Update

Finals are done, med school is out for now, and I've eventually made it back from the Carribean to reach home..key word being "eventually".

I should be posting more regularly, and I've already got game- and non-game-related posts from my time away [more game-related, of course]. Including some things going on with HBAmazonian, HBBellyDancer, HBBlondeBlackModel, HBNeedyLocal"GF", HBLazyEye, HBBartender, and a couple of new girls, too.

~h

Busy Days

Yesterday, I had quite an unexpectedly productive day, both academically and socially.

I went to class, and made it through, wide-awake and active.

During, and especially after class all the way through the night, I was off-handedly gaming girls that I'd run into.

HBAmazon is almost ready to be approached, with intent - she now actively seeks me out and makes sure to at least say hi, a great improvement over her looking-from-the-corners-of-her-eyes, half-smile, nervous look-away greetings from earlier in the term. And I always make sure to smile at her, no matter what, so she's not initimidated - funny how a little thing like that, from me especially, can make such a major difference.

I got texted by a few of my girls, varying from "Hey hrithik waz up. Just saying hi, etc" to "so wen am i gonna wrap my lips around dat big cock of urz?"

[I made some good head-way with HBKraaazyBody Monday after my exam, when I sent out a mass text to some of the girls: "Mannn i had this test 2day, totally sucked..wen i was done w it, u popped in2 my head - n stayed 4 a good bit.. does that sound lame? U suck", and it had great response with most of them, especially HBKraaazyBody, who revealed her stance with me :-)

I also caught HBAlienFace staring at me, every time I've seen her around campus, even to the point where she'll be talking with someone but her body language'll give her thought away to me, i.e. feet pointing towards me, upper body facing me, and/or more blatant things like her eyes fixed on me while she talks to someone else..but I don't know if she just sucks at trying to flirt, because obviously she's interested, but the last interaction we had, some semesters back, was kind of awkward, where I think she was trying to play-argue with me, but it was about something kind of lame, so it didn't work and made me feel like "umm..okay..", and then I never really spoke to her again..we'll see if I choose to change that]

I went to the gym later in the evening, and HBGottaBeMixed found me a couple times while I was on the phone with my girlfriend, telling me she'd be right back once I was off. And a few other girls whom I don't even remember now, similar [re]actions. Obviously there was something that was causing each of these girls to behave similarly.

So I made sure to pay attention to what was going on - I saw my reflection and noted my body language, and I also listened to myself interacting with my girlfriend on the phone, as well as making sure to keep a smile on my face so that the interaction didn't seem serious or anything.

After the gym, I was heading back to the P.I.M.P. pad, when I noticed this tall, cute Indian chick, with a nice breasts and curvy ass, speed-walking from behind me, almost as though she was trying to catch up to me; she'd been riding the bike next to me earlier, and I'd caught her glimpsing my way a number of times. For a few seconds, I was distracted, seeing that ass in high-powered motion, but I snapped out of it and started talking with her. She removed her headphones almost immediately [IOI] even though she could hear me. I made a few jokes [A2], then back-handed slapping her shoulder [light kino initiation], teased her [more A2], then a quick bit about us having to impress our Indian parents [A3/C1], all the while I'm making sure to smile and she's laughing and responding very well. Next time I see her at the gym, or around campus, I'll take things a bit further.

I drank a protein shake and then went to Subway, and there, everyone was watching me. Including one of the girls working there, who was the first girl I'd been completely infatuated with when I'd come down here for the first time. At the time, I'd gotten to be pretty cool with her, even #-closed her, but she had seemed kind of stand-offish, which I'd since then attributed to the defensive nature some local girls tend to get around me since I'm not from here - they worry that I will simply use them and then leave them. Back then, however, not only did I not know this, I didn't know how to handle it, either. Or maybe she had a boyfriend and began to feel guilty after she gave me her number. Regardless, as far as I was concerned, she was "a bitch".

And now here she was again, and this time she was talking about me and even tried to initiate conversation with me a couple of times. And I simply blew her off - guess I still had some hurt feeling from way back then, huh? Then I proceeded to make her feel awkward as I didn't even acknowledge her trying to talk to me. And then I just stared at her retarrrrdedly huge ass - seriously, it's got to be 50"+.

In retrospect, this was quite immature of me, but she does not know that I did it on purpose, because I had my headphones blasting music, even though they weren't on my ears, she still doesn't know whether I could hear or not. So I will see about maybe trying to make something happen with her the next time I go there.

The bus driver that picks me up to bring me back to my place is an old friend of mine whom I hadn't seen for..maybe almost a year now, come to think of it. It was real cool catching up with him, albeit briefly, just to see what he's been up to and how things are with me.

Then about 10:30pm, HBBlondeBlackModel calls me, from her chef-in-training job. That I think made my night, because she'd called me last Friday and had woken me up, I'd texted her a couple times since then but had gotten no response, and now here she was, secretly calling me from work. And she reaffirmed exactly what I thought was happening: she was still mad busy with interviews and photo shoots, etc, from her modeling competition in Barbados last weekend, and then working afternoons/nights, leaving her no spare time to be able to hit me back.

She told me real quick about that stuff, then asked me about my trip [I don't remember what trip she's talking about..Disney, I guess??], which I told her was a lonnng story, and would have to wait, and she agreed that we'd better wait until we're in person then. And she kept asking about me and the things I've been up to [IOIs], which I didn't realize but it was quite a bit once I started talking - the Indian cultural show performance and how awesome that was, then the after-party/ies me and my friends hit up, then my galfriend's birthday party when we hit up the new legit club in town, and then studying for that test this past Monday..of course, I made sure to lace all these stories with DHVs and other attraction spikes, to remind her of why she thinks I'm so awesome :-)

We probably talked a good 20 minutes or so before she had to go, and it was definitely a good conversation. Especially since she suggested herself, that she'd hit me up in a couple days and we could see what's up with the weekend..which I played off at first like "ummmmm..hmm..okay, yea, that should be alright.." [non-neediness].

All of this stuff happening, especially within 1 day [and a few things that happened today, going along with this..just different girls, like HBTriniMed for example], got me thinking about the signals that women send out to let guys know that they are feeling you. I'll post more about this later tonight.

~h

Afternoon Drinks = Chance to Game

Today's been a busy day..of course. Sticking with the pattern of the last few weeks.

I went to class, on 3 hours of sleep, and ran into 1 of my boys at the bus stop. He and I caught up for a good while, especially because we haven't seen each other around much at all this term. We were talking about the game, he was filling me in on some crazy shit that went down with him while I was in Disney World [good-crazy], and I was discussing/analyzing the game-related aspects and giving him tons of advice on all kinds of stuff. We decided we needed to catch up soon, and he went to get his bus, and I eventually made it to my next lecture.

After class let out, I tried to catch HBAmazonian as we left..but her long legs carried her away too quickly for me to catch up. And that ass..definitely mesmerized me into slowing down my own pace.

I picked up my food and waited on a bus. And used this opportunity to follow my own advice and watch other people's social interactions. Next thing I knew, I was in one.

These 2 Indian guys, kind of dorky, were hanging out, talking, and this really cute Indian girl came up and joined them. I think she's Punjabi, just because of her features, and I've seen her at the gym, working out as well as playing playing ball..she's pretty good, especially for a girl ;-) And I know she steals glances to watch me practice lately.

We had to relocate to a different bus stop because of some stupid re-routing they did, at the peak hour of traffic on campus: lunch time. I went and stood there, followed closely by these 3 and the rest of the people. The 2 dorks showed up first, and the girl joined them, again.

But she joined as though the four of us were together - it's a little hard to describe, but basically the 2 guys were standing near me, and she came and stood facing me, even though I was not facing any of them. Then she proceeded to talk to the three of us, even though I was not paying any attention to them. Not directly, anyways; I was using the chance to really study how obvious it is, to me, now, what was happening, and yet I know those 2 dorks had nooo idea what was going on. Even when she started to talk about opinion-related topics, giving me openings to jump in and join the conversation. It was really cool to see all that, especially so..automatically. Hopefully it's a good sign that more of the internalization from some time back is starting to re-emerge.

HBLowSelfEsteem showed up at the bus stop, too, so we chilled and caught up for a while. It was nice, just seeing her smile made me feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside..

I ran a bunch of errands and socialized along the way with all kinds of people, i.e. friends, random students, random old local people, random old foreigners, etc..I even watched some lady stuffing frozen meat into her handbag at the grocery store. I also got a text from HBBlondeBlackModel, informing me that she's been really busy the last couple of days, and she's got a fashion show at the high-class 5-star hotel tomorrow. I replied back with some more-than-friends/boyfriend-like vibes, telling her that that's cool and she's going to rock it, so she doesn't even need me to wish her luck. Plus, she needs to hit me up on Sunday, so we can link up and exchange pictures [hers from the show, mine from Disney] and that I had a favor I want her to do me [note the phrasing of "I want you to do me"].

[Remember: be social..be fun..provide value..live in your own reality]

When I got back from all the tasks to my place, my roommate and a mutual friend of ours talked me into going to get drinks. I looked at my phone to check the time - 4:30pm.

It was great being there, although it started really slow, to the point that I was wondering why I wasn't taking a nap instead. But then I got some Sprite and some food, and my blood glucose level was back up, so I was more active. We were just bullshitting around, but then 1 of the waitresses that came over turned out to be pretty cute, and I was picking up IOIs from her [for example, always coming on my side to serve, lingering when interacting with me, and just her overall demeanor was different with me than with my friends..especially that look in her eyes]. So I decided that even just some drinks in the middle of the afternoon provides an opportunity to game.

[Always be mentally prepared to game, regardless of time or place..it doesn't necessitate that I do it, but just be prepared to, because chances can pop up randomly]

Each time she came back, I'd make sure to not only give her something, at least verbal attention, but also escalate it..[remember, especially when dealing with waitresses, etc, to escalate as quickly as possible, due to the real time constraints that they have]..so I made a comment at first just acknowledging her being there, then I teased her about being soo slow..the next time I back-handed slapped her lower leg, then when she returned I touched her on the arm and let it linger..finally, she brought our drinks, and I asked her where hers was, why she wasn't joining us, etc, and she said that no one had bought 1 for her, and by this point my roommate was jumping in, too, telling her he needed another drink, for a female friend of ours, who'd be joining us later on. So then I said, "See, now you're covered.." and she said she'd join us later, when she was off the clock. Simple yet effective - escalation.

A couple hours later, HBBellyDancer called me. We talked for a minute, then we coordinated when we could meet up [tomorrow @ 10am - that'll be..fun.."am"]. After that, I just gamed her a bit over the phone, nothing serious, but just pumping her buying temperature, getting her all worked up laughing, throwing in some pre-selection/jealously stuff, and qualifying/framing her as being passionate and going after what she wants [i.e. she's really passionate, about the cultural show: that's why she's performing in like 3 acts, plus is on the executive board for the organization itself; and she's making time for it because it's important to her and she wants it, so she's going to do whatever she wants/needs to, in order to make it happen] -> sexual frame.

A little later, my girlfriend called, and I talked with her for a while. Then I went to go use the bathroom, and the girl sitting at the front desk of the hotel was really cute..and when she got up and walked across in front of me, I nearly popped a boner - her body was fuckin siiiiiiick!! When I got out of the bathroom, I went up to her and opened her, over-the-shoulder, and teased her for her horrible directions to the bathroom. Then as she laughed and joked back [IOIs], I turned my body back to her, and we talked for a minute. But I didn't really have much to go on, and I know she works there, so I'll catch her again real soon [in fact, my roommate's going there tomorrow morning and was going to see what's up with her for me]..but goddamn, that's a fuckin sick body..

An hour and some bit later, HBRunnerUp called me, too, but by the time I got my phone out, I'd already missed her, so I figured I'd hit her up when we left, especially because the band had set up and started playing by this point.

We kicked it some more, and then we decided to roll. I went to get our bill, because my roommate had tried 3 times with no luck. I caught my waitress chick from before and flirted with her a bit, teased her, did some quick push-pull, and then told her because she left us hanging, we were simply leaving her, period. She was like Ohhh nooo please don't go yet, I'll be off soon, blahblahblah, but I was like maybe next tiiiime. Then she went and got another girl, who was supposed to get us our bill. So I worked in some quick attraction with her, too, teasing her for sucking and not letting us leave, it must mean she's trying to keep me there and take advantage of me, oh man bad girl, etc. She was responding great, but I realized that they were getting busier and busier by the second, so either I leave them..or they leave me. So I opted for the high-value move and rolled out.

[Next time, especially with these specific girls but also in general, I need to plan out better my strategy, ON THE FLY, so that I can properly progress through to #-closing and Day2s with "hired gun" types]

And this is when my friend told me that my roommate had been talking about some blonde chick the whole time I'd been gone on the phone with my girlfriend. Then he pointed the group out to me: a text-book seated 3set in the corner. My roommate wouldn't go talk to them, and we were walking out. He claimed that he hadn't wanted to go talk to them alone. I said I'm down, let's go talk to them. He kept walking towards his car. So I told him that I was going, if he wanted to join me, cool.

I turned around and went back. I walked right up to their table, as all the other girls at the place were watching me hardcore [I need to have a better seat next time, so I can see the people that are there..I didn't realize there were some cute-ass girls there with us by this time].

This is when it was game-fuckin-on! I went into the 3set [2 blondes, 1 very cute brunette] direct, and I smiled [nice!]..and in the "subtle" way girls do, they started loudly whispering "Hey, hey, omg, it's Mr. Bollywood, it's Mr. Bollywood!!" And I recognized these girls as being this group of chicks who was watching me practice my dance 2 days ago at the gym.

I calibrated with this, knowing I already had massive attraction [remembering back to the way they were gawking at me the other day], and so I just went with whatever verbal stuff, skipping A2 altogether, and focused on body language.

h: "Hey I got a quick question for you guys..well, you're not blonde, so you don't count [neg to my initial target, especially since I know that my boy was talking about 1 of the blondes].."

blondes: "haha ummmmm..??"

h: "Don't worry, it's not a bad thing, it's no blonde joke..[they crack up]..so check it out, my friend told me that my roommate has been talking about 'this blonde girl', I was in the bathroom at the time, and now we're leaving, and he wouldn't come over to talk to you guys.." [I realize that I kind of DLV my roommate in this, but since he's my roommate, and they've got massive attraction for me, I figured he's already in pretty good with them through simple association]

brunette: "Well, I really respect a guy who can, who comes up to a girl, especially a group of girls, to talk to them - that takes some guts"

h: *umm..I'm here for my roommate, not myself* "thanks :-D"

brunette: "Yeah..but we're all taken" or "they're both taken" .. something like that

h: "Ah..well, then maybe it's a good thing he didn't come over then.."

cuteblonde: "Wait..[looks at brunette]..it depends on what he looks like..hehe"

h: [turn to brunette and kino] "Gasp! Did you hear that?? How naughty! [turn to cuteblonde] You're baaaad..it's a good thing Mr. Whoever isn't here to hear about this!! Trouuuuble!"

3set: "hahahahaha"

From here, I went back to a lot of body-rocking between the 2 girls I was standing with [brunette and cuteblonde], and they start engaging me hardcore in their conversation. Since I was getting the major IOIs, I stayed in with them, pumping their buying temperature for my roommate, banking on him making his way back to then join us and have this shit all set up for him.

When he did, I "introduced" them to him: This is .. [wait for her to put in her name], and this is .. [wait for her to put her name in], etc. And then I ejected to let him do his thing. In retrospect, I should've stayed in there with him, but I stuck to the story a little too rigidly..mainly because I didn't know how it was going to be "gaming" with him, not really knowing his style.

I bullshitted with my friend, and after a while, we started making fun of my roommate, saying he had probably told them at least 3 of the same stories already that he'd told us earlier in the evening. My roommate is full of stories, about everything, for any situation - it's uncanny [even right now, he's telling story after story to one of our friends].

He came up a little later, ready to roll. So we start getting up, and I walk over to the girls real quick to invite them to the Indian cultural show [since I know they are already fans of my dancing, and have massive attraction, and they already know about the show since they were calling me "Mr. Bollywood"], and next thing I know, I was back in-set.

And I made the most of it, in terms of practice. I switched my target from the brunette to the cute blonde, based on the IOIs I was getting from her. Either there's much more attraction there, or she and her "whatever" are much less serious than brunette [whom I still had major attraction going with, but I was losing her because a guy friend of hers had engaged her even before I'd re-entered the set].

Regardless, I started back-turning the brunette, and each time she'd drop her conversation with the guy to try to win me back. But I didn't really care, because I'd already decided to go for the cute blonde, with both blondes completely tuned into me. They were offering me their food to taste, talking about all kinds of random shit just to keep the interaction going, etc. So I made sure to really pump them up, with a lot of teasing and plenty of verbal and physical IOI rewards ["Oh man, you're awesome!", "You totally rock!", etc, along with super-fast kino escalation, up to hugs and kisses].

Then I made sure to #-close them on the basis of reminding them of the show next weekend, as soon as I know what time it's supposed to be. I stayed in for about 5 more minutes, just to play it safe, and then I bounced on the basis that I had to re-join my friends and roll out of there.

When I got back to my room, after eating [yet again], I hit up HBRunnerUp. We talked for a good 10 minutes; she left her own pre-birthday celebration and her friends to talk to me, despite my regular offers to let her go [I was testing her level of interest/investment]. Especially since I found out from my boy this morning, that she and her boyfriend did in fact break up near the end of last term..nice.

She told me how she watched the dance and ran through some of the moves, and they were really easy. Needless to say, that makes me feel really good about us pulling off the dance by next Saturday. Then we just chit-chatted, but there were definite pauses in the conversation..but no move on her part to leave. Realizing what was going on, I switched to mini-stories mode, telling her about the night and DHVing myself as a leader of men and protector of loved ones [by deciding that my roommate would have to talk to those girls, even if I had to go in for him to initiate it] and simply the fact that I have social skills and a great social circle and lots of interesting things always going on in my life.

One very interesting point I noted from tonight, was with my roommate - the idea of creating your own reality and living in it. Immediately he started talking about how bad the interaction sucked between him and the girls, how they were so intellectually dumb, how he was in there with them and all he wanted was to get out, etc. None of it made sense, of course - first of all, if he didn't want to talk to them..just leave. There's nothing forcing him to stay in, and yet..he did. And apparently he'd been complaining to my friend about how he'd "lost his magic" earlier, but now it had nothing to do with him but rather the girls and how much they basically sucked. Even my friend wasn't buying all of it, and he's not even savvy to all this "insider info".

However, it did serve to reiterate to me the idea of, again, creating your own reality and living in it. Screw what anyone says or does, it's all about the frame you have/use to perceive and interpret events. So set the frames you want, frames that reflect positively on yourself and the events in question, and go from there. But make sure to remain objective about things that happen and not just taking on the attitude of "She's just a bitch" as an easy cop-out.

Remember..


..it's Hrithik's world..

~h

I'm Back, Part III

Sunday afternoon, I had HBLazyEye come over to suck me off. I blew right into her mouth, and she got mad at me..for apologizing. If you set the right frames..

Later that night, a couple of my boys swung by, and we decided to celebrate our good grades on the mid-terms..by killing 4 bottles of liquor, between the 3 of us..and me being stuck with the double-shot glass.

I slept until 2pm the next day, then on-and-off until 4 or 5pm [1 of my boys puked his guts out, the other passed out from a standing position onto his concrete floor and didn't wake up until 6pm].

HBBellyDancer had texted me earlier, so when I finally got myself up, I decided it was time to let people know that I was back. So I sent out a mass text to most of the girls in my phone about being back from Disney and how we had to catch up soon and that I had mad stories and pictures to show them.

Great response from some of them, no response from others - I think I made it seem too much like a mass text..I need to be more careful about impersonalizing the mass texts.

For example, HBBartender called me a few minutes after I sent the text. We talked for a minute, then she told me she was going to go to the bar/club Bananas that she works at, "just to chill" - hint hint. So I told her to let me know when she was on her way, and I'd meet her there. Which I did, after I had her wait on me for a little while - I do have other things going on, so I'm not available at the drop of a hat, even if she is.

It was cool, too, because since it was more her "home base" than mine, we'd have interrupts. So after a couple of times, I remembered..'uhh, yo homes - game on!' So, I started freezing her out whenever she did anything like respond to external interrupts, or not pay attention to me [I think she's got some ADD - I would know, I have it myself haa]. And it worked like a charm; she'd keep trying to get my attention back, asking me questions, poking at me, cracking jokes, you name it. Remember, in any social interaction, the game is on, the rules are being followed - pay attention.

HBJewelryStore had also hit me back within an hour or 2, and she told me she was going to be off work Tuesday, so I told her to come by after 5pm. She did, but at 5 on the dot, and I was at the gym, so she left..and came back an hour later, after I called her. It was good stuff with her, too, although it had been a few months [since last term] when we'd last hung out, so I felt a bit off after a little bit when I realized this. But then I straightened up my act, and did the same stuff I did with HBBlondeBlackModel - move around my place some, from 1 location in my room to another, then downstairs for some water and a quick sandwich, then to the couch downstairs to watch some TV.

My roommate came down for a bit, so I talked with him for a few minutes, then my phone rang, so I talked on there for a bit = non-neediness. Then I sat back with her, closer this time, for a few moments, then "remembered" to show her my pimp-ass camera to show some pictures from Disney. I'd already set it so that there were only a couple of shots with my girlfriend in there, and I already had the my homegirl/galfriend thing figured out, so I was straight while at the same time getting some pre-selection/jealousy plot-lines worked in.

And this time, I did take the opportunity to take a few pictures of her, and then a couple with her, as a couple. She resisted for a split-second, I think, but then whipped her head right back around smiling for the camera. The first couple pictures were not all that great, so she jumped off the couch and struck a modelesque pose for me haa And then we took some pictures together, which came out pretty nice. Also, especially after this but even before, I had been kino-escalating with lots of taps on the arm/leg, then her exposed thighs, then hugs, then kisses on the cheek, then getting kisses from her, then just kissing. Triangular gazing is the shit! :-)

I think I might've been able to close her, but I didn't even allow myself to think about it because she was dressed all nice and smelling all good..and I was all sweaty and shit from the gym. And, she'd already suggested to me a couple of times, especially at the high points of attractive/emotional stimulation, that she is off work again this Friday, so we should try to get together again. Nice. I must push to close this time, no excuses.

HBKraaazyBody had gotten a more personalized text from me, mentioning our lack of any real time together at the beach party, and she hit me back like 2 days later..to tell me that she "really should come check you this weekend huh". So I waited a few hours before hitting her back, since there had to be some punishment for the late response [although it was probably because of lack of credit on her phone], but she stepped up and suggested she come over this weekend, so there should be reward, too. So I texted her back something like "Cool idea i'll hit u up 2morrow n let u know wen im free". 2 reasons for this: 1) genuinely, I needed to coordinate what all is going on with me this weekend, especially with dance practices I'll need to schedule; and 2) to leave her a little in suspense and let her know I've got things going on and as much as I'd like to, I can't automatically accommodate her right off.

I had also texted back HBBellyDancer, a personalized version of the mass text. But, it was pretty late, so I didn't hear back from her until today - she came and found me in class, as I was telling a friend some story about Disney, so she came in and waited nicely to allow me to finish. And then she and I talked, and she agreed to perform with me for the Indian cultural show next weekend. Nice. I've also got HBRunnerUp in, too, so it's looking pretty hot - especially because they're hot.

I finally went to class today, for the first time since being back. After class, I was walking alongside HBAmazonian [physically: tallll athletic white girl in my class who's got a sick ass (especially because she's white! :-p)..in other words, Wonder Woman; personality: Southern sweet, but shy], so I struck up a conversation with her. We've talked before a few times, but nothing more than a minute or two of interaction..more on her in another post. So anyway, she responded really well; in fact, when I started to break off in another direction, she was turning back towards me, trying to think of something to say to sustain our conversation [re-initiating the interaction = IOI], so I'm going to keep pursuing that, too. Point to keep in mind with her: she seems to be a shy, reserved type, possibly low self-esteem..so I will have to be more aggressive [as usual]..although she has started initiating the smile-and-greet around campus before mid-terms, so she's getting better about it..rewards for her!

So I planned to text back HBKraaazyBody today, and then she passed me on a bus, staring at me, then looking away, then looking back [I had sunglasses on and was talking to a couple of friends at the bus stop], so I looked right at her and did the whole "I'm watching you" gesture. She laughed and waved back. Since I saw her, I decided I'd wait until a good bit later, like late afternoon, to text her about the weekend.

On my way to my small group thing, I passed by HBGottaBeMixed. She was watching me, despite being in conversation with a girlfriend. So I made sure not to be "too cool", and patted her with my papers and said hi. She interrupted herself and smiled all like "Heyyyy!" And I smiled back, and went into the library, up a few steps..then stopped, and came back out.

I told her I needed another girl for my dance. She was supposed to be in one of mine some terms back [when HBRunnerUp and another galfriend of mine had performed with me], but she apparently has serious stage-fright and would only do it if her friends did..and they backed out. So I told her now was her chance to redeem herself. We'll see how it plays out, but she told me she had 2 tests next week, so it was going to be kind of hard. I messed with her a bit, gave her a hard time, then told her if she needs any help with her work to just let me know, I'll help her..and it'd be nice if she helped me out, too ;-) But I'd still help, even if she doesn't. And every time she'd put up any resistance, I'd start to body-rock away from her..it worked amazingly well, to the point that I was almost 2-steppin'.

I also did a mini-DHV, telling her that one of her tests [Genetics] I find to be really easy, even in the med school class I got an A, so I got her covered. And that I had some really helpful stuff for her next term, especially the toughest class - I have an old test for it. She was giving me the doggy dinner-bowl look ever since I told her I'd help her out, by the time I was done, I could see the stain of her moist panties loll

After my meeting, I walked with one of my buddies towards the bus stop, and HBPerfectTits was walking towards us, and she and I punched each other at the same time as we passed haa

At the bus stop, HBNeedyLocal"GF" and HBLazyEye both got off the bus, so I tried to play it as best I could: HBNeedyLocal"GF" had grabbed my arm as she walked by, so I made it out like she was twisting my arm, just messing around, etc and HBLazyEye walked by and smiled and waved and said hi, so I smiled and waved and said hi to her. Fortunately, she kept going. HBNeedyLocal"GF" gave me hard time, asking why my friend [whom she also knows from before] got a big wave and she didn't get anything. So I played the twisting-my-arm angle and told her "Because she greeted me while you beat me up!" I don't think there would've been any problem, but it's always better to be aware of what's going on, or who's going by, than to be oblivious.

I called up HBRunnerUp when I got back to the P.I.M.P. pad, and we talked on the phone for a bit. Then she suggested she just come over, since she was at school, sitting in her car, talking to me. So I agreed, and we chilled at my spot for about an hour or so, talking about the dance and random chit-chat, etc..cool stuff. Apparently it's her birthday Saturday [19th birthday..what the fuck??], so I'll be sure to wish her somehow. And, as it turns out, she's going to be hanging with HBGottaBeMixed tomorrow at the beach, and she said she'd try to convince her to dance with us..Mann..I don't know if HBRunnerUp and her boyfriend are still together, but I plan to find out real soon.

I went to walk HBRunnerUp to her car, and I saw that one of my boys had called me, so I hit him up..only to tell him I'd call him back when my girlfriend beeped in.

When she and I finished talking, I texted HBKraaazyBody, setting up Saturday ~3pm. She texted back pretty quick [= it's really on!], telling me that she'd forgotten but there was this Fun Day thing going on at school on Saturday, and she's going to be there most of the day. She suggested Sunday, if it works for me, otherwise, it's a whole new week.

I called back my boy from before and talked with him, then replied back to her that Sunday was definitely going to be better than the week, and told her to remind me to tell her why, and then said that ~3pm should still be good for me on Sunday. And she replied back almost immediately [= it's really, very much on!] that it was cool with her, so we're good to go. I must push myself with her, too, to at least get to the kissing level..I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend now, but she didn't the only time we talked about it [2 terms ago], so I don't know..and I don't care.

Bottom line: life is good.

~h

I'm Back, Part I

It's been a busy past few weeks, and it's not slowing down just yet, but I had a minute and wanted to get down some things.

I had my mid-terms for neuroscience, physiology, and immunology..and I rocked 2 of the 3. But I can make up immuno on the final as it stands now.

Also, I'm trying to follow a new rule: since I've got enough girls in some phase or other of the M3 model, I will only have these girls pleasure me, i.e. no more self-gratification ;-) This will force me to escalate and push for the closes with them, which seems to be a sticking point of mine at times with all this other stuff going on - you know, medical school and all that.

Going with this, the Wednesday during mid-terms I told HBNeedyLocal"GF" that I was really stressed out about my neuro exam the next day, and I phrased it with a sexual sub-context, talking about how I needed to calm down and take my mind off the exam so I can focus, etc. She picked up on it, and asked me "u want a blowjob? yes, im serious!" This was very impressive, especially since her biggest psychological barrier is getting physical [a lot of her own personal issues - she's a virgin, and I don't feel okay with pushing her into all that]. So I framed it into a qualification-type situation by claiming that she's not serious and is only fucking with me, to get her to prove her statement and following through on it. That way, either she does it [yes!] or she backs down [which is still okay, because she'll know she lost points with me].

She came over, and after some initial nervousness on her part, she went to work. I flipped her over and busted all over her sweet ass. I should've done some kind of debrief, in this case at least to ask when/why she decided to offer and follow through on getting physical.

The next evening, after my exam, there was a talent show by the honor society/fraternity on campus. And I decided I'd participate to help me get my mind completely off of exams and to get my dancing some more exposure. So I did the same act from last term's Indian cultural show, and I thought I was messing up bad all over the place - I hit a lady with my sunglasses when I threw them into the crowd, my hair got all messed up, I kicked out and broke a couple of light bulbs, and then almost fell off the stage..all within the first 2 minutes. But apparently I kicked some serious ass, because I won the grand prize, and a local coffee shop/cafe owner was so impressed that he awarded me an additional prize of 10 free pizzas to me and my friends at his place with a live band and everything. And the people went nuts over my performance, I guess because most of them had never seen me dance before, much less seen such a hot break dance/hip-hop-style dance with Bollywood songs in the mix. And I had all kinds of girls giving me that doggy dinner-bowl look, which made me feel like a fuckin rock star. I made sure to number-close a few, but not too many to make it look lame, and even made plans to get brownies made for me by these 2 cute roommates.

That Saturday was the once-a-term beach bash party the student government does, since it's after everyone's mid-terms. I didn't plan on going, but my roommate's parents were visiting, and they along with my roommate were very verbal about me going, so I rolled. And I'm glad, because it was cool. I ran into a number of people I know, I met others, and got some pictures with a few of my local galfriends, ranging from cute to super-hot, including the girl who placed 2nd in the Miss Grenada-World competition [HBRunnerUp]..maybe I'll post some pictures later. HBKraaazyBody was there, too, looking fine as hell because of her tight shirt and see-through shorts - whew! I decided that I needed to try to get things back on with her again real soon.

After a couple of hours, I was ready to bounce back to our place, so we picked up some food and rolled. HBBlondeBlackModel had called me, so I called her back - she told me she'd just gotten done with some modeling rehearsal stuff and was headed home, so I very bluntly told her to come over to my place and help me pack instead.

When she first got there, I was just like 'Damn, you're so fine!' She's got such a gorgeous face, honestly, there's a strong resemblance to this shot of Rihanna.

Plus, she's got a nice ass and big boobs. And a cool personality.

I started with kino right off, getting a lingering hug. Then I introduced her to my roommate and her parents [so now she's met my roommate and a couple of my cool friends from the weekend before mid-terms when she suggested she swing by my friend's place where we were studying to see me for a bit..and I had a big Popsicle stain on my shorts - that's hot].

Then we went right to my room, where I already had a movie playing, and my suitcase open with things scattered about. She went straight to the bed [I had the movie playing, with the screen facing the bed..so it cued her to go sit there to watch it], but I made the mistake of leaving the door open, so we chilled and talked and kinoed, but I knew I couldn't really do anything too much. I played her my dance clip from the talent show, too, to get the attraction back in there as well as a major DHV, with the follow-up stories about how I won, etc, but I also threw in my "funny mistakes" so it didn't seem like I was just showing off or bragging.

After that, I moved her to the couch, figuring to at least get some movement in, mini-moves or whatever, as well as to get a more boyfriend-girlfriend feel to our interaction in order to get her feeling more and more comfortable with me. In fact, I used a quick jealousy plot-line to do it, because I busted out my pimp-ass, touch-screen camera to show her a few pictures [the ones from the beach party with my different galfriends], especially the one with me and HBRunnerUp. I should've used this opportunity to take a picture or 2 of, and with, her, to add to the boyfriend-girlfriend relation as well as for my own record, since she' is really hot.

My roommate came in between and talked with her for a bit, so I did a mini-freeze on her by getting up and packing some stuff while commenting on my roommate's stories. Then he left, and I kept the freeze-out..she broke, so I rewarded her by giving her attention again. Then eventually made my way back to the couch with her. And she did good, cuddled right up on me. As we were watching the movie [Not Another Teen Movie] and talking, she started playing with my hair, or my arm/hand, or my leg/knee. I was like, damn, she's playing me!

My roommate came back, trying to help keep the mood - good looks, bro. He brought us a bottle of wine and 2 wine glasses, poured it for us, told us to enjoy and did a little bow like he was our waiter for the evening. And she was just loving it.

All of this, mixed in with the sexual frames from before, worked out to have a pretty tight combo: she was even telling me about some of her sexual encounters, mainly that with the same sex..yea, same sex - her and some of her girlfriends getting it on with each other, going down on each other, etc. It was hot shit. But I think I may have shown a little too much eagerness/dwelled on it a bit too long. Remember, sex and sexuality are normal, natural things, especially for an awesome high-value guy like me, so do NOT get too caught up or involved in talking about it, from a reactionary perspective.

I really think she wanted to spend the night and get it on with the H-rod, but I knew my flight was early as hell the next morning, and I couldn't afford to have something go wrong on my way to see my girlfriend, in Disney World. All I could think about at that moment was posts by Sinn and Captain Jack and El Topo, knowing that what I should do is screw the sleep and get the girl, especially because of the process-oriented mentality I should have at this point. But I couldn't do it, so eventually I started dropping the hints, and a girlfriend of hers who apparently lives on a neighboring island had just landed here and called her to convince her to come out that night with her. Earlier, she'd blown off her other friends who were trying to get her to come out, so that she could hang with me. But, she picked up on the hints that I had to get shit done and sleep, plus her out-of-country friend showing up out of the blue, got her to change her mind.

It was not a "loss" at all, especially now that I've got some of this info down in writing, so I can refer back to it for the future, because we did up it a couple notches by getting in more comfort, increased kino still, kissing a few different times, etc, so overall I think I'm still straight with it. It's just a matter of getting her crazy schedule figured out enough to be able to chill with her again. She actually even sent me a text, apologizing that she'd left "so early"..at 10pm or so. I should've left it at that, but I texted her back something about she'll just have to make it up to me when I return, hopefully without spilling any wine on my couch [teasing her about, yep: having spilled a few drops of wine on my couch].

~h

A Few [originally meant to be] Quick Notes

Earlier today [~a little before 1pm] I sent a text to HBBlondeBlackModel. Have her actively thinking about me, but also do it in a non-invested way [I am studying for mid-terms..plus, to her, I'm not just going to call her any/all the time - got to keep her on her toes, and I don't need her thinking she's "got me"].

h: "I was thinking about you, i'm not really sure why..so i figured i'd text you real quick during a study break. Hope you have a great day!"

Within 2 minutes..

HBBBM: "Have a good 1 too. :-)"

Having such a quick response = it's definitely very much on [credit: Sinn].

But of course, when you're looking for reasons to procrastinate, you don't just leave such a simple response as-is. So I proceeded to analyze the shit out of it - anything is more exciting than memorizing Immunology.

Here's what I came up with:

• She responded. Sometimes, people don't respond to texts where there's no response required, because it costs 16 cents [local currency] per page of message. Or they don't have any credit on their phone at the time [example: 1-to-2-day-late responses from HBGroceryStore on a regular basis, due to her lack of phone credit at times].
  
• Immediate response = she's very much into me [okay, so I didn't come up with that one, but I did think it immediately..and then realized why - because Sinn rocks]
• " :-) " .. she doesn't do smiley-faces. I know this, because she never uses them or responds to/with them - she just..doesn't..at all. It's just not her "way" of texting. And her texts are usually not very expressive..at all.

I like this text message and will probably use it in the future, too, because it tells her that:

• She is/was on my mind [meaning, I might like her, or something].
• The "i'm not really sure why" takes away any weirdness that may be associated with the fact that I'm thinking about her while at the same time goes into the emotional spectrum since emotions are not logical and thus there's no logical reason as to why I was thinking about you [I'm not weird, I just randomly thought about you - for some inexplicable reason]. Plus, it conveys that I have emotions, and I am in-tune enough with them to be aware of them, and man enough to admit all this to a woman.
• "So i figured i'd text you" conveys acting on those emotions = Attraction switch [especially with the "I'm a passionate guy, and I think everyone should be passionate" frame and "follow your heart" frame from the other day on the phone].
• "real quick during a study break" tells her that I am a busy guy, I do have shit to do, and [most likely] I lead an interesting life - it works almost like an indirect DHV. It also says that despite me being busy and leading an interesting life, I still thought about you, and I made time and put in effort to let you know, i.e. for you. And this leads to, in an indirect way, that therefore you are probably somewhat important to me, i.e. I like you.
• "Hope you have a great day!" sends across the super-positive vibe and full-of-life-and-energy image, which is an attractive quality. And it fits in pretty nicely with some of the frames from our talk the other day on the phone - great outlook, cool and fun personality, living in the moment, living life to the fullest, etc. And to a certain degree, especially in the context of the rest of the message, it says that I sincerely want you to have a great day, because I care about you. And bonus here is that if she does have a good/great day, she will associate that idea/feeling with me because I wanted that for her..which then loops back to reinforce that I genuinely must care about her, at least to some degree.

.. .. .. ..


Tonight, I ran to campus for "a minute" to get some really good shit for one of my mid-terms, and it was cool chillin with another group of my boyz who are in the term ahead of me, since I don't see them around - since I'm not on campus much and their schedule's are rouuuuugh..it'll be me in a few months :-/

Well, I was on the phone with my girlfriend right outside their dorm, and apparently HBMPHBrunette lives there. She came outside to get a smoke, and so I wandered off to order some food while I was wrapping up on the phone.

I got back, and she was still out there, and she was already looking at me as I came around the corner.

She apologized for "yapping away" about her life studying, etc, and disturbing me on the phone [I didn't say anything to give her this idea - maybe me walking off, but .. that's about it]. I took it as an excuse for her to talk to me [everything happens on purpose when dealing with social dynamics].

I told her it wasn't so much her talking as it was her smoking. She paused, trying to read me. Then she goes "oh, stop it..! haha", and I held onto my 'frame' or whatever [i.e. not backing down] and explained further that I was being straight up with her - it bothers my eyes, because they're sensitive.

She apologized haa the stronger frame absorbed the weaker one ;-)

So I rewarded her with coming in and complying by continuing our interaction, especially with a joke..something about if it happens again, and I'm studying, and my eyes are tired, and my contacts get irritated, I'll smack her - a "5 across the face" [Dave Chappelle!!] and then paused, turned back to her, and smiled before walking into the dorm.

She giggled and said something like "well maybe I like getting slapped" .. I made sure not to let this opportunity slip, and so I half-way turned back and said "Hmm..I'll have to keep that in mind, then!", winked with a "dirty" smile, and then walked back in. Easily introduced sexual themes in, whether she was purposely dropping that innuendo or not, I took it that way, and escalated on it, thus leaving her with that..I knew I had to get going, because my buddy would be waiting on me by now.

As I had already walked in, I could still hear her giggling [you know the kind: "my sexual fantasy's been discovered!" - she's now got some very solid images in her mind! haa], and she called out some "see you later!!" kind of good-bye, so I laughed and said "Alright!" .. and again, leave some doubt as to what I meant - "Alright..bye"? or "Alright, cool - I will see you, later on, to do..whatever it is your dirty mind is imagining right now!! ;-)"? Considering where her mind was already, and what I'd just said before that about keeping that smacking info in mind "for later", she'll now be thinking and hoping it was the second one.

{Notes: a lot of times, girls, especially attractive ones, actually have no game..whatsoever..like HBMPHBrunette. Slow on the come-backs, having weak conversation starters and topics, not knowing how to properly socialize with a guy of equal or higher value. They become AFCs.

This makes sense, too, because a lot of times, these more-attractive girls don't need to have game - they're used to being the choosers. Therefore, I need to be more aggressive and more direct, so as to let her know what's up, since she's having a very hard time trying to DHV herself to me so that I may IOI her for it. I've got to help her out with it and/or actively look for smaller DHVs for which to give IOIs.}

I went upstairs to grab those notes [and a book, as it turns out] and chilled with the guys for like an hour, discussing class shit but mostly non-academic shit.

I got out of there, picked up my food, and headed to the library..with a quick detour for water at the gym, and I'm glad - there was some chick up in there, holy shit!! She was doing dead-lifts, with skin-tight pants on, right by the water fountain..good thing I had my visor on! I don't like being a perv and staring at girls as they work out, but shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit, couldn't have helped it in this type of situation, so at least she doesn't need to know :-)

I couldn't get a look at the face so as to catch her around next time, but whatever..a body like that, I'll know when I see it again!

Anyways, I made my photocopies [made a quick appearance with HBPerfectTits, who was working there by chance] and went to catch a bus. On my way there, I ran into HBLazyEye, so I grabbed her from behind and scared her, while her friend and I laughed as I kept walking. And this very conveniently happened in front of HBTheBrownBody, who was walking the opposite way. And she was watching me/us the whole time, so it threw in a random little Pre-Selected moment for me to her.

I got on the bus and plop down. And HBBeautyMark comes in to sit directly across from me.

As soon as she'd walked in, I knew she'd already seen me and was still looking at me, so I eyed her up and down [good to let her know that I do find her sexy and attractive, especially because many times a girl can't tell with me because they won't let themselves assume it due to low self-esteem and/or my super-high value] and did a wolf-whistle haa Shit, she earned it, she looked fucking amazing!

She came at first to sit next to me, but I was taking up both seats [I was sitting in the middle and had the book, my copies, and the food], so she sat in the seat across the aisle. I went into a little too courteous [read: AFC] mode for a split-second, moving my stuff so she could sit next to me. But she didn't notice, and I made it like I was rearranging my stuff and getting more comfortable.

She tried a few different times to [re]initiate the conversation, each time it died off. Once I realized what she was doing [IOI after IOI], I made sure to not let it die off again: just keep it engaged, don't let any pause or lull in the conversation happen; in other words, lead the interaction - that's how it should be, regardless.

She herself mentioned the fact that I didn't want anyone to sit next to me, etc, a couple of times - I got the hint, but made her admit to the fact that she wanted to sit next to me before I did anything about it. "Ohhh..do youuu want to sit here..? :-)", and she smiled and gave me this look [didn't actually say yes], so I framed her reaction and took her smile-and-look to mean yes and replied "Ahh, I see..well, in that case, come on over!"

There was also a bit in there about us being married, and so I don't have to divorce her..yet..as long as she keeps making sure to do .. whatever it was I wanted her to do. I think it was "taking care of me" or something. Thus, I created the frame for her: I complimented her on what she was doing [i.e. making sure no one tries to sit in my extra seat] as what I wanted her to do for me [i.e. looking out for me, taking care of me -> thus, it's understood that she must care about me in order to want to take care of me, and since she's already taking care of me..you get the idea].

And then I took it even further, telling her that's the reason that we got married, because she's always looking out for me and caring for me. So she'd better keep on doing that, because the moment she stops .. we're through. She'll get the divorce papers in the mail. At first, I didn't know if it'd stuck, or if she was resisting the frame, so I kept going with it, about how she'd better not even think of trying to take half my stuff, because it's not going to happen like that.

She told me no, it wasn't going to happen [at this point, I'm thinking 'Oh great, she's resisting and being to "serious" about all this'], because she wouldn't sign the divorce papers.

As it turned out, she was just having trouble with what to say to work herself into the frame haa

So we went with that for a minute, and then someone got onto the bus, who apparently knew her, and so that girl started talking to my HB. So, I turned my body away from her. I know she was trying not to blow me off [she scooted in closer to me, pressed her hips and ass right up against me from the side, and kept looking over at me], but as far as I was concerned, whether she was trying to or not..she was still doing it. So she will be punished for it. Which was a good decision in retrospect, because someone called her a few seconds later, and my stop was coming up, anyway.

When my stop came up, it was kind of weird - she got off the bus with me [still on the phone], instead of just moving down the aisle towards the back to let me pass her. Despite her still being on the phone, I thought of using the opportunity to get her up to my place, even for a minute - at least get her used to the inside of it so as to knock off any "new place" feel for later on. But I remembered that she'd gotten onto the bus with a friend, and they were both going together to this post-exam cruise. So she's not going to randomly ditch her girlfriend, especially because it was only the 2 of them, to come chill with me, especially since they were on their way to that cruise party.

{Notes: similar to HBMPHBrunette, HBBeautyMark has no game. And she doesn't need any - she's gorgeous, and has a pretty tight body. There was a security guard getting off the bus before it left, and he knows her [her mom's a security guard at school], so he greeted her, reached out and grabbed her hand and held it somewhat intimately for a few seconds, then got off - this is a very common thing guys down here do. So, what girl needs game when it's so easy for her??

On the flip-side, it is a unique IOI that I need to be aware of, when girls linger the hand-holding or reach for my hand, because that's an IOI that I'm not really used to..hard to describe what it is, because it's not a typical holding-hands.

Also, because of the lack of her game like HBMPHBrunette, I must lead the interactions. As I should always do, anyway. But I need to lead it down a specific path, to let her know I'm interested or I like her, etc, and to escalate with her, both physically but especially verbally. I feel that she is not used to either 1) feeling this way [i.e. tables turned or simply being soo attracted to a guy], or 2) she feels awkward or worries about looking foolish in front of me, so she'd rather end the interaction quickly [or it dies away on its own and thus reinforces her awkward feeling] rather than allow her value [in my eyes, her eyes, and the eyes of others] to drop - again, she perceives it is dropping.

I know what she's feeling, because I definitely used to [sometimes still do??] go through that type of thing myself, i.e. get out while I'm still doing "okay" and before I mess things up - save face rather than risk failure/rejection, and I'd actually lose girls that were very much into me.}

I got a nice going-away Social Proof hit, for her and everyone else on the bus: the driver was one of my boyz, so he'd given me a laugh and a thumbs-up when I'd pushed the button for my stop [meaning, he was already dropping me off there without me having to push the stop button and that he knows it was me who pushed it - must be those eyes in the back of his head]. And as I crossed the street, he yelled out again to take it easy, laughed, and honked his horn at me [it's crazy, people are very honk-happy down here, like New York..except as a greeting lol].

Because I'm a baller.

~h

Phone Call with HBBlondeBlackModel, Round 2

I decided to hit up HBBlondeBlackModel mid-morning [10-10:30am], since it's been a few days since we've talked. And because the conversation had been really good, the more time in between would just make her more anxious to talk to me again.

I called her, having a little bit of a conversational plan to follow in my mind.

HBBBM: "Heyyy!!" {background volume turns down}

h: "What up .. chica?"

HBBBM: "hahahaha I'm good"

h: "Cool, what's going on", etc

HBBBM: blahblahblah

h: "Oh man, the craziest thing..it was crazy last night {pause pause pause} the electricity went out, right in the middle of me studying..!!"

HBBBM: "blahblahblah!!"

h: etc etc

HBBBM: "so what are you up to now..?"

h: "Just finished eating, and I realized .. I need to go the grocery store tomorrow morning .. to get some food - I'm running low, and there's no way I'm going to go next week, in the middle of exams" [planting the seed]

HBBBM: "Oh yeah blahblahblah" {movie in the background is completely off now}

h: {change topics}

HBBBM: blahblah

.. .. ..

(Basic outline/highlights:

h: throwing frames left and right - passion, follow emotions, everything happens for a reason, live in the moment, don't over-think and analyze out every move in life, life is too short, only get one chance

HBBBM: agrees with everything, adds/repeats my points

Details below)

.. .. ..

HBBBM:"You're really entertaining, and stuff..you know, you are like TV..in person..and on the phone, you're like the radio! hahaha"

h: "Oh..well, thank you! Being fun and energetic and exciting - I'll take it as a compliment!" [purposely interpreted/reframed as a compliment, whether it was or not - especially away from any "dancing monkey" type of label]

HBBBM: "hahaha yea..are you just doing it to make yourself feel better..?"

h: "Um..oookay..that's a .. weird .. thing to say.. {pause pause pause}" [heavy silence as strong IOD and to add awkwardness to her as punishment so she does not try to frame me in that way]

HBBBM: "{nervous laugh} No but you know, I find that people who are like that, always making jokes and being fun and funny, they're doing it to make themselves feel happier, because they are in fact sad and stuff" [qualifying her qualification/framing]

h: {decide to reward her for self-qualification/jumping through my hoop} "Wow, I don't know what to say..that's kind of..crazy..that you say that..like, I'm actually kind of impressed, because that is kind of the case.."

HBBBM: "Really??"

h: "Yeah, except I'm not doing it to make myself feel better or get others happy or whatever..again, at least for me, it's that..since I've had so much shit happen in the past - trust me, I've had some serious shit in my life, I'll tell you about some things another time..things weren't so perfect, and all - I've realized, after some things happened, it made me realize that you know, I can sit here and be bummed about stuff, or get depressed, or whatever else negative feeling I want..or, I can be optimistic, have a good outlook on things, and just be positive..and life is just that much better that way, with things being upbeat and positive, and if I bring that kind of energy into other people's lives, too, all the better..I just try to see the good in all things, because shit's going to happen, that's just life..but I can take things more light-heartedly so as not to let it affect me and keep me down when I could be doing something else, that brings joy into my life - why mope about shit that I can't control, right?" [positivity/good energy frame + some comfort-building] {somewhere in here, I also threw in off-hand the bit about 'there's 3 things unique to every person: outlook, personality, and good energy..", continued on what I was saying, then cut back with "oh, yeah, you've got 2 out of the 3, by the way.." - and her reaction was great haa -> multiple threading}

HBBBM:"Yea..yeah..it's true.." [acceptance of frame]

h: "That's just crazy, I mean, it's not like we've..we're, like best friends..for the past 10 years or something! And yet, you were still able to figure that out, get that feel from me..crazy!"

HBBBM: "hahaha Yea...!"

h: "You must be a good judge of character, you can read people pretty well, huh? blahblahblah" [qualification]

HBBBM: "Oh yea, definitely! blahblahblah" [qualifying herself]

h: "Yeah..I actually majored in psychology, back in college.."

HBBBM: "Reaaally?? Blahbl-"

h: "Yea, well, psychology and philosophy..but yeah, it's crazy, because I've gotten to be good at reading people, and it's just crazy, because you read me just like, wow..you know? Not a lot of people know that stuff about me, about having such, just shit happen in my past, all kinds of things, and yet..yet, you were able to get that from me already..that's awesome" [mini-DHV->IOI-> comfort-building]

HBBBM: "Yeah, I bought this huge psychology book a long time ago, it sucks because they don't teach it as a subject in secondary school, and it's just soo interesting, blahblahblah" [seeking rapport/building comfort]

.. .. ..

HBBBM: "I enjoy reading, it's something I really like to do.."

h: "Yeah, I just love to read, if I had more time, I'd definitely read more..well, more reading that I want to do, not like this stuff that I have to do, for studying..I wish I had more time in the day, I'd read some..well, sleep first, then reading!"

HBBBM: "Yeah!! haha"

h: "But it's just crazy, because life is just too short. You know, there's just never enough time. But you have to make time and live in the moment. That's why I just do things, to be able to enjoy life, be passionate about things, and enjoy this short time we have. Our free time is already so limited, and even beyond that, in the big scheme of things, life itself is just super-short. You're here, you grow up, you work, you get old, then you die. That's why in between, you really have to make the most of the time you have, especially that free time, but all the time, and do those things that you want to do, be passionate and live in the moment, because at the end of the day, life is just too short to get hung up on things that could've been, or things that didn't happen the way you want/need them to, or some shit happened when it shouldn't have, whatever..you know?? Like, at the end of the day, there's nothing you or I can do about whatever's already done, and I can't see what's ahead in my life - all I can do is live in the moment, here and now, and enjoy life while I have it..{pause pause pause}" [more frames to live in the moment, enjoy life -> pause = pressure to ensure acceptance]

HBBBM: "I know..blahblahblah" [frames accepted]

h: "And that's why I truly think that everything happens for a reason..you know? Life is too short to not make the most of every single that happens, and I believe that there's a higher order to things, there's something bigger going on in the large-scale picture of life and time..and so everything must be happening for a certain reason or another..otherwise, why would it happen? My life is too short for a bunch of random events to happen, then I die. Everything happens for a reason.." [more frames]

HBBBM: "Yeah.." [more acceptance]

h: "You know what I'm saying? I mean, you look at..well, look at even us - we just randomly met, right? At .. a bus stop?? .. And .. you don't even go to school there???"

HBBBM: "hahaha YEAH!!"

h: "And yet, here we are, we got to talking, and now here we are..why? It can't just be random..I may not know why everything happens the way it does..I can't see the future, but..I can make sure that I do all that I can, while I can, because all these "pieces" are being put into place for some reason, for some purpose, in being a part of my life..I don't want to grow old, and look back on my life, and have nothing to look back on..you know? Grow older, have kinds, be a father, then a grandfather - I want to be the type of grandfather who's got all kinds of stories, and my grandkids want to be around and listen to all the things that have happened in my life..you know? I don't want to be some boring ol' old guy, who did nothing with his life..the time we have is almost like a gift, especially because we don't know what's to come after this life..we get 1 shot..why not make the most of it?? {I went on with the "grandfather" thing for a little bit, because it was getting an amazing reaction out of her, I guess because it was stirring up strong future projection/growing old (with her, even though I didn't explicitly say this) mixed with loving-fatherly-figure images..and kids, can't go wrong with kids!} Follow your heart, be passionate about, about life! Just being passionate is soo important, in everything in life, because that's it - once we're gone, we're gone, and every moment that passes by us is a moment that's gone, to never return..So that's my outlook on things, to make sure to be passionate, and live in the moment, instead of over-thinking and analyzing things so much that I miss the opportunities to do things..life's too short for missed opportunities, you just have to follow your gut-feelings, I just follow those feelings, as passionately as possible, and live life, like really live my life.." [i.e. I'm awesome..join me in my awesome, passionate, living-in-the-moment journey that I call 'life']

HBBBM: {going nuts because of super-attraction/comfort spikes} trying to qualify herself, build comfort/rapport, love on me, etc

.. .. ..

HBBBM: "So are you going to party it up after exams?" [possibly testing for congruence with earlier/above stuff]

h: "I almost have to, you know? I've got to de-stressify myself, and enjoy the time I've got off, so that I can relax and enjoy things that I normally like doing, and be able to escape my work!"

HBBBM: "Yeah, totally .. although I've found, from my days of partying when I was school, that {something about alcohol absorbing all the info I've learned until then}"

h: "Yeah..but you've just got to go with it, live in the moment, remember? You just learn stuff, for the moment, to do well on the test, then move on to the next one"

HBBBM: "Yeah, but what happens when you get done with school? And you don't remember all this stuff? How are you going to..with patients..what are you going to do??"

h: "Check it out: when school was first started, the point was to learn all this information and retain it, as it served to be a background foundation for everything later..but that's not the case now..look at it now, though - honestly, you don't use this stuff once you get done with the study aspect of it..especially in this day and age, you just learn school stuff to make it through school..most of this information we learn is just to get the grade or the score, and it's not stuff that we use in our professional lives after this phase.."

HBBBM: "You are soo right! It's true, blahblahblah"

.. .. ..

One thing I kept making sure to do, was make a lot of noise, so she could "see" that I was not just 100% attention on her. Not continuously, but every now and then, I'd mess with some dishes, or walk back towards the TV and let her hear the movie [The Perfect Score on TBS - the Asian dude is funny in this, plus I've thought Chris Evans is the shit ever since I saw Not Another Teen Movie: "How could she dump me, .. .. {cocky eyebrow movements} .. .. Jake Wyler?" lollllllll]. Just lets her know that she's not the only thing I've got going on, especially because I'd need her to repeat herself a few times, too.

Contrast that to her on the other end: stopped her movie [she flat-out told me this at the end of our conversation], completely focused on our interaction, etc.

A few other things we hit upon: she asked me what TV shows I like to watch [seeking rapport/building comfort] {I went into this thing about not having the time, and losing touch with a lot of shows I like, but I still stick with sports (and she agreed), Seinfeld, The Simpsons, and Family Guy - we connected hardcore on Family Guy, always a good call..and I told her that that's good, she passed the Family Guy test, because if she doesn't like it, I'd have to just cut her off altogether [qualification] }; somewhere in there, we started talking about romance novels and how they suck, but then we analyzed them and why they make more money than all other categories combined; and how her social life is killed because of her work schedule, and mine is because of my class/study schedule [which, therefore, obviously means we are perfect for each other and meant-to-be and etc etc haa]

Then I cut it off at a point where we probably, almost definitely, could've kept going [good shit!], so that I still end up "going on a high note" and being the one "who's got other things to do", etc, and it worked - she even thanked me for calling her. I told her to hit me up and let me know, since I'm going to the store tomorrow, she can tag along and join me, just let me know tomorrow. She agreed, so we'll see how it plays out.

And even though I was rushing her off the phone, she was trying to say every last way of "good-bye" possible - you know, like most guys are usually doing with the girl lol; I took it to be strong signs of wanting to stay on longer with me :-)

Okay, back to physio.

~h

Mass Text Message

Following a quick tip I picked up from Sinn and Future, I've been sending mass text messages to my HBs every now and then, some random things [Future: weather forecast - take an umbrella!; Sinn: good morning/night]. Especially when it's been a while since I've had contact, or if there's just an excuse to do so, like for Valentine's Day.

Or exams.

"Good luck to everyone who's got exams this week! Have confidence like 1 of my friends: she told me she has 6 exams this week (!), and she hasn't studied for any of them - but she's going to get A's in all of them still! And for those of you who have exams next week, study hard so you can play hard! :-)"

I heard back from HBKraaazyBody [almost immediately], HBBartender [who's not even in school], twice from HBLazyEye, HBBlondeBlackModel [who's not in school, either], just to mention a few.

The reason I decided to send it out to some girls who aren't in school is to let them see the Protector of Loved Ones type of care that I have for my peeps [they don't know that I only sent it out to girls], and to keep contact with them even though it does not apply to them, and the subtle DHV in there about my friend who happens to be a girl [this works for everyone who got the text]. This way, an Attraction spike gets thrown in, even just hearing from me, but not having to commit to a specific interaction with any of them.

In fact, if anything, when they responded, I did not reply back to any of them [well, just 1, but she's a friend/kid sister-type]. Which gives a quick show of higher social value to them, especially since they replied back to a message that was very obviously not just for them, and didn't hear back from me - I felt like one of those mail-list guys who send out mass emails but then never respond back to people who "reply" loll I felt like a real man now, blowing people off! :-p

Later on, when I was waiting for a bus to get to campus for a meeting I had, HBGottaBeMixed pulled up - I haven't had any direct contact with her all term. Notice, no direct contact: I made sure she's been getting texts from me every now and then, anyway. And she pulled up to give me a ride..god, she looked amazing today, especially with these really thin skin-tight black leggings on..hott!

She and I talked, I made sure to have heavy kino going on [that's how I know just how thin her leggings were loll]..and then I saw what looked like a rock on her finger. Yes, all of a sudden, it seems, because I'd never seen it before. Although, my roommate had mentioned before that he'd met her "husband" or something..which is crazy because, um yeaa, she just turned 21 last December! I know, because she invited me out to the new club that opened to celebrate with her and her best friend [I totally typed "breast" the first time haa] and had told me she was finally 21 [!].

Anyways, I didn't let it stop me, but it was a little awkward for me, especially because now I know what's up with her look - she had given me a not-so-brief run-down of her history one time last term when I was cycling A3/C1 with her. And I've since forgotten..she's born and raised here, but her parents are directly from somewhere in/near the Middle East. Hence, her exotic look [and my oh-so-clever HBname for her]. So I don't know how her clashing cultures mixes into her doing something behind "her man"'s back. We'll see.

And what was she very pressing about? The text message! haa She was all into it, asking me about my friend and all this stuff, and I ended up finding out that she's just doing the 3rd year of the pre-med program right now..which is a good thing, because I can help her out with it ;-) And we got in some comfort-building, with her confiding in me about wanting to just get out of here, and I was showing her that I understood because I'd be able to finish her feeling-description sentences with/for her, and each time she'd kind of pause and get this "look" in her eye as she took her eyes off the road to stare at me..

As if the time with her wasn't enough to re-solidify why she can't help but stop and smile and hug and talk every time she sees me, riding with her also served as a huge DHV/Social Proof for me, because she dropped me off at the bus stop to pick up a few of her girlfriends, and so of course everyone saw me coming out of her car [and, her car is actually quite nice, especially for down here!].

One of the girls who came up to the car was this chick who's really hot, with a tight body, niiice breasts, wears those skin-tight work-out pants a fair amount [although her ass is "average", which is kind of a let-down, since she's a local girl], but has what I think is a too-long torso for her body -> HBLongTorso [ta-da! Another clever name, right? :-p]. I actually happened to sit on the bus next to her just last week [one of the main reasons I don't get a car], and it was a little awkward, because she was not doing a good job of hiding the fact that she was just blatantly staring at me, despite being only a few inches away. But I'd definitely still hit it haa I mean, she can't help how awesome Hrithik happens to be, right? ;-)

I went to my meeting, and then I got out and waited on meeting up with a friend who was supposed to get me my flash-drive back with a bunch of notes and other helpful goodies on it..which never happened. But it was okay, because I stood there and a couple of friends who were getting out of their Pathology lab came over to me and chilled, which was perfect timing so as to add to my social value as a couple of hotties from the lab came out after them, especially this one chick who I know is in love with me and the way my body moves on stage [or see the original here - many people come to the shows just to see me re-enact this guy's stuff live], but I just don't see her around with an approachable opportunity. I might just have to pull out the "Fuck it, just do it!" and..well..just do it.

I almost owe it to my namesake, since she looks quite a bit like a tanned version of the real Hrithik's real-life wife [I should know, they've both been to my house, and I've partied it up with them in India, too]:

Especially since she kept looking at me from across the street, trying to look away, but not being able to for more than 1-2 seconds ;-) Ready for some more creative naming? HBtherealHrithik'sWife .. that's soo weak! lolll

..and I've been back here, at the P.I.M.P. pad ever since, stuffing my mind with all kinds of physiological information - fun times. Anyways, hope this text message post comes in handy, if not for others, at least for me to not forget this easy yet effective method to stay in contact with girls while not coming off as needy [if anything, it's almost the exact opposite effect].

~h

Phone Game

The most important thing about gaming on the phone is: MAKE SURE SHE'S COMFORTABLE AND LIKES TALKING TO YOU ON THE PHONE. Based on this and/or to best achieve this, you need to try to shoot for a phone conversation of 10 minutes, or more.

I talked to HBBlondeBlackModel on the phone, on the 2nd try. I called earlier in the day, after talking to 2 of my chicks 1) to keep things going/re-initiate our interactions, and 2) to get into a good, talkative, chill mood - no pressure to talk to HBBBM, right?

So I hit up HBJewelryStore and an HB from the grocery store whom I'd #-closed and been texting/calling on and off since last term..both of whom have a boyfriend, too - but when you've got tyyyte game, it simply doesn't matter.

So I got into state and hit up HBBBM. And I got nothing. So I figured I'd get back to work, and during my breaks, I'd make sure to make up a good phone-script, since I wouldn't have the mood-booster at work for me now.

And here's what I came up with:

"oh!! before i forget, i can't stay too long - i've got a lot of work to catch up on. I just got off the phone with my EX-gf, she's a part-time model here in Grenada, she called me up to interview me for a public speaking class or something. She's speaking about modeling, and so she told me she wanted to get as much info on the topic as possible. She did some research, but she told me that she thought the best source was me, since i had done it for a number of years before i came down here for school. So she was asking about the good things and bad things, requirements for certain situations, what it was like modeling with some of the big-name celebrities that i've worked with, some of the different nuances in print versus ramp work, etc. Next thing i knew, we'd been on the phone for a little while, and it just sucks because i like helping out others, especially those people i'm close with. And with her, 1 thing that i always admired was that she would turn to me if and when she ever needed anything, you know? She'd never hesitate to text me or call me, just to even wish me a good night or something. And she was always straight-up and honest about it, about EVERYthing! haa a couple of the qualities i really liked about her when we were together. So yea, i'm not going to be able to stay on too long, because i'm a little behind, and with mid-terms coming up soon, i need to stay on top of things!"

"So tell me something: are you adventurous? Are you spontaneous? Ok, so tell me this: what do you like to do for fun?" --> reward her for her effort, no matter what her answer

reward: Comfort story - "I've always wanted to be able to cook..you know that kind of feeling, where you really want to do something, but sometimes you feel as though it might be too late, or there's never enough time, but you still want to do it?? Especially for me, where my mom is a big cooking-expert, she's even written and published her OWN cookbook!! And her dad, my grandfather, was supposedly an even bigger and better cook than she is! It's actually really crazy, because on my mom's side of the family, a lot of them believe that i am, in fact, my grandfather's spirit re-incarnated. Talk about feeling the pressure!! But, that's a story for another time..so anyways, finally this term i decided it was time to work at this whole cooking ambition of mine, especially because last term i had some bad experiences where i ran out of food, or i didn't have the money, or it was late, whatever..i felt so helpless, and i didn't want to be dependent on outside sources to take care of me anymore, by having some galfriends of mine be cooking for me and all. I love a woman who takes care of me, but i'm still an independent type of guy, you know? Plus, let's be honest, the food here isn't always the healthiest! So i made it a goal of mine to start cooking so i can be more independent when it comes to that, especially since i eat so much, like 5-7 times a day!! God, I always feel soo hungry! You know? Sheesh! So i told my roommate to help me out with this, because he cooks [of course, because he's italian - didn't like half the popular dishes come from italy?? haa], and since i'm always looking out for him and getting his back, he was excited to be able to help me out for a quick change. So i watched him do his thing, took mental notes, asked him questions when he'd cook for himself/us, and i started to get the hang of it..or so i thought. You know what i'm saying? You get that feeling, where it's like "yes, i get it now! It's all coming together!" And you get excited and can't wait to try it out for yourself, and you already feel like you can take on the world, it's so easy, i know how to do it now. So i tried to cook on my own a couple of times, and..yea..definitely was bad - not quite a disaster, but close! BUT..i didn't burn down the place, and that's what matters, right?? Haa I felt so bad, though, because i'd been soo excited, and i thought i could do it, and i felt like i was following everything like i was supposed to, but i still messed it up. You know that feeling? Where you're just feeling hopeless, like nothing's going right, you're never going to be able to get this going, you just..can't..do it! Every time i tried, and failed, i felt this way. Each time i'd get my hopes up and tell myself "it'll be different this time..", and each time something, or everything, went wrong. {sigh} But i kept at it, and i was like, "whatever, you got this" and despite these initial setbacks at the beginning, i stuck with it, and over the past month or so, i can cook myself full-chicken dinners..and chicken breasts with veggies or rice..and spaghetti-and-sauce..and bacon-and-egg bagel-sandwiches..as well as easier stuff like chicken sandwiches and turkey sandwiches..peanut butter-and-jelly sandwiches haa..cereal-and-milk..hahaa etc. I haven't stopped with it, either, it's just stuck because with midterms coming up, i can't spend as much time trying to experiment with new stuff as much as i've grown to enjoy doing..man, it's soo crazy, the other night, my roommate was asking me what I'D cooked that smelled so damn good!! Such an awesome feeling, you know? To work at this stuff, knowing what you want to do..working at it..failing at it..then failing MISERABLY at it haa..but then getting the small taste of success here and there..and then cooking as if you bought it from some restaurant or something..and then to have my roommate, who showed ME how to get going, ask ME what I'D done to make my dinner..oh man, such an awesome feeling!! And now, even my MOM is on me, to cook for HER when i get home for the summer..it's just..CRAZY!! Just so crazy..you know what i mean??? --> [what is it like for you? how'd you get into the cooking scene??]

"so what's your story? Born and raised in Grenada..?" etc

"man it's so crazy - we have so much to talk about!"
[vs.]
"man it's so crazy - i feel so comfortable around you, it's like we've known each other forEVER!"

{plant the seed: "i need to go to the mall/grocery store either _____ or _____" --> see if she suggests anything}

[STALL ---> DHV story, then "hold on..i've got an int'l call, i need to take this..i'll call you back (later)"]

This was the rough outline, to ensure that there was always something to talk about, as well as covering the points that I felt like I needed to do, i.e. cycling through A2 [quick DHV-laced Time Constraint], A3 [Qualify!! BHRR], and C1 [show vulnerabilities/chinks in the armor + build Rapport].

I hit her up again later in the evening, and she explained to me that she was just heading back home after being on the beach for an unexpected photo shoot. Which transitioned perfectly into my DHV-laced time constraint. So I went right into it, and it's funny, because even the hints at the frames that I have in there [she'd turn to me when she needed me; she'd go out of her way to contact me via text or call, even to just wish me good-night; she was always honest about everything; etc], she picked up on them. She even commented on some of them, like how I must have made her feel, so close and comfortable, that she could turn to me for anything, etc.

Awesome.

The reason I want to do this, personally, is since she does not go to my school, and I already won't see her that often [crazy schedule: Mon-Sat, 3pm-11pm], so if she starts to see me in the boyfriend-like light, then it'll solidify me in there despite her not actually being around me that much. And this should, in turn, keep her invested in me and loyal to me.

So I went with Savoy's modified BHRR model, with the Rapport questions at the end. She told me she is adventurous, definitely very spontaneous, and although she doesn't get much free time, she really enjoys sports. Water sports. And that's despite the fact that there's not all that much water-sports stuff to even do here. But she enjoys being around the water, on the beach, etc, doing things -> might be a good thing to remember, say, sometime we go to the beach together, possibly a secluded area I know about near the airport [HBNeedyLocal"GF" took me there a couple of times].

I rewarded her for her answer, telling her how that's soo awesome, and I would love to do that kind of stuff, and that makes her soo cool, especially because most girls aren't into that kind of thing. Blahblahblah. I also tied into my response the idea that I'd totally seen her as that, i.e. as though I'd done a mini-cold read on her, of which she was completely unaware, and I'd just known that she had some kind of attraction to the water and water sports, etc. And she accepted it. Push your limits, especially about what you believe you can get away with - here, I got "extra [comfort] credit" because it seems to her now that I really did know that she loves water-related activities, and thus I must know her pretty damn well. Works for me! :-D

Then I [awkwardly, I admit - I was searching for any possible tangents to go on based off of what her responses had been] transitioned into the "comfort" story I'd come up with just a little while before I'd called. She's a chef-in-training, so I knew it would be something she could relate to and at the very least talk about. Good call. She'd jump in every now and then to give her input or whatever, and at first I'd try to just plow through, but some points she'd really get stuck on, trying to get her piece in, and so I allowed it. And then I realized that that was the point of it! I was supposed to be getting this to be more of a dialogue about cooking or whatever, not a monologue. And I'm glad I did, because it served nicely to bait her into a future projection, which she took and ran with, so I was able to really nicely gauge exactly how she feels about seeing each other again, real soon - even though it requires her to grocery shop for me..that's right, not with me, but for me.

So I'd let her add her expertise whenever it seemed like she couldn't contain herself, and once I'd finished, I let her go on and on for a little bit, knowing that this was adding to the comfort time [since we won't see each other physically that much, I'm going to need to make the most of the time on the phone to ensure she's completely comfortable with me, so that when we hang out and all, there will be no comfort-building needed and minimal time wasted doing non-physical stuff when we're on a time limit for the physical side of things] as well as allowing her to genuinely feel more of a connection with me [and again, reinforcing the idea that we are so comfortable with each other already that, when the time comes and we're face-to-face, we won't have to do any serious comfort-building then].

Somehow we got to talking about ambitions and stuff. I think it was because we got a little side-tracked/stalled in the whole talk sparking from my little story - she ended up telling me all kinds of things, then I asked her how she'd gotten into the whole cooking scene herself, and she told me some pretty deep things [the way she started her response told me it wasn't stuff she normally talks about, and is definitely guarded information, and the more she talked about it with me, the more she opened up and regained her composure/confidence in discussing those things]. So this turned out to be really good, too, because it actually worked into a bigger piece of bait, but like for comfort. So that she was in a position to reciprocate comfort-building material/responses because I'd given her such a long-winded interactive one. And she gave me a brief but nice rundown of her history.

Which I rewarded by telling her that's really impressive, and how amazed and impressed I am, and other "synonyms" for impressed [meaning, pretending like I was using a different word, when in fact, I was still using "impressed"] - so I just made it come off as though I was soo impressed that I couldn't even think of what else to say..and this was covered by me leading the conversation into this discussion about "that's soo rare, especially down here, I've noticed that blahblahblah people don't have much ambition or drive to do anything blahblahblah there's not much opportunity as it is, but even for those that have it, most of them just blow it because they don't take it seriously but rather just squander away their chances blahblahblah especially when there are people like you who have big plans and are just waiting for a chance, an opportunity to do something etc etc", with a lot of back-and-forth exchange of ideas..most of which eventually became us agreeing with each other -> remember: it is infinitely times better to have her agreeing with you VS. you agreeing with her..which is what I did, of course ;-)

So much so that when I realized it had lost its momentum, I needed to cut the thread and move on [need to pay attention to this more often - who know if/when this has happened before, and I missed it]. So I told her something like

h: "yeah, we're so much on the same page that we're just agreeing with each other now, I'm saying what you're saying, you're saying what I'm saying, we're saying the same damn thing!" HBBBM: "hahaha Yeaaa"
h: "Man, it's soo crazy - we have so much to talk about!
HBBBM: "Yeah!"
h: "I just feel soo comfortable around you, talking to you .. it's like we've known each other forEVER!" [notice the frame thrown out - we've known each other forever]
HBBBM: "Yeah, but I'm sure you talk this way, are this way with everyone you meet.." [resisting the frame/asking me to qualify myself]
h: "Yea, I am a cool person and easy to get along with [turning around the frame, into a compliment rather than a qualification bait] .. but still, how long have we known each other? We've talked like, what..3 times??
HBBBM: "..yeaah.."
h: "Maybe 2 times .. crazy! I don't go around meeting people and telling them my deep dark secrets [frame: I've told you secrets, therefore I must trust you].."
HBBBM: "hahaha" [frame accepted]
h: "..like hey, what's up, I'm Hrithik, I almost burned down my place when I cooked..nice to meet you!"
HBBBM: "hahaha" [no more resistance/compliance, therefore previous frame also accepted - it's like we've known each other forever..this is now true, because she acknowledged it and did not resist it but rather laughed at the joke that I made from within the frame]

It was at the beginning of me rewarding her that she tried to say something about the gym, because I'd talked to 1 of my friends about this whole ambition thing - at the gym last night, so she was using it to transition into that [the other, by the way, was actually the HB from the grocery store whom I'd talked to on the phone earlier]. But, I held onto the frame [I was leading the conversation, and I was talking at the moment, therefore, we will talk about what I'm talking about].

Especially because I knew that to make sure that she felt there was a serious connection, and that I didn't want to simply bang her and bounce, she needed to know that there were things about her that I like, not just like looking at. And I was trying to work in a major one there, while she was inadvertently attempting to change the subject [albeit, to impress me further, with more qualification of herself .. see 2-3 paragraphs below]. -> Remember, it is VERY IMPORTANT to reward her in A3 [i.e. hit on her, for non-physical traits], because otherwise, she will feel like you are either not interested or that she cannot live up to your expectations/standards - either way, you will lose her. Basically, you have to let her know at some point, somehow, some way, that you do, in fact, like her, for who she is as a person. And you reward her efforts..it is not necessarily the actual response but rather the act of responding that is rewarded.

Not everything was as near-perfect as it seems. There were a couple of points in the conversation where she told me to hold on because: 1) she had another call [but she never answered it..I think she just checked to see who it was, or maybe it was her other phone and she answered, but came right back to me], and 2) whoever the guys were with whom she was riding [either on the local bus, or British-accented dudes giving her a ride] seemed to be lost or something, so she was trying to figure out where they were trying to go. But then she'd come right back each time. The first time, she actually interrupted herself, not me.

The best part for me, solidifying that everything had gone really well, was that I told her I needed to get going, I had a few more calls to make, to my parents and stuff .. and she told me, completely unprompted, to "call me again whenever you can, anytime during the mornings, because I'm totally free then" [i.e. waiting on me - nice!], except she's going to try to start going to the gym..since this was like the 2nd time chronologically-speaking in the conversation [because she tried to throw it in 2-3 times when she was interrupting earlier] that she mentioned this, I stayed on for a bit longer to let her get it out there - she's obviously trying to impress/qualify herself to me, that she's getting back into "gymming" [her word, not mine - I teased her for a minute on it, too]. Especially because I knew I still had the phone interrupt ready to drop at any moment.

Then she told me a little more about her modeling gig, and how that had all come about, and hence her reason for "gymming" again - she had been chosen, very last-minute, to compete in this contest for a magazine from Barbados, and for that, she wanted to make sure to tighten up all her soft spots [none of which I saw, but we should know that much about women by now - there's always something they're self-conscious about].

After like a minute of that, I cut her off with the whole "oh, hold on hold on {she waited}, then I got back on and told her that it was an international call, and I needed to take it {"Oh yea yea, that's fine, cool, go ahead and do that"}, so I'd hit her up later on sometime this week {"Yeah, definitely, yeah hit me up!"}.

One thing I'm still working on at this point [although I nailed it with HBBlondeBlackModel], in all interactions but especially on the phone, is to GET OFF FIRST - say bye first, etc. If she beats me to it, just hang up. I have a habit of drawing out the good-byes, and I don't like it. I've gotten it from my family [read: mom] as well as my girlfriend, and it definitely has not helped whatever innate neediness I [would] have when getting off the phone with a certifiable hottie, i.e. HBTyra, a girl whom I gamed at the gym back home 2 summers ago, who looks exactly like a young Tyra Banks - who I happen to simply be madly in love with and still to this day cannot believe how Chris Webber fucked up his engagement with..imagine, going to the beach with this:




..or imagine, coming home to this:



Uh......yea......umm......sSsOoOo......oh! Right, so yea, the other thing I'm still working on: the recognition, classification, and best-way handling of frames, in real-time.

~h