.

5. Hand holding - The best way to hand-hold, is to suggest moving and then holding your hand back for her to grab.

6. Kissing - There's a variety of ways to kiss, but my soon-to-be favorite is what's called "The Almost Kiss". This is where in the middle of talking to her, you stop and say "I'm sorry, I'm having a really hard time talking to you, becauseI keep thinking about kissing you. But I understand we're not ready for that yet. So we're going to do an almost kiss. We're going to get really close, but you're not allowed to kiss me and I'm not allowed to kiss you. If you kiss me, it will ruin all trust in our relationship". Then you lean forward and get as close to her lips as you can without touching them. Then you push her away and go back to talking. 5-10 minutes later you can go back in for another almost kiss, at which point the girl will almost always kiss you.

The key with touching is that you have to act like it's the most normal thing in the world.

Ok, so now let's say things have progressed even better, and you need to get her number [i.e. no SNL in this case :-p].

Something to keep in mind: women give out their phone numbers all the time. The phone number isn't worth the paper it's written on, or the phone it's stored in. Sometimes women will even give you their phone number to get rid of you. This isn't the seventies when a phone number meant something. Every girl who has a cell phone, has caller ID..and she can pretty much avoid any guy she wants to, and guess what - she may want to avoid you.

The major mistake most guys make here, is not setting up a date. Getting phone numbers and agreeing to "see each other again sometime" are stairways to heaven. Instead what you want to do is suggest an activity at a specific time and place that you guys can do together. This could be as simple as mentioning how you're going to a comedy show this Thursday early in the conversation, and then bringing it up again and inviting her when you want to get her phone number. By making her commit to a certain time and place, you will see if she's actually interested or if she's just being polite. For example, this way she can say "I'm sorry I'm busy that night..", and if she doesn't suggest alternative plans, you know you have a potential flake on your hands.

Now there are a few other mistakes guys commonly make, as well. First is waiting too long to call her. On a cold approach, you want to call the very next day. The reason being, she doesn't have a whole lot invested in you, unlike a guy in her social circle, whom she'll have to see again.

Then there's waiting an ungodly amount of time to follow up if/when she doesn't call you back. Forget all the "3-day rules" and "5-day rules" you hear about; you want to keep following up every day or other day until you either get her on the phone, or you get distracted by all the other girls you have in the pipeline. You do have other girls in the pipeline, right?

Remember, this is the real world, and not every girl that you think you have a connection with is going to call you back.

The solution is to go out [alone if need be] and meet more women.

~h

LR: Cruise

Okay, so here's the family vacation post.

Unfortunately, I only had a short summer vacation this time - I think about 5-6 weeks long.

Yay.

Especially because my family and I went on this cruise, which was fuckin' tiiight, don't get me wrong..but it took out nearly 2 weeks of my summer. And I really wanted to milk being at home for all I could :-)

Anyways, the quick summary: I had 2 lays on the cruise, the first being a black bartender girl and the second being a white British trainer in the gym. The 2 more I could've had, if I'd had the time, were this fiiine black masseuse and the hot brunette dancer who, needless to say, had a tight-ass body. But there just wasn't the time, because I didn't see either of them enough to close them.

The black bartender chick, she was pretty quick and easy, actually; the main thing with her was initiating contact [considering she was at the bar, that wasn't too hard], and then keeping out interaction light, with sexualized talk thrown into the mix.

For example, she would sing, pretty loud, some random songs. Obviously, this was an attempt to get attention drawn to herself. So I figured, the best thing to do is give her the attention she's seeking, as long as she complies with the direction that I lead the interaction.

So I would tease her about her singing, and how she was off-key or she was running out of songs, or she was like a bird that wouldn't shut up.

Then, I would talk about things, like what there was to do for fun on a ship, especially when the crew is always on the ship, don't they get bored, etc. And from there, I'd take it totally exaggerated in a sexual way, like they have mad orgies, with the captain taking command and his second-in-command being the cameraman, etc.

Add in a few sexual routines like Strawberry Fields, and after only talking with her twice, we met up at night after she got off work at the "club". From there, we just stuck with mundane chit-chat for a bit, then we went back to her cabin [mine had my brother and sister crammed in there with me, so that wouldn't have worked :-p], and I went to work on that phattt ass! ;-)

The British gym trainer girl was a bit more involved, partly because I couldn't grab her attention much 1-on-1, since there'd be some class or client always around for her to work with, and partly because she would be at the gym from 6am-11pm..crazy, right?

So I just made sure to smile and make small-talk with her every time I was in the gym. I noticed that she wore rings, so I made a mental note to use Rings on Fingers at some point, even if I had to do at the gym itself.

But as luck would have it, they had this "White Party" at the "club" one night after dinner and the entertainment, and I was accidentally prepared because I'd brought a wife-beater as well as my white sports jacket, so I rolled to the party with that on. And who should be there, but the trainer chick. So I ran a couple of attraction pieces, but I knew I didn't need too many because I was already getting plenty of IOIs, so I moved into qualification and comfort from there, talking about my little brother, and my mom's near-death, etc. I also worked in the Rings on Fingers routine, as well as Strawberry Fields, to sexualize the talk, too.

It was almost a text-book example, with everything working and clicking with her, plenty of kino and even some take-aways on my part so as to not come off too strong or needy, checking out the rest of the party, getting another drink, that sort of deal. Which, of course, only worked to make her chase me even more.

At the end of the party, I told her I wasn't done for the night and asked her what she had planned for the rest of the night. Then I took her up outside to the deck, where we held hands and cuddled on one of the lounge chairs, watching the ocean in the middle of night. And of course, it was windy as hell, so we ended back inside, wide awake, and she suggested we go to her room and chill there. And I knew it was going down - all we had to do was get our asses to her room!

And, what a sweeeet ass she had ;-)

~h

Frustrated Lesson: Gaming at the Gym

Ok, I'm going to try to make this post as coherent as possible, and as chronological as possible.

And don't worry, I haven't forgotten about the vacation post - but what's done is done with that one, whereas this is an ongoing thing right now.

Alright, so I've been keeping up with the gym quite regularly, since I'm at home and have time to do so..much more than when I'm at school, at least. So I've been practicing some things in there, obviously more day-game-related, but it's still interesting stuff..some things I've picked up from others, other things I'm experimenting/experiencing first-hand.

The good thing about the gym is, you can build social proof [even over time], because most of the people are regulars, so you're bound to see the same people around more than once-in-a-lifetime.

Look at my situation: I'm only in town a few months out of the year, and yet when I go back to the gym, there'll always be people in there that I know, either working out or people who work there.

One such example is HBRedheadMILF. She doesn't seem to be MILF age, until you get up close to her and get a better look, or she drops hints about the timeframe of when she grew up, etc. Her face is cute, and her body is just wow - big breasts and a niiice ass..especially for a white girl ;-)

I had spoken to her maybe two or three times last summer, and I actually thought I'd made a bad impression on her. I was picking on her for her shoes [they were like hiking boots style], and her name was the same name as a character on one of my favorite comedy shows.

Well, when I got back into the gym this summer, I spotted her, but since I thought I'd made a not-so-hot impression with her, I figured I'd just play it cool and not really do anything..only to be surprised as hell when she came and grabbed me..literally, grabbed me by the arm, to ask me where I've been.

Not bad. What is bad, however, is that I'm not upping the interaction - I know she's into me, because last time we ended up talking for around an hour [maybe more], near the end of her workout and right at the beginning of mine. And all the signs were there..I just wasn't sure how to move to the close without it seeming to date-y..what I didn't think about, though, was that in a day game situation, it usually is a more direct style, so it's okay to "get together at such-and-such time to do this-or-that"..so next time we run into each other, that's the plan.

This lack of upping the interaction is the point of this post - just yesterday, I met not one but two HBs at the gym. One is HBSexyMexican, whom I've seen at the gym a few times a week this summer, and she's just got a siiick ass on her ;-) I've talked to her only once, in passing; she'd been eyeing me earlier one day last week and I smiled at her..later that day, she was using a machine I'd just been using, and she was looking at me, so as I walked by I gave her this look like "wtf" and told her "You stole my machine.." while waving a fist at her..then smiling

[remember to smile, dammit! I always forget that I can be intimidating, especially to a girl, especially at a place like the gym]

She was very positive, smiled back and apologizing in this sexy accent like "Ohh, I'm sorryyyyy ;-)"

I ran into her yesterday, and we chit-chatted for a while. We passed each other a couple times, smiling, then I told her that I was a little worried and started wondering about her and what happened. She asked "why, what happened?", and I told her "well you haven't been around, so I started thinking you're slacking off..and I was going to tell on you, get your membership cancelled, and have it transferred over to my account :-)"

I realized her English wasn't all that hot, but our conversation was still fine. It just goes to show that the actual words being used are not all that important; what is important, is voice tonality and body language, and of course, smiling. I also saw that she had 2 rings on her left hand, her ring and her pinky fingers; at first, I wasn't sure if the ring finger one was a wedding ring, so I was trying to just keep things casual..hence, just passing her and smiling the first couple of run-ins yesterday. [Once I saw it wasn't, however, I could've used rings-on-fingers as something else to talk about, since I realized she wasn't the best at keeping the conversation flowing; she tried, but she sucked haa]

And now, the frustrating one..

The other girl, or rather woman, I met yesterday at the gym, was this chick I'd seen around there every now and then, back in the day, like last summer, maybe even before that. She's light-skinned black woman, who almost looks like she could be mixed; in fact, she reminds me of an older version of HBTyra..like, a lot, even in her mannerisms. I'll call her HBBlackMILF.

I was soo distracted by her yesterday, while she was first running on a treadmill, then doing one of those elliptical/stairmaster-style machine that forces girls to sway their hips from side-to-side in a very mesmerizingly sexy manner. Add to it the fact that she's very much in-shape, meaning the hour-glass figure with nice breasts, a narrow waist, and a simply amaaazing ass stuffed into black spandex pants.

Like I said, it was very distracting.

So I told myself that any chance I get, I'm going to talk to her..despite having seen a ring, on her left ringer finger. It was hard to tell if it was that kind of ring, though, because it looked kind of flat, instead of having a diamond jutting out of it. But no harm in talking, especially now that I've got a sort of default opener for the gym that applies to the situation of working out, and it's unisexual as I've used it on my guy friends before. And it usually goes over well, too, with only a few people reacting in a neutral/negative manner.

And this is exactly how I approached HBBlackMILF: she was on this triceps push-down machine, just sitting there, so as I walked by on my way to get water [it's much better to NOT carry a water bottle with you at the gym, because then you can take water breaks..and to do so, you need to walk to and from the water fountain :-)], I slowed down and stopped in front of her, over-the-shoulder, "You know [wait for acknowledgement..in her case, she apologized for being lost in space], that machine..it works better..if you push down..like this..[gesturing with my arms]".

So, it goes like this: "[smile a little] You know..the machine/it works better when you ____..[bigger smile]"

Obviously, it can only be used when the girl is chilling somewhere, either on a machine or free weights or whatever..not cardio..not when she's actually lifting..and not while she's walking around. There are other ones for that, and in fact, this one can be tweaked to apply to those, as well..for example, walking around can be made out as her slacking off or not using the entire gym properly. Whatever. But, this specific one usually works better when the girl is at a machine, during her break or something.

Well, HBBlackMILF started cracking up, and then picked up the conversation from there about how she's just kind of tired and being lazy. And I told her "You can't be slacking off, because here I am, finishing up a set and getting some water, walking by and seeing you just sitting there..it kind of kills the motivational pump. You should be going at it and keeping it going, not deflating my mission here!" And she laughed, telling me that I'm right and she's going to get right on it, "and next time when you come through, you need to make some noise or clear your throat, so I know when you're coming and I'll get started!" And I told her I'd bring like a whole parade through with me, just to make sure she knows I'm coming.

And we went on for another minute or so. I did the usual good-response = turn-to-face-her. I also made sure to say the last word and start walking off before she got started on her set, so that I'm non-needy. She kept responding each time, though, so finally I just replied to her as I walked away.

I saw her watching for me after that, especially as I started coming back her way the next time. And so she started working, and I made really, really, really loud coughing sounds, to the point that a few people started looking at me, and she was cracking uuuup. She said something, and I said something back, but I didn't stop this time. I knew I was almost done with my workout, so I figured I'd talk to her afterwards. This way, I come off as non-needy, she sees that my plan is to work out not pick up chicks at the gym so she feels special because I don't just talk to any and every chick, and she'd probably be on some other machine and thus provide a mini-bounce, which helps the whole time-distortion effect to make it seem like we've been talking much longer, and therefore we know each other much better, than if you stay in the same spot and talk.

So, when I was done, I busted on her again for slacking when she was on the lat pulldown machine, and then we just started talking, for a good while [not sure how long]. She told me about how she's trying to get in shape because she's gained weight, and I told her that in all honesty, she looks fine, and that I actually think she looks pretty sexy. We went into that for a bit. She explained to me how she wants her body to look, and even stood up and showed me [I had to literally bite my lip clench my fists not to react when she put that riDICulous ass in my face..FUUUUCK!!].

Then she told me she's a teacher, so I told her she'd be the teacher that I totally had a crush on, and I'd like bring her an apple every day. By this point, she'd already told me her name, in true girly fashion by imbedding it into something she'd told me [it was like "So I told myself, HBBlackMILF, you really gotta.."]. At this point, she asked for mine, and then told me "I'd say, Hrithik, sweety, you've brought me like 10 apples already, and I'm not eating them..you need to get the idea.." [I'm thinking, 'fuuck..'], then she goes on with "..I don't want the apples..bring me something else..like..Snicker's bars..haha".

Perfect opportunity to escalate kino ;-)

I'm like "Whaaat? You like Snicker's?? That's awesome!" and do the ol' hug-n-hold on her. And she's loving it, even without understanding why..

..because she wanted the kino, regardless ;-)

But I explained to her how I love Snicker's, and I go to like Sam's Club and buy those big 48 count boxes of the king size ones.

I repeated this process like 20 seconds later, when she revealed that she loves Mountain Dew. I also would let her know where she stood on my qualification meter, telling her how she started off neutral, but then plummeted for sucking and being so lazy, but now is sky-rocketing because of her love of Snicker's and Mountain Dew. I brought this same thing back up again later, when she said something about if there's no Dew at a restaurant, she gets blahblahblah, and I just looked at her funny, like "uhoh..", and she reacted immediately [nice way to gauge her interest/investment in impressing me, huh? ;-)].

She asked me, "what..??" And I told her she was dropping, and she goes "Oh man I'm plummeting again, aren't I??" and I told her "No, no, not that bad; you just dropped a couple notches..but you still love Snicker's and Mountain Dew, so we're still good! haa"

She assumed I had kids, and this is where I made my first mistake. I should've realized that she must have kids, to be asking about them; even if that weren't true, at least give a positive explanation. Instead, I told her that I don't have any, and then explained that my little brother and I have such a huge age gap of like 10-11 years that since I've done so much in raising him, I don't plan to have any kids anytime soon..EEEGGHH!! WRRRONNNNGG [sigh]..oh well, I plan to bring it up again another time and correct this with something about how I love kids, and they love me, and I want to have kids as soon as possible, but I just haven't found the right person yet..then look at her with sexy eyes :-)

She asked me how old he was, but I was not going to give her an idea of my age, just in case..and since she'd asked if he was like little-little, I used that and was like "no no no, not now, I'm talking back in the day..". So she went on to tell me about her 2 kids: 8-year-old son and 5.5-year-old daughter [but no mention of a husband], and so I still managed to salvage any negative impression by Awwwing and laughingly remarking at how cute that is at every chance I got.

She also failed to mention any husband-like figure when talking about taking her kids to New York in mid-July..so that's good..but I'm still not sure how I feel about that ring on her finger, since I couldn't get a closer look, especially now with her workout gloves on.

So mistake number two was in the fact of not escalating to get some kind of a close on her. Especially because she was talking about taking her kids out to dinner later, and we joked about me popping up and watching what she eats, etc. That could've been a good opportunity to either 1) playfully asking if she was asking me out on a date, or 2) inviting her, with her kids, out to dinner with me and my siblings to Dave & Buster's.

And mistake number three is the big one, today, that is causing alllll of this frustrated lesson to come out - she'd mentioned that today she was going to work out in the morning. We'd also talked about 2-a-day workouts, once in the morning and once in the afternoon. And there was my reason for being in the gym, by chance, this morning.

I told myself last night that if I got up, and if I was feeling it, I'd go to the gym and only do cardio. I woke up, alarmless, ~7:30am. What the fuck? So I figured, I have to go, it's some kind of a sign.

And she was there. On a treadmill, and I was again mesmerized by that ass. However, I felt kind of awkward, being there in the morning since she'd told she was going to be there in the morning. I should've ignored the feeling and acted natural, but it was easier said than done for me, and I didn't talk to her right away.

No big deal, I'll talk to her later, right?

I never did. And as I waited for "the right moment" to approach her, time slipped away, and so did she - I saw her as she was leaving, and I was just wrapping up doing some abs. I was, and still am, soo pissed and frustrated, especially because now, if she thought it was weird or awkward for me to show up then, she'll definitely be thinking it even more, since I didn't diffuse it or say anything to her, I just showed up when she was there. "By chance", my ass.

What makes it worse is, I already knew what I was going to say, and even worse is the fact that I was also going to use this opportunity to make up for mistake #2 and either get a number or invite her out tonight/tomorrow night with me and my sibs. And I don't know if I'm going to try to go again in the morning tomorrow, since I'd joked with her about whether she could imagine me getting up on a Saturday morning to work out after going out Friday night; if I show up, it might be weird..again. She'd also told me she goes Sunday mornings, too, but I'd acted all like "Whaat? You workout on Sundays, too??", so that might be even worse to show up for.

Fuck, fuck fuck fuck

So, the Frustrated Lesson: don't wait for the perfect opportunity, make the perfect opportunity yourself.

~h

Busy Days

Yesterday, I had quite an unexpectedly productive day, both academically and socially.

I went to class, and made it through, wide-awake and active.

During, and especially after class all the way through the night, I was off-handedly gaming girls that I'd run into.

HBAmazon is almost ready to be approached, with intent - she now actively seeks me out and makes sure to at least say hi, a great improvement over her looking-from-the-corners-of-her-eyes, half-smile, nervous look-away greetings from earlier in the term. And I always make sure to smile at her, no matter what, so she's not initimidated - funny how a little thing like that, from me especially, can make such a major difference.

I got texted by a few of my girls, varying from "Hey hrithik waz up. Just saying hi, etc" to "so wen am i gonna wrap my lips around dat big cock of urz?"

[I made some good head-way with HBKraaazyBody Monday after my exam, when I sent out a mass text to some of the girls: "Mannn i had this test 2day, totally sucked..wen i was done w it, u popped in2 my head - n stayed 4 a good bit.. does that sound lame? U suck", and it had great response with most of them, especially HBKraaazyBody, who revealed her stance with me :-)

I also caught HBAlienFace staring at me, every time I've seen her around campus, even to the point where she'll be talking with someone but her body language'll give her thought away to me, i.e. feet pointing towards me, upper body facing me, and/or more blatant things like her eyes fixed on me while she talks to someone else..but I don't know if she just sucks at trying to flirt, because obviously she's interested, but the last interaction we had, some semesters back, was kind of awkward, where I think she was trying to play-argue with me, but it was about something kind of lame, so it didn't work and made me feel like "umm..okay..", and then I never really spoke to her again..we'll see if I choose to change that]

I went to the gym later in the evening, and HBGottaBeMixed found me a couple times while I was on the phone with my girlfriend, telling me she'd be right back once I was off. And a few other girls whom I don't even remember now, similar [re]actions. Obviously there was something that was causing each of these girls to behave similarly.

So I made sure to pay attention to what was going on - I saw my reflection and noted my body language, and I also listened to myself interacting with my girlfriend on the phone, as well as making sure to keep a smile on my face so that the interaction didn't seem serious or anything.

After the gym, I was heading back to the P.I.M.P. pad, when I noticed this tall, cute Indian chick, with a nice breasts and curvy ass, speed-walking from behind me, almost as though she was trying to catch up to me; she'd been riding the bike next to me earlier, and I'd caught her glimpsing my way a number of times. For a few seconds, I was distracted, seeing that ass in high-powered motion, but I snapped out of it and started talking with her. She removed her headphones almost immediately [IOI] even though she could hear me. I made a few jokes [A2], then back-handed slapping her shoulder [light kino initiation], teased her [more A2], then a quick bit about us having to impress our Indian parents [A3/C1], all the while I'm making sure to smile and she's laughing and responding very well. Next time I see her at the gym, or around campus, I'll take things a bit further.

I drank a protein shake and then went to Subway, and there, everyone was watching me. Including one of the girls working there, who was the first girl I'd been completely infatuated with when I'd come down here for the first time. At the time, I'd gotten to be pretty cool with her, even #-closed her, but she had seemed kind of stand-offish, which I'd since then attributed to the defensive nature some local girls tend to get around me since I'm not from here - they worry that I will simply use them and then leave them. Back then, however, not only did I not know this, I didn't know how to handle it, either. Or maybe she had a boyfriend and began to feel guilty after she gave me her number. Regardless, as far as I was concerned, she was "a bitch".

And now here she was again, and this time she was talking about me and even tried to initiate conversation with me a couple of times. And I simply blew her off - guess I still had some hurt feeling from way back then, huh? Then I proceeded to make her feel awkward as I didn't even acknowledge her trying to talk to me. And then I just stared at her retarrrrdedly huge ass - seriously, it's got to be 50"+.

In retrospect, this was quite immature of me, but she does not know that I did it on purpose, because I had my headphones blasting music, even though they weren't on my ears, she still doesn't know whether I could hear or not. So I will see about maybe trying to make something happen with her the next time I go there.

The bus driver that picks me up to bring me back to my place is an old friend of mine whom I hadn't seen for..maybe almost a year now, come to think of it. It was real cool catching up with him, albeit briefly, just to see what he's been up to and how things are with me.

Then about 10:30pm, HBBlondeBlackModel calls me, from her chef-in-training job. That I think made my night, because she'd called me last Friday and had woken me up, I'd texted her a couple times since then but had gotten no response, and now here she was, secretly calling me from work. And she reaffirmed exactly what I thought was happening: she was still mad busy with interviews and photo shoots, etc, from her modeling competition in Barbados last weekend, and then working afternoons/nights, leaving her no spare time to be able to hit me back.

She told me real quick about that stuff, then asked me about my trip [I don't remember what trip she's talking about..Disney, I guess??], which I told her was a lonnng story, and would have to wait, and she agreed that we'd better wait until we're in person then. And she kept asking about me and the things I've been up to [IOIs], which I didn't realize but it was quite a bit once I started talking - the Indian cultural show performance and how awesome that was, then the after-party/ies me and my friends hit up, then my galfriend's birthday party when we hit up the new legit club in town, and then studying for that test this past Monday..of course, I made sure to lace all these stories with DHVs and other attraction spikes, to remind her of why she thinks I'm so awesome :-)

We probably talked a good 20 minutes or so before she had to go, and it was definitely a good conversation. Especially since she suggested herself, that she'd hit me up in a couple days and we could see what's up with the weekend..which I played off at first like "ummmmm..hmm..okay, yea, that should be alright.." [non-neediness].

All of this stuff happening, especially within 1 day [and a few things that happened today, going along with this..just different girls, like HBTriniMed for example], got me thinking about the signals that women send out to let guys know that they are feeling you. I'll post more about this later tonight.

~h

Friday Night

Earlier in the day, I ran into both HBRunnerUp and HBBeautyMark at the bus stop, but I was on the phone with my girlfriend, so I couldn't do much more than just a quick thing, so I blew an exaggerated kiss at HBRunnerUp, and I gave HBBeautyMark a little courtesy salute..she started saying something to me, so I slowly turned my back to her and kept talking on the phone [I'd been pacing while talking, so it didn't seem rude or anything to do this], so that I could avoid my girlfriend hearing anything while at the same time not come off like anything too negative towards HBBeautyMark.

That night, I'd planned to go out, but I was starting to get really tired. So I drank some coffee and tried to decide what to do: I "should" go out, but I "want" to stay in. I was really tired yesterday..but I knew I had to go out. The plan was to hit up the "new" club [it opened last term] - the main draw: it's supposed to be as legit a club as we can get down here, at least for now..and it's even got A/C..oooo la la! :-p

I was wearing some around the house type stuff, sprawled out on the couch, watching The Longest Yard. And then I got the call a little after midnight that we were definitely going to roll, so I got off my ass, turned off the movie, and showered up real quick - I only had ~20-30 minutes before they were going to swing by to get me.

I rocked my new white sports coat, wife-beater, light blue jeans, white shoes, and my clubbin shades and went to meet them downstairs. And I saw the birthday girl was in the car, too, as was HBTriniMed. Both were very impressed with my gear.

After a couple of quick stops, we headed to the club. I had already picked up on a number of IOIs from HBTriniMed, the easiest ones being her responding to just about any comment or joke I made, giving me that whole "she's laughing even though it's not that funny" vibe. And when we stepped out of the car, I put on my see-through shades, made a couple of comments, and next thing I knew, she was telling me that "you're going to be my man for the night, allll mine" and put her arms around my arm. So not only I already had HBTriniMed all set up before we'd even stepped into the club, but I was getting tons of pre-selection for all the other women to see. Plus, I was looking like a fuckin movie star [more than 1 person made this same exact comment], so I had that going, too :-)

We get to the club entrance, and I look at my phone - it's already past 1am. As it turned out, the club had a "students free with ID" setup going on with my school for the night, so I saved me some cash..I'm running low, since it's near the end of the term, so it's a bigger deal than it sounds like.

After parading around the lounge area for a few minutes with HBTriniMed, I separated off to chill with a couple guys who were there that I know; in terms of the girls there, I already had the pre-selection, now I'd get some social proof..in terms of HBTriniMed, I'd show non-neediness and create a sense of loss.

The rest of the night at that place, I just enjoyed myself and had a good time. I didn't really have to do much, since I was already rocking my gear and had social proof as well as pre-selection hanging not only with HBTriniMed, but also with the birthday girl and some her girlfriends.

I made sure no matter what I did or where I was, to be locked-in and to pay attention to body language, especially when dealing with HBTriniMed. It was funny and interesting, because HBTriniMed kept finding me and literally pushing her way in between me and whomever I happened to be chilling with at the time. It was so obvious, I even gave her a hard time for it, but in a way that left her cracking up. So I knew it was very much on. Especially when she would start dancing, then maneuver herself to be kind of in front of me at an angle, and then back up onto me..all in what she thought was a discreet manner. But I made a mistake here, of making a joke about it, which I guess either 1) brought it to her attention if she was doing it subconsciously, or 2) made her feel self-conscious of her actions if she was doing it on purpose, thinking I was making fun of her.

Anyway, I recovered and after a bit, moved into some light comfort and stuff, although it was a little hard because inside the actual club area, it was pretty loud. I thought about bouncing her back outside to the lounge area [I should've done this, to be able to game better], but I didn't want it to seem weird or awkward..I know it wouldn't have, but at the time, I was making myself think that it might, mainly due to HBTriniMed being so hard to read in the past. But now that she's warmed up to me more recently, I need to get over the image I hold of her from before and realize that she is just like every other girl, just a little more difficult to read because she tends to be less emotive that other girls I deal with.

The other thing I didn't like about the club was that it was a little too dark for me, so I couldn't really see the other girls too well, and thus ended up sticking more to my group than I would've liked; after all, what was the point of all the social proofing and pre-selection I'd been displaying, not to mention the pimp-ass outfit I had on?

After a bit, it seemed that HBTriniMed was really starting to cool off of me, so I started to pursue her - that was a mistake, but not a costly one, because she was still showing plenty of proximity, always hovering near me, and telling me everything she was about to do. And then she told me what was wrong, too: she was feeling kind of sick. She didn't have a drink the whole time we were there, so it wasn't that, but apparently they'd eaten dinner beforehand, and it was causing her stomach to act up to the point that she felt she was going to vomit..that's always sexy.

Since she kept telling me this, I realized that she wanted to leave..but not without me. So we got my boy who'd driven us to the club as well as another of my boys, and we left. As we were driving, it suddenly made sense about why she'd mentioned to me a few times that she wanted to go to the other bar/club that's near her [and my] place - there were more people, plus she could've bounced with me much more easily than we could from this place since it was all the way in town.

When we reached her place, she climbed out the back from my side and gave me a hug, I gave her a quick kiss on the cheek and told her to feel better, and then we left.

We decided not to go the other club, even though it was pretty packed, because my friend driving had a very bad and dangerous experience there, and without him, my other friend wouldn't have a ride home. So they dropped me off, and I chilled at my place for a bit, then decided "fuck it, just do it", made a sandwich real quick, and rolled out to the club.

The place was still pretty packed, although some people had started leaving. I made my way in, flirting with 1 of the girls collecting the money [she's a fan of mine ;-)], then scanned the faces as I slowly walked towards 1 of the bars to get an idea of who's around.

I got my usual rum on the rocks, then found a few friends to chill with and got in some quick social proof..especially because I could feel eyes on me [I did look baller as hell], so I can't be seen standing around alone, with a drink, held up to my chest, etc. haa

I bounced around between sets of friends, both guys and girls to get in some pre-selection, too, before I made any real moves. I spotted a really cute blonde girl, and in set with her were two of my friends..perfect.

Just as I rolled into the set, I told myself to bust out as much routine stuff as possible, rather than making it up on the fly, so that I could get back used to using canned material and having better control over where interactions go rather than relying on in-the-moment stuff..especially since I didn't know this girl, so I didn't have any previous interactions to build off of.

I greeted my friends, gave her a courteous "hi", and then told some story about the club from town. I made a lot of eye contact with the girl [HBBlondie], to ensure that I kept her interest as well as putting the pressure on her to engage me one-on-one. When I finished the story, we all laughed, and then she said that she didn't think we'd actually met, although she'd seen me around before. At this point, I let one of my buddies introduce us, knowing full well that his intro would end up as a nice accomplishment introduction, especially since the Indian cultural show was last weekend, so there was plenty of fresh awesomeness to bust out with.

After getting the intro's out of the way, I did a little body-rock away, then rocked back in to kind of face her, and then asked her if she was adventurous..spontaneous..what was the wildest thing she'd ever done..? Then I qualified her on that, telling her how that's awesome [kino: high-5's], and I love the fact that she did something like that [more kino: hugging], etc - basically that she's really cool in my book. I also took a couple of pictures with her, one just normal, the second being "our sexy picture!", which is a new thing I've started telling girls to do, and it works really nicely, not only for a good picture/pose as pre-selection, but also for the girl to start thinking and feeling sexy and associating that with me.

Then I told her that me and some friends might be having a little get-together this upcoming weekend [I think that's going to be my back-up number-closer, if I don't have something more solid/real] in order to number-close her. I made sure to stay in a few more minutes, talking about how there were so many people out, and I was really tired, and they all just needed to go home, right now. She started laughing, and I left on the high note.

I continued bouncing around, between friends, and then random people, just making situational comments/openers and then not really sticking around too long [I need to start following through, run through the entire process unless I get blown out or something], just having a good time. I ended up number-closing a couple other girls, but it was more out of "it just happened" than it was from intention, like with HBBlondie.

It was getting late by this point, definitely after 4am, so I decided it was time to go home and crash, at least so the next day wouldn't be a complete waste. I got a bottle of water, said my good-byes, and then headed back to the P.I.M.P. pad to crash..by the time I did, it was something like 5am - not bad. :-)

~h

Indian Show and Post-Party

Last Saturday was the Indian cultural show..and I, along with the girls in my dance, rocked that shit. It was a 7.5 minute dance, and I changed clothes like 4 times. It was taken straight from this [minus the 2nd-to-last song, with the kids]:



HBRunnerUp and HBBellyDancer were 2 of the 3 girls in my dance, and we had a 3rd girl, too - I was trying to rope in HBBlondeBlackModel to even it out [2 girls on each side], but her schedule was just too strained with a fashion show she had as well as preparing for a modeling competition in Barbados. But the 3 girls and I more than managed with what we had :-)

Afterwards, I ate and enjoyed all the praise being poured on me, including all these girls coming up to me to introduce themselves to me and/or congratulate me and tell me how awesome it was. Even in line for dinner, one of my buddies came to get me, so that he could introduce me to some new girls who were completely infatuated with me. 1 of them was cute, and another was pretty fuckin hot. Once I'd gotten my food and sat down, I was with another group of girls, 1 of whom I knew from before and another whom I'd exchanged "hi"s with at the gym a couple times - she's an Indian girl with light skin and green/hazel eyes..and a siiiick ass.

I didn't really need to game much with them, because it was like I had too much attraction already going for me, so I needed to slow it down and show them that I am human [i.e. comfort-building]. As it turned out, I would see the Indian chick with the ass again later that night.

I got back to the P.I.M.P. pad and talked with my girlfriend. For too long: we got into an argument that just kept spinning off into deeper, more serious shit, and it was not only killing the time, but it was also killing the go-out mood..and definitely the high that I had after my spectacular performance.

Fortunately, we took a break for a bit, and I used that time to shower and get dressed, so as to commit to going out, regardless of the time or my mood. We almost got started right back up in our fight, but we caught it, talked about things, blah blah blah, we get off..and it's nearly 1:30am.

I fixed a quick sandwich, then walked my ass to campus to try to at least catch the last bit of the after-party.

The good thing about getting there as late as I did was I didn't have to pay the cover but still got to enjoy the perks: free alcohol. I got hooked up, too, with a dude I'd met earlier in the night [he rapped in the show, and I got to admit, it was pretty tyte], and he showed me his boy that was working the bar. And that guy gave me an empty water bottle, and filled it halfway with rum - nice.

After that, I ran into a bunch of people, friends and fans alike ;-) I took some pictures, to get the flash-game going as well as to get people's attention, since I'd gotten there so late and didn't have much time to be seen because the party was going to end at 2am.

By the time me and a few friends left, it was almost 2:30am, and we made our way to the near-by bar/club, and it was packed. Plus, they had a similar thing as the after-party going on, with the cover buying you all your drinks for the night. And then the fun really started!

I was at the bar, ordering a drink. And then I decided I was starving [already] and needed some real food, so I got a lot of food..a pizza and large fries. And I was very content sitting there and eating it all. I knew everyone was on my shit, so again, I didn't need to go game girls when they'd find either an excuse or the guts to come talk to me.

With each girl, I ran the same set of routines: I made some observational comment[s] about things going on around us [with small kino], then I would bust on them [with more kino] to secure some attraction other than just looking baller and the awesome dance performance from earlier. I'd follow that up with some quick qualification, depending on the interaction, based on something small like what she was wearing or something more like her mannerisms or her personality, what she does for fun, ambitions, that kind of thing.

Since I was too busy stuffing my face [which worked out pretty nice as both a disqualifier at first, then as a reward system to offer her food if she was good], I didn't try to full-close any girls, I just collected numbers, and took "sexy pics" with them [even more kino, plus sexual thoughts/acts to set a good tone for later]. Good times. I know it was going well, because I'd have the girls come back to me again later, at least once, if not repeatedly..even HBBartender felt the urge to come try to "stake her claim" on me with all these girls being up on me.

I think in that list there were some girls I've mentioned before, including the light-skinned Indian chick with the phat ass [HBIndianAss], HBBartender, and HBRunnerUp, as well as a hot girl from my small group in class and a number of chicks from school. I just ran the same shit over and over, and it was great, because it got better and better each time, plus I couldn't really mess it up since I already had so much attraction and confidence going for me, everything was right on.

I also ran into the group of girls that asked my friend to introduce us from line during dinner, and they looked hot again, especially the one girl. Me and a friend went over to them, and there was like 2 or 3 guys and 3 or 4 girls. My friend whispered to me that the chick I wanted [HBRedDress] had a boyfriend, and it was the guy "dancing" next to her. I looked at him, and he was a total dork. So I went for her.

I made small-talk at first, from our interaction before, and then I started busting on them about something or other. I made sure to body-rock on HBRedDress, especially when she didn't respond as strongly as I wanted to a joke or comment I made. It worked, because she then made increased efforts to regain my acceptance and favor. This was almost perfect, because I would throw a neg to her friend about HBRedDress [loud enough for HBRedDress to hear, of course] as I body-rocked away from her towards the friend, and nearly each time, her friend would start giggling and agreeing with me, even adding to my comments. The major mistake I made here: I should've been more pro-active in befriending the guys, especially HBRedDress's boyfriend. Oh well, that's how you learn, right? And the guy was such a douche, it didn't really make much of a difference, until he felt threatened enough that he was literally grabbing at her to get her attention off me and back to him.

Right about that time, HBBellyDancer came and found me, and damn, was she looking fiiine! So I completely rolled off the HBRedDress set, and it was great timing because it worked as me leaving them rather than them blowing me out or something. And it helped that it was HBBellyDancer, looking fine as hell, that took me away from them..if there was anyone whom I would've left my food for, it'd been her, the way she was looking. And her big boobies were practically popping right out of her dress top..like I said - damn.

After a good while being with HBBellyDancer, I realized that things might be awkward if I allowed anything to happen, mainly the whole "are we together or what?" type of shit that would result. So I decided that I needed to come up with 1 or 2 routines/comments that sub-communicate that whole issue, so that I don't have to deal with any negative repercussions when I do get it on.

It was interesting at the end of the night when the place closed, I went to get a bottle of water from the lower level bar, and there were these 2 Indian chicks, and for some reason they seemed really familiar. They apparently had been eyeing me, and proceeded to try laaaame attempts to get my attention. The best thing they came up with: eavesdropping on my conversation with a galfriend, to catch my name, then saying it repeatedly as they giggled..now that's game!

I start gaming them, and make sure to do an over-the-shoulder entrance into the conversation. Then I slowly backed up to the bar and locked-in. Then they blabbed about some shit, and I don't even remember what I was saying, because I was trying to think of why they seemed familiar..they were obviously not students at school, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I knew them [I didn't realize until the next day that I'd been standing behind these same 2 girls on Friday, in town, in line at the bank..what are the fuckin odds??].

Then I dropped my futile attempts to remember them, and decided to simply get them, both of them, back to either my place or their place, depending on which was going to be more convenient and practical: on the one hand, who knows where the fuck they live, and how we're going to get there..those logistics would be pretty random; and my place is near by and pimped out as can be - the "panties-dropper" - so why wouldn't I take advantage of it? On the other hand, I don't necessarily want them to know where I live, much less stay over; they were definitely not hot enough to keep around in a girlfriend-like way, but there were 2 of them, and together could make for one really hot time.

So I decided I was going for it. Especially because they weren't from school, so it wouldn't get around or come back to bite me in the ass.

Everything was going really well, until I was trying to qualify and transition into comfort, asking them about their accents..some kind of British/Indian blend. And the one chick flipped ouuuut! She got really worked up, arguing with me about the fact that she doesn't have an accent. My mistake: I should've avoided the conflict at all costs, specifically by dropping it altogether. Instead, I tried to reason it out, then joke about it ["So..what, you guys have the pure, uninfluenced form of enunciation? haha"], and then even stating the fact that everyone has an accent, it's natural not something to be defending yourself against, but it was pointless - she was stuck on it. Even her friend was backing me up, leaning in to the 1st chick and "whispering" [you know, the drunken whisper that everyone can hear] that they do, in fact, have an accent. But she wouldn't budge, nor would she just drop it.

So, as I read her body language starting to cool off to me, I decided to leave, on my terms. I leaned across the crazy one and shook hands with the other girl, telling her it was nice to meet her and to enjoy the rest of her chicken wings. Then I looked at the crazy girl, eyed her up and down in an exaggerated joking way, and told her something along the lines of "And you..yeaaa..you enjoy..just..standing there..being all bitchy and weird..haha" and walked off.

It was funny, her friend was even laughing at her at this point [note: maybe I should've stayed, crossed over to her friend, and continued gaming her..? She was definitely loving me, choosing me over her weird friend], her body still turned completely to face me. The crazy chick was trying to be all clever with her come-backs of "Yeah" and "yea, ok" and "whatever", only to lead to more laughing by me and her friend..psycho.

On my walk back, I couldn't help but keep laughing at that crazy chick..until I realized that just because the place was closing didn't mean that I had to leave, since I'm cool with the people there, and HBBartender would've still been there, eagerly awaiting me to game her..but then I thought about how she's started losing points with me since she talks big but doesn't back it up physically - I don't have the time nor the desire to pursue her just so she can feel all lovey-dovey in a fake relationship that exists only in her mind to make herself feel special and shit..she's definitely not going to have me sit around and keep pumping her buying temperature if she's not going to follow through and put out.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that she basically acts like she's a fucking teenager or something, making all these hints and innuendos about having sex and shit, but then not following my lead when I say or do things to take it down that road.

In fact, I realized that she's started to annoy me..if she keeps this up, soon she'll be cut altogether.

~h

Afternoon Drinks = Chance to Game

Today's been a busy day..of course. Sticking with the pattern of the last few weeks.

I went to class, on 3 hours of sleep, and ran into 1 of my boys at the bus stop. He and I caught up for a good while, especially because we haven't seen each other around much at all this term. We were talking about the game, he was filling me in on some crazy shit that went down with him while I was in Disney World [good-crazy], and I was discussing/analyzing the game-related aspects and giving him tons of advice on all kinds of stuff. We decided we needed to catch up soon, and he went to get his bus, and I eventually made it to my next lecture.

After class let out, I tried to catch HBAmazonian as we left..but her long legs carried her away too quickly for me to catch up. And that ass..definitely mesmerized me into slowing down my own pace.

I picked up my food and waited on a bus. And used this opportunity to follow my own advice and watch other people's social interactions. Next thing I knew, I was in one.

These 2 Indian guys, kind of dorky, were hanging out, talking, and this really cute Indian girl came up and joined them. I think she's Punjabi, just because of her features, and I've seen her at the gym, working out as well as playing playing ball..she's pretty good, especially for a girl ;-) And I know she steals glances to watch me practice lately.

We had to relocate to a different bus stop because of some stupid re-routing they did, at the peak hour of traffic on campus: lunch time. I went and stood there, followed closely by these 3 and the rest of the people. The 2 dorks showed up first, and the girl joined them, again.

But she joined as though the four of us were together - it's a little hard to describe, but basically the 2 guys were standing near me, and she came and stood facing me, even though I was not facing any of them. Then she proceeded to talk to the three of us, even though I was not paying any attention to them. Not directly, anyways; I was using the chance to really study how obvious it is, to me, now, what was happening, and yet I know those 2 dorks had nooo idea what was going on. Even when she started to talk about opinion-related topics, giving me openings to jump in and join the conversation. It was really cool to see all that, especially so..automatically. Hopefully it's a good sign that more of the internalization from some time back is starting to re-emerge.

HBLowSelfEsteem showed up at the bus stop, too, so we chilled and caught up for a while. It was nice, just seeing her smile made me feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside..

I ran a bunch of errands and socialized along the way with all kinds of people, i.e. friends, random students, random old local people, random old foreigners, etc..I even watched some lady stuffing frozen meat into her handbag at the grocery store. I also got a text from HBBlondeBlackModel, informing me that she's been really busy the last couple of days, and she's got a fashion show at the high-class 5-star hotel tomorrow. I replied back with some more-than-friends/boyfriend-like vibes, telling her that that's cool and she's going to rock it, so she doesn't even need me to wish her luck. Plus, she needs to hit me up on Sunday, so we can link up and exchange pictures [hers from the show, mine from Disney] and that I had a favor I want her to do me [note the phrasing of "I want you to do me"].

[Remember: be social..be fun..provide value..live in your own reality]

When I got back from all the tasks to my place, my roommate and a mutual friend of ours talked me into going to get drinks. I looked at my phone to check the time - 4:30pm.

It was great being there, although it started really slow, to the point that I was wondering why I wasn't taking a nap instead. But then I got some Sprite and some food, and my blood glucose level was back up, so I was more active. We were just bullshitting around, but then 1 of the waitresses that came over turned out to be pretty cute, and I was picking up IOIs from her [for example, always coming on my side to serve, lingering when interacting with me, and just her overall demeanor was different with me than with my friends..especially that look in her eyes]. So I decided that even just some drinks in the middle of the afternoon provides an opportunity to game.

[Always be mentally prepared to game, regardless of time or place..it doesn't necessitate that I do it, but just be prepared to, because chances can pop up randomly]

Each time she came back, I'd make sure to not only give her something, at least verbal attention, but also escalate it..[remember, especially when dealing with waitresses, etc, to escalate as quickly as possible, due to the real time constraints that they have]..so I made a comment at first just acknowledging her being there, then I teased her about being soo slow..the next time I back-handed slapped her lower leg, then when she returned I touched her on the arm and let it linger..finally, she brought our drinks, and I asked her where hers was, why she wasn't joining us, etc, and she said that no one had bought 1 for her, and by this point my roommate was jumping in, too, telling her he needed another drink, for a female friend of ours, who'd be joining us later on. So then I said, "See, now you're covered.." and she said she'd join us later, when she was off the clock. Simple yet effective - escalation.

A couple hours later, HBBellyDancer called me. We talked for a minute, then we coordinated when we could meet up [tomorrow @ 10am - that'll be..fun.."am"]. After that, I just gamed her a bit over the phone, nothing serious, but just pumping her buying temperature, getting her all worked up laughing, throwing in some pre-selection/jealously stuff, and qualifying/framing her as being passionate and going after what she wants [i.e. she's really passionate, about the cultural show: that's why she's performing in like 3 acts, plus is on the executive board for the organization itself; and she's making time for it because it's important to her and she wants it, so she's going to do whatever she wants/needs to, in order to make it happen] -> sexual frame.

A little later, my girlfriend called, and I talked with her for a while. Then I went to go use the bathroom, and the girl sitting at the front desk of the hotel was really cute..and when she got up and walked across in front of me, I nearly popped a boner - her body was fuckin siiiiiiick!! When I got out of the bathroom, I went up to her and opened her, over-the-shoulder, and teased her for her horrible directions to the bathroom. Then as she laughed and joked back [IOIs], I turned my body back to her, and we talked for a minute. But I didn't really have much to go on, and I know she works there, so I'll catch her again real soon [in fact, my roommate's going there tomorrow morning and was going to see what's up with her for me]..but goddamn, that's a fuckin sick body..

An hour and some bit later, HBRunnerUp called me, too, but by the time I got my phone out, I'd already missed her, so I figured I'd hit her up when we left, especially because the band had set up and started playing by this point.

We kicked it some more, and then we decided to roll. I went to get our bill, because my roommate had tried 3 times with no luck. I caught my waitress chick from before and flirted with her a bit, teased her, did some quick push-pull, and then told her because she left us hanging, we were simply leaving her, period. She was like Ohhh nooo please don't go yet, I'll be off soon, blahblahblah, but I was like maybe next tiiiime. Then she went and got another girl, who was supposed to get us our bill. So I worked in some quick attraction with her, too, teasing her for sucking and not letting us leave, it must mean she's trying to keep me there and take advantage of me, oh man bad girl, etc. She was responding great, but I realized that they were getting busier and busier by the second, so either I leave them..or they leave me. So I opted for the high-value move and rolled out.

[Next time, especially with these specific girls but also in general, I need to plan out better my strategy, ON THE FLY, so that I can properly progress through to #-closing and Day2s with "hired gun" types]

And this is when my friend told me that my roommate had been talking about some blonde chick the whole time I'd been gone on the phone with my girlfriend. Then he pointed the group out to me: a text-book seated 3set in the corner. My roommate wouldn't go talk to them, and we were walking out. He claimed that he hadn't wanted to go talk to them alone. I said I'm down, let's go talk to them. He kept walking towards his car. So I told him that I was going, if he wanted to join me, cool.

I turned around and went back. I walked right up to their table, as all the other girls at the place were watching me hardcore [I need to have a better seat next time, so I can see the people that are there..I didn't realize there were some cute-ass girls there with us by this time].

This is when it was game-fuckin-on! I went into the 3set [2 blondes, 1 very cute brunette] direct, and I smiled [nice!]..and in the "subtle" way girls do, they started loudly whispering "Hey, hey, omg, it's Mr. Bollywood, it's Mr. Bollywood!!" And I recognized these girls as being this group of chicks who was watching me practice my dance 2 days ago at the gym.

I calibrated with this, knowing I already had massive attraction [remembering back to the way they were gawking at me the other day], and so I just went with whatever verbal stuff, skipping A2 altogether, and focused on body language.

h: "Hey I got a quick question for you guys..well, you're not blonde, so you don't count [neg to my initial target, especially since I know that my boy was talking about 1 of the blondes].."

blondes: "haha ummmmm..??"

h: "Don't worry, it's not a bad thing, it's no blonde joke..[they crack up]..so check it out, my friend told me that my roommate has been talking about 'this blonde girl', I was in the bathroom at the time, and now we're leaving, and he wouldn't come over to talk to you guys.." [I realize that I kind of DLV my roommate in this, but since he's my roommate, and they've got massive attraction for me, I figured he's already in pretty good with them through simple association]

brunette: "Well, I really respect a guy who can, who comes up to a girl, especially a group of girls, to talk to them - that takes some guts"

h: *umm..I'm here for my roommate, not myself* "thanks :-D"

brunette: "Yeah..but we're all taken" or "they're both taken" .. something like that

h: "Ah..well, then maybe it's a good thing he didn't come over then.."

cuteblonde: "Wait..[looks at brunette]..it depends on what he looks like..hehe"

h: [turn to brunette and kino] "Gasp! Did you hear that?? How naughty! [turn to cuteblonde] You're baaaad..it's a good thing Mr. Whoever isn't here to hear about this!! Trouuuuble!"

3set: "hahahahaha"

From here, I went back to a lot of body-rocking between the 2 girls I was standing with [brunette and cuteblonde], and they start engaging me hardcore in their conversation. Since I was getting the major IOIs, I stayed in with them, pumping their buying temperature for my roommate, banking on him making his way back to then join us and have this shit all set up for him.

When he did, I "introduced" them to him: This is .. [wait for her to put in her name], and this is .. [wait for her to put her name in], etc. And then I ejected to let him do his thing. In retrospect, I should've stayed in there with him, but I stuck to the story a little too rigidly..mainly because I didn't know how it was going to be "gaming" with him, not really knowing his style.

I bullshitted with my friend, and after a while, we started making fun of my roommate, saying he had probably told them at least 3 of the same stories already that he'd told us earlier in the evening. My roommate is full of stories, about everything, for any situation - it's uncanny [even right now, he's telling story after story to one of our friends].

He came up a little later, ready to roll. So we start getting up, and I walk over to the girls real quick to invite them to the Indian cultural show [since I know they are already fans of my dancing, and have massive attraction, and they already know about the show since they were calling me "Mr. Bollywood"], and next thing I know, I was back in-set.

And I made the most of it, in terms of practice. I switched my target from the brunette to the cute blonde, based on the IOIs I was getting from her. Either there's much more attraction there, or she and her "whatever" are much less serious than brunette [whom I still had major attraction going with, but I was losing her because a guy friend of hers had engaged her even before I'd re-entered the set].

Regardless, I started back-turning the brunette, and each time she'd drop her conversation with the guy to try to win me back. But I didn't really care, because I'd already decided to go for the cute blonde, with both blondes completely tuned into me. They were offering me their food to taste, talking about all kinds of random shit just to keep the interaction going, etc. So I made sure to really pump them up, with a lot of teasing and plenty of verbal and physical IOI rewards ["Oh man, you're awesome!", "You totally rock!", etc, along with super-fast kino escalation, up to hugs and kisses].

Then I made sure to #-close them on the basis of reminding them of the show next weekend, as soon as I know what time it's supposed to be. I stayed in for about 5 more minutes, just to play it safe, and then I bounced on the basis that I had to re-join my friends and roll out of there.

When I got back to my room, after eating [yet again], I hit up HBRunnerUp. We talked for a good 10 minutes; she left her own pre-birthday celebration and her friends to talk to me, despite my regular offers to let her go [I was testing her level of interest/investment]. Especially since I found out from my boy this morning, that she and her boyfriend did in fact break up near the end of last term..nice.

She told me how she watched the dance and ran through some of the moves, and they were really easy. Needless to say, that makes me feel really good about us pulling off the dance by next Saturday. Then we just chit-chatted, but there were definite pauses in the conversation..but no move on her part to leave. Realizing what was going on, I switched to mini-stories mode, telling her about the night and DHVing myself as a leader of men and protector of loved ones [by deciding that my roommate would have to talk to those girls, even if I had to go in for him to initiate it] and simply the fact that I have social skills and a great social circle and lots of interesting things always going on in my life.

One very interesting point I noted from tonight, was with my roommate - the idea of creating your own reality and living in it. Immediately he started talking about how bad the interaction sucked between him and the girls, how they were so intellectually dumb, how he was in there with them and all he wanted was to get out, etc. None of it made sense, of course - first of all, if he didn't want to talk to them..just leave. There's nothing forcing him to stay in, and yet..he did. And apparently he'd been complaining to my friend about how he'd "lost his magic" earlier, but now it had nothing to do with him but rather the girls and how much they basically sucked. Even my friend wasn't buying all of it, and he's not even savvy to all this "insider info".

However, it did serve to reiterate to me the idea of, again, creating your own reality and living in it. Screw what anyone says or does, it's all about the frame you have/use to perceive and interpret events. So set the frames you want, frames that reflect positively on yourself and the events in question, and go from there. But make sure to remain objective about things that happen and not just taking on the attitude of "She's just a bitch" as an easy cop-out.

Remember..


..it's Hrithik's world..

~h

I'm Back, Part II

Then I went off to Florida to meet up with my girlfriend at Disney World, which was totally awesome.

Especially because I'd never been to Universal Studios before, and it's right there, too. If you're going anytime soon, be sure to plan out FastPasses for rides while waiting for others so that you can minimize the wait time, and check out Space Mountain and Splash Mountain at Magic Kingdom,


as well as Expedition to Everest and the Safari ride at Animal Kingdom.

And watch the fireworks at least 1 night. Also, get the ExpressPass at Universal - it's definitely worth the $100. And make sure to ride Dueling Dragons [especially Fire], The Hulk, Spiderman, and maybe Dr. Doom's Fall or whatever.




We went to a basketball game, too - Spurs @ Magic [obviously], and it was a tight game. Magic had the game until the 4th, when the Spurs came back and took over..so close.

I got back to the Caribbean this past weekend. And I was already game-on with this chick who was on the flight with me from Puerto Rico to Grenada. Very cute, and when she took her glasses off, she went from cute to hot, nice breasts, and wide hips to accommodate her big ass. I saw that I already had attraction, from my looks and demeanor [very chill, having a good time, jamming out to my music], so I just went with a random situational opener to get us talking. She happened to sit right across the aisle from me on the plane, so we talked some more, mostly fluff, but I started to kino-escalate on her, making sure that this wasn't just some "good conversation" on the plane that we were having.

When we got off, I slowed down my walk so as not to come off needy/clingy by walking all the way with her, standing in the immigration line with her, etc. And it worked, because she kept looking back at me, trying to find me or see if I was looking her way.

I met back up with her at the carousel for our bags, which was cool because we were one of the first people there, so we were somewhat isolated. And I locked-in on one of the pillars and started messing with her about her choice in flight plans and her stressing about her bags. My bag was one of the first out [thank god! that means it was the last one on, because I'd barely caught the flight], so I grabbed it and rolled, knowing we'd meet up again outside one last time.

I called up my ride, and as I waited, I saw one of the most gorgeous, big-breasted-yet-petite-body chicks I've ever seen, especially down here! So I stared at her, because she was rolling with 4 dudes, and I was too tired to try to deal with whatever may arise at that point. Besides, when there's only like 100,000 people on the island, she's not just going to disappear, you know? hah But, at the end of the day, it is an excuse I made to not at least open her and see what happens - don't make excuses, "fuck it, just do it"

So my chick HBHips comes out and stares at me for a while, then goes and stands across from me, waiting on her ride. She pulls out her phone just as I'm about to approach her, so I pull back. As she wraps up her 5-second "I'm here, come get me" call, I gesture to her lack of baggage. And she just throws up her arms, so I smile and walk over. #-close her after a minute because she "seems like an interesting person", and just in time, too, because my ride showed up. And I got some quick social proof, too, as I left, because one of my local boys was there waiting on a package and came up to bullshit for a minute. I cracked a couple jokes and left on a high note, especially since I realized that we were still standing a few feet away from HBHips at the moment.

~h

The Good and Bad of Internalization

So I was laying in bed just now, reflecting on the day's events, and I realized something..

I had an interaction with this really cute, petite chick [with the phaaat ass, of course!] from Trinidad [I think?? I don't remember], HBShorty, who is just really bubbly and everything..anyways, it went something like this:

I got out of class and bullshitted with a couple of my boys. At 1 point, I decided to assert my alphaness [haha] and take over the convo [because I was just kind of passively participating, with them talking to each other but addressing me], so I interrupted by laying out there that I needed to decide between these two chicks, as I gestured towards HBShorty [who was chilling outside the lecture hall where I'd just gotten out of class, with a group of maybe 5-6 people, and I know she was out here specifically because of me - she knows I have class and so being there optimizes her chances of seeing me] and HBGottaBeMixed [who happened to be sitting on a bench with a girlfriend of hers..I think it was proximity, because she has seen that I have class in this lecture hall repeatedly, and gave up her usual chill-n-sit spot to be over here..I didn't even think of that until just now, really..]

1 of my friends was like "Haha not really much of a decision .. {no response, I just stared at him blankly..so he qualified himself/his answer} you know, if you ask me.." [I didn't really mean to do that, I just didn't realize I'd done it].

We chit-chat about this for a minute, then I point out the 2 girls we were waiting for, who had somehow "sneaked" their way out of the lecture hall without passing by us, so the girls busted out laughing and then waited up for us so we could get something to eat..but I had a review thing to go to, so I decided to roll out..but not before getting in some time with the HBs

I pass by HBGBM, who I'd seen just fix her hair up into a knot/bun/whatever, so I simply passed by, smiled at her friend, came up behind HBGBM, and just pulled her hair [kind of hard..oops :-p] to make it come out of its knot/bun/whatever. I looked over my shoulder and smiled, and she was doing the whole girly "mock upset but giggling because I'm totally all into you" thing..but I just kept walking..

..right on over to HBShorty, whose friends had started to trickle away, but she was still standing there - obviously waiting/hoping for me to pass by. Again, without thinking/realizing this [I'm only now realizing what was going on and what was happening, as in, her major IOI/AI of waiting on me despite her friends having started to leave without her], I went over to her [and thus rewarded her good behavior] and chatted her up. I also threw in a compliment later, when I became conscious of the fact that she was giving me a lot of kino, especially grabbing my hand[s] and holding it/them..and she just loved it! She couldn't stop giggling for a minute - nice. And even more so, HBGBM had a perfect view of all of this, and I caught her multiple times, looking over and thus getting a hardcore jealously plotline worked in..again, with only minimal thinking/planning about all of this - it sort of "just happened" [plausible deniability-style!].

The Good - needless to say, the good thing here is that this shit is not only sticking [despite being a few months removed from my in-field training with The Mystery Method and Venusian Arts and not having been very active at all in going out - partly due to lack of options/opportunities and partly due to lack of time], but it is being internalized into my brain on a subconscious level! This means, of course, that it is being integrated into my very way of being - I am no longer having to consciously think about every little thing, and my mind and body are still doing what they need to do in order to game properly..

The Bad - obviously, if I'm not in active-mode on a conscious level most [if not all] of the time, then I will be making mistakes, since I'm nowhere near being perfect, and I won't be catching these mistakes..forget catching them, I won't even be noticing these mistakes because I won't even be looking for them! This, of course, is a terrible position to be in, because without seeing the mistakes, you cannot learn from your mistakes, and you definitely can't correct them and improve upon them - very detrimental to the entire process. And forget about cold approach in a club when I get back home; with these girls, obviously I've got tons of Attraction and already some-to-decent amounts of Comfort, which definitely won't be the case when I'm back home doing my thing with total strangers [or even at a party here, possibly..although, who doesn't know Hrithik, right?? haa]. As a matter of fact, the more I think about it, the more upset I'm getting about this - if you take this scenario out to an extreme, then it means that I'd be getting the success despite my mistakes, which will be in part due to my game still being tight regardless of the mistakes [tight, but not flawless], but part of it could/will be due to my looks..and that's precisely what I don't want: to be relying on my looks to get me success with women.

I'm not sure where the sum of the two puts me, but I obviously want to maximize the good and minimize the bad..the only thing I can think of right now [it is late] off the top of my head is to do what comes/feels natural BUT AT THE SAME TIME to pay attention to what it is that's coming/feeling natural as well as the response[s] I get to this stuff..I'm not even sure if that makes sense haah

Anyways, it's late, but I needed to get these ideas out there - already they were leading to other [in some cases, deeper] insights..I'm glad I went to the effort of getting out of bed for this

~h

Straight-Up African Chicks Can Be Pretty Freakin' Hot - Especially in Two's

I'm on the bus, on my way to campus [already late for class, of course], and these 2 girls who are from Africa [1 way or another - they might not/don't live there now, but they were born and partly-raised there, with their family still living there] get on, whom I know from last term. At the same time, HBGottaBeMixed is sitting directly behind me, but I "didn't see her" [because I don't want to be spitting game on her every time we run into each other - let her miss me, even need me, while I'm the non-needy one]. We stop at the gym stop, and I have to get off the bus, as does 1 of the African chicks, HBAfricanGlasses, to allow the people behind us to get off [including HBGBM].

When we are standing out of the bus, I initiate HBAG, whom I haven't seen but maybe once earlier in the term, and even then, I was rushing to a meeting and so couldn't properly engage her..but I had texted her a few times [mass-texting, a la Sinn and Future from my The Mystery Method bootcamp this summer]. Anyways, we are fluff-talking, and HBGBM gets off with a friend of hers. As she passes, she taps me on my arm..I pause for a second, then look out of the corner of my eye and see that she's kept walking [regardless of her looking back as she walked away], so I kept engaged with HBAG. From my perspective, what this did is 2 things: it causes HBGBM to see that I'm not only talking with another girl [jealousy plotline] but also that we are so into our conversation that I didn't even realize she'd passed by [neg], thus setting her up to be even more excited about working to win me the next time; it also causes HBAG to see this other hot girl [HBGBM] pass by and tap me and look back at me [social proof/pre-selection + jealousy plotline] while at the same time showing that I'm more interested in my interaction with her to not even notice HBGBM tap me [IOI/indirect SOI].

After we get back on and then reach the top bus stop, the 3 of us [me, HBAG, and HBAS] start walking together, and I continue with my thing, just fluff-talking for the most part [I busted on them for being lazy and taking the bus instead of just walking up the hill, and they qualified their actions to me..wasn't even going for that, oops]. As we're walking, I run into a couple of guys I know and slow down to engage them [which also works as more social proof since I'm cool and popular as well as well-liked..and of course, non-neediness]. I catch back up to the girls, and then I slow down almost immediately because we reach my lecture hall, and they are headed towards the library..they slow down, too. I stop..they stop, too. Nice.

So, we continue talking. The class now has a break, so there's most of the class, chilling around us at this point, so I use this opportunity to display social proof/pre-selection to other girls in the class by having these two chicks with me, and also since they'd both stopped, I decided to reward that with more game [nice reward, right? Give 'em more]. I go into a little explanation bit about some stuff that happened this past summer, blahblahblah, and used it in such a way as to work as a little comfort-building piece. It works, as I can see in both girls' body language as well as in their facial expressions and even in their eyes [they really seemed to soften up..this would've been a great time to look for that whole pupil dilation thing - I always forget to do this]. At this point, HBAS wanders off to some other friends she spotted, but HBAG stays with me to hear more. She is then rewarded with more kino and verbal playfulness.

Out of nowhere, HBAG starts asking me how many "HBAG"s I know [girls with her name], and I tell her like 2 or 3 others [I used this opportunity as more pre-selection because it's more like 1, and even her number I don't have]. As it turns out, she thought that maybe I'd texted the wrong one the past few times! When I realize this, I decide that I need to tone down my negging and pre-selection stuff, because it will become detrimental soon [if it hasn't already]. In the moment, however, there's not much I can do about that, so I get all overly-dramatic and start playing all lovey-dovey with her, "Awwwww, babyyyyy..commmme heeeeeeerrre!!!" and hugging her, repeatedly, even talking to her while still holding her, etc. I could tell by her body's relaxed state that she was all about this, so I kept it up and held her longer and longer, even grazed her face a few times [should've gotten in at least 1 kiss on the cheek here!], all the while keeping up this role-playing..and of course, looking over her shoulder to see all the other girls from my class watching this whole thing happen haa

Finally, I decide that I need to end this before she does [always], and I'd rather end it on my terms rather than be rushed into it because my class is starting up. As soon as I notice people starting to head back in, I let HBAG go [physically and verbally] and head into class.

This girl is probably gf-material, but I'm not sure if I want that..especially because I'm not quite sure where she stands, especially in terms of conflicting interests [like another guy or something] - sounds pretty weak, but since I don't usually see her around due to out schedules and her constant studying, I don't want to put in the time and energy to pursue her and then not even be able to get where I want to with her..

Plus, her homegirl HBAS is reaaal cute, too, and they have another friend who is from Africa originally, but now lives near/in my city back in the States..and she's got the phaaat ass, son! We'll see how things unfold..

~h