Flirting: Some Quick Tips on How to Flirt with Women

It's been a while, yes, yes, I know..and I've got to admit: I've missed my blog.

A LOT has been going on, especially with school and pick-up: exams were good, and I've been making headway with a number of girls despite my crazy-busy schedule [a bunch of #closes, some solid seeds growing, etc].

The problem: no..fuckin..time!

It's costing me girls I've been slowly setting up, despite the rough school schedule, AND it cost me joining Mehow's crew as a coach for the entire Central America/Caribbean/South America region..more on that another time..for now, let's just leave it at "fuuuuuuuuck!!"

HBAmazonian is quickly becoming my one-itis, though..and I can't figure her out - physically, all the signs are there, and yet verbally, she's playing me..and pretty damn well, too! I got her number, but not after some awkward game-play and situation barriers..and I'm even more confused now than I was before..more on that another time, too.

Anyways, all that aside, on to what I wanted to talk about - flirting.

Ever notice someone that you would like to get to know better? Ever look over and see
someone looking back at you? Are you afraid of letting someone know how you feel because
you are afraid they might not be interested? Well you’re not alone. Nearly all of us at some point
in our lives have felt this way. If you really want to get that person’s attention, and find out if they could be interested in you, then learn to flirt.

Flirting is a great way to seek out the information that you want. It also does not have to be very
emotional - but emotional levels definitely make things easier. If the other person doesn’t respond then you can move on to someone or something else. Knowing how to flirt effectively is the key to getting them interested and keeping them that way. Let's look at ways people do flirt and offer some tips on how to do it effectively.

First off, keep in mind that although flirting is relatively harmless, you are playing with another’s emotions. Flirting with someone your not interested in just isn’t nice..but it's good practice! :-p

The next thing is not to worry about what you say as much as how you look and what you are doing. When someone sees you, they give slightly over half of their attention to how you look. Make sure you look nice and are dressed for the occasion. You just want to be noticed, not to shock people.

The next item of importance is your body language. About one third of their attention will go to
this. Watch what you do. Make sure you not doing anything embarrassing with your hands or
moving about to much. Stand up straight, don’t slouch and look confident.

Finally, a small part of flirting does go to what is said. Try to stay calm. If you are naturally funny or charming, then use this to your advantage; if not, then the less said, the better - just try to engage in a friendly conversation, or "banter".

To find out if that special someone is interested in you, try flirting. By flirting, you will draw
attention and hopefully attract the one that you want. By paying attention to how you look, what you do and what you say [to a degree], you could be well on your way to finding that special someone.

Keep in mind that flirting should be fun, not torture. However, everyday, millions of us let opportunities go by due to a fear of flirting.

A fear of flirting is quite common, even among the most confident of people. There are those that can run multi-national corporations, get up in front of thousands of people and talk, but when it comes to flirting with a possible love interest, that confidence goes completely out the window.

This fear of flirting comes from the fear of crashing and burning. If one attempts to flirt and
bombs badly, this is a total self-confidence killer. It doesn’t matter what type of high-powered
person you are, getting the shove from a possible love interest shatters your self-image.

To get past this, try ignoring that little voice in your head. Think of all your successes and simply go for it.

The fear of flirting can also stem from lack of experience. Some people don’t know how to flirt, or they flirt very badly. Again, this can lead to potentially crashing and killing your self confidence.

To get over this, try practicing with/on a friend. They can tell you if you’re likely to succeed or make a complete fool out of yourself..but then again, keep in mind that women's adive can many times be wayyyyyyyy off what they actually want [topic for another time, but basically, women have an idea or concept of the things that they want, but they actually are hard-wired to respond to completely different things].

The fear of flirting can also come from not knowing the appropriate time or occasion. Many are
reluctant to approach women in bars or night clubs because of their connotations. Flirting at
work can also present problems.

Keep in mind that there really isn’t a right or wrong place to flirt. Just be aware of where you are and make sure your technique is good.

Finally, some fear flirting because of what it could bring. They fear approaching a person,
successfully chatting, and then finding out that they are horrible. What to do in those occasions
sends people into a panic. If you do start to flirt with someone and you realize that this isn’t the
person for you, be polite. Excuse yourself and go. Don’t be rude or try to sneak out of the place
covertly.

Flirting is nothing to be afraid of and is mastered through doing. Get used to the idea that we all
crash and burn at some point in our lives, so flirting isn’t going to be any different. If you live in
fear of the possible consequences of flirting, then you’re likely never to meet anyone.













In other words, just get out there, and go get your flirt on with some women!

~h

Going Out Alone, Kinoescalation Tips, and Getting the Phone Number

I was taking a break from studying Micro, when I started thinking [a lot] about HBAmazon, whom I've been seeing at the most inopportune times lately, and finally had a perfect opening..if only I'd seen it [or rather, her] on Friday - and it [or rather, she] is obviously still on my mind.

And then, my roommate apparently couldn't not run into her today, studying near her at the library, and then ending up at the gym at the same time as her, too - and as luck would have it, he didn't take his cell phone with him the whole day, so he couldn't hit me up to let me know that all of this was going down..awesome



Anyways, I started thinking about how I need to close this [as in, I need to, and how to go about doing so], and these ideas started flying around in my head.

For example, we have exams coming up in 2 weeks..but most other terms don't. Am I going to have people to go out with? Should that even be an issue?

I personally kind of like going out alone. It's less hassle getting everything organized, you don't have to wait for your friends to get there, you don't have the distraction of standing around talking to your buddies, and it's a great feeling to leave your house alone and come back with a beautiful woman. It also makes approaching WAY easier because if you don't approach you're just standing around by yourself, which is not particularly fun.

When I first started going out alone, I always felt like EVERYONE in the bar knew I was there by myself and was judging me for it. So one night I decided to do an experiment. I went to a bar and stood in the middle of the bar by myself, not talking to anybody. I was fully expecting people to give me dirty looks or make comments, but nothing happened. Then the next night I went out alone again and this time did a bunch of approaches, I was sure every group was going to ask me where my friends were. And it never happened. Because people really don't care. The biggest hurdle to going out alone is getting over the feeling that people will think you're less cool for being out alone.

Ok so let's look at some things that can be done to fix that worry or fear.

1. Getting in the batter's box. This is something a buddy once said to me that has always stuck. He said the hardest part of going out alone is getting yourself going. I know how it is, you're sitting around your house debating with yourself about whether to go out or stay in. You list all the reasons for and against going out, flip through your phone looking for girls you could call to come over, etc.. But what if instead of that, you simply started to get ready. While you're debating with yourself, hop in the shower, or shave or pick out an outfit for that night. This will help get the ball rolling and then once you're clean, shaved, dressed etc..you'll feel like you have to go out.

2. Approach the first girl you see in the venue. Nothing kills your state when you're out alone faster than standing around with a drink in your hand. So instead as soon as you walk into the venue, start talking to the first girl you see. If there aren't any girls in the bar yet, then talk to the first guy you see. A lot of guys underestimate the power of being talkative. The more of a talkative mood you're in, the easier it will be to approach.

3. Set a certain number of approaches you HAVE to do. It doesn'thave to be overly ambitious, but make sure that you set a goal for the amount of approaches you have to do and don't let yourself go home until you complete them.

4. Establish a home base. This is one of the best and easiest things to do when you go out by yourself. A home base is where you're going to be when you are in between approaches. You don't want to be standing by yourself, so you make friends with either a group of girls you're not interested in gaming or a group of guys. Then you periodically check in with them throughout the night when you need a break or there aren't any girls you're interested in approaching.

Remember: going out alone is either normal or weird based on how YOU feel about it.

So now, let's say you're out and talking to a girl you're interested in. YOU MUST START TOUCHING ASAP!

It doesn't matter if you're not comfortable touching girls. That's fine, I was not a naturally touchy guy either.

So what I did was I came up with a simple structure to guide my touching. It went like this:

1. Playful touching - This is stuff like playfully shoving her, flicking her on the arm, patting her pompously, etc..this is the stuff that happens early on. With touching the earlier you do it, the more you will seem like a naturally touchy guy.

2. Hand touching - This is stuff like high-fives, thumb wars, playfully slapping her hand, and so on.

3. Arm in arm - This will happen as you're qualifying girls. She says something you like, you take her hand, place it on your arm and say "That's all you get". You can also do this when you're moving a girl by asking her if she's the romantic type and holding your arm out for her to link through.

4. Arm around - This is another reward type of touching. She says or does something you like, so you pull her in by her waist. There's an easy way to tell if she's attracted here, because she will put her arm back around you if she likes it.

5. Hand holding - The best way to hand-hold, is to suggest moving and then holding your hand back for her to grab.

6. Kissing - There's a variety of ways to kiss, but my soon-to-be favorite is what's called "The Almost Kiss". This is where in the middle of talking to her, you stop and say "I'm sorry, I'm having a really hard time talking to you, becauseI keep thinking about kissing you. But I understand we're not ready for that yet. So we're going to do an almost kiss. We're going to get really close, but you're not allowed to kiss me and I'm not allowed to kiss you. If you kiss me, it will ruin all trust in our relationship". Then you lean forward and get as close to her lips as you can without touching them. Then you push her away and go back to talking. 5-10 minutes later you can go back in for another almost kiss, at which point the girl will almost always kiss you.

The key with touching is that you have to act like it's the most normal thing in the world.

Ok, so now let's say things have progressed even better, and you need to get her number [i.e. no SNL in this case :-p].

Something to keep in mind: women give out their phone numbers all the time. The phone number isn't worth the paper it's written on, or the phone it's stored in. Sometimes women will even give you their phone number to get rid of you. This isn't the seventies when a phone number meant something. Every girl who has a cell phone, has caller ID..and she can pretty much avoid any guy she wants to, and guess what - she may want to avoid you.

The major mistake most guys make here, is not setting up a date. Getting phone numbers and agreeing to "see each other again sometime" are stairways to heaven. Instead what you want to do is suggest an activity at a specific time and place that you guys can do together. This could be as simple as mentioning how you're going to a comedy show this Thursday early in the conversation, and then bringing it up again and inviting her when you want to get her phone number. By making her commit to a certain time and place, you will see if she's actually interested or if she's just being polite. For example, this way she can say "I'm sorry I'm busy that night..", and if she doesn't suggest alternative plans, you know you have a potential flake on your hands.

Now there are a few other mistakes guys commonly make, as well. First is waiting too long to call her. On a cold approach, you want to call the very next day. The reason being, she doesn't have a whole lot invested in you, unlike a guy in her social circle, whom she'll have to see again.

Then there's waiting an ungodly amount of time to follow up if/when she doesn't call you back. Forget all the "3-day rules" and "5-day rules" you hear about; you want to keep following up every day or other day until you either get her on the phone, or you get distracted by all the other girls you have in the pipeline. You do have other girls in the pipeline, right?

Remember, this is the real world, and not every girl that you think you have a connection with is going to call you back.

The solution is to go out [alone if need be] and meet more women.

~h

Update

Finals are done, med school is out for now, and I've eventually made it back from the Carribean to reach home..key word being "eventually".

I should be posting more regularly, and I've already got game- and non-game-related posts from my time away [more game-related, of course]. Including some things going on with HBAmazonian, HBBellyDancer, HBBlondeBlackModel, HBNeedyLocal"GF", HBLazyEye, HBBartender, and a couple of new girls, too.

~h

Busy Days

Yesterday, I had quite an unexpectedly productive day, both academically and socially.

I went to class, and made it through, wide-awake and active.

During, and especially after class all the way through the night, I was off-handedly gaming girls that I'd run into.

HBAmazon is almost ready to be approached, with intent - she now actively seeks me out and makes sure to at least say hi, a great improvement over her looking-from-the-corners-of-her-eyes, half-smile, nervous look-away greetings from earlier in the term. And I always make sure to smile at her, no matter what, so she's not initimidated - funny how a little thing like that, from me especially, can make such a major difference.

I got texted by a few of my girls, varying from "Hey hrithik waz up. Just saying hi, etc" to "so wen am i gonna wrap my lips around dat big cock of urz?"

[I made some good head-way with HBKraaazyBody Monday after my exam, when I sent out a mass text to some of the girls: "Mannn i had this test 2day, totally sucked..wen i was done w it, u popped in2 my head - n stayed 4 a good bit.. does that sound lame? U suck", and it had great response with most of them, especially HBKraaazyBody, who revealed her stance with me :-)

I also caught HBAlienFace staring at me, every time I've seen her around campus, even to the point where she'll be talking with someone but her body language'll give her thought away to me, i.e. feet pointing towards me, upper body facing me, and/or more blatant things like her eyes fixed on me while she talks to someone else..but I don't know if she just sucks at trying to flirt, because obviously she's interested, but the last interaction we had, some semesters back, was kind of awkward, where I think she was trying to play-argue with me, but it was about something kind of lame, so it didn't work and made me feel like "umm..okay..", and then I never really spoke to her again..we'll see if I choose to change that]

I went to the gym later in the evening, and HBGottaBeMixed found me a couple times while I was on the phone with my girlfriend, telling me she'd be right back once I was off. And a few other girls whom I don't even remember now, similar [re]actions. Obviously there was something that was causing each of these girls to behave similarly.

So I made sure to pay attention to what was going on - I saw my reflection and noted my body language, and I also listened to myself interacting with my girlfriend on the phone, as well as making sure to keep a smile on my face so that the interaction didn't seem serious or anything.

After the gym, I was heading back to the P.I.M.P. pad, when I noticed this tall, cute Indian chick, with a nice breasts and curvy ass, speed-walking from behind me, almost as though she was trying to catch up to me; she'd been riding the bike next to me earlier, and I'd caught her glimpsing my way a number of times. For a few seconds, I was distracted, seeing that ass in high-powered motion, but I snapped out of it and started talking with her. She removed her headphones almost immediately [IOI] even though she could hear me. I made a few jokes [A2], then back-handed slapping her shoulder [light kino initiation], teased her [more A2], then a quick bit about us having to impress our Indian parents [A3/C1], all the while I'm making sure to smile and she's laughing and responding very well. Next time I see her at the gym, or around campus, I'll take things a bit further.

I drank a protein shake and then went to Subway, and there, everyone was watching me. Including one of the girls working there, who was the first girl I'd been completely infatuated with when I'd come down here for the first time. At the time, I'd gotten to be pretty cool with her, even #-closed her, but she had seemed kind of stand-offish, which I'd since then attributed to the defensive nature some local girls tend to get around me since I'm not from here - they worry that I will simply use them and then leave them. Back then, however, not only did I not know this, I didn't know how to handle it, either. Or maybe she had a boyfriend and began to feel guilty after she gave me her number. Regardless, as far as I was concerned, she was "a bitch".

And now here she was again, and this time she was talking about me and even tried to initiate conversation with me a couple of times. And I simply blew her off - guess I still had some hurt feeling from way back then, huh? Then I proceeded to make her feel awkward as I didn't even acknowledge her trying to talk to me. And then I just stared at her retarrrrdedly huge ass - seriously, it's got to be 50"+.

In retrospect, this was quite immature of me, but she does not know that I did it on purpose, because I had my headphones blasting music, even though they weren't on my ears, she still doesn't know whether I could hear or not. So I will see about maybe trying to make something happen with her the next time I go there.

The bus driver that picks me up to bring me back to my place is an old friend of mine whom I hadn't seen for..maybe almost a year now, come to think of it. It was real cool catching up with him, albeit briefly, just to see what he's been up to and how things are with me.

Then about 10:30pm, HBBlondeBlackModel calls me, from her chef-in-training job. That I think made my night, because she'd called me last Friday and had woken me up, I'd texted her a couple times since then but had gotten no response, and now here she was, secretly calling me from work. And she reaffirmed exactly what I thought was happening: she was still mad busy with interviews and photo shoots, etc, from her modeling competition in Barbados last weekend, and then working afternoons/nights, leaving her no spare time to be able to hit me back.

She told me real quick about that stuff, then asked me about my trip [I don't remember what trip she's talking about..Disney, I guess??], which I told her was a lonnng story, and would have to wait, and she agreed that we'd better wait until we're in person then. And she kept asking about me and the things I've been up to [IOIs], which I didn't realize but it was quite a bit once I started talking - the Indian cultural show performance and how awesome that was, then the after-party/ies me and my friends hit up, then my galfriend's birthday party when we hit up the new legit club in town, and then studying for that test this past Monday..of course, I made sure to lace all these stories with DHVs and other attraction spikes, to remind her of why she thinks I'm so awesome :-)

We probably talked a good 20 minutes or so before she had to go, and it was definitely a good conversation. Especially since she suggested herself, that she'd hit me up in a couple days and we could see what's up with the weekend..which I played off at first like "ummmmm..hmm..okay, yea, that should be alright.." [non-neediness].

All of this stuff happening, especially within 1 day [and a few things that happened today, going along with this..just different girls, like HBTriniMed for example], got me thinking about the signals that women send out to let guys know that they are feeling you. I'll post more about this later tonight.

~h

Afternoon Drinks = Chance to Game

Today's been a busy day..of course. Sticking with the pattern of the last few weeks.

I went to class, on 3 hours of sleep, and ran into 1 of my boys at the bus stop. He and I caught up for a good while, especially because we haven't seen each other around much at all this term. We were talking about the game, he was filling me in on some crazy shit that went down with him while I was in Disney World [good-crazy], and I was discussing/analyzing the game-related aspects and giving him tons of advice on all kinds of stuff. We decided we needed to catch up soon, and he went to get his bus, and I eventually made it to my next lecture.

After class let out, I tried to catch HBAmazonian as we left..but her long legs carried her away too quickly for me to catch up. And that ass..definitely mesmerized me into slowing down my own pace.

I picked up my food and waited on a bus. And used this opportunity to follow my own advice and watch other people's social interactions. Next thing I knew, I was in one.

These 2 Indian guys, kind of dorky, were hanging out, talking, and this really cute Indian girl came up and joined them. I think she's Punjabi, just because of her features, and I've seen her at the gym, working out as well as playing playing ball..she's pretty good, especially for a girl ;-) And I know she steals glances to watch me practice lately.

We had to relocate to a different bus stop because of some stupid re-routing they did, at the peak hour of traffic on campus: lunch time. I went and stood there, followed closely by these 3 and the rest of the people. The 2 dorks showed up first, and the girl joined them, again.

But she joined as though the four of us were together - it's a little hard to describe, but basically the 2 guys were standing near me, and she came and stood facing me, even though I was not facing any of them. Then she proceeded to talk to the three of us, even though I was not paying any attention to them. Not directly, anyways; I was using the chance to really study how obvious it is, to me, now, what was happening, and yet I know those 2 dorks had nooo idea what was going on. Even when she started to talk about opinion-related topics, giving me openings to jump in and join the conversation. It was really cool to see all that, especially so..automatically. Hopefully it's a good sign that more of the internalization from some time back is starting to re-emerge.

HBLowSelfEsteem showed up at the bus stop, too, so we chilled and caught up for a while. It was nice, just seeing her smile made me feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside..

I ran a bunch of errands and socialized along the way with all kinds of people, i.e. friends, random students, random old local people, random old foreigners, etc..I even watched some lady stuffing frozen meat into her handbag at the grocery store. I also got a text from HBBlondeBlackModel, informing me that she's been really busy the last couple of days, and she's got a fashion show at the high-class 5-star hotel tomorrow. I replied back with some more-than-friends/boyfriend-like vibes, telling her that that's cool and she's going to rock it, so she doesn't even need me to wish her luck. Plus, she needs to hit me up on Sunday, so we can link up and exchange pictures [hers from the show, mine from Disney] and that I had a favor I want her to do me [note the phrasing of "I want you to do me"].

[Remember: be social..be fun..provide value..live in your own reality]

When I got back from all the tasks to my place, my roommate and a mutual friend of ours talked me into going to get drinks. I looked at my phone to check the time - 4:30pm.

It was great being there, although it started really slow, to the point that I was wondering why I wasn't taking a nap instead. But then I got some Sprite and some food, and my blood glucose level was back up, so I was more active. We were just bullshitting around, but then 1 of the waitresses that came over turned out to be pretty cute, and I was picking up IOIs from her [for example, always coming on my side to serve, lingering when interacting with me, and just her overall demeanor was different with me than with my friends..especially that look in her eyes]. So I decided that even just some drinks in the middle of the afternoon provides an opportunity to game.

[Always be mentally prepared to game, regardless of time or place..it doesn't necessitate that I do it, but just be prepared to, because chances can pop up randomly]

Each time she came back, I'd make sure to not only give her something, at least verbal attention, but also escalate it..[remember, especially when dealing with waitresses, etc, to escalate as quickly as possible, due to the real time constraints that they have]..so I made a comment at first just acknowledging her being there, then I teased her about being soo slow..the next time I back-handed slapped her lower leg, then when she returned I touched her on the arm and let it linger..finally, she brought our drinks, and I asked her where hers was, why she wasn't joining us, etc, and she said that no one had bought 1 for her, and by this point my roommate was jumping in, too, telling her he needed another drink, for a female friend of ours, who'd be joining us later on. So then I said, "See, now you're covered.." and she said she'd join us later, when she was off the clock. Simple yet effective - escalation.

A couple hours later, HBBellyDancer called me. We talked for a minute, then we coordinated when we could meet up [tomorrow @ 10am - that'll be..fun.."am"]. After that, I just gamed her a bit over the phone, nothing serious, but just pumping her buying temperature, getting her all worked up laughing, throwing in some pre-selection/jealously stuff, and qualifying/framing her as being passionate and going after what she wants [i.e. she's really passionate, about the cultural show: that's why she's performing in like 3 acts, plus is on the executive board for the organization itself; and she's making time for it because it's important to her and she wants it, so she's going to do whatever she wants/needs to, in order to make it happen] -> sexual frame.

A little later, my girlfriend called, and I talked with her for a while. Then I went to go use the bathroom, and the girl sitting at the front desk of the hotel was really cute..and when she got up and walked across in front of me, I nearly popped a boner - her body was fuckin siiiiiiick!! When I got out of the bathroom, I went up to her and opened her, over-the-shoulder, and teased her for her horrible directions to the bathroom. Then as she laughed and joked back [IOIs], I turned my body back to her, and we talked for a minute. But I didn't really have much to go on, and I know she works there, so I'll catch her again real soon [in fact, my roommate's going there tomorrow morning and was going to see what's up with her for me]..but goddamn, that's a fuckin sick body..

An hour and some bit later, HBRunnerUp called me, too, but by the time I got my phone out, I'd already missed her, so I figured I'd hit her up when we left, especially because the band had set up and started playing by this point.

We kicked it some more, and then we decided to roll. I went to get our bill, because my roommate had tried 3 times with no luck. I caught my waitress chick from before and flirted with her a bit, teased her, did some quick push-pull, and then told her because she left us hanging, we were simply leaving her, period. She was like Ohhh nooo please don't go yet, I'll be off soon, blahblahblah, but I was like maybe next tiiiime. Then she went and got another girl, who was supposed to get us our bill. So I worked in some quick attraction with her, too, teasing her for sucking and not letting us leave, it must mean she's trying to keep me there and take advantage of me, oh man bad girl, etc. She was responding great, but I realized that they were getting busier and busier by the second, so either I leave them..or they leave me. So I opted for the high-value move and rolled out.

[Next time, especially with these specific girls but also in general, I need to plan out better my strategy, ON THE FLY, so that I can properly progress through to #-closing and Day2s with "hired gun" types]

And this is when my friend told me that my roommate had been talking about some blonde chick the whole time I'd been gone on the phone with my girlfriend. Then he pointed the group out to me: a text-book seated 3set in the corner. My roommate wouldn't go talk to them, and we were walking out. He claimed that he hadn't wanted to go talk to them alone. I said I'm down, let's go talk to them. He kept walking towards his car. So I told him that I was going, if he wanted to join me, cool.

I turned around and went back. I walked right up to their table, as all the other girls at the place were watching me hardcore [I need to have a better seat next time, so I can see the people that are there..I didn't realize there were some cute-ass girls there with us by this time].

This is when it was game-fuckin-on! I went into the 3set [2 blondes, 1 very cute brunette] direct, and I smiled [nice!]..and in the "subtle" way girls do, they started loudly whispering "Hey, hey, omg, it's Mr. Bollywood, it's Mr. Bollywood!!" And I recognized these girls as being this group of chicks who was watching me practice my dance 2 days ago at the gym.

I calibrated with this, knowing I already had massive attraction [remembering back to the way they were gawking at me the other day], and so I just went with whatever verbal stuff, skipping A2 altogether, and focused on body language.

h: "Hey I got a quick question for you guys..well, you're not blonde, so you don't count [neg to my initial target, especially since I know that my boy was talking about 1 of the blondes].."

blondes: "haha ummmmm..??"

h: "Don't worry, it's not a bad thing, it's no blonde joke..[they crack up]..so check it out, my friend told me that my roommate has been talking about 'this blonde girl', I was in the bathroom at the time, and now we're leaving, and he wouldn't come over to talk to you guys.." [I realize that I kind of DLV my roommate in this, but since he's my roommate, and they've got massive attraction for me, I figured he's already in pretty good with them through simple association]

brunette: "Well, I really respect a guy who can, who comes up to a girl, especially a group of girls, to talk to them - that takes some guts"

h: *umm..I'm here for my roommate, not myself* "thanks :-D"

brunette: "Yeah..but we're all taken" or "they're both taken" .. something like that

h: "Ah..well, then maybe it's a good thing he didn't come over then.."

cuteblonde: "Wait..[looks at brunette]..it depends on what he looks like..hehe"

h: [turn to brunette and kino] "Gasp! Did you hear that?? How naughty! [turn to cuteblonde] You're baaaad..it's a good thing Mr. Whoever isn't here to hear about this!! Trouuuuble!"

3set: "hahahahaha"

From here, I went back to a lot of body-rocking between the 2 girls I was standing with [brunette and cuteblonde], and they start engaging me hardcore in their conversation. Since I was getting the major IOIs, I stayed in with them, pumping their buying temperature for my roommate, banking on him making his way back to then join us and have this shit all set up for him.

When he did, I "introduced" them to him: This is .. [wait for her to put in her name], and this is .. [wait for her to put her name in], etc. And then I ejected to let him do his thing. In retrospect, I should've stayed in there with him, but I stuck to the story a little too rigidly..mainly because I didn't know how it was going to be "gaming" with him, not really knowing his style.

I bullshitted with my friend, and after a while, we started making fun of my roommate, saying he had probably told them at least 3 of the same stories already that he'd told us earlier in the evening. My roommate is full of stories, about everything, for any situation - it's uncanny [even right now, he's telling story after story to one of our friends].

He came up a little later, ready to roll. So we start getting up, and I walk over to the girls real quick to invite them to the Indian cultural show [since I know they are already fans of my dancing, and have massive attraction, and they already know about the show since they were calling me "Mr. Bollywood"], and next thing I know, I was back in-set.

And I made the most of it, in terms of practice. I switched my target from the brunette to the cute blonde, based on the IOIs I was getting from her. Either there's much more attraction there, or she and her "whatever" are much less serious than brunette [whom I still had major attraction going with, but I was losing her because a guy friend of hers had engaged her even before I'd re-entered the set].

Regardless, I started back-turning the brunette, and each time she'd drop her conversation with the guy to try to win me back. But I didn't really care, because I'd already decided to go for the cute blonde, with both blondes completely tuned into me. They were offering me their food to taste, talking about all kinds of random shit just to keep the interaction going, etc. So I made sure to really pump them up, with a lot of teasing and plenty of verbal and physical IOI rewards ["Oh man, you're awesome!", "You totally rock!", etc, along with super-fast kino escalation, up to hugs and kisses].

Then I made sure to #-close them on the basis of reminding them of the show next weekend, as soon as I know what time it's supposed to be. I stayed in for about 5 more minutes, just to play it safe, and then I bounced on the basis that I had to re-join my friends and roll out of there.

When I got back to my room, after eating [yet again], I hit up HBRunnerUp. We talked for a good 10 minutes; she left her own pre-birthday celebration and her friends to talk to me, despite my regular offers to let her go [I was testing her level of interest/investment]. Especially since I found out from my boy this morning, that she and her boyfriend did in fact break up near the end of last term..nice.

She told me how she watched the dance and ran through some of the moves, and they were really easy. Needless to say, that makes me feel really good about us pulling off the dance by next Saturday. Then we just chit-chatted, but there were definite pauses in the conversation..but no move on her part to leave. Realizing what was going on, I switched to mini-stories mode, telling her about the night and DHVing myself as a leader of men and protector of loved ones [by deciding that my roommate would have to talk to those girls, even if I had to go in for him to initiate it] and simply the fact that I have social skills and a great social circle and lots of interesting things always going on in my life.

One very interesting point I noted from tonight, was with my roommate - the idea of creating your own reality and living in it. Immediately he started talking about how bad the interaction sucked between him and the girls, how they were so intellectually dumb, how he was in there with them and all he wanted was to get out, etc. None of it made sense, of course - first of all, if he didn't want to talk to them..just leave. There's nothing forcing him to stay in, and yet..he did. And apparently he'd been complaining to my friend about how he'd "lost his magic" earlier, but now it had nothing to do with him but rather the girls and how much they basically sucked. Even my friend wasn't buying all of it, and he's not even savvy to all this "insider info".

However, it did serve to reiterate to me the idea of, again, creating your own reality and living in it. Screw what anyone says or does, it's all about the frame you have/use to perceive and interpret events. So set the frames you want, frames that reflect positively on yourself and the events in question, and go from there. But make sure to remain objective about things that happen and not just taking on the attitude of "She's just a bitch" as an easy cop-out.

Remember..


..it's Hrithik's world..

~h

I'm Back, Part III

Sunday afternoon, I had HBLazyEye come over to suck me off. I blew right into her mouth, and she got mad at me..for apologizing. If you set the right frames..

Later that night, a couple of my boys swung by, and we decided to celebrate our good grades on the mid-terms..by killing 4 bottles of liquor, between the 3 of us..and me being stuck with the double-shot glass.

I slept until 2pm the next day, then on-and-off until 4 or 5pm [1 of my boys puked his guts out, the other passed out from a standing position onto his concrete floor and didn't wake up until 6pm].

HBBellyDancer had texted me earlier, so when I finally got myself up, I decided it was time to let people know that I was back. So I sent out a mass text to most of the girls in my phone about being back from Disney and how we had to catch up soon and that I had mad stories and pictures to show them.

Great response from some of them, no response from others - I think I made it seem too much like a mass text..I need to be more careful about impersonalizing the mass texts.

For example, HBBartender called me a few minutes after I sent the text. We talked for a minute, then she told me she was going to go to the bar/club Bananas that she works at, "just to chill" - hint hint. So I told her to let me know when she was on her way, and I'd meet her there. Which I did, after I had her wait on me for a little while - I do have other things going on, so I'm not available at the drop of a hat, even if she is.

It was cool, too, because since it was more her "home base" than mine, we'd have interrupts. So after a couple of times, I remembered..'uhh, yo homes - game on!' So, I started freezing her out whenever she did anything like respond to external interrupts, or not pay attention to me [I think she's got some ADD - I would know, I have it myself haa]. And it worked like a charm; she'd keep trying to get my attention back, asking me questions, poking at me, cracking jokes, you name it. Remember, in any social interaction, the game is on, the rules are being followed - pay attention.

HBJewelryStore had also hit me back within an hour or 2, and she told me she was going to be off work Tuesday, so I told her to come by after 5pm. She did, but at 5 on the dot, and I was at the gym, so she left..and came back an hour later, after I called her. It was good stuff with her, too, although it had been a few months [since last term] when we'd last hung out, so I felt a bit off after a little bit when I realized this. But then I straightened up my act, and did the same stuff I did with HBBlondeBlackModel - move around my place some, from 1 location in my room to another, then downstairs for some water and a quick sandwich, then to the couch downstairs to watch some TV.

My roommate came down for a bit, so I talked with him for a few minutes, then my phone rang, so I talked on there for a bit = non-neediness. Then I sat back with her, closer this time, for a few moments, then "remembered" to show her my pimp-ass camera to show some pictures from Disney. I'd already set it so that there were only a couple of shots with my girlfriend in there, and I already had the my homegirl/galfriend thing figured out, so I was straight while at the same time getting some pre-selection/jealousy plot-lines worked in.

And this time, I did take the opportunity to take a few pictures of her, and then a couple with her, as a couple. She resisted for a split-second, I think, but then whipped her head right back around smiling for the camera. The first couple pictures were not all that great, so she jumped off the couch and struck a modelesque pose for me haa And then we took some pictures together, which came out pretty nice. Also, especially after this but even before, I had been kino-escalating with lots of taps on the arm/leg, then her exposed thighs, then hugs, then kisses on the cheek, then getting kisses from her, then just kissing. Triangular gazing is the shit! :-)

I think I might've been able to close her, but I didn't even allow myself to think about it because she was dressed all nice and smelling all good..and I was all sweaty and shit from the gym. And, she'd already suggested to me a couple of times, especially at the high points of attractive/emotional stimulation, that she is off work again this Friday, so we should try to get together again. Nice. I must push to close this time, no excuses.

HBKraaazyBody had gotten a more personalized text from me, mentioning our lack of any real time together at the beach party, and she hit me back like 2 days later..to tell me that she "really should come check you this weekend huh". So I waited a few hours before hitting her back, since there had to be some punishment for the late response [although it was probably because of lack of credit on her phone], but she stepped up and suggested she come over this weekend, so there should be reward, too. So I texted her back something like "Cool idea i'll hit u up 2morrow n let u know wen im free". 2 reasons for this: 1) genuinely, I needed to coordinate what all is going on with me this weekend, especially with dance practices I'll need to schedule; and 2) to leave her a little in suspense and let her know I've got things going on and as much as I'd like to, I can't automatically accommodate her right off.

I had also texted back HBBellyDancer, a personalized version of the mass text. But, it was pretty late, so I didn't hear back from her until today - she came and found me in class, as I was telling a friend some story about Disney, so she came in and waited nicely to allow me to finish. And then she and I talked, and she agreed to perform with me for the Indian cultural show next weekend. Nice. I've also got HBRunnerUp in, too, so it's looking pretty hot - especially because they're hot.

I finally went to class today, for the first time since being back. After class, I was walking alongside HBAmazonian [physically: tallll athletic white girl in my class who's got a sick ass (especially because she's white! :-p)..in other words, Wonder Woman; personality: Southern sweet, but shy], so I struck up a conversation with her. We've talked before a few times, but nothing more than a minute or two of interaction..more on her in another post. So anyway, she responded really well; in fact, when I started to break off in another direction, she was turning back towards me, trying to think of something to say to sustain our conversation [re-initiating the interaction = IOI], so I'm going to keep pursuing that, too. Point to keep in mind with her: she seems to be a shy, reserved type, possibly low self-esteem..so I will have to be more aggressive [as usual]..although she has started initiating the smile-and-greet around campus before mid-terms, so she's getting better about it..rewards for her!

So I planned to text back HBKraaazyBody today, and then she passed me on a bus, staring at me, then looking away, then looking back [I had sunglasses on and was talking to a couple of friends at the bus stop], so I looked right at her and did the whole "I'm watching you" gesture. She laughed and waved back. Since I saw her, I decided I'd wait until a good bit later, like late afternoon, to text her about the weekend.

On my way to my small group thing, I passed by HBGottaBeMixed. She was watching me, despite being in conversation with a girlfriend. So I made sure not to be "too cool", and patted her with my papers and said hi. She interrupted herself and smiled all like "Heyyyy!" And I smiled back, and went into the library, up a few steps..then stopped, and came back out.

I told her I needed another girl for my dance. She was supposed to be in one of mine some terms back [when HBRunnerUp and another galfriend of mine had performed with me], but she apparently has serious stage-fright and would only do it if her friends did..and they backed out. So I told her now was her chance to redeem herself. We'll see how it plays out, but she told me she had 2 tests next week, so it was going to be kind of hard. I messed with her a bit, gave her a hard time, then told her if she needs any help with her work to just let me know, I'll help her..and it'd be nice if she helped me out, too ;-) But I'd still help, even if she doesn't. And every time she'd put up any resistance, I'd start to body-rock away from her..it worked amazingly well, to the point that I was almost 2-steppin'.

I also did a mini-DHV, telling her that one of her tests [Genetics] I find to be really easy, even in the med school class I got an A, so I got her covered. And that I had some really helpful stuff for her next term, especially the toughest class - I have an old test for it. She was giving me the doggy dinner-bowl look ever since I told her I'd help her out, by the time I was done, I could see the stain of her moist panties loll

After my meeting, I walked with one of my buddies towards the bus stop, and HBPerfectTits was walking towards us, and she and I punched each other at the same time as we passed haa

At the bus stop, HBNeedyLocal"GF" and HBLazyEye both got off the bus, so I tried to play it as best I could: HBNeedyLocal"GF" had grabbed my arm as she walked by, so I made it out like she was twisting my arm, just messing around, etc and HBLazyEye walked by and smiled and waved and said hi, so I smiled and waved and said hi to her. Fortunately, she kept going. HBNeedyLocal"GF" gave me hard time, asking why my friend [whom she also knows from before] got a big wave and she didn't get anything. So I played the twisting-my-arm angle and told her "Because she greeted me while you beat me up!" I don't think there would've been any problem, but it's always better to be aware of what's going on, or who's going by, than to be oblivious.

I called up HBRunnerUp when I got back to the P.I.M.P. pad, and we talked on the phone for a bit. Then she suggested she just come over, since she was at school, sitting in her car, talking to me. So I agreed, and we chilled at my spot for about an hour or so, talking about the dance and random chit-chat, etc..cool stuff. Apparently it's her birthday Saturday [19th birthday..what the fuck??], so I'll be sure to wish her somehow. And, as it turns out, she's going to be hanging with HBGottaBeMixed tomorrow at the beach, and she said she'd try to convince her to dance with us..Mann..I don't know if HBRunnerUp and her boyfriend are still together, but I plan to find out real soon.

I went to walk HBRunnerUp to her car, and I saw that one of my boys had called me, so I hit him up..only to tell him I'd call him back when my girlfriend beeped in.

When she and I finished talking, I texted HBKraaazyBody, setting up Saturday ~3pm. She texted back pretty quick [= it's really on!], telling me that she'd forgotten but there was this Fun Day thing going on at school on Saturday, and she's going to be there most of the day. She suggested Sunday, if it works for me, otherwise, it's a whole new week.

I called back my boy from before and talked with him, then replied back to her that Sunday was definitely going to be better than the week, and told her to remind me to tell her why, and then said that ~3pm should still be good for me on Sunday. And she replied back almost immediately [= it's really, very much on!] that it was cool with her, so we're good to go. I must push myself with her, too, to at least get to the kissing level..I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend now, but she didn't the only time we talked about it [2 terms ago], so I don't know..and I don't care.

Bottom line: life is good.

~h