More Bad News

Study break time, and I'm faced with more bad news, pertaining to the entertainment industry. First, it was comedian Bernie Mac only a few days ago, and now musician Isaac Hayes has passed on, just yesterday..it's been some crazy shit going on, man..



Here's an ode to "Black Moses", and here's one to Bernie Mac, one of The Original Kings of Comedy.

~h

More Thoughts on Cold Reading

This post deals with the idea of cold reading. Keep in mind that originality is the most important quality that you can convey to a woman - from the way you dress to how you approach the ladies and engage them in conversation.

On the other hand, when you fail to make a unique impression, she's going to automatically lump you in with the last 37 chumps who tried to buy her a drink - and within three minutes of you paying for her $12 cocktail, she'll be excusing herself to "go find her friend." As if her friend is lost somewhere in the nightclub, in desperate need of food and water..

The key to building a bond with her is to engage her attention and to get her to share information about herself.

Then you'll tell her how much you relate and establish rapport with her.

One of my favorite conversational tactics for accomplishing this is by using cold reads. This technique, which as I mentioned in my previous post is used to great effect by psychics and palm readers, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they're going through, without them directly telling you.

The trick with cold reads is that the "observations" you're making apply to virtually anyone. Yet there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively.

Human beings are self-centered, and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we wish to be.

Also, people are vain. We want to be seen as unique.

Even though cold reads are usually vague generalizations [which would apply to your Aunt Bernice, just as they would to the hottie partying with her friends at the nightclub], we want to agree with the person who skillfully "reads" us, and we'll believe they have unusual powers of perception.

So forget about asking the generic "job interview" questions - "So what's your name", "where are you from", etc.

Example: if I'm in a club, talking to some babe who's acting a bit hard to get, I'll bust out a cold read along the lines of:

"You know, HB, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you're stand-offish and a bit cold. But you're actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize".

Another example: "I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you've been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you would do anything for them".

Yet another: "I can tell that you're someone who usually plays it safe and doesn't take chances, but sometimes you've regretted it because you missed out an opportunity. But then other times, you're spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances..and that's when you've had some of the best times of your life" [this one is a good one to work in for SNL-style game].

If she agrees with one of these "reads" [and honestly, I've never had a woman flat-out disagree], I'll follow up by telling her that I can totally relate, because I'm the same way.

This builds a bond between me and her instantly. In order to solidify the bond, I'll tell a quick story - one that illustrates how I'm the same type of person [a good idea: if you've got five cold reads ready to use, you should also have five short stories to illustrate how you embody those same qualities].

A similar tactic is using "Barnum statements", named after the circus showman P. T. Barnum. These statements apply to just about anybody, but they give the impression that you're tapping into her inner psyche.

One of my favorites is "I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You're on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren't you?" This is a good one, because pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision..or one that is big to us, at least.

Regardless, she'll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her. She'll probably volunteer more information - and now you're engaged in a deep, authentic conversation instead of trying to fill awkward pauses, or drag her onto the dance floor.

Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said, as if he already knew the answer.

For example, if she affirms that she's on the verge of making a big decision, nod wisely and say something along the lines of, "Yes, that's right, and you're really having a hard time with it".

In other words, claim her answer as your own.

Some other examples of cold reads that are vague yet "profound":

"You have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself".

"You've got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don't know about, and you want to pursue it..but something is holding you back".

"At times, you're really social and out-going. But other times, you're reserved and introverted".

Now that you understand the idea behind cold reads, you can make your own. Based on her vibe, the way she's dressed, and how she acts during the first few minutes of conversation, you should be able to use a "read" that applies to her.

Keep in mind that this is just one example of an original, thought-provoking conversational tactic. There's only so much I can squeeze into my posts, what with med school and all taking up so much of my time.

But I know it's helpful for you guys, and it helps me to get these thoughts and ideas out "on paper", helping me register them in my own mind more cleanly and clearly.

~h

Update

Finals are done, med school is out for now, and I've eventually made it back from the Carribean to reach home..key word being "eventually".

I should be posting more regularly, and I've already got game- and non-game-related posts from my time away [more game-related, of course]. Including some things going on with HBAmazonian, HBBellyDancer, HBBlondeBlackModel, HBNeedyLocal"GF", HBLazyEye, HBBartender, and a couple of new girls, too.

~h

Friday Night

Earlier in the day, I ran into both HBRunnerUp and HBBeautyMark at the bus stop, but I was on the phone with my girlfriend, so I couldn't do much more than just a quick thing, so I blew an exaggerated kiss at HBRunnerUp, and I gave HBBeautyMark a little courtesy salute..she started saying something to me, so I slowly turned my back to her and kept talking on the phone [I'd been pacing while talking, so it didn't seem rude or anything to do this], so that I could avoid my girlfriend hearing anything while at the same time not come off like anything too negative towards HBBeautyMark.

That night, I'd planned to go out, but I was starting to get really tired. So I drank some coffee and tried to decide what to do: I "should" go out, but I "want" to stay in. I was really tired yesterday..but I knew I had to go out. The plan was to hit up the "new" club [it opened last term] - the main draw: it's supposed to be as legit a club as we can get down here, at least for now..and it's even got A/C..oooo la la! :-p

I was wearing some around the house type stuff, sprawled out on the couch, watching The Longest Yard. And then I got the call a little after midnight that we were definitely going to roll, so I got off my ass, turned off the movie, and showered up real quick - I only had ~20-30 minutes before they were going to swing by to get me.

I rocked my new white sports coat, wife-beater, light blue jeans, white shoes, and my clubbin shades and went to meet them downstairs. And I saw the birthday girl was in the car, too, as was HBTriniMed. Both were very impressed with my gear.

After a couple of quick stops, we headed to the club. I had already picked up on a number of IOIs from HBTriniMed, the easiest ones being her responding to just about any comment or joke I made, giving me that whole "she's laughing even though it's not that funny" vibe. And when we stepped out of the car, I put on my see-through shades, made a couple of comments, and next thing I knew, she was telling me that "you're going to be my man for the night, allll mine" and put her arms around my arm. So not only I already had HBTriniMed all set up before we'd even stepped into the club, but I was getting tons of pre-selection for all the other women to see. Plus, I was looking like a fuckin movie star [more than 1 person made this same exact comment], so I had that going, too :-)

We get to the club entrance, and I look at my phone - it's already past 1am. As it turned out, the club had a "students free with ID" setup going on with my school for the night, so I saved me some cash..I'm running low, since it's near the end of the term, so it's a bigger deal than it sounds like.

After parading around the lounge area for a few minutes with HBTriniMed, I separated off to chill with a couple guys who were there that I know; in terms of the girls there, I already had the pre-selection, now I'd get some social proof..in terms of HBTriniMed, I'd show non-neediness and create a sense of loss.

The rest of the night at that place, I just enjoyed myself and had a good time. I didn't really have to do much, since I was already rocking my gear and had social proof as well as pre-selection hanging not only with HBTriniMed, but also with the birthday girl and some her girlfriends.

I made sure no matter what I did or where I was, to be locked-in and to pay attention to body language, especially when dealing with HBTriniMed. It was funny and interesting, because HBTriniMed kept finding me and literally pushing her way in between me and whomever I happened to be chilling with at the time. It was so obvious, I even gave her a hard time for it, but in a way that left her cracking up. So I knew it was very much on. Especially when she would start dancing, then maneuver herself to be kind of in front of me at an angle, and then back up onto me..all in what she thought was a discreet manner. But I made a mistake here, of making a joke about it, which I guess either 1) brought it to her attention if she was doing it subconsciously, or 2) made her feel self-conscious of her actions if she was doing it on purpose, thinking I was making fun of her.

Anyway, I recovered and after a bit, moved into some light comfort and stuff, although it was a little hard because inside the actual club area, it was pretty loud. I thought about bouncing her back outside to the lounge area [I should've done this, to be able to game better], but I didn't want it to seem weird or awkward..I know it wouldn't have, but at the time, I was making myself think that it might, mainly due to HBTriniMed being so hard to read in the past. But now that she's warmed up to me more recently, I need to get over the image I hold of her from before and realize that she is just like every other girl, just a little more difficult to read because she tends to be less emotive that other girls I deal with.

The other thing I didn't like about the club was that it was a little too dark for me, so I couldn't really see the other girls too well, and thus ended up sticking more to my group than I would've liked; after all, what was the point of all the social proofing and pre-selection I'd been displaying, not to mention the pimp-ass outfit I had on?

After a bit, it seemed that HBTriniMed was really starting to cool off of me, so I started to pursue her - that was a mistake, but not a costly one, because she was still showing plenty of proximity, always hovering near me, and telling me everything she was about to do. And then she told me what was wrong, too: she was feeling kind of sick. She didn't have a drink the whole time we were there, so it wasn't that, but apparently they'd eaten dinner beforehand, and it was causing her stomach to act up to the point that she felt she was going to vomit..that's always sexy.

Since she kept telling me this, I realized that she wanted to leave..but not without me. So we got my boy who'd driven us to the club as well as another of my boys, and we left. As we were driving, it suddenly made sense about why she'd mentioned to me a few times that she wanted to go to the other bar/club that's near her [and my] place - there were more people, plus she could've bounced with me much more easily than we could from this place since it was all the way in town.

When we reached her place, she climbed out the back from my side and gave me a hug, I gave her a quick kiss on the cheek and told her to feel better, and then we left.

We decided not to go the other club, even though it was pretty packed, because my friend driving had a very bad and dangerous experience there, and without him, my other friend wouldn't have a ride home. So they dropped me off, and I chilled at my place for a bit, then decided "fuck it, just do it", made a sandwich real quick, and rolled out to the club.

The place was still pretty packed, although some people had started leaving. I made my way in, flirting with 1 of the girls collecting the money [she's a fan of mine ;-)], then scanned the faces as I slowly walked towards 1 of the bars to get an idea of who's around.

I got my usual rum on the rocks, then found a few friends to chill with and got in some quick social proof..especially because I could feel eyes on me [I did look baller as hell], so I can't be seen standing around alone, with a drink, held up to my chest, etc. haa

I bounced around between sets of friends, both guys and girls to get in some pre-selection, too, before I made any real moves. I spotted a really cute blonde girl, and in set with her were two of my friends..perfect.

Just as I rolled into the set, I told myself to bust out as much routine stuff as possible, rather than making it up on the fly, so that I could get back used to using canned material and having better control over where interactions go rather than relying on in-the-moment stuff..especially since I didn't know this girl, so I didn't have any previous interactions to build off of.

I greeted my friends, gave her a courteous "hi", and then told some story about the club from town. I made a lot of eye contact with the girl [HBBlondie], to ensure that I kept her interest as well as putting the pressure on her to engage me one-on-one. When I finished the story, we all laughed, and then she said that she didn't think we'd actually met, although she'd seen me around before. At this point, I let one of my buddies introduce us, knowing full well that his intro would end up as a nice accomplishment introduction, especially since the Indian cultural show was last weekend, so there was plenty of fresh awesomeness to bust out with.

After getting the intro's out of the way, I did a little body-rock away, then rocked back in to kind of face her, and then asked her if she was adventurous..spontaneous..what was the wildest thing she'd ever done..? Then I qualified her on that, telling her how that's awesome [kino: high-5's], and I love the fact that she did something like that [more kino: hugging], etc - basically that she's really cool in my book. I also took a couple of pictures with her, one just normal, the second being "our sexy picture!", which is a new thing I've started telling girls to do, and it works really nicely, not only for a good picture/pose as pre-selection, but also for the girl to start thinking and feeling sexy and associating that with me.

Then I told her that me and some friends might be having a little get-together this upcoming weekend [I think that's going to be my back-up number-closer, if I don't have something more solid/real] in order to number-close her. I made sure to stay in a few more minutes, talking about how there were so many people out, and I was really tired, and they all just needed to go home, right now. She started laughing, and I left on the high note.

I continued bouncing around, between friends, and then random people, just making situational comments/openers and then not really sticking around too long [I need to start following through, run through the entire process unless I get blown out or something], just having a good time. I ended up number-closing a couple other girls, but it was more out of "it just happened" than it was from intention, like with HBBlondie.

It was getting late by this point, definitely after 4am, so I decided it was time to go home and crash, at least so the next day wouldn't be a complete waste. I got a bottle of water, said my good-byes, and then headed back to the P.I.M.P. pad to crash..by the time I did, it was something like 5am - not bad. :-)

~h

I'm Back, Part I

It's been a busy past few weeks, and it's not slowing down just yet, but I had a minute and wanted to get down some things.

I had my mid-terms for neuroscience, physiology, and immunology..and I rocked 2 of the 3. But I can make up immuno on the final as it stands now.

Also, I'm trying to follow a new rule: since I've got enough girls in some phase or other of the M3 model, I will only have these girls pleasure me, i.e. no more self-gratification ;-) This will force me to escalate and push for the closes with them, which seems to be a sticking point of mine at times with all this other stuff going on - you know, medical school and all that.

Going with this, the Wednesday during mid-terms I told HBNeedyLocal"GF" that I was really stressed out about my neuro exam the next day, and I phrased it with a sexual sub-context, talking about how I needed to calm down and take my mind off the exam so I can focus, etc. She picked up on it, and asked me "u want a blowjob? yes, im serious!" This was very impressive, especially since her biggest psychological barrier is getting physical [a lot of her own personal issues - she's a virgin, and I don't feel okay with pushing her into all that]. So I framed it into a qualification-type situation by claiming that she's not serious and is only fucking with me, to get her to prove her statement and following through on it. That way, either she does it [yes!] or she backs down [which is still okay, because she'll know she lost points with me].

She came over, and after some initial nervousness on her part, she went to work. I flipped her over and busted all over her sweet ass. I should've done some kind of debrief, in this case at least to ask when/why she decided to offer and follow through on getting physical.

The next evening, after my exam, there was a talent show by the honor society/fraternity on campus. And I decided I'd participate to help me get my mind completely off of exams and to get my dancing some more exposure. So I did the same act from last term's Indian cultural show, and I thought I was messing up bad all over the place - I hit a lady with my sunglasses when I threw them into the crowd, my hair got all messed up, I kicked out and broke a couple of light bulbs, and then almost fell off the stage..all within the first 2 minutes. But apparently I kicked some serious ass, because I won the grand prize, and a local coffee shop/cafe owner was so impressed that he awarded me an additional prize of 10 free pizzas to me and my friends at his place with a live band and everything. And the people went nuts over my performance, I guess because most of them had never seen me dance before, much less seen such a hot break dance/hip-hop-style dance with Bollywood songs in the mix. And I had all kinds of girls giving me that doggy dinner-bowl look, which made me feel like a fuckin rock star. I made sure to number-close a few, but not too many to make it look lame, and even made plans to get brownies made for me by these 2 cute roommates.

That Saturday was the once-a-term beach bash party the student government does, since it's after everyone's mid-terms. I didn't plan on going, but my roommate's parents were visiting, and they along with my roommate were very verbal about me going, so I rolled. And I'm glad, because it was cool. I ran into a number of people I know, I met others, and got some pictures with a few of my local galfriends, ranging from cute to super-hot, including the girl who placed 2nd in the Miss Grenada-World competition [HBRunnerUp]..maybe I'll post some pictures later. HBKraaazyBody was there, too, looking fine as hell because of her tight shirt and see-through shorts - whew! I decided that I needed to try to get things back on with her again real soon.

After a couple of hours, I was ready to bounce back to our place, so we picked up some food and rolled. HBBlondeBlackModel had called me, so I called her back - she told me she'd just gotten done with some modeling rehearsal stuff and was headed home, so I very bluntly told her to come over to my place and help me pack instead.

When she first got there, I was just like 'Damn, you're so fine!' She's got such a gorgeous face, honestly, there's a strong resemblance to this shot of Rihanna.

Plus, she's got a nice ass and big boobs. And a cool personality.

I started with kino right off, getting a lingering hug. Then I introduced her to my roommate and her parents [so now she's met my roommate and a couple of my cool friends from the weekend before mid-terms when she suggested she swing by my friend's place where we were studying to see me for a bit..and I had a big Popsicle stain on my shorts - that's hot].

Then we went right to my room, where I already had a movie playing, and my suitcase open with things scattered about. She went straight to the bed [I had the movie playing, with the screen facing the bed..so it cued her to go sit there to watch it], but I made the mistake of leaving the door open, so we chilled and talked and kinoed, but I knew I couldn't really do anything too much. I played her my dance clip from the talent show, too, to get the attraction back in there as well as a major DHV, with the follow-up stories about how I won, etc, but I also threw in my "funny mistakes" so it didn't seem like I was just showing off or bragging.

After that, I moved her to the couch, figuring to at least get some movement in, mini-moves or whatever, as well as to get a more boyfriend-girlfriend feel to our interaction in order to get her feeling more and more comfortable with me. In fact, I used a quick jealousy plot-line to do it, because I busted out my pimp-ass, touch-screen camera to show her a few pictures [the ones from the beach party with my different galfriends], especially the one with me and HBRunnerUp. I should've used this opportunity to take a picture or 2 of, and with, her, to add to the boyfriend-girlfriend relation as well as for my own record, since she' is really hot.

My roommate came in between and talked with her for a bit, so I did a mini-freeze on her by getting up and packing some stuff while commenting on my roommate's stories. Then he left, and I kept the freeze-out..she broke, so I rewarded her by giving her attention again. Then eventually made my way back to the couch with her. And she did good, cuddled right up on me. As we were watching the movie [Not Another Teen Movie] and talking, she started playing with my hair, or my arm/hand, or my leg/knee. I was like, damn, she's playing me!

My roommate came back, trying to help keep the mood - good looks, bro. He brought us a bottle of wine and 2 wine glasses, poured it for us, told us to enjoy and did a little bow like he was our waiter for the evening. And she was just loving it.

All of this, mixed in with the sexual frames from before, worked out to have a pretty tight combo: she was even telling me about some of her sexual encounters, mainly that with the same sex..yea, same sex - her and some of her girlfriends getting it on with each other, going down on each other, etc. It was hot shit. But I think I may have shown a little too much eagerness/dwelled on it a bit too long. Remember, sex and sexuality are normal, natural things, especially for an awesome high-value guy like me, so do NOT get too caught up or involved in talking about it, from a reactionary perspective.

I really think she wanted to spend the night and get it on with the H-rod, but I knew my flight was early as hell the next morning, and I couldn't afford to have something go wrong on my way to see my girlfriend, in Disney World. All I could think about at that moment was posts by Sinn and Captain Jack and El Topo, knowing that what I should do is screw the sleep and get the girl, especially because of the process-oriented mentality I should have at this point. But I couldn't do it, so eventually I started dropping the hints, and a girlfriend of hers who apparently lives on a neighboring island had just landed here and called her to convince her to come out that night with her. Earlier, she'd blown off her other friends who were trying to get her to come out, so that she could hang with me. But, she picked up on the hints that I had to get shit done and sleep, plus her out-of-country friend showing up out of the blue, got her to change her mind.

It was not a "loss" at all, especially now that I've got some of this info down in writing, so I can refer back to it for the future, because we did up it a couple notches by getting in more comfort, increased kino still, kissing a few different times, etc, so overall I think I'm still straight with it. It's just a matter of getting her crazy schedule figured out enough to be able to chill with her again. She actually even sent me a text, apologizing that she'd left "so early"..at 10pm or so. I should've left it at that, but I texted her back something about she'll just have to make it up to me when I return, hopefully without spilling any wine on my couch [teasing her about, yep: having spilled a few drops of wine on my couch].

~h

Study Break

I came across a couple of interesting articles while escaping physio, neuro, and immuno:

This lady literally took root because she sat in 1 place for too long .. where was she? On a toilet - what I don't understand is, how did it take her boyfriend 2 years to realize that something might be wrong with this scenario??

On a completely unrelated note [or is it? haa], here's yet another hypocritical situation, dealing with the differences between men and women - when we men do something, anything, along these lines [ex.: flirting with another woman, in front of our dates/girlfriends/etc], our behavior is unacceptable and all that..while women are being encouraged to do so. Equality? I think not.

Women are encouraged to do these tactics..and then they complain about us learning to do certain "tricks and tactics" in order to get the girl..pfff!

~h

Phone Call with HBBlondeBlackModel, Round 2

I decided to hit up HBBlondeBlackModel mid-morning [10-10:30am], since it's been a few days since we've talked. And because the conversation had been really good, the more time in between would just make her more anxious to talk to me again.

I called her, having a little bit of a conversational plan to follow in my mind.

HBBBM: "Heyyy!!" {background volume turns down}

h: "What up .. chica?"

HBBBM: "hahahaha I'm good"

h: "Cool, what's going on", etc

HBBBM: blahblahblah

h: "Oh man, the craziest thing..it was crazy last night {pause pause pause} the electricity went out, right in the middle of me studying..!!"

HBBBM: "blahblahblah!!"

h: etc etc

HBBBM: "so what are you up to now..?"

h: "Just finished eating, and I realized .. I need to go the grocery store tomorrow morning .. to get some food - I'm running low, and there's no way I'm going to go next week, in the middle of exams" [planting the seed]

HBBBM: "Oh yeah blahblahblah" {movie in the background is completely off now}

h: {change topics}

HBBBM: blahblah

.. .. ..

(Basic outline/highlights:

h: throwing frames left and right - passion, follow emotions, everything happens for a reason, live in the moment, don't over-think and analyze out every move in life, life is too short, only get one chance

HBBBM: agrees with everything, adds/repeats my points

Details below)

.. .. ..

HBBBM:"You're really entertaining, and stuff..you know, you are like TV..in person..and on the phone, you're like the radio! hahaha"

h: "Oh..well, thank you! Being fun and energetic and exciting - I'll take it as a compliment!" [purposely interpreted/reframed as a compliment, whether it was or not - especially away from any "dancing monkey" type of label]

HBBBM: "hahaha yea..are you just doing it to make yourself feel better..?"

h: "Um..oookay..that's a .. weird .. thing to say.. {pause pause pause}" [heavy silence as strong IOD and to add awkwardness to her as punishment so she does not try to frame me in that way]

HBBBM: "{nervous laugh} No but you know, I find that people who are like that, always making jokes and being fun and funny, they're doing it to make themselves feel happier, because they are in fact sad and stuff" [qualifying her qualification/framing]

h: {decide to reward her for self-qualification/jumping through my hoop} "Wow, I don't know what to say..that's kind of..crazy..that you say that..like, I'm actually kind of impressed, because that is kind of the case.."

HBBBM: "Really??"

h: "Yeah, except I'm not doing it to make myself feel better or get others happy or whatever..again, at least for me, it's that..since I've had so much shit happen in the past - trust me, I've had some serious shit in my life, I'll tell you about some things another time..things weren't so perfect, and all - I've realized, after some things happened, it made me realize that you know, I can sit here and be bummed about stuff, or get depressed, or whatever else negative feeling I want..or, I can be optimistic, have a good outlook on things, and just be positive..and life is just that much better that way, with things being upbeat and positive, and if I bring that kind of energy into other people's lives, too, all the better..I just try to see the good in all things, because shit's going to happen, that's just life..but I can take things more light-heartedly so as not to let it affect me and keep me down when I could be doing something else, that brings joy into my life - why mope about shit that I can't control, right?" [positivity/good energy frame + some comfort-building] {somewhere in here, I also threw in off-hand the bit about 'there's 3 things unique to every person: outlook, personality, and good energy..", continued on what I was saying, then cut back with "oh, yeah, you've got 2 out of the 3, by the way.." - and her reaction was great haa -> multiple threading}

HBBBM:"Yea..yeah..it's true.." [acceptance of frame]

h: "That's just crazy, I mean, it's not like we've..we're, like best friends..for the past 10 years or something! And yet, you were still able to figure that out, get that feel from me..crazy!"

HBBBM: "hahaha Yea...!"

h: "You must be a good judge of character, you can read people pretty well, huh? blahblahblah" [qualification]

HBBBM: "Oh yea, definitely! blahblahblah" [qualifying herself]

h: "Yeah..I actually majored in psychology, back in college.."

HBBBM: "Reaaally?? Blahbl-"

h: "Yea, well, psychology and philosophy..but yeah, it's crazy, because I've gotten to be good at reading people, and it's just crazy, because you read me just like, wow..you know? Not a lot of people know that stuff about me, about having such, just shit happen in my past, all kinds of things, and yet..yet, you were able to get that from me already..that's awesome" [mini-DHV->IOI-> comfort-building]

HBBBM: "Yeah, I bought this huge psychology book a long time ago, it sucks because they don't teach it as a subject in secondary school, and it's just soo interesting, blahblahblah" [seeking rapport/building comfort]

.. .. ..

HBBBM: "I enjoy reading, it's something I really like to do.."

h: "Yeah, I just love to read, if I had more time, I'd definitely read more..well, more reading that I want to do, not like this stuff that I have to do, for studying..I wish I had more time in the day, I'd read some..well, sleep first, then reading!"

HBBBM: "Yeah!! haha"

h: "But it's just crazy, because life is just too short. You know, there's just never enough time. But you have to make time and live in the moment. That's why I just do things, to be able to enjoy life, be passionate about things, and enjoy this short time we have. Our free time is already so limited, and even beyond that, in the big scheme of things, life itself is just super-short. You're here, you grow up, you work, you get old, then you die. That's why in between, you really have to make the most of the time you have, especially that free time, but all the time, and do those things that you want to do, be passionate and live in the moment, because at the end of the day, life is just too short to get hung up on things that could've been, or things that didn't happen the way you want/need them to, or some shit happened when it shouldn't have, whatever..you know?? Like, at the end of the day, there's nothing you or I can do about whatever's already done, and I can't see what's ahead in my life - all I can do is live in the moment, here and now, and enjoy life while I have it..{pause pause pause}" [more frames to live in the moment, enjoy life -> pause = pressure to ensure acceptance]

HBBBM: "I know..blahblahblah" [frames accepted]

h: "And that's why I truly think that everything happens for a reason..you know? Life is too short to not make the most of every single that happens, and I believe that there's a higher order to things, there's something bigger going on in the large-scale picture of life and time..and so everything must be happening for a certain reason or another..otherwise, why would it happen? My life is too short for a bunch of random events to happen, then I die. Everything happens for a reason.." [more frames]

HBBBM: "Yeah.." [more acceptance]

h: "You know what I'm saying? I mean, you look at..well, look at even us - we just randomly met, right? At .. a bus stop?? .. And .. you don't even go to school there???"

HBBBM: "hahaha YEAH!!"

h: "And yet, here we are, we got to talking, and now here we are..why? It can't just be random..I may not know why everything happens the way it does..I can't see the future, but..I can make sure that I do all that I can, while I can, because all these "pieces" are being put into place for some reason, for some purpose, in being a part of my life..I don't want to grow old, and look back on my life, and have nothing to look back on..you know? Grow older, have kinds, be a father, then a grandfather - I want to be the type of grandfather who's got all kinds of stories, and my grandkids want to be around and listen to all the things that have happened in my life..you know? I don't want to be some boring ol' old guy, who did nothing with his life..the time we have is almost like a gift, especially because we don't know what's to come after this life..we get 1 shot..why not make the most of it?? {I went on with the "grandfather" thing for a little bit, because it was getting an amazing reaction out of her, I guess because it was stirring up strong future projection/growing old (with her, even though I didn't explicitly say this) mixed with loving-fatherly-figure images..and kids, can't go wrong with kids!} Follow your heart, be passionate about, about life! Just being passionate is soo important, in everything in life, because that's it - once we're gone, we're gone, and every moment that passes by us is a moment that's gone, to never return..So that's my outlook on things, to make sure to be passionate, and live in the moment, instead of over-thinking and analyzing things so much that I miss the opportunities to do things..life's too short for missed opportunities, you just have to follow your gut-feelings, I just follow those feelings, as passionately as possible, and live life, like really live my life.." [i.e. I'm awesome..join me in my awesome, passionate, living-in-the-moment journey that I call 'life']

HBBBM: {going nuts because of super-attraction/comfort spikes} trying to qualify herself, build comfort/rapport, love on me, etc

.. .. ..

HBBBM: "So are you going to party it up after exams?" [possibly testing for congruence with earlier/above stuff]

h: "I almost have to, you know? I've got to de-stressify myself, and enjoy the time I've got off, so that I can relax and enjoy things that I normally like doing, and be able to escape my work!"

HBBBM: "Yeah, totally .. although I've found, from my days of partying when I was school, that {something about alcohol absorbing all the info I've learned until then}"

h: "Yeah..but you've just got to go with it, live in the moment, remember? You just learn stuff, for the moment, to do well on the test, then move on to the next one"

HBBBM: "Yeah, but what happens when you get done with school? And you don't remember all this stuff? How are you going to..with patients..what are you going to do??"

h: "Check it out: when school was first started, the point was to learn all this information and retain it, as it served to be a background foundation for everything later..but that's not the case now..look at it now, though - honestly, you don't use this stuff once you get done with the study aspect of it..especially in this day and age, you just learn school stuff to make it through school..most of this information we learn is just to get the grade or the score, and it's not stuff that we use in our professional lives after this phase.."

HBBBM: "You are soo right! It's true, blahblahblah"

.. .. ..

One thing I kept making sure to do, was make a lot of noise, so she could "see" that I was not just 100% attention on her. Not continuously, but every now and then, I'd mess with some dishes, or walk back towards the TV and let her hear the movie [The Perfect Score on TBS - the Asian dude is funny in this, plus I've thought Chris Evans is the shit ever since I saw Not Another Teen Movie: "How could she dump me, .. .. {cocky eyebrow movements} .. .. Jake Wyler?" lollllllll]. Just lets her know that she's not the only thing I've got going on, especially because I'd need her to repeat herself a few times, too.

Contrast that to her on the other end: stopped her movie [she flat-out told me this at the end of our conversation], completely focused on our interaction, etc.

A few other things we hit upon: she asked me what TV shows I like to watch [seeking rapport/building comfort] {I went into this thing about not having the time, and losing touch with a lot of shows I like, but I still stick with sports (and she agreed), Seinfeld, The Simpsons, and Family Guy - we connected hardcore on Family Guy, always a good call..and I told her that that's good, she passed the Family Guy test, because if she doesn't like it, I'd have to just cut her off altogether [qualification] }; somewhere in there, we started talking about romance novels and how they suck, but then we analyzed them and why they make more money than all other categories combined; and how her social life is killed because of her work schedule, and mine is because of my class/study schedule [which, therefore, obviously means we are perfect for each other and meant-to-be and etc etc haa]

Then I cut it off at a point where we probably, almost definitely, could've kept going [good shit!], so that I still end up "going on a high note" and being the one "who's got other things to do", etc, and it worked - she even thanked me for calling her. I told her to hit me up and let me know, since I'm going to the store tomorrow, she can tag along and join me, just let me know tomorrow. She agreed, so we'll see how it plays out.

And even though I was rushing her off the phone, she was trying to say every last way of "good-bye" possible - you know, like most guys are usually doing with the girl lol; I took it to be strong signs of wanting to stay on longer with me :-)

Okay, back to physio.

~h

Some Thoughts..

..and just as I'm about to get some stuff out, HBNeedyLocal"GF" calls..awesome..we'll see how well my thoughts come out on here while I listen to her blab..

So, Monday I had my final exam for the CPM exam [turns out I got a B, which sucks because I thought I was just going to scrape by with an A]. But, at the time, I was just chilling, and 2 different groups of friends were convincing me to go to the beach, and as strange as it may seem, living in a Caribbean island, I'm not a big fan of the beach.

"Fuck it, just do it"

I decided to skip the gym and wait for my roommate to finish his quiz, he rolled back to the P.I.M.P. pad with a couple of mutual guy friends and 1 female friend. And then we headed out to the beach - and it was just what I needed.

It made me realize this is exactly why I made that rule to go out once a week - meet up with friends, chill, get away from school, and be able to practice game.

I [finally] bought a digital camera over the Christmas break, so I took it with me to the beach, and it was a damn good idea. Especially when more and more of my friends poured in to join us. And I remembered not to just enjoy myself, but also to use this opportunity to run some game, especially when my roommate's female friend had one of her girlfriends come out to join us, and our waitress told me flat-out that I was cute or hot or something..and so it began.

HBWaitress: "You know, you're cute/hot/whatever.."
h: "Well, thank you!"
HBWaitress: "..don' tink dat I'm flirtin' wit' you, dough.."
h: "Oh, I don't think you are .. I know you are"
HBWaitress: [giggle]

From there, I'd throw in random stuff her way, mainly escalating kino while being a very fun, social guy..but also throwing in indirect Attraction triggers - like buying a round of drinks for everyone, then shots for my other late-comer friends as they'd join us, etc, showing the waitress [and the 2 girls with us, too] that I was a Leader of Men and also Protector of Loved Ones.

And, I got in some practice with flash-game, using the new touch-screen camera I got..although, I have to admit, everybody else used it more than I did, but I got maaad pictures from the day, and that's all that matters - especially with my boys, and the 2 girls, and the waitress, all as action shots, which is the main thing.

All said and done, I could've pulled the half-Asian girl, definitely [my roommate introduced me as Bollywood, and that's what she called me the rest of the time, so I knew it was already on]. Me and the waitress made plans to get together after she got off work that same day, but I ended up blowing her off to make sure 1 of the guys made it back okay..good thing, too, because it turns out that he'd totally blacked out on the later part of our day, so who knows what could've happened to his dumbass! :-D But the taste of that success made me want to keep pushing and trying to work on my SNL [single-night lay] game, which is the game-plan for when I go out: 1st priority = SNL, back-up plan = Day2 the target.

On a related note, I've started wearing my right thumb ring on my middle finger, so as to better be able to use Captain Jack's Rings on Fingers routine to help set sexual frames into the interactions, end-goal being, again, the SNL.

Afterwards, I kicked it with a couple of my boys back at one of their places for a good while, then eventually got back to my place and crashed. And missed class all week, because I was so tired, and enjoying myself that day made me realize that I needed to catch up on a lot of sleep..so I did. I went to all my small group and review sessions, but the actual lectures I slept through to get rested up - mid-terms will be coming soon, and I'd rather miss class now and work later vs work now and burn-out just before the exams.

Yesterday was pimp, too, so I'll throw that in real quick - basically, I had HBLazyEye come over, and I decided I'd start to be more FB-style rather than nice guy/BF-style. And best to practice quick escalations with a girl I've already got, knowing I can have her, instead of waiting to do it with a girl later when I have to work my thing and not be able to do it because I don't know what to do or when to do it, etc.

So, girl came over, we talked for a few minutes, then I decided to introduce my camera into the equation - one of my boys, he sometimes takes pictures of girls he's banged, so I decided if I set the bar a little higher for myself, I'll keep pushing myself and thus continue improving. And therefore, I've decided that I'm going to take pictures of girls I get with, too. Which brings me to the reason why I brought the camera into the interaction with me and HBLazyEye [since it did slow down Project Quick Escalation]. However, the other advantage was that it helped me practice using pictures as DHVs and conversational material, too.

So I did that, and there were a few points when I know I could've used it with her, but I pussed out [no excuses next time, thought - everything went so well, it made me more confident in just doing whatever the fuck I want to do].

It was funny, my roommate told me the next day [i.e. today] that he was in the bathroom, and he heard us talking, and all of a sudden, everything went quiet and all he heard was making-out sounds..and withing like 10 minutes, he heard a girl's voice calling out all kinds of random words/sounds..nice - Project Quick Escalation was a success!

Next time, use the camera while banging her..and I might even be doing that this weekend..or maybe HBPerfectTits because, as the name suggests, those breasts are definitely worth capturing ;-)

Oh, and I haven't backed down from my going-out-once-a-week rule: technically, I "went out" Monday, but I'm not being a bitch - I'm going to get some work done, and then me and 1 of my boys are going to head to the near-by bar/club to chill [where conveniently, HBBartender happens to work]..and hopefully catch the post-party rush heading over that way..especially since HBBellyDancer was all on my nuts earlier in the week, texting me to invite me out tonight, and even today in person, trying to convince me to come out..

~h

Welcome Back to the Blogging World, Hrithik

So, it's been a long while since I've written up in my on-line diary/blog, but I plan to be more active with it this term, especially because I'll have more time [I hope] and more tales of conquest [I also hope, depending on the time factor].

Real quick - the NY Giants beat the Cheatin' Patriots to become Super Bowl champs, and that's awesome!

I have re-gained contact with El Topo, who actually happens to be down in the Caribbean these days [Trinidad, as a matter of fact]. And we'll see if we can wreak some havoc the next time he's down!

And my terms seems to be off on the right foot, academically especially. 2 2-week classes: Genetics = A, Parasitology = barely-passed-that-bitch-and-that's-all-that-matters.

Oh, I got back on a Friday night, and within 24 hours [Saturday night], I had not only at least 5 different chicks calling/texting me, despite not knowing when I was going to be back, but I had a tight little ass [HBLazyEye's, to be exact] bent over on my leather couch, getting pounded from behind - nice. And apparently I was hitting that so hard, she started to bleed..oops! Gotta be careful with the Hrithik-rod, I guess.

The key with that one, by the way, was using the sexual tension built up from being away during break and creating even more of it for the first bit of time she was here, until we just gave in and went all-out. It was like straight out of some kind of "Skinemax" flick, where we were just chilling, chit-chatting, watching TV - and then BOOM! We're fucking..good start to the term, and I'll take it as a sign of more good times to come.

~h

"Five Undiscovered Caribbean Islands"

Nice to see some lesser-known Caribbean islands down here are getting some exposure..

Five Undiscovered Caribbean Islands

2 of them, Dominica and Caricao, have their own med schools, too [Caricao just opened their new one, in a very imitation-like manner of my school - guess it means we're doing something right, huh?]

~h

Mini-Update and Some Interesting Links [And a Quick Rant]

Well, exams have just ended - they were rough as hell! It feels like I just grabbed my ankles and held on for the raping that took place..so much blood spilled, too..ew

I'll be back to blogging soon, although it might be a little more spaced out, mainly because my laptop is acting up [it's on, the screen's display is working..but it's just dark..and no, it's not because I've got it dimmed or something, the back-light was flickering for a few days, and it'd turn off, but I could get it back on..now, it's just done..].

Needless to say, this will affect my ability to post on here, especially since I can't just do it at my own leisure, but rather will have to do it at the library [gross].

In the meantime, enjoy some interesting articles I came across [remember, it's very important to be an interesting person rather than just having a bunch of interesting facts/routines to run, so that you are the interesting one instead of the material itself..hence, it's important to keep up on interesting things going on in our world, regardless of how big or small it may seem - plus, it provides for easy topics of conversation, d'uh!]:

Apparently, TI's in jail..and even more random is the fact that he was supposed to perform [obviously didn't happen] and even won 2 awards [that he couldn't collect]. Why is he in jail, you ask? "[H]e planned to pick up machine guns and silencers he had his bodyguard buy for him"..hmm [http://tv.msn.com/tv/article.aspx?news=279540&GT1=7702]

It seems that people are setting their standards lower and lower when it comes to their significant other, or even just their sexual partner - to the point of having sex with [and possibly marrying] robots. Brings a whole new level of meaning to the whole "social robot" phenomenon that the Seduction Community continues to deal with, huh? Although, something like this could definitely take the pressure off of guys to actually have to interact with real people, thus throwing them even deeper into AFCdom [http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21271545/]

Here's a list of the top 10 cheapest destinations to check out..nice to see India made the list, since we do have one of the 7 Wonders of the World, new and old, there! We also have Mount Everest, which is one of the Natural 7 Wonders of the World, so all the more reason to check it out [http://travel.msn.com/Guides/article.aspx?cp-documentid=414811]

~h

Should Study, Buuut .. Procrastination's a Bitch!

I realized something just now: being not only in school, but being so far geographically from the U.S. as well as being in a 3rd-World country really puts me out of touch with a lot of things! Such as the start of the NFL season..we're approaching now Week 2, and I don't even know what the hell's going on!! Plus, I have to get online to find, either on YouTube or VH1, the latest episode of The Pick Up Artist .. oh, well, I guess it's part of the whole sacrifice of being in med school..

So, check this out: I run into HBGottaBeMixed earlier after class in the cafeteria, sitting with a friend of hers..and I know I'm looking like the shiiiit - I got my hair looking fly, pimp clothes, and of course, my PIIIIIMP-AS-FUUUUCK shades..!! I walk right by, scoping the scene on my way into the store right there. The chick ringing me up is kind of cute, a little short, but with humongous boobs - awesome! Warmed up real quick with her, and then rolled back out..

I spot a couple of friends of mine at a table at one end, so I go over to chit-chat..and of course, it helps social-proof me to HBGottaBeMixed at the same time: win-win situation! As I wrap up with them, I start walking over and spot another chick [I can't really figure her out, because I know she's all into me, but she has a bf and seems like the loyal kind..we'll see how things play out!], I'll call her HBBrandy [she's black and has an incredible resemblance to the singer, and that's the only reason she won out..otherwise, she was about to be named HBCarleton, being black but also from the ritzy-ditzy part of LA, she's as mentally blonde as they come], sitting right next to HBGottaBeMixed..

h - "Heyyyy..!" {smile}
HBB - "Hey!!" {huuuuuuge smile, teeth popping out of her mouth}
h - "blahblah"
HBB - "hahah blahblah"
h - "Oh, you're on the phone .. well, I'll let you get back to that .." [non-neediness, both to her and HBGottaBeMixed]
HBB - "Oh..o-okay, sure..cool! haha"
h - {passing behind HBB's chair to get to HBGBM} "Whaaat's up?"
HBGBM - "Heyy!!"
h - "blahblah"
HBGBM - "haha blahblah"

..and we fluff for a bit, she invites me to a party tonight, which I tell her I can't go to because of my major quiz on Monday, and she draws out tears down her face, telling me that I should be going, etc, and how she was planning on me going, etc, and I ask her, "You're going..?? And you didn't even invite me??????", to which she was hardcore qualifying herself, so I stretched it out but knew that in the end, she was going to receive an IOI - plans to chill with me next week for sure [and of course, she was totally down..d'uh!]. From there, we continue fluffing and exchanging a bunch of sub-communicated IOI's:

HBGBM - "IOI"
h - {move shades off of face and up onto forehead}

..as well as IOD's for..well, whenever I felt like throwing them in for good measure - microcalibration + some hard-to-get:

HBGBM - "blahblah"
h - "Mhmm.." {shades slowly come back down}
HBGBM - "Ugghh!! :-O haha"

h - "start C's vs. U's"
HBGBM - {hides teeth while still smiling, but less} ".." [doesn't bite]
h - "Hmm .. haha .. {quizzical/'interesting' look towards her mouth} .. hmm .. haha" {body-rock away, towards HBB}

..Bait-Hook-Reel-Released:

h - "Hmm..I don't know about this whole popped-collar thing you got going on.." [note: I HATE popped collars..I could go on forever on that shit, but that's not the point of this here]
HBGBM - "Ugh..I think I can pull it off..it looks good on me! blahblah.." [qualifying herself]
h - "Wellllll..I guesssss..I mean, it looks aiiiight.."
HBGBM - ":-D See? Yeah, exactly!"
h - "..well, it definitely looks better than whatever you had going on the other day! haha" {mischievous/playful look}
HBGBM - "Ughh!! hahahaha"

..and of course..TONNNNS OF KINO!!! And a bunch of other stuff happened [my memory is quickly fading on me here..one thing, I brought up the whole "birthday hug, kiss, present, interest..and then one!" from before, and she began qualifying herself pretty hard ("I want to make it very special and unique for you!!"), so I busted on her, to make sure it was genuine instead of just playing, plus this way, I can actually push it enough that it becomes more and more serious in her own mind], but basically doing my best to practice catching all the different things and realizing exactly what they are and what they represent, and in turn what all that translates to and what it then means for me in terms of what I need to do next..oh, yeah! So, this whole time, HBGottaBeMixed has been sitting with her friend, right? Guess who's been not only compelely left out of the convo, but after a couple of minutes, completely closed out of it?? Yup, her friend..HBGottaBeMixed hadn't spoken a word to her the whole time since I'd shown up [the tell-tale sign: the girl was literally fucking around on her cell phone!], and then after a couple minutes had passed, HBGottaBeMixed crossed her legs [facing me] and turned her upper body to face me..awesome! Other random examples:

HBGBM - "IOI"
h - {high-5s}
HBGBM - "IOI"
h - {high-5s, hand-holding}
HBGBM - {continues holding}

HBGBM - "IOI"
h - {hug}
HBGBM - {sits up and accepts hug}
HBGBM - "IOIs"
h - {more hugs}
HBGBM - {leans up, full hug back}
h - "Qualify?"
HBGBM - "DHV"
h - "Qualify? Grounding story -> DHV story [protector of loved ones, loyalty, alpha male qualities, etc]"
HBGBM - "DHVs + IOIsss"
h - {tighter/longer hugs + beaming face}
HBGBM - {hugs back, both arms}
h - {wrap other arm around her, leaning down into her} "Man, you're soo awesome! I totally love you!! You're soo great!"
HBGBM - "hahah blahblahblah!!" {LOVING it}
h - {release hug after a minute} - "Man, it sucks we don't see each other around more.." [seed is planted..]
HBGBM - "I know..! It's great like this!"
h - "Yeah, definitely"
HBGBM - "sighhh But I very much cherish our little time we get like this..!!" [jokingly exaggerated, of course]
h - "I know, you should! ;-) And just imagine, when we get a chance to really chill, we've got soo much in common..it's great!"
HBGBM - "I know, it'll be awesome!! Just hit me up, like I said, gimme a call when you're ready to!!"
h - "Sounds good..next week, after my quiz.."
HBGBM - "Yes! Definitely!"
h - "Have fun tonight..but not too much fun.."
HBGBM - "Yeah.."
h - "I mean, you can't anyways, since I won't be there..haa"
HBGBM - "Exactly! Of course"
h - "We can't have you having too much fun, so that I move from the front of your mind, here {touch forehead} to here {an inch away from previous spot} - I'll still be in the front of your mind, but even that little bit of move..nooooo haa"
HBGBM - "hahahahh No way!! Can't even happen!! I won't have any fun like that"
h - "Good..have fun..but just enough to make it worthwhile to have gone out in the first place!"
HBGBM - "hahah perfect! Sounds good - I'll do that!"
h - "Cool"
HBGBM - "And good luck to you..study hard!"
h - {hold hands together} "Yes, ma'am..will do!" [sarcastic tone, of course! Make her feel a little like a dork, for not only telling me to study but also to have such a 'normal' generic thing to say]

..and the best part of this whole thing was: my merging of the 2 sets! I was psyched up, because I'd never really tried that before..but as this whole thing was happening, I realized that I could very much practice here and quickly decided 'no, I have to practice here, because otherwise I'll be complacent and never push myself to improve, much less actually improve'..plus, I kept in mind that, especially in this case, nothing bad would happen because 1) I've got enough Attraction [+Comfort] with these 2 girls that it won't really hurt anything if it doesn't work out, and more importantly 2) I'm a baller and will pull it off flawlessly [which, of course, I did haa]:

HBB - {finishes phone call, waiting for me to re-initiate}
HBGBM - "blahblah"
h - "blahblah"
HBGBM - "blahblah" [lamer..the convo had started to stale out, so I used this specific opportunity to pull a take-away so that she feels it on herself for bringing our convo down]
h - "Yeah.." {turn away to re-engage HBB}
h - "blahblah"
HBB - "haha blahblahblahblahblah" [this chick talks a LOT..like..you don't understand, she talks A LOT..]
h - "blahblah" {keeping a peripheral eye on HBGBM} "blahblah"
HBB - "hahahahah blahblahblahblahblah" [I apparently crack her uppppp, too]
h - "blahblah"
HBB - "haha blahblahblahblahblah"

..on and on and on like this, until a pause in the convo with HBB because it was staling out a bit..decide that this is the moment - not only will I re-ignite the convo, but I'll merge the 2 girls[thus directly displaying social-proof/pre-selection to both simultaneously, as well as including a direct, in-your-face Jealousy Plotline..nice] and re-initiate HBGBM [who's been ignored long enough, especially because she's just sitting there, trying to get her internet to work..and her friend already left her, and yet she remained..alone..yeahhh, I guess you can count that as an IOI haa]:

..
h - "Man, both of you are so bad..{start turning back towards HBGBM}..you got nothing better to do than screw around on your computers..?"
HBB - "hahah"
HBGBM - {chuckles, but not sure whether she's 'back in' yet}
h - "I mean, you're [note: "YOU'RE", not "SHE", to let HBGBM know that I'm directing it towards her, thus inviting her back in] just staring at your screen, and you're [same note, to let HBB know I'm not 'leaving' her for HBGBM] just looking at pictures..don't you guys have anything better to do?? Sheesh..!" [note for next time: they're talking to you .. don't use this/phrase it this way because it could be taken as a DLV, even if it hasn't thus far..]
HBB - [qualifies herself]
HBGBM - [qualifies herself]
h - {mwaaahahhaha!! Hrithik rules!!}

..and from there, I just went about chit-chatting to both, turning from one to the other depending on which was IOIing vs. not, DHVing vs. not, etc:

HBB - "story about going to Vegas"
h - {interrupt} "When'd you go?? Because I {making sure HBGBM is still involved through my b.l. as well as verbal projection} blahblah"
HBB - "blahblah"
h - {interrupt again, making sure HBGBM is listening} "DHV about my trip in Vegas - loyalty with friends, pre-selection, socially-calibrated, financially comfortable, etc"
HBB - "IOIs"
h - {high-5s, sharp kino-escalation}
HBB - "kind of DHV story, including pics, about her trip in Vegas"
h - "IOI"
Random Mutual Friend - "blahblah"
h - "blahblah"
HBB - "blahblah"
etc
h - {turn to HBGBM} "blahblah"
HBGBM - "haha blahblah"
[insert earlier interaction, from 'random examples' - mainly the last major chunk]
HBB - {interrupts} "Hey, are you going up to the top..?"
h - {ignore} "blahblah"
HBGBM - "haha blahblah"
[end of earlier interaction, from 'random examples']
h - {random hug, even more random whiff of her hair} "Whoa..hmm..mm.."
HBGBM - "haha ..?"
h - "Your hair .. hmm..smells.."
HBGBM - {self-consciously pats hair} "blahblah [about the smell]"
h - {ignore her, lean back in, smell top of her head} "It smells..really..good!"
HBGBM - "hahah yeah?"
h - "Definitely! It smells really great!"
HBGBM - "haha aww, thanks! blah"
h - "Yeah..I just like, want to take it..{lean in, hold some of her hair in my hand}..I just want to take it and put it in a bottle..just save the smell, take it from your hair, put it in a bottle, and then smell it whenever I want to, whenever I think of you or miss you.." [note: I act it out as I describe it, as though I'm able to do it right there..I think this has a stronger effect than usual, mainly because 'smell' is something you can't see but is still there, almost in an 'imaginary', 'invisible' way..and so acting as though you're catching her 'hair smell' is more 'believable'/realistic because of it]
HBGBM - "Awww!!!! Mmmmm!!! {struggling with words, but VERY OBVIOUS that she's FEELING a whole lot of shit at this point!!!!!} That's soooooo sweeeeeet!!!!!!!"
h - "Eh, yeah..I'm just saying..blahblah.."
HBGBM - "hahaha {CANNOT stop smiling/laughing like a little schoolgirl, + looking at me like I'm the greatest thing in the world has ever seen}"
h - "blahblah"
h - "You know..I'm really..resisting the urge..to hug you..one more time..before I go.."
HBGBM - {REALLY wanting it} "haha"
h - "..but I'll have to leave it, because otherwise I'll grab you, hug you, and then we'll be here forever..
HBGBM - "haha Exactly! blahblah should study and never will then and blahblah"
h - "Yeah, you're right..that's why I'm not..but I really want to..!"
HBGBM - "Aww..! :-D"
h - "Alright.." {look at HBB, she rolls with me}
..
HBGBM - "Hey..later!"
h - {half-way turn} "Yeah.. :-)"
HBB - "Bye!"
HBGBM - {pause} "Bye" [made it very clear to me that HBGottaBeMixed wasn't even thinking to say bye to HBBrandy..hahah]

..and I continue gaming HBBrandy on our way back up, especially with this 1 major IOI/DHV she did, for which I just poured on the IOIs to her [I think she was trying REALLY hard to DHV herself to me, especially after the last part of the interaction with HBGottaBeMixed], and then socially-proofed myself in front of her, both with a mutual friend of hers [she made a joke/comment referring to him, then looks at me to see if it impressed me/what I think of it] and then when we split off, my roommate [when we spotted each other from a little ways, we both were throwing our arms up like "HEY!!!!!" and headed towards each other to chit-chat, and she saw this whole interaction..nice]

At this point, I'm a little worried about HBGottaBeMixed..well, really, it's only one thing that's kind of bothering me [and just hit me], and that is: did I spike up her Buying Temperature too much..?? Especially since she is going out tonight, and I'm not going to be there..???? ..um..oops..

~h

Campus Game

I suppose I should begin this by providing a quick background - I am in my early/mid-20's and am furthering my education in the field of medicine..in the Caribbean! How hot is that [literally and figuratively]? I'll go more into all that at a later time, but at this point, I simply want to put into context the fact that my "field" is not quite the typical club-style setting as is more common. Instead, I focus a lot more on trying to play the social-circle game and then using that social proof and pre-selection to DHV to others..and I find it quite helpful for me specifically, because I'm not the most high-energy guy, so it gives me constant opportunities to be as high-energy as I can push myself to be [both with guys and girls, but definitely more so with the girls ;-)]. This helps me be able to reach a higher level of energy to be my "normal" if I want to tap into it, which should then help me be able to increase even higher energy levels for when I'm out in a typical club-setting..

So here's the deal with today, and it'll be quick because I have to get to a review session soon: I worked out at the school gym and could feel this bartender chick eyeing me and hoping I'd look up at her, but I was too into my music at the time [and plus, there wasn't really much I'd be able to do - I was busting out on a cardio machine]. I go to get some food and spot this one chick [HBGottaBeMixed] sitting with a group of her girls. Quick background - me and HBGottaBeMixed are casual friends, meaning we see each other around and chit-chat [usually pretty flirtatiously], and I'd #-closed her a few weeks ago the 1st week of school. There was a bit of a potential problem because I ran into her last week with my visiting-girlfriend and had just said "hey" and kept moving [and the way she and her friends was staring at us, I knew this was going to need to be settled somehow the next time I saw her]. Interesting that I'd noted this, though, because it turned out to be exactly the case: I was waiting for my food when HBGottaBeMixed decides to come over from the other side of the cafeteria area [which is around the corner], just to come get a napkin or two [despite having passed the bathroom on her way, which'll have toilet paper and paper towels]. I decided to take this as an IOI, especially when she tapped me on the arm as she passed to get my attention [since I still had my headphones on and was watching the cricket match on TV]. She turns back towards me, and I start half-walking and half-dancing up to her, and she starts laughing and dancing with me. She stops, so I reward by taking off my headphones.

h - "Well, you can't hug me because I'm all sweaty, so we'll settle for a high-5"
HBGBM - "haha ok!"
h - "Nice"

We fluff talk for a minute [she tells me she's doing some work before her next class, I look shocked, and she tells me that she does do work and assignments and was even at the library earlier, to which I look at her even more in shock and ask her incredulously whether she even knows where the library is, and she laughs and tells me she'll take me there..as she grabs my hand (which I hadn't meant for her to grab, it was just out there when I threw them up in my "shock"), so I returned the IOI by holding her hand for a little bit..although I feel like I should've continued holding it a bit longer, I wanted to play it safe and released when I thought there was some uncomfort - but it might've been my own haa], and she starts to walk past me [might be due to my releasing her hand, again, further solidifying to me that it was my own discomfort that caused me to release it]. In my mind, I feel like I can see inside hers, and it's clearly written - "He's taken!" So I know that I need to deal with this now, and I start some random story over my shoulder [wanting to lead into my indirect explanation of the gf run-in] and then slowly open towards her. She stops automatically upon noticing my gradual opening up [still amazing how automatic girls are when it comes to body language!].

h - "Man, it was so crazy! You remember I was supposed to do work last week and get caught up? Well, things didn't really work out that way..haha"
HBGBM - "haha What happened?"
h - "Well, last week was .. well, 1st off, my birthday was last week and -"
HBGBM - "What?? It was your birthday? And you didn't even tell me?? See what happens? I couldn't do anything! I didn't even know!!"
h - "Yeah .. .. I'm not one to make a big deal out of my birthday"
HBGBM - "When was it??"
h - "Um..last Monday..? Yeah, Monday"
HBGBM - "Are you going out this weekend? ..Or did you go out that weekend? blahblahblah"
h - "Yeah, check it out - so my plan was to be working through my birthday weekend, right? Well, as it turns out, my ex-gf [note: NO emphasis whatsoever on "ex" because I don't want it to seem forced, very strong eye contact so as not to seem shifty/suspicious -> lying!] showed up to surprise me for my birthday!"
HBGBM - "Oh, that's cute!" [noticeable different tone in her voice, by the way]
h - "Yeah, so basically, I didn't get any work done, since she was here.."
HBGBM - "blahblah"
h - "I know, so me and her and my roommate and some friends just like chilled the whole weekend, and it was cool! I was just surprised that she showed up..it was cool of her because she knew I was stressed about school and stuff, and so she came to help me relax and chill"
HBGBM - "Yeah blahblah"
h - "So obviously now I'm behind in my work again..!"
HBGBM - "Yeah! blahblah"
h - "I spent all this week trying to catch up, especially because I've got this big quiz on Monday..but after that, I'm going to be good - depending on how the quiz goes!"
HBGBM - "haha yeah.."
h - "I like your gear, by the way.." [IOI for IOI]
HBGBM - "Thanks! I was blahblahblah"
h - "Although, I don't know about all this.."
HBGBM - "blahblah" [trying to qualify herself]
h - "mmhmm"
HBGBM - "Well, at least it got you attention, right?? So that's good!"
h - "I guess..but it could be good or bad.."
HBGBM - "But! It still got your attention, so..!" [trying harder to qualify herself]
h - "True .. but I just don't know .. is bad attention a good thing..?"
HBGBM - "blahblahblah"
h - "Well, it's cool, though - the makes up for it .. and the Indianesque earrings are a definite plus! ;-)" [bait]
HBGBM - "Well, of course! I wear these types all the time!" [hook - more qualification, amping up her "good" attributes, by my standards]
h - "Oh, really? You must be trying to impress someone .. " [build-up bait]
HBGBM - "Yes, totally! I'm definitely trying to impress someone.." [stronger hook]
h - "Oh, I see.. .. .. well, I still don't know about the gray and blue of the sweater with the yellow top and black skirt..!" [release]
HBGBM - "..really? But it's..blahblah..and yellow and blue..blahblah"
h - "Yeah..but the gray is really throwing off the blue and yellow..and then, with the black.. "
HBGBM - "Well, black is like a universal buffer..so, it's not supposed to be in the equation, so.." [or some shit like this..?? At this point, I know she's definitely qualifying her outfit to meet my approval, and so I decide the effort definitely gets the IOIs]
h - "Ah .. so you want me to picture you without your skirt on .. ?"
HBGBM - "If you want to .. sure! .. blahblah"
h - "Whoa, whoa - get your mind out of the gutter! I'm not making making any comments like that! Sheesh!"
HBGBM - "Mine's not in the gutter!"
h - "mhmm..;-)"

At this point, one of the cafeteria ladies interrupts to get me my food, so HBGBM starts saying some random shit about being good luck for me [in reference to my earlier statement about having bad luck waiting on food waay too long], so I tease for a minute, she tries to earn an IOI from me, so finally I grant her one: "That's true, I'm so glad that you helped..I owe you for that, otherwise who knows what I would've done or what could've happened to me waiting.." [again, for her effort: "See, you didn't starve to death since I was here to keep you company!"]

h - "By the way, you know you owe me a birthday hug, kiss, and a birthday gift.."
HBGBM - "Oh, definitely!! I'll get you all that, and then one!"
h - "Ok, good .. because the interest is accruing.."
HBGBM - "haha oh man! That's ok, I'll make up for all of it and still get you some on top of that!"
h - "Sounds good..now go study!"
HBGBM - "Ok, I'll talk to you later!"

As I'm headed out, I catch a new cafeteria employee [female, of course..Hrithik don't swing that way!] staring at me, and I don't think she even realized that she was smiling at me [since I'd displayed social proof/pre-selection with HBGBM] because I smiled as I walked past, and she didn't react but just kept the smile on her face and her eyes locked on me..

Well, I'm out to the review session, but I'll be back..
~h

Introduction

Welcome to my blog!

Here I will post my latest thoughts on various topics, including game, school life, pop culture, sports, global events, and just about anything else I want to - it IS my blog.

I'll try to post as regularly as possible..we'll see how that works

~h