Always Remember to Have FUN - It's the Ultimate Attraction Switch

A reminder from Sinn on the importance of fun:


~h

Sinn on Attraction Frames

First, a quick intro on Frames, in general:


And now, the Attraction Frames:


~h

LR: Some More Text Messages

Here's a text message exchange that I had with HBMPHBrunette, and since it went really well for me, I figured I'd post it up on here for you guys to use before I deleted it.

HBMPHB: wanting to get some meds from me because she needs to study for a make-up exam

h: "Sounds cool hottie! Lemme know wen u need em..", then explained I've got different Rxs

HBMPHB: "hahaha! ur such a gangsta! dude the 30 sounds gr8! u know that i officially love you, right? let me know when ur gonna b on campus!"

h: "I love you too dearie! Esp during the booty call hrs ;-) ..but uh dont tell neone bout our secret love - it'll hurt my gangsta image :-p" [note the push-pull type of formula, following Sinn and Future's breakthrough comfort style of texting]

HBMPHB: "tell anyone? u nuts? would ruin the treasure that is our mutual love!"

h: "Very tru..i knew i kept u around 4 a reason - u're smart AND good in bed ;-) altho u do learn from the best gangsta lover ever :-p"

Later that night, we meet up for a bit to get our transaction through, and she tells me that her boyfriend goes through her phone, so she had to stop texting me when he got back.

A couple days later, she hit me up again, to get some of the other Rx, and pay me back for it all. So I texted her back, "Haha u're crazy..n it's great! I'll hit u up after my group meeting".

We met up, and she'd "left" her money in her room - how convenient, since she came out to see me..plausible deniability, anyone? ;-)

So we go back to her place, and I start talking to her about her room and some of the shit she had in there [mixed in with some sexualized comments, like how her bed was barely big enough for one person, how could we both fit on there, etc]. After a few minutes, I grabbed some DVD cover and sat down on her bed, reading the back of it. She got the money, came over and sat down on the bed, and gave it to me.

I leaned into her and told her that she smelled really nice. Then, I ran my fingertips up her neck to her hair. Then I stroked her hair and told her how I was trying so hard not to kiss her - and as it turned out, that's all I needed to do, because she lunged lip-first at my face lol

Our clothes come flying off, and next thing I know, she's bent over on her bed, with my dick rammed deep inside of her - not bad for a post-class activity :-)

It still surprises me sometimes as to just how easy this stuff can be, and how smoothly it can go, just with having the right timing with the escalation, both physical and verbal - starting back from the sexual framing in the texts all the way up to being in her room.

~h

The Phone Text: A Very Useful Tool of Game, Part 2

Another nice long, info-packed post from El Topo, on texting:


Text Game Part 2

So now we get how to open a text and one popular way to initiate a text dialog.
So let’s describe a few things around that.

I you haven't read Part 1 of the Text Post go here!
http://the-red-mole.blogspot.com/2008/0 … art-1.html

Also find out more about Subpersonalitites in Shaft's Post as well, cause I refer to the idea quite a bit.
http://the-red-mole.blogspot.com/2008/0 … ities.html

The reason why Hot Cold works so well, is because it is an element of Push Pull. I would like to do a post on changes made to models of game, but there are a lot of posts I would like to do…getting to it is the real feat! But surely I will get to it!

The reason why Push Pull is such an important part of game it because it is something that pretty much every human and animal is responsive to. It is almost like people can’t help but do it.
Now you can’t say something like ‘Hey, you sweet cunt whore, how’s your day going?’ that may piss some people off (but if you make it work…let me know). But what you want to do with each aspect of Hot Cold/Push Pull is get them to invest a little bit in it.

How we get people to invest is through Qualification, Baiting, Framing, Compliance, Dominance and Logistics.

So those are the things we are going to talk about in terms of text. And again, I would like to do a post on my teaching method of breaking down your Tools of Game along with How to Implement those Tools, but again it will probably be a few weeks on that. It I could write as fast as I could think then my blog would be a goddamn encyclopedia! Should have taken a typing class!

So the important thing with text to think of is that it is only a small part of game. So your goals in text are to do a few things.
I always like to Bring out-
-A Subpersonality in it, and it is great for that.
-It is a good use of to begin Force Framing
-It is a great Calibration Tool
-Logistically I want to engage someone with some compliance, usually accepting roles or doing small tasks.
-Build Investment emotionally (now it is important to know text probably isn’t the tool to engage serious emotions, but more reactive and surface level ones. You need an orchestration of complete game to have it effect deep rooted emotions)
-And Logistically I want to set up a time to meet, with all those frames and subpersonalities to bring to the table.

So with that in mind, instead of saying, ‘You sweet cunt whore, how is your day going?’
You want to say things that your texts to follow some sort of path that will stimulate reaction to role into another text that will build a frame, to role into another one that will build compliance to your frame, that will role into one that will bait them into a subpersonality and all be fun and exciting to engage in.

You can hook a girl very easily to be that guy that she has a text war with on a daily basis. During debriefing I always ask women when they started to know they were going to sleep with me. If I have worked them through text they will always say something like, ‘I thought you were cool when we met (she might even say a little weird…hahahaha), but I really started to think about you in that way, when I would be at work thinking about what I was going to text you or when you were going to text me’.
So go figure, but it works, and even with text you can see yourself get sucked in with it too! Beware!

Using Bait in Text-

Although this is how to Bait using text, all of the ideas like Push Pull/Hot Cold, Baiting, Qualifying, Framing, Compliance, Dominance, and Logistics all kind fo work together. But in their subcategories I will mainly be highlighting the part which it is titled. In this case Baiting.

So the idea of Bait is a reactive one. It is something that is hardwired; people can’t help but respond to if done correctly.

So let’s start with some examples-

Shortly after the first few texts, maybe the second or third one in…

-‘So I am sitting in a waiting room, and I wonder if the people around me know what I am thinking about’

-‘Guess what I am thinking of right now, I just totally saw your twin and it set me off.’

-‘OMG the craziest thing just happened, I am totally in a weird head space right now’

-‘Even tho you like X ;-), I still think you’re…well maybe not LOL’

-‘I am totally bored, don’t even TEMPT me with those thoughts! ☺’

-‘You have no what I just saw, you would totally LOVE it, in that sort of BAD girl sort of way…LOL!’

Ok so let’s take a look at these. Now some of them are doing a few things here.
The first one-
-‘So I am sitting in a waiting room, and I wonder if the people around me know what I am thinking about’
What you’re doing is trying to bait them into a simple question. One being, ‘where are you?’ or Two being, “What are you thinking about?’For a while Sinn, Shaft and myself would always ask two questions, or give two things to respond to in our texts to calibrate. We don’t so much anymore, but it is a great tool to use. Now with either answer you can go somewhere.
But the one that shows she is more likely to quickly accept a frame over text is if she answers anything about what you are thinking. Reason why is because if she answers that she is curious about something that leaves a huge door open to.
An office space is pretty mundane, what someone thinks that might offend the ‘norm’ hanging out in the office can be something pretty interesting, well if you’re a PUA.

So if she says ‘Where are you?’ no big deal, you text back something like,‘Trust me you don’t want to know, but these people are freaks! Totally your crowd ☺’
or
‘The funny thing is that, I am normally really into bizarro things, but I usually need a wing, next time I am bringing you! And you’ll never guess…’

So let’s take a look at a few more breakdowns…
-‘Guess what I am thinking of right now, I just totally saw your twin and it set me off.’
When I took my BC Sinn told me Future and him used the father text of this…’OMG I totally just saw your twin’ to calibrate how quickly a girl would reply. If she replied quick it meant you could begin with likely fruition on your text/phone journey.
So then we added a little more to it. Mainly because we wanted to see what she would reply too and our Bait was then more voiced to lead towards curiosity on what we are thinking. It may hook it may not. So in the first two texts a good thing to point out is asking two questions in the same text.
We will touch on that later.
But our Bait is always leading to a frame or subpersonality, or maybe even something else.

So it is best to get a response about ‘what you were thinking’ but you may get a response on the ‘twin’ part. The main thing is this will get a likely response. And you should probably use this text as a opener as well or the first text in a new exchange with someone you have been texting. It leads very well into some tactical conversations.

Replies to the twin part might be…
‘Yeah I was totally excited at first, but didn’t have that wicked side to here. LOL!’
‘And you should have SEEN the look on her face when I snuck up from behind, butt I think YOU could have handled it! HAHAHA!’

Replies to the thinking part might be…
‘All I got to say is….bad girl! LOL :-D!!!!’
‘I was actually REALLY disturbed! I knew I remembered you…stay HOTT!’

So you get the idea with that. This would go on forever if I were to breakdown all of them, so let’s go to the next Implementation of the Tool…

Qualification in Text-

This is one that you can open a text conversation with, but to really use qualification you want to use it a bit later in the exchange, but it can be fairly impactive within 2 or 3 texts in.
But first let’s talk about Qualification.
So Qualification is a get way to get a lot of things. Lot’s of people go on and on about it and it is something that many discussions can be had about it.
Most of those discussions show its use in gaining investment in the group.
There is a great Audio Program out there that has Sinn and Vision going over Qualification. Most people say it is one of the best Audio Products out there. It is something that has a long history and has evolved quite a bit.

But here are its uses-
-Gain Value and Compliance (throughout your set) towards Value. Build investment essentially, through a ladder of Qualifiers or establish your value, to make her feel the need to invest her Emotions or work up to your Value.
-Calibrate where you are at in set. So it was said many a times by Future in many Seminar rooms (probably many other people too, but I can still hear Future saying it in my head) ‘Qualification is the Gateway to Rapport. This is because is was a good way to know you could enter Comfort and also it was a good way to transition into a Comfort base story. The funny thing is that Qualification is now used in Comfort (little bit of a different twist, but definitely Qualification, and it is the total LMR buster in Seduction. Qualification is thee way to Blast through LMR and is one of the Roots to the KFP.
-And the most neglected use of Qualification is that is defines where you go next in Set!
It is what you need to show which way you are going, and in Text this is important!
What I mean is let’s say you are talking about eating Bats in the Amazon your DHV story (and let me tell you I can go on and on about how misused DHV stories are in the community), and you want to transition out of it.
You can Qualify with,‘So what is something you have done that made you know what your passions were?’
With that you can then talk about your passions and hers and all that stuff. Good for building bonds and many, many other things.

But let’s say instead you talk about eating Bats in the Amazon and transition out with…
‘So what’s the craziest thing you have ever done?’
No this can go a little more sexual… both can but with this you are using Bait to take the set somewhere into a more racy territory.

Both Qualifiers are good, neither one is better, depends on where you are in the set and where you want to go. And the Qualifier tells you where to go. That to me is a pretty important use to negate. So USE IT!

Some examples of text for qualification might be…

Opening Text with a Qualifier-

-‘So what is your favorite Karaoke song! ;-)’

-‘So wait, you always pick up guys, when they are DRUNK!’

Again opening with a qualifier is pretty weak use of a qualifier, but be creative and fun with it and it will work.


A few Texts in-
Think about if they fall into one of your Baiting texts you can empower it with your Qualifier.

-‘Jezz! You really do have a WILD side don’t you?’

-‘What kind of girl are you…really? I mean you didn’t really put that off when I met you, but go figure! LOL’

-‘So you are really starting to make me wonder, who taught you your text etiquette?’

-‘I am not sure if I really know about you yet… are you one of those girls that doesn’t always play nice…’
So you can see from this that the qualifiers really do have somewhat of a Baiting element to them too. They are also the beginnings to Frames, Compliance and bringing out that subpersonality.

Remember Qualification is a tool to progress on in the right direction!

And that will take us to….

Compliance through Text

Now here will probably be one of the more rich parts of the post, because it will map out how you need to text (the flow of text or the rhythm). Compliance does a few things…
But at its fundamental it brings out repetition in the target working in a certain direction.
Normally I bring up Framing before Compliance, but I will lead with compliance here to better describe Framing later.
Normally compliance is just thought of as getting a girl to do something for you. This alone is super effective. In fact I remember on a Workshop in Hawaii, Tyler Durden spent about 20mins describing to a student what Compliance was, and this opened my eyes to a larger field of it. Also Shaft can talk, and I mean talk about the importance of Compliance in all forms of Game.

But other than getting someone to do tasks, you can build a Qualification ladder with Compliance, you can build frames with Baiting someone by making them Compliant to your interaction with them, you can make someone fulfill a narrative that brings out a Subpersonality through Compliance. Basically you can use Compliance to get someone to follow your lead.
Compliance is the fucking shit, so see it as not just getting someone to fulfill actions, but also to be made to interact with you in a specific way that helps Frame them into your Subpersonality.

My example will be an exchange with breakdown of what I am attempting to do through Text. Here goes….

PUA- ‘You won’t believe what just happened! You should have BEEN HERE!’
Target- ‘?’
PUA- ‘Really that is ALL you can write ‘?’ I thought you spoke text…lol, are you sitting down?’
Target- ‘Yeah, I am at work, WHAT HAPPENED, is that better? ☺’
PUA- ‘This chick just totally went crazy at the store, I thought, I wish (target’s name) was here.’
Target- ‘I don’t know if I would have wanted too, what did she do?’
PUA- ‘Yeah, I am not sure if you would have laughed or joined in…’
Target- ‘That depends what it was she was doing’
PUA- ‘I still am not sure…either you’d be all over it or ur one of those PG 13 girls’
Target- ‘Wouldn’t you like to know?’
PUA- ‘That says it ALL right there! ;-)’
Target- ‘OMG, you are totally crazy… You might not want to know! :p’
PUA- ‘ME totally Crazy! F U!’
Target- ‘YES! And F U too ☺’
PUA- ‘That is sweet, but now you’re are totally making me wonder and now U won’t want to know… ’
Target ‘You couldn’t even imagine’
PUA- ‘Seriously, I have to drive now, so take it easy on me, you wouldn’t want to cause an accident now would you???’
Target- ‘Accident? That might be fun, good thing I am not there! Lol!’
PUA- ‘So now I am totally bored, entertain me… are you at work?’
Target- ‘Yes’
PUA- ‘And what are you doing?’
Target- ‘I am sitting at my desk answering my boss’ emails’
PUA- ‘Woman… really, I though you spoke text…how are you going to make me crash with THAT!’
Target- ‘HA! I thought I was PG 13’
PUA- ‘Ahh, we proved that you only are when you’re at the club, but at work I know what REALLY goes on!’
Target- ‘So dirty?’
PUA- ‘Actually it is one of the worst places that my mind wanders, just think if I was at work, my imagination would be corrupted even MORE by U! ’
Target- ‘You are a trip, I think you’re corrupting me!’
PUA- ‘Good cause later I may need your help, I have a crazy meeting I have to attend ☹…’
Target- ‘HA! We will see…’
PUA- Stop with that ‘we will see’ crap, you’re totally my text BITCH! Lol!’
Target- ‘Ahhh Text BITCH… couldn’t you come up with something else.’
PUA- ‘Yeah but, text me BACK….BITCH! by the way I am almost back and still no crash…’
Target- ‘CRASH BITCH!’
PUA- ‘You’re supposed to make me do that in another way…come on GET TO WORK!’
Target- ‘You’re too much. I can’t handle you…’
PUA- ‘That is what I thought! Lol. No really, what are you doing later, I will need someone to perk me up in a few hours.’
Target- ‘Why are you asking I thought I was your BITCH! Hahaha!’
PUA- ‘Jezz UR having way too much fun, maybe I should give you a whip so you can step it up’
Target- ‘I like whips’
PUA- ‘And I do too, but I don’t use them, I prefer using my hand!’
Target- ‘Now that depends, when and where…’
PUA- ‘Really, I think that you know WHEN and WHERE, unless you’re really more creative than me… and then I don’t want to know’
Target- ‘ That’s right BITCH!’
PUA- ‘Look woman, talk all you want, but I will turn you inside and out’
Target- ‘I am waiting…’
PUA- ‘And be waiting with a wheelchair cause you might need it’
Target- ‘LOL!’

Ok so this is a pretty common exchange.
No what you see in the first part of this, is a lot of baiting toward sex using really fun attitude. Text game is all Attraction being used as a door to open up different parts of her. This particular girl was not biting at first but still going along with it. This always suck, but if she is at least somewhat entertaining your ideas you can still press on very lightly. You always want her following your lead.
The whole time I am leading the interaction, and the whole time I am reframing her replies to what I want to see them as.
The more I can get her to follow my path of the narrative, the more I make her Compliant.
And the reason why I chose this exchange was because it took her a while to warm up and it was done without any breaks in the text, it all took place over one day.

So now I text saying, ‘BITCH I am bored TEXT BACK!’ and she does.You can also see the slow escalation of her turning more towards me. Eventually she does but it wasn’t immediate. The thing is that once they walk through enough of your doors (along with it being a fun interaction) they will ultimately continue on.
Compliance is something that can build your whole foundation to game.

For now that is all…

~h

The Phone Text: A Very Useful Tool of Game

Busy, busy, busy..I'll talk about that in a later post, though!

Here is something I found really interesting and helpful, from El Topo - it is something that I've been doing more and more of lately, without having fully realized it, and definitely without the game-plan analyzation that Topo has on it..he is the professional :-p

Check it out..

The Text Game

This is one long post so I am breaking it down in a few parts. I will get the rest of the posts up in the next few days.

Texting is something that about a year ago I realized the community didn’t have a lot of solid info on.

Now like all things, there is a lot of info on it, but not a lot of it I found was really useful.
There were some routines to get a response form someone, but none that built beyond that.
There are a lot of dynamics to text game, and I am known for the fairly aggressive style, but I practice a bunch of different forms and have friends who have a lot of different techniques on how to text as well. Hopefully this post will shed some light on that.

I will say that a lot of us actually game with text messaging as a pretty useful tool.
So it is a Tool of Game,
you can take a lot of short cuts with use of Text and IM, and then there are some other things that you can’t really make as effective in it. A good example would be, you can get very sexual with a girl over text in a fairly quickly, but you can’t really show too much of a human side with it either. You can’t penetrate deep 'comfort' emotions in text, you are mainly dealing with surface level emotions, hence the fantasy element.

Not the only way but a way to game.

What inspired this post was a few things.

The First was that someone texted a girl I had dated, “what’s up HOOKER!”. This text was kind of a joke that actually turned into many fruitful experiences, but the thing to point out about texting in such an offensive manner is not to belittle people, but to stimulate a response and have a then door to elicit sexuality.

The Second is that a few email blasts came into my email box saying that they had the Text Message Secrets. Now there is definitely good text material out there, but the series of texts they listed in this email (that was just released last week) was pathetic. I know the guys who wrote it, and they are super PUAs, but it once again opened my eyes to how some of the stuff put out there can be complete bullshit.

And the Third thing I would have to say is that I use text a lot, my friends use text a lot. We all do it a little different, but there is definitely a theoretical formula we follow.

So let’s begin here by saying Game is communication and orchestrating it to follow the direction that you want.
You are Socially Engineering interactions with people.
That includes it all, you can do this in a very Passive way that can be very influential, and you can do it in a Manipulative way. That is up to you. Game has been used and abused like a hooker’s pussy.

So the one thing to realize about any superficial communication is that is can fit a Fantasy World or can be given an Identity or Frame or Linked to a Subpersonality.
What I mean by superficial type of communication is communication that someone’s deeper emotions are not involved.
That includes Communication in any area of Attraction. And the more distanced it is from reality the better.

This way you bypass a lot of comfort and can get to seduction a lot faster than before. This is what Captain Jack did with frames, starting them early and then have him define an out come with less emotional investment. This is what I see when I read Brad P’s LRs (good product by the way), he would make his Attraction Game very Sexual, and made it fun allowing his targets to

So in person, face to face, that is the most ‘real’ you can get with someone. And it is harder to get them to accept a fantasy role in the early stages, or harder for them to accept a subpersonality role. However, the face to face meeting is what our over all goal, it is pretty hard to stick your dick in someone without this happening.

Over the phone, this is somewhat personal but much easier for someone to jump into a subpersonality or live out some extension of themselves. The main point here, is that because there is some detachment from interacting personally people will be more willing to step outside of their identity they convey when in public.

Over Email it can totally be done, but you have got to fish for it. You can’t immediately try and turn someone into a bleeding romantic, a sexually frustrated slut, or whatever your goal is. But you can get there pretty deep, pretty quick. In fact when I first started this was a big tool of mine. Very comfort based, and I still don’t know many people that have met someone for 10 mins and carried out an email conversation with them for a few weeks and then without talking over the phone was able to close them. This I did quite a bit last year consistently.

Over Chat or Text, what this post is about, is a really easy way to get someone to accept some passive role with you and very quickly build that momentum towards sex. The funny thing was that a lot of my friends in the community would not believe me when I would tell them about the texts that I would exchange with people. I would tell them about texts and they thought I was exaggerating. I thought this was a natural thing to do. It always made sense that you can be a totally freak over text. I thought people did it all the time.

Then I met Levo and Doc Holiday and a few other people in the community that were doing stuff that I was doing. They were also being sexually aggressive in their Texts!
Also one of the books (Social Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman) I have always talked about as having pages and pages full of information relevant towards game mentioned a study about Instant Messenger Game.If I wasn’t so lazy I would site the page it is on, but the general idea was that there were normal Teen/Young Adults that would have no leanings towards dysfunctional behavior, yet within minutes of Instant Messaging people they went sexual.

I just think that for guys like myself in the Community, we tend to over think how people can normally act. And escalation in Text can be normal. Now mix it with some strategy and you can make it one of your biggest weapons.

But was always doing this sort of thing naturally. I have always been some who could push things too far and recover so I did that in game and I did it in text too.

Although my PUA friends believed me in what I would text wanted to see proof. And they got it eventually.
I was with Sinn and Future in Chicago and we were finishing up workshop. I started a text exchange with a girl and the value in this was that it was one long exchange. It didn’t happen over days, weeks, months, it went from me having her number sending a text and in an hour or so, she was masturbating (or so she said) while texting me back and forth.

The post is called “the Sexualized Text” I think I put it up in July or August of Last Year.

At this point people would constantly ask me about text, and when I was out they would ask me advice.
I would give it to them and sometimes it would work and other times it wouldn’t.
In fact one thing that Shaft says is that whenever he uses my texts, he gets no response. But what he started to point out was that there was a method to what I was doing.

Also at the time, Sinn and Future with their Break Through Comfort program had started adding a text aspect to it.
They would get girls in a whirlwind of “Hot Cold Texts”. And when we were looking at the consistencies in what we were all doing we were going “Hot Cold”

Now in this I want to breakdown a few different ways to Text.
There is stuff, I do, Sinn does, Captain Jack does, Shaft does, and little things I have picked up from other folks (PUAs and naturals).

There is a lot here, and it really is up to the other guys to breakdown their methods, I am just offering what I notice from observing these guys and how I have been able to replicate it.

Before we get to any sort of “Hot Cold”, we need to establish how we initiate the text.
It is not really an opener, but it contains the same sort of traits as an opener. Your initial text is supposed to stimulate attention back. It is supposed to elicit a response. It is not supposed to gain too much traction, mainly because it really can’t at that point. Like an opener it is just there to open communication.

You also need to realize that one of the best ways to text is text like a girl would. Careful placement of emoticons and capitalization work out well.

So here is the old standard that you can never really go wrong with when initialing text…

“Do you speak text … (name) ☺”

If you want you can be kind of quirky or funny with them, may sound stupid, but they work. Some quirkier ones might be…

“I just totally ate (or any other verb) the craziest thing, and in a really weird way it made me think of YOU! :P”

“I am sending you this text before I forget and tomorrow’s hangover kicks in, TEXT ME BACK WOMAN!”

“Right now I am in the bathroom, wondering if there is ever a beneficial way to write someone’s number on the wall. But it was awesome meeting you last night. :p”

“This is (insert name), text me something cool… ;P "

So now you have opened her up and where do you go from there?
Well what are your goals?
Are you trying to build a relationship with her? Are you trying to lay her as quick as possible? Are you trying to keep her around as a possible fuck buddy?
One thing that I am a big fan of, is that I will treat all the girls I pursue as SNLs. I want to go for the Lay as quick as possible. This is because it cuts out the completely unnecessary comfort that was once thought necessary in the community.
So what I am trying to do in my initial interactions is this-

-I am trying to split her personality. I want text to be a fantasy world with her.
-I want to gain compliance in the rhythm of how I am texting. For instance if I send texts that elicit an emotionally heated response, then I want to be the one cooling it down and turning it sexual.
-I want to get sexual. This is easier than you would think in text. I generally bait for it and it comes to the surface.
-I want them to facilitate a role, weather it is texting me back or performing some task that they are designated to they need to be dong something for me under my definition of them.
- I need to get them in an exchange that they can’t get out of. They emotionally isolate themselves with me through text, thus my interactions with them are a secret.

“Hot Cold”
This is kind of the original consistency we came up with, but it makes sense.
It is pure Attraction Game, and text is really Attraction Game that can be built into so many different realms. to sleep with you.

What this is, is simple. You send a text that carries one nice thing, and one teasing thing. This can go in further extremes, to something totally endearing and another totally repulsive. Like, “Just thinking about you ;)… would you get OUT of my HEAD!”
Why ‘Hot Cold’ works is because it gets a response and you are leading it. If you gain compliance over changing a anyone’s emotions you gain compliance over them. Humans are not logical, drama is a good thing when trying to speed along an interaction with women.
That is how Bait hook Reel Release and Push Pull work and this is push pull at its best. Here are a few examples of initial texts using “Hot Cold” in terms of an Opening Text… they do get better.
As you will see below, I have played around with putting the push before the pull and vise versa. No need to put that much thought in it. I give both examples. I think the lead out with the coldness may work better, but the main thing is that cat-like dynamic we are trying to portray.

“WTF I can’t believe you’re actually going home! I guess the after party will have to be going one without you”

“I am totally thinking about that (some detail about your interaction, like an odd article about their clothing)…You really shouldn’t tempt me creative minds can be trouble.”

“So today I totally ran into your twin! LOL! Except she was a good girl ☺!”

“You’re too much here…so what are up to tomorrow? ;P”

Now what is important here is not the examples specifically, but the nature of the dialogue. The two things at once, the beginnings of Hot Cold. The quicker you can become that guy she texts in her own world rather than that guy she texts that she politely responds to, if at all the better.

Escalating Hot Cold

Now one of the traps of any sort of Hot Cold interaction can be fucked up pretty easily.
It still works like a charm, but it can work like a charm in the wrong directions. So if you are using it to escalate than you need to know what direction you are going in. How it can go wrong is that is can add too much comfort and lead people towards relationships, and using Hot Cold to shape a relationship can be really out of control, cause if you play it how I do than you’ll frame the women to be totally dramatic.
So we want our Hot cold to go sexual and not emotional. To do that we need to start identifying their reactions and roles as sexual, this works out really well in text.

Here is a breakdown-
“Ok so you really think that!? Such a BAD girl…”
So the Cold (negative) part is “Ok so you really think that?” then the Hot (positive) part is “Such a BAD girl…”
Here her compliment is fitting her identity to be a positive one, but positive in a deviant way.
Now Game is something that is not really ‘making’ people do what they don’t want to do. Game is making the right situations come out and leading which way they grow. So we are not saying right off the bat, ‘you are a bad girl’. We are putting a very attractive stereotype out there and seeing if she accepts it. 8 out of 10 times she will.
Remember, we are just trying to help that sort of side come out of her.

So here are some examples of Text Exchanges Escalating Hot Cold-

PUA- “So I was just thinking…WTF did I do last night? Did I randomly text someone I shouldn’t have (don’t you hate that)…you came to mind ;) ”

Target- “LOL! No you’re safe here. No drunk texts.”

(So this is a weak response, but still a response. You want to actually get them invested, but it is your first text so no worries)

PUA- “So either you’re saving me from embarrassment or telling the truth. I like a girl that can keep a secret!”

Target- “I always tell the truth! So now you have got me wondering”

(this is a better response, she addressed both comments but still not too invested)

PUA- “Don’t press too hard WOMAN! Today has been totally crazy, I might SNAP!”

Target- “What? Snap???”

PUA- “Crazy stuff with a client of mine. But now it’s your job to make me feel better! But don’t get and crazy ideas I might not be able to handle it! ;)”

Target- “HA! ☺ Just what did you have in mind? I think I could give you a lot that you can’t handle. LOL”

PUA- “Now you’re giving me making me think of all sorts of crazy thoughts… ease up bad girl”

So what is happening here is using a hot cold dynamic to progress on in the exchange. One of the things here is that I am moving more towards a fantasy dynamic with the target and moving it to bring out a sexual subpersonality for them to fulfill.
But notice how the parts where I am saying things like, “don’t press too hard WOMAN! Today has been totally crazy, I might SNAP!”
I capitalize things like WOMAN! To get a bit of a rise out of her, and then I seed her to take on a position where I can give her a role to fulfill.

The next text I send then says, “but now it’s your job to make me feel better!”
This is something we will get into later, but it is something that Sinn does to gain compliance in a role in text to efficiently begin framing them, saves a lot of time in person with them.

~h

Some Text Messages

Here are some text messages that have worked well for me, so I wanted to share and pass them along for further use before I deleted them from my phone:

"Hey gurrl..u know somethin? U totally distracted me this weekend, bc u kept poppin up in my mind..u suck!" [gets some comfort in, but with a teasing tone at the end to diffuse out any awkwardness by just stating "I can't get you out of my head"]

"Lollll there's that hidden kinky side - n that's y u r so awesome!" [in response to something that I chose to "mis"understand as a sexual comment - frames it as her trying to seduce me, as well as rewarding her for it]

"Hey [nickname for HBBlondeBlackModel] i missed u @ the bus stop 2day :-p" [a little bit of comfort in the joke referencing the fact that we'd seen/met each other at the bus stop like 3 times within a span of days, and then we disappeared..it also creates an opportunity to later refer back to this with a much stronger comfort aspect, in terms of "everything happens for a reason, what are the odds that we met at blahblah, and then never again blahblah"]

"Yea - u don't wanna come off 2 strong n scare me away lol but it's ok, bc i believe xpressin urself is a good thing" [in response to her reply from above - lets her know that it is okay to tell me when she's thinking of me and other things like that]

"I don't know why, but i've been thinkin about you like throughout the day..you suck!" [notice the downplay of "text talk", to make the message seem more sincere and heartfelt]

"Thats a good idea, thanks! Man i love wen u take care of me!" [girlfriend-type frame of her taking care of me, and me appreciating that]

"Hmm u did not seem 2 b the type who would not respond 2 a txt from me" [sent to HBBBM after a couple of unanswered texts - it frames her as being a person who wants to interact with me, not someone who would blow me off, without it coming off as though I'm upset or accusing her of blowing me off..result: she called me immediately as she headed to work]

"I was thinkin about you, i'm not really sure why..so i figured i'd text you real quick during a study break. Hope you have a great day!" [straight comfort-building as well as keeping open lines of communication]

"Hey [nickname]! I'm glad i let u cum c me earlier - us chillin, even for a lil bit, totally helped me de-stress..you are awesome, lookin out for me like that!" [another girlfriend-type frame of her taking care of me, and me giving her positive feedback on that]

"Hey cute - i just got up a lil bit ago..tried 2 hit u back (it said ur # is unavailable)..its crazy, u were the 1st thing that popped in2 my head 2day.." [another comfort-builder]

"Cool idea i'll hit u up 2morrow n let u know wen im free" [positive feedback to HBKraaazyBody when she suggested she "should probably come over and see you this weekend, huh?" especially by taking it to mean that she is coming over and not just suggesting that we should, and it shows that I have things going on rather than just dropping everything to be able to see her]

"HB! :-) I hope u r still, u know..alive..n shit" [this I say and text to girls all the time, when I haven't seen them around or talked to them for a bit - their level of qualification to you will show how invested they are in you]

"Lol i got the food come cummin on, so we'll jus take a nap 2gether :-p Cum by in bout an hr" [creates physical ideas in her mind, of us laying in bed, bf-gf like, but also the things that can lead to, sexually]

"Hmm well u cud cum over n i fuck ur brains out" [sent to a couple of chicks after they asked how I was feeling: "tired, lazy, and horny..the usual..trying to do work, but it's hard.." - sex is normal, and I'm feeling sex-y, but at the same time since it is so blatant, there's no awkwardness because I could just be messing around with them: if they're not on the same page, they'll think "he can't be serious"]

"Tru tru, thats a really cool thing bout u - u r real w me n EMBRACE ur sexuality, n r not afraid 2 xpress ur body's wants n desires..that makes u so great, 2 me" [qualifying her on talking and acting the way she was as a really good quality and providing positive re-enforcement to continue to do so..resulted in the girl coming over, dropping her shit, and jumping me immediately - I barely even got her up to my room before my roommate saw her literally ripping my shirt to get it off]

"Makin pancakes..yes, @ 1am..made me think of u.. does that sound lame? U suck" [breakthrough comfort text, model/structure from Sinn & Future]

"Mann i had this test 2day, totally sucked..wen i was done w it, u popped in2 my head - n stayed 4 a good bit..does that sound lame? U suck" [real good responses from just about every girl I sent it to, especially HBKraaazyBody, who indirectly let me know what she thinks of me/us..she's pretty closed-up in her nature when it comes to showing signs of liking a guy vs. just being cool with him]

"Hey cutie! I was just thinkin bout u the other day - thats crazy! ;-) i'll def needa go that way by this wknd 4 sure, we shud hook up! U know, it's real good 2 hear from u.." [notice how it sounds like her idea to meet up, since she brought up the point of whether I'll be at the mall anytime soon, and also the positive feedback so that she'll want me "2 hear from" her more often]

"Good idea..u wanna cum n tuck me in?" [in response to HBKraaazyBody suggesting I sleep because I'm tired..that original text was already suggesting to her the whole bf-gf relation type of comfort through its wording, and then this text adds in the element of the physicality/sexuality to the comfort feelings]

~h

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I'm Back, Part I

It's been a busy past few weeks, and it's not slowing down just yet, but I had a minute and wanted to get down some things.

I had my mid-terms for neuroscience, physiology, and immunology..and I rocked 2 of the 3. But I can make up immuno on the final as it stands now.

Also, I'm trying to follow a new rule: since I've got enough girls in some phase or other of the M3 model, I will only have these girls pleasure me, i.e. no more self-gratification ;-) This will force me to escalate and push for the closes with them, which seems to be a sticking point of mine at times with all this other stuff going on - you know, medical school and all that.

Going with this, the Wednesday during mid-terms I told HBNeedyLocal"GF" that I was really stressed out about my neuro exam the next day, and I phrased it with a sexual sub-context, talking about how I needed to calm down and take my mind off the exam so I can focus, etc. She picked up on it, and asked me "u want a blowjob? yes, im serious!" This was very impressive, especially since her biggest psychological barrier is getting physical [a lot of her own personal issues - she's a virgin, and I don't feel okay with pushing her into all that]. So I framed it into a qualification-type situation by claiming that she's not serious and is only fucking with me, to get her to prove her statement and following through on it. That way, either she does it [yes!] or she backs down [which is still okay, because she'll know she lost points with me].

She came over, and after some initial nervousness on her part, she went to work. I flipped her over and busted all over her sweet ass. I should've done some kind of debrief, in this case at least to ask when/why she decided to offer and follow through on getting physical.

The next evening, after my exam, there was a talent show by the honor society/fraternity on campus. And I decided I'd participate to help me get my mind completely off of exams and to get my dancing some more exposure. So I did the same act from last term's Indian cultural show, and I thought I was messing up bad all over the place - I hit a lady with my sunglasses when I threw them into the crowd, my hair got all messed up, I kicked out and broke a couple of light bulbs, and then almost fell off the stage..all within the first 2 minutes. But apparently I kicked some serious ass, because I won the grand prize, and a local coffee shop/cafe owner was so impressed that he awarded me an additional prize of 10 free pizzas to me and my friends at his place with a live band and everything. And the people went nuts over my performance, I guess because most of them had never seen me dance before, much less seen such a hot break dance/hip-hop-style dance with Bollywood songs in the mix. And I had all kinds of girls giving me that doggy dinner-bowl look, which made me feel like a fuckin rock star. I made sure to number-close a few, but not too many to make it look lame, and even made plans to get brownies made for me by these 2 cute roommates.

That Saturday was the once-a-term beach bash party the student government does, since it's after everyone's mid-terms. I didn't plan on going, but my roommate's parents were visiting, and they along with my roommate were very verbal about me going, so I rolled. And I'm glad, because it was cool. I ran into a number of people I know, I met others, and got some pictures with a few of my local galfriends, ranging from cute to super-hot, including the girl who placed 2nd in the Miss Grenada-World competition [HBRunnerUp]..maybe I'll post some pictures later. HBKraaazyBody was there, too, looking fine as hell because of her tight shirt and see-through shorts - whew! I decided that I needed to try to get things back on with her again real soon.

After a couple of hours, I was ready to bounce back to our place, so we picked up some food and rolled. HBBlondeBlackModel had called me, so I called her back - she told me she'd just gotten done with some modeling rehearsal stuff and was headed home, so I very bluntly told her to come over to my place and help me pack instead.

When she first got there, I was just like 'Damn, you're so fine!' She's got such a gorgeous face, honestly, there's a strong resemblance to this shot of Rihanna.

Plus, she's got a nice ass and big boobs. And a cool personality.

I started with kino right off, getting a lingering hug. Then I introduced her to my roommate and her parents [so now she's met my roommate and a couple of my cool friends from the weekend before mid-terms when she suggested she swing by my friend's place where we were studying to see me for a bit..and I had a big Popsicle stain on my shorts - that's hot].

Then we went right to my room, where I already had a movie playing, and my suitcase open with things scattered about. She went straight to the bed [I had the movie playing, with the screen facing the bed..so it cued her to go sit there to watch it], but I made the mistake of leaving the door open, so we chilled and talked and kinoed, but I knew I couldn't really do anything too much. I played her my dance clip from the talent show, too, to get the attraction back in there as well as a major DHV, with the follow-up stories about how I won, etc, but I also threw in my "funny mistakes" so it didn't seem like I was just showing off or bragging.

After that, I moved her to the couch, figuring to at least get some movement in, mini-moves or whatever, as well as to get a more boyfriend-girlfriend feel to our interaction in order to get her feeling more and more comfortable with me. In fact, I used a quick jealousy plot-line to do it, because I busted out my pimp-ass, touch-screen camera to show her a few pictures [the ones from the beach party with my different galfriends], especially the one with me and HBRunnerUp. I should've used this opportunity to take a picture or 2 of, and with, her, to add to the boyfriend-girlfriend relation as well as for my own record, since she' is really hot.

My roommate came in between and talked with her for a bit, so I did a mini-freeze on her by getting up and packing some stuff while commenting on my roommate's stories. Then he left, and I kept the freeze-out..she broke, so I rewarded her by giving her attention again. Then eventually made my way back to the couch with her. And she did good, cuddled right up on me. As we were watching the movie [Not Another Teen Movie] and talking, she started playing with my hair, or my arm/hand, or my leg/knee. I was like, damn, she's playing me!

My roommate came back, trying to help keep the mood - good looks, bro. He brought us a bottle of wine and 2 wine glasses, poured it for us, told us to enjoy and did a little bow like he was our waiter for the evening. And she was just loving it.

All of this, mixed in with the sexual frames from before, worked out to have a pretty tight combo: she was even telling me about some of her sexual encounters, mainly that with the same sex..yea, same sex - her and some of her girlfriends getting it on with each other, going down on each other, etc. It was hot shit. But I think I may have shown a little too much eagerness/dwelled on it a bit too long. Remember, sex and sexuality are normal, natural things, especially for an awesome high-value guy like me, so do NOT get too caught up or involved in talking about it, from a reactionary perspective.

I really think she wanted to spend the night and get it on with the H-rod, but I knew my flight was early as hell the next morning, and I couldn't afford to have something go wrong on my way to see my girlfriend, in Disney World. All I could think about at that moment was posts by Sinn and Captain Jack and El Topo, knowing that what I should do is screw the sleep and get the girl, especially because of the process-oriented mentality I should have at this point. But I couldn't do it, so eventually I started dropping the hints, and a girlfriend of hers who apparently lives on a neighboring island had just landed here and called her to convince her to come out that night with her. Earlier, she'd blown off her other friends who were trying to get her to come out, so that she could hang with me. But, she picked up on the hints that I had to get shit done and sleep, plus her out-of-country friend showing up out of the blue, got her to change her mind.

It was not a "loss" at all, especially now that I've got some of this info down in writing, so I can refer back to it for the future, because we did up it a couple notches by getting in more comfort, increased kino still, kissing a few different times, etc, so overall I think I'm still straight with it. It's just a matter of getting her crazy schedule figured out enough to be able to chill with her again. She actually even sent me a text, apologizing that she'd left "so early"..at 10pm or so. I should've left it at that, but I texted her back something about she'll just have to make it up to me when I return, hopefully without spilling any wine on my couch [teasing her about, yep: having spilled a few drops of wine on my couch].

~h

A Few [originally meant to be] Quick Notes

Earlier today [~a little before 1pm] I sent a text to HBBlondeBlackModel. Have her actively thinking about me, but also do it in a non-invested way [I am studying for mid-terms..plus, to her, I'm not just going to call her any/all the time - got to keep her on her toes, and I don't need her thinking she's "got me"].

h: "I was thinking about you, i'm not really sure why..so i figured i'd text you real quick during a study break. Hope you have a great day!"

Within 2 minutes..

HBBBM: "Have a good 1 too. :-)"

Having such a quick response = it's definitely very much on [credit: Sinn].

But of course, when you're looking for reasons to procrastinate, you don't just leave such a simple response as-is. So I proceeded to analyze the shit out of it - anything is more exciting than memorizing Immunology.

Here's what I came up with:

• She responded. Sometimes, people don't respond to texts where there's no response required, because it costs 16 cents [local currency] per page of message. Or they don't have any credit on their phone at the time [example: 1-to-2-day-late responses from HBGroceryStore on a regular basis, due to her lack of phone credit at times].
  
• Immediate response = she's very much into me [okay, so I didn't come up with that one, but I did think it immediately..and then realized why - because Sinn rocks]
• " :-) " .. she doesn't do smiley-faces. I know this, because she never uses them or responds to/with them - she just..doesn't..at all. It's just not her "way" of texting. And her texts are usually not very expressive..at all.

I like this text message and will probably use it in the future, too, because it tells her that:

• She is/was on my mind [meaning, I might like her, or something].
• The "i'm not really sure why" takes away any weirdness that may be associated with the fact that I'm thinking about her while at the same time goes into the emotional spectrum since emotions are not logical and thus there's no logical reason as to why I was thinking about you [I'm not weird, I just randomly thought about you - for some inexplicable reason]. Plus, it conveys that I have emotions, and I am in-tune enough with them to be aware of them, and man enough to admit all this to a woman.
• "So i figured i'd text you" conveys acting on those emotions = Attraction switch [especially with the "I'm a passionate guy, and I think everyone should be passionate" frame and "follow your heart" frame from the other day on the phone].
• "real quick during a study break" tells her that I am a busy guy, I do have shit to do, and [most likely] I lead an interesting life - it works almost like an indirect DHV. It also says that despite me being busy and leading an interesting life, I still thought about you, and I made time and put in effort to let you know, i.e. for you. And this leads to, in an indirect way, that therefore you are probably somewhat important to me, i.e. I like you.
• "Hope you have a great day!" sends across the super-positive vibe and full-of-life-and-energy image, which is an attractive quality. And it fits in pretty nicely with some of the frames from our talk the other day on the phone - great outlook, cool and fun personality, living in the moment, living life to the fullest, etc. And to a certain degree, especially in the context of the rest of the message, it says that I sincerely want you to have a great day, because I care about you. And bonus here is that if she does have a good/great day, she will associate that idea/feeling with me because I wanted that for her..which then loops back to reinforce that I genuinely must care about her, at least to some degree.

.. .. .. ..


Tonight, I ran to campus for "a minute" to get some really good shit for one of my mid-terms, and it was cool chillin with another group of my boyz who are in the term ahead of me, since I don't see them around - since I'm not on campus much and their schedule's are rouuuuugh..it'll be me in a few months :-/

Well, I was on the phone with my girlfriend right outside their dorm, and apparently HBMPHBrunette lives there. She came outside to get a smoke, and so I wandered off to order some food while I was wrapping up on the phone.

I got back, and she was still out there, and she was already looking at me as I came around the corner.

She apologized for "yapping away" about her life studying, etc, and disturbing me on the phone [I didn't say anything to give her this idea - maybe me walking off, but .. that's about it]. I took it as an excuse for her to talk to me [everything happens on purpose when dealing with social dynamics].

I told her it wasn't so much her talking as it was her smoking. She paused, trying to read me. Then she goes "oh, stop it..! haha", and I held onto my 'frame' or whatever [i.e. not backing down] and explained further that I was being straight up with her - it bothers my eyes, because they're sensitive.

She apologized haa the stronger frame absorbed the weaker one ;-)

So I rewarded her with coming in and complying by continuing our interaction, especially with a joke..something about if it happens again, and I'm studying, and my eyes are tired, and my contacts get irritated, I'll smack her - a "5 across the face" [Dave Chappelle!!] and then paused, turned back to her, and smiled before walking into the dorm.

She giggled and said something like "well maybe I like getting slapped" .. I made sure not to let this opportunity slip, and so I half-way turned back and said "Hmm..I'll have to keep that in mind, then!", winked with a "dirty" smile, and then walked back in. Easily introduced sexual themes in, whether she was purposely dropping that innuendo or not, I took it that way, and escalated on it, thus leaving her with that..I knew I had to get going, because my buddy would be waiting on me by now.

As I had already walked in, I could still hear her giggling [you know the kind: "my sexual fantasy's been discovered!" - she's now got some very solid images in her mind! haa], and she called out some "see you later!!" kind of good-bye, so I laughed and said "Alright!" .. and again, leave some doubt as to what I meant - "Alright..bye"? or "Alright, cool - I will see you, later on, to do..whatever it is your dirty mind is imagining right now!! ;-)"? Considering where her mind was already, and what I'd just said before that about keeping that smacking info in mind "for later", she'll now be thinking and hoping it was the second one.

{Notes: a lot of times, girls, especially attractive ones, actually have no game..whatsoever..like HBMPHBrunette. Slow on the come-backs, having weak conversation starters and topics, not knowing how to properly socialize with a guy of equal or higher value. They become AFCs.

This makes sense, too, because a lot of times, these more-attractive girls don't need to have game - they're used to being the choosers. Therefore, I need to be more aggressive and more direct, so as to let her know what's up, since she's having a very hard time trying to DHV herself to me so that I may IOI her for it. I've got to help her out with it and/or actively look for smaller DHVs for which to give IOIs.}

I went upstairs to grab those notes [and a book, as it turns out] and chilled with the guys for like an hour, discussing class shit but mostly non-academic shit.

I got out of there, picked up my food, and headed to the library..with a quick detour for water at the gym, and I'm glad - there was some chick up in there, holy shit!! She was doing dead-lifts, with skin-tight pants on, right by the water fountain..good thing I had my visor on! I don't like being a perv and staring at girls as they work out, but shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit, couldn't have helped it in this type of situation, so at least she doesn't need to know :-)

I couldn't get a look at the face so as to catch her around next time, but whatever..a body like that, I'll know when I see it again!

Anyways, I made my photocopies [made a quick appearance with HBPerfectTits, who was working there by chance] and went to catch a bus. On my way there, I ran into HBLazyEye, so I grabbed her from behind and scared her, while her friend and I laughed as I kept walking. And this very conveniently happened in front of HBTheBrownBody, who was walking the opposite way. And she was watching me/us the whole time, so it threw in a random little Pre-Selected moment for me to her.

I got on the bus and plop down. And HBBeautyMark comes in to sit directly across from me.

As soon as she'd walked in, I knew she'd already seen me and was still looking at me, so I eyed her up and down [good to let her know that I do find her sexy and attractive, especially because many times a girl can't tell with me because they won't let themselves assume it due to low self-esteem and/or my super-high value] and did a wolf-whistle haa Shit, she earned it, she looked fucking amazing!

She came at first to sit next to me, but I was taking up both seats [I was sitting in the middle and had the book, my copies, and the food], so she sat in the seat across the aisle. I went into a little too courteous [read: AFC] mode for a split-second, moving my stuff so she could sit next to me. But she didn't notice, and I made it like I was rearranging my stuff and getting more comfortable.

She tried a few different times to [re]initiate the conversation, each time it died off. Once I realized what she was doing [IOI after IOI], I made sure to not let it die off again: just keep it engaged, don't let any pause or lull in the conversation happen; in other words, lead the interaction - that's how it should be, regardless.

She herself mentioned the fact that I didn't want anyone to sit next to me, etc, a couple of times - I got the hint, but made her admit to the fact that she wanted to sit next to me before I did anything about it. "Ohhh..do youuu want to sit here..? :-)", and she smiled and gave me this look [didn't actually say yes], so I framed her reaction and took her smile-and-look to mean yes and replied "Ahh, I see..well, in that case, come on over!"

There was also a bit in there about us being married, and so I don't have to divorce her..yet..as long as she keeps making sure to do .. whatever it was I wanted her to do. I think it was "taking care of me" or something. Thus, I created the frame for her: I complimented her on what she was doing [i.e. making sure no one tries to sit in my extra seat] as what I wanted her to do for me [i.e. looking out for me, taking care of me -> thus, it's understood that she must care about me in order to want to take care of me, and since she's already taking care of me..you get the idea].

And then I took it even further, telling her that's the reason that we got married, because she's always looking out for me and caring for me. So she'd better keep on doing that, because the moment she stops .. we're through. She'll get the divorce papers in the mail. At first, I didn't know if it'd stuck, or if she was resisting the frame, so I kept going with it, about how she'd better not even think of trying to take half my stuff, because it's not going to happen like that.

She told me no, it wasn't going to happen [at this point, I'm thinking 'Oh great, she's resisting and being to "serious" about all this'], because she wouldn't sign the divorce papers.

As it turned out, she was just having trouble with what to say to work herself into the frame haa

So we went with that for a minute, and then someone got onto the bus, who apparently knew her, and so that girl started talking to my HB. So, I turned my body away from her. I know she was trying not to blow me off [she scooted in closer to me, pressed her hips and ass right up against me from the side, and kept looking over at me], but as far as I was concerned, whether she was trying to or not..she was still doing it. So she will be punished for it. Which was a good decision in retrospect, because someone called her a few seconds later, and my stop was coming up, anyway.

When my stop came up, it was kind of weird - she got off the bus with me [still on the phone], instead of just moving down the aisle towards the back to let me pass her. Despite her still being on the phone, I thought of using the opportunity to get her up to my place, even for a minute - at least get her used to the inside of it so as to knock off any "new place" feel for later on. But I remembered that she'd gotten onto the bus with a friend, and they were both going together to this post-exam cruise. So she's not going to randomly ditch her girlfriend, especially because it was only the 2 of them, to come chill with me, especially since they were on their way to that cruise party.

{Notes: similar to HBMPHBrunette, HBBeautyMark has no game. And she doesn't need any - she's gorgeous, and has a pretty tight body. There was a security guard getting off the bus before it left, and he knows her [her mom's a security guard at school], so he greeted her, reached out and grabbed her hand and held it somewhat intimately for a few seconds, then got off - this is a very common thing guys down here do. So, what girl needs game when it's so easy for her??

On the flip-side, it is a unique IOI that I need to be aware of, when girls linger the hand-holding or reach for my hand, because that's an IOI that I'm not really used to..hard to describe what it is, because it's not a typical holding-hands.

Also, because of the lack of her game like HBMPHBrunette, I must lead the interactions. As I should always do, anyway. But I need to lead it down a specific path, to let her know I'm interested or I like her, etc, and to escalate with her, both physically but especially verbally. I feel that she is not used to either 1) feeling this way [i.e. tables turned or simply being soo attracted to a guy], or 2) she feels awkward or worries about looking foolish in front of me, so she'd rather end the interaction quickly [or it dies away on its own and thus reinforces her awkward feeling] rather than allow her value [in my eyes, her eyes, and the eyes of others] to drop - again, she perceives it is dropping.

I know what she's feeling, because I definitely used to [sometimes still do??] go through that type of thing myself, i.e. get out while I'm still doing "okay" and before I mess things up - save face rather than risk failure/rejection, and I'd actually lose girls that were very much into me.}

I got a nice going-away Social Proof hit, for her and everyone else on the bus: the driver was one of my boyz, so he'd given me a laugh and a thumbs-up when I'd pushed the button for my stop [meaning, he was already dropping me off there without me having to push the stop button and that he knows it was me who pushed it - must be those eyes in the back of his head]. And as I crossed the street, he yelled out again to take it easy, laughed, and honked his horn at me [it's crazy, people are very honk-happy down here, like New York..except as a greeting lol].

Because I'm a baller.

~h

Mass Text Message

Following a quick tip I picked up from Sinn and Future, I've been sending mass text messages to my HBs every now and then, some random things [Future: weather forecast - take an umbrella!; Sinn: good morning/night]. Especially when it's been a while since I've had contact, or if there's just an excuse to do so, like for Valentine's Day.

Or exams.

"Good luck to everyone who's got exams this week! Have confidence like 1 of my friends: she told me she has 6 exams this week (!), and she hasn't studied for any of them - but she's going to get A's in all of them still! And for those of you who have exams next week, study hard so you can play hard! :-)"

I heard back from HBKraaazyBody [almost immediately], HBBartender [who's not even in school], twice from HBLazyEye, HBBlondeBlackModel [who's not in school, either], just to mention a few.

The reason I decided to send it out to some girls who aren't in school is to let them see the Protector of Loved Ones type of care that I have for my peeps [they don't know that I only sent it out to girls], and to keep contact with them even though it does not apply to them, and the subtle DHV in there about my friend who happens to be a girl [this works for everyone who got the text]. This way, an Attraction spike gets thrown in, even just hearing from me, but not having to commit to a specific interaction with any of them.

In fact, if anything, when they responded, I did not reply back to any of them [well, just 1, but she's a friend/kid sister-type]. Which gives a quick show of higher social value to them, especially since they replied back to a message that was very obviously not just for them, and didn't hear back from me - I felt like one of those mail-list guys who send out mass emails but then never respond back to people who "reply" loll I felt like a real man now, blowing people off! :-p

Later on, when I was waiting for a bus to get to campus for a meeting I had, HBGottaBeMixed pulled up - I haven't had any direct contact with her all term. Notice, no direct contact: I made sure she's been getting texts from me every now and then, anyway. And she pulled up to give me a ride..god, she looked amazing today, especially with these really thin skin-tight black leggings on..hott!

She and I talked, I made sure to have heavy kino going on [that's how I know just how thin her leggings were loll]..and then I saw what looked like a rock on her finger. Yes, all of a sudden, it seems, because I'd never seen it before. Although, my roommate had mentioned before that he'd met her "husband" or something..which is crazy because, um yeaa, she just turned 21 last December! I know, because she invited me out to the new club that opened to celebrate with her and her best friend [I totally typed "breast" the first time haa] and had told me she was finally 21 [!].

Anyways, I didn't let it stop me, but it was a little awkward for me, especially because now I know what's up with her look - she had given me a not-so-brief run-down of her history one time last term when I was cycling A3/C1 with her. And I've since forgotten..she's born and raised here, but her parents are directly from somewhere in/near the Middle East. Hence, her exotic look [and my oh-so-clever HBname for her]. So I don't know how her clashing cultures mixes into her doing something behind "her man"'s back. We'll see.

And what was she very pressing about? The text message! haa She was all into it, asking me about my friend and all this stuff, and I ended up finding out that she's just doing the 3rd year of the pre-med program right now..which is a good thing, because I can help her out with it ;-) And we got in some comfort-building, with her confiding in me about wanting to just get out of here, and I was showing her that I understood because I'd be able to finish her feeling-description sentences with/for her, and each time she'd kind of pause and get this "look" in her eye as she took her eyes off the road to stare at me..

As if the time with her wasn't enough to re-solidify why she can't help but stop and smile and hug and talk every time she sees me, riding with her also served as a huge DHV/Social Proof for me, because she dropped me off at the bus stop to pick up a few of her girlfriends, and so of course everyone saw me coming out of her car [and, her car is actually quite nice, especially for down here!].

One of the girls who came up to the car was this chick who's really hot, with a tight body, niiice breasts, wears those skin-tight work-out pants a fair amount [although her ass is "average", which is kind of a let-down, since she's a local girl], but has what I think is a too-long torso for her body -> HBLongTorso [ta-da! Another clever name, right? :-p]. I actually happened to sit on the bus next to her just last week [one of the main reasons I don't get a car], and it was a little awkward, because she was not doing a good job of hiding the fact that she was just blatantly staring at me, despite being only a few inches away. But I'd definitely still hit it haa I mean, she can't help how awesome Hrithik happens to be, right? ;-)

I went to my meeting, and then I got out and waited on meeting up with a friend who was supposed to get me my flash-drive back with a bunch of notes and other helpful goodies on it..which never happened. But it was okay, because I stood there and a couple of friends who were getting out of their Pathology lab came over to me and chilled, which was perfect timing so as to add to my social value as a couple of hotties from the lab came out after them, especially this one chick who I know is in love with me and the way my body moves on stage [or see the original here - many people come to the shows just to see me re-enact this guy's stuff live], but I just don't see her around with an approachable opportunity. I might just have to pull out the "Fuck it, just do it!" and..well..just do it.

I almost owe it to my namesake, since she looks quite a bit like a tanned version of the real Hrithik's real-life wife [I should know, they've both been to my house, and I've partied it up with them in India, too]:

Especially since she kept looking at me from across the street, trying to look away, but not being able to for more than 1-2 seconds ;-) Ready for some more creative naming? HBtherealHrithik'sWife .. that's soo weak! lolll

..and I've been back here, at the P.I.M.P. pad ever since, stuffing my mind with all kinds of physiological information - fun times. Anyways, hope this text message post comes in handy, if not for others, at least for me to not forget this easy yet effective method to stay in contact with girls while not coming off as needy [if anything, it's almost the exact opposite effect].

~h

Sinn Speaks..

Part I


Part II


~h

HBBlondeBlackModel

Well, after my interaction with her last Friday, I was hoping that I'd run into her, early this week [things are going to get reaaaally crazy for me the next couple of days, and then mid-terms are coming up soon, too].

Hrithik wants it, so it shall be.

As I walked towards the bottom bus stop from picking up my food, I saw her blond head walking to the same place..and my mouth went dry. Great. And to make matters worse, I was exhausted - I've had a combined 5 hours of sleep, maybe, in the last 2 nights. And it's not like I was getting my hours in before that, either.

But I told myself that this was what I'd wanted, to run into her again, and here she was. So don't be a bitch now. And get her number, no matter what.

I went around behind the stop to throw out a gum wrapper to allow me to give some "in my own world" vibe, to help me assess the setup, and to figure out how I was going to approach her. I knew she was waiting for me.

I decided that I was just going to look over and take it from there. Fortunately, I got a shot of Social Proof thrown at me, because 1 of my galfriends was standing with a friend of hers, waiting on a bus, too. And she called out to me.

I used this opportunity to walk towards my friend, and then "happen" to spot HBBlondeBlackModel. It worked great, because it showed her some social proof/Pre-Selection, thus re-generating any and all the Attraction I'd need in order to re-initiate our interaction from where we left off, on the Emotional Progression Model.

She was smiling at me even before I acknowledged I'd recognized her - good sign. I kind of jerked my head slightly to exaggerate my noticing of her, then I smiled, and her smile broadened even more. [1-2 IOIs, depending on how you count this: 1 big one, or back-and-forth giving 2]

I greeted her with a simple "hey", and she excitedly responded, so I put up my hand and said "what's up?", and she gave me a hi-5 back, and interlocked her fingers in mine - I did not initiate this, because just today I realized that I'd started doing this almost automatically, to all girls, and I wanted to keep it for girls I'm gaming as a simple test. And it worked, really well, since she did it all by herself. And didn't let go, until I did..I need to remember that girls have different comfort levels with kino as well as different expressions of their attraction - some girls will stay in close physical contact while others won't, despite the fact that they have equal amounts of attraction for me. It is my job to actively look for who falls into which category, so that I can calibrate accordingly rather than giving off the wrong signals. [1-2 IOIs, if her excited greeting is counted]

I don't even remember what we fluffed about, but it was just random stuff. She asked me how it's going, and I answered. Then she asked if I'm headed out, and I almost gave her a cocky and funny response but it might've come off a bit too harsh ["Uh, yea .. why do you think I'm at the bus stop?"], so I responded normally. Then I realized that she's asking questions [IOIs], so I asked her what she was up to/where she was headed, and she said the grocery store. So I told her "That's great, you can pick me up some stuff", and she laughed, then she said "You should go to the store and get me stuff!", and I told her "Whoa, whoa..you're moving a bit too fast there..slow down" [now I realize that I shouldn't have said that specifically, since it could have underlying meaning that if/when we get together, then I'll do stuff like this..but it seems really insignificant to trigger something like that, and for it to become so solidified from this random 1-time statement that she's probably already forgotten the context of]. She responded that I was moving too fast first..she's not the most creative one in the bunch, huh?

I took it back to the grocery store thing, so that I could open up an opportunity to #-close her [that was my goal, after all - I've always got to remember to have a desired outcome in mind, and then to pursue that as best as I can]. So I told her that I really did need stuff from the store, so that if anything, I might even be able to make an insta-date out of it, although it might've seemed a little too try-hard, seeing as how I'd already told her I was going back to the P.I.M.P. pad.

I told her the most important thing I needed was milk, so she needs to check for me to see if they've got any, the bottle kind, etc. She asked which type whole or whatever [I didn't realize this then, but I see now that this shows me that she's completely invested/attracted, because she didn't resist at all to do this for me, i.e. jump through my hoop, and after only having talked on the bus last week and a couple of minutes thus far, she was more than willing to comply fully to this half-joking demand of mine], and when I told her, she laughed and said, "Okay, so then what? How do I tell you, do I call you..??" - I love this girl! She's doing everything for me..or am I just baaaaaaaaaallin' it that hard? ;-)

And..then the bus comes by..

It's mostly full, but I know there's enough room for us to fit on there. Now came the true test as to whether I was running my shit tight - does she bounce to the store to go about her day, or does she stay with me [a major IOI for her to put her life on hold to chill with me]?

She stayed.

She'd pulled her phone out, and in fact, it was me who budged more than she did towards the bus; in fact, she went more so because I was walking to it rather than for her own self.

Well, I saw HBNeedyLocal"GF" [just in time, too!], sitting right there, in the window, watching me from the corner of her eye to see if I'd spotted her. So I didn't show it [because I remembered that 1 of her good friends and this girl HBBlondeBlackModel are cousins], but I definitely turned my body away from HBBlondeBlackModel and took a couple steps away from her, too, especially because she'd pulled out her phone to get my number - and I didn't need HBNeedyLocal"GF" seeing this, obviously.

Since I was already moving in this direction, I decided to take another few steps and chill with my galfriend who'd given me the social proof/pre-selection in front of the HBBlondeBlackModel. She and I ended up chit-chatting, and I made sure to keep the conversation going, at first to stall long enough for the bus to move away so HBNeedyLocal"GF" was out of sight, but then later to show non-neediness towards HBBlondeBlackModel [who'd followed me over, phone-in-hand].

After about a minute of waiting, she decided to hop on top of the table and sit there, so I knew she was waiting on me, but also listening, because she was sitting in an almost-triangle shape with me and my friend, and facing me [I didn't pick up on the AI body language at the time]..plus she laughed a couple times when I said something funny.

So I used this opportunity to DHV myself by throwing in quick Protector of Loved Ones signals, specifically that my friend and I have a history because I asked her if {her boyfriend's name here} was still visiting or if he'd left already, and that 1 of "our things" is me hooking her up with Snicker's bars, and I offered her some more, to which she replied [perfectly!] that she definitely needed some, because they're perfect food snacks for her and she's been running low on food lately. I told her she could swing by my place sometime to get them, or I can bring them to school with me sometime, because I've got this huge box. Then she [even more perfectly] threw in the fact that "..or you could bring them to the gym sometime..well, any time, because you're always there!", reinforcing the fact that I'm swollll, just in case HBBlondeBlackModel didn't notice ;-)

After I'd done enough of this, I decided it was time to get back to my girl, especially before another bus might come by. And just as I started to, my phone rang - grrreat.

It turned out [eventually] to be this other girl I had just recently #-closed, another hot girl with a tight body [HBBeautyMark for this beauty mark she has right near her lips], whom I'd only seen around literally a couple of times last term, and she was a friend of HBShorty's, so I couldn't really do anything about it at the time, anyway. Well, we had a string of days where we ran into each other, so I made sure that I'd #-close her next chance I got, and I did.

[There was a really cool frame I'd setup for her, too, and that was that I see people around, or they see me around, and they're intimidated to talk to me and won't say what's up to me. It was funny, because we ran a "social experiment", where she and I stood right outside the library and stared at everyone who came our way, and not a single one of them greeted me..and I even knew a couple of them. 1 guy came up, and as he approached, she told me she knew him from class, so let's see if he says anything to her. And I told her, he also should know me, because he's a student-worker at the gym and has definitely closed up with me being the last person working out, talked once or twice, etc. He greeted her, said something, and didn't even look over at me, despite the fact that she was on my right side and he was passing on my left. It worked great, because it reinforced the frame as well as the validity behind it, and she has always made sure that when she sees me to come say hi to me..or in this case, to call me]

Problem was, her number in the call showed up as a blocked number, so she had a little fun with me, messing with me about how she's watching me, and describing what's going on, what I'm wearing, etc. So, I decided to have some fun with it, for both "whoever this was" as well as HBBlondeBlackModel. Plus, it shows that I'm not [over]reactive, especially about "little" things like this, because it happens enough that it is a little thing for me. It was cool, the girl and I got a good laugh out of it, and it was some more hardcore pre-selection..I'm staring to worry about how I'm going to follow up all this super-social proofed/pre-selected image like this?? [The good thing for now, is that it turns out HBBlondeBlackModel does not go to school here]

After a couple of minutes with HBBeautyMark, I turned back to HBBlondeBlackModel and was like "Hey, where were we..? Oh yea [glance down at her phone], sorry, that was a little rude of me!" [thus further solidifying, I think/hope!, that I forget all others when dealing with one of my "close/loved ones"].

Well, she still had her phone in hand, ready to enter my number, and I had had my phone in my hand, so I typed in the first few digits, then just gave it to her..paused..then said, "I think you know how to push the buttons, right? haa" She laughed and put her number in. And just as she finished [I actually she hadn't], I got a text message..she couldn't see the name because my "memory is low", but it was from HBNeedyLocal"GF". Either way, it still just added to the "Hrithik is the most popular guy in the world!" aura.

So I got my phone back, and sat down - I had to consciously think/remind myself to do it, which was especially important in this setup since she was already sitting, and I was standing there facing her head-on [therefore, remember: lock my ass in].

Another point I remembered, too - kino! Make yourself out to be a touchy-feely guy, so that it's not awkward or weird for either of us to escalate later.

Then she told me to call her, and indirectly told me her name [because "it's HBBlondeBlackModel in your phone"]. I called, and then she asked me my name. So I told her to guess [jump through my hoop before I jump through yours, so you get your goal - but on my terms]. She laughed and started throwing stereotypes at me, like it's probably the longest name ever, and it's probably going to have all kinds of J's and P's and A's in it, etc.

I used this opportunity to reinforce my social proof - I got up, went around to the other side of the bench where my friend and her girlfriend were sitting [with some guy who also knows them, I guess], directly got into the middle of their "conversation" in a dominant way and straight-up threw HBBlondeBlackModel's stereotypes at my friend, asking her if my name has these qualities. And she simply shook her head 'no'. Then I walked back around to where I was sitting before, sat down, and looked up at the HB. The look on her face was "Oh my god - you're so awesome!" loll

So I made her guess for a bit: with each wrong one, I gave her another letter until she got it. After a couple guesses, I told her "Ok, that's it - you're definitely not in charge of naming our kids! You suck at names", and she laughed and looked at me like 'Wait..what just happened?', but there was nothing negative about her look, her tone, her body language, etc, it was just something totally unexpected and caught her off guard, but in a good way. And just as she got the last letter of my name from me, one of my friends happened to walk by and said "Hey Hrithik..!", and I greeted him, then turned back to HB and said "See, he just pronounced it for you, too haa"

Then she started asking more questions, which was interesting because I caught the 1st part of the double-significance even then: 1) every time the conversation would stall, she'd pipe up with some question or other - very much like guys do when they're sweating some hottie!, and 2) she was screening me!! This 2nd one I didn't realize until after I got back to my place - one of Sinn's [or maybe Captain Jack's..? Probably both! lol] posts on his blog popped up randomly in my mind about how girls screen guys for certain things, one of them being the category or label they are trying to put them in. Come to think of it, perhaps my joking comment about naming our kids got the idea in her mind..

Fortunately for me, the main question that was really addressing this, with her trying to see if I'm worth getting "bf" ideas about, was how much longer I had left here at school. And I did say fortunately, because I've had that question asked of my by both HBJewelryStore and HBBartender in the past, and based on their reactions, I was able to answer "correctly", and knowing this, I knew what to say off the top of my head - basically, make it seem like I'm here "for like, everrr" before I'm done. Because, since I'm not from here, they know I have to eventually leave, and if that's happening some time soon, they will blow me out - or at least, try to. So why make things harder for myself, especially since it is true, I am still here for another 1.5 years or so. But that may not seem too long to them, to 'build a foundation with someone so that when I eventually leave our bond is strong enough to last'.

So once I realize she's already thinking about me like that, I ease up a bit on the "analyzing and thinking" aspect and get to know her better. So me and HB really get to talking, and she's actually really cool. Like, really cool.

But then again, I am a hopeless romantic who wears his infatuational feelings [not my heart] just above my sleeves, somewhere along my forearms.

Anyways, turns out she's working on going to school in Miami. Culinary school. So I said "Hmm, guess I don't need to ask you if you cook, then..", and she got a big laugh out of that. And I remembered that she had that sexy faintly-hoarse voice - oo, la la!

Somewhere along the way, I realized that she'd taken her sunglasses off. I thought back while we chit-chatted, and I guess she'd taken them off when we were exchanging numbers. The reason I was really trying to remember is that removal of sunglasses is a pretty strong IOI, especially when you're outside, in the Caribbean - and since a number of people wear them, noticing when they take them off is a good thing for me to work on.

A few more minutes of us talking go by, and a bus heads to the top. And then another, which the 2 of us run out to catch. And I watch to see if she's going to scoot over - she did sit in a 2-seat spot, whereas the last time we were on a bus together [before we'd ever talked], she'd sat in a 1-seat spot. But, out of habit, I started to avoid sitting right next to someone when I had a choice. But then I forced myself to just sit down next to her ['It's not going to be weird, trust me - she really likes you, she wants you to sit next to her..in fact, if you don't sit next to her, THAT will be weird!']. So I make a joke about it as I plopped down next to her, telling her that she's going to have to keep on scooting to make room and then I put my backpack between us for a second or 2.

And then she got even cooler!

We got up to the top, and as we were waiting for people to get on, I got some more social proof/pre-selection, because this gorgeous Trinidadian girl gets on and says "Hi, Hrithik!" all bubbly and shit. So that was a nice little Jealousy Plotline thrown in by chance. And I pointed out some chick who is always decked out in really nice clothes, and all of a sudden, HB was dropping some deep-ass comments on me.

At first, I just played it off, picking on her and joking. But there was a string of them, and I was just getting..well, impressed! So I gave her a hug and told her "See, this is why we'd never get along - we're too similar!" and went on about how I think these same types of things, but the difference is that I just keep them to myself, blahblahblah.

A couple of conversational stalls, and she always re-initiated. I also threw in some hints about things to talk about for later, like when she was acting like a "mom", I called her on it and told her "You're acting way too much like my mom, I'm going to have switch seats..but it's not bad yet, because you don't have the accent.." and I did an impression of my mom, and she was all into it, asking if that's how my mom really talks, where I'm from from, etc - all of which I ignored, because I know I can use them later, for some really solid Comfort-building as well as when we're not in a time-crunch situation.

We chit-chatted like this all the way until we were coming up on my stop, and I threw in some comment right at the end. And then told her not to forget the milk - reminding her of her duty as well as ensuring that we will talk again really soon.

We texted back and forth for a bit, although I can't read if she's not much of a texter or "all of a sudden, she's lost interest" - I know the 2nd is not true, but I can't help the thought from entering my mind.

I asked her what her work schedule is like, too: 6 days a week, 3pm-11pm..are you kidding me?? This is retarded. So I figure I'm going to have to put in at least some time through the phone with her. I started it off by texting her just now, "hoping she enjoys her afternoon/evening at work".

Right now, I'm trying to decide whether I should call her a little after she gets off, or if that might be a bit much, since I just got her number and have texted with her on 2 different occasions already today.

And I feel wide-awake..although my body would be quick to disagree.

~h