LR: SNL Club Freak

Friday was a long, exhausting day. And I was already tired before it even began..

I'm just going to fast-forward to the good stuff, which is that I pre-gamed with a few of my boys before we went out to the 2 main clubs here.

We went to the first place, where they've got a more formal dress code, so I rocked my Armani jeans, Jordans, with a white shirt and dress jacket on top..I'll be honest, I was looking fly as hell, and everyone noticed - they were either loving it and going on and on about it, or they were hating on it, trying to make fun or bring me down a couple notches, but they couldn't get through my frame.

It was a decent crowd, not nearly as packed as I was expecting, but it was fun because me and my friends were there outcome-independent, just having drinks and enjoying ourselves. And people could tell, because they kept buzzing around us, starting up conversations with some of the lamest comments - it was a reminder of how hot girls feel when they're out, being approached by lame-ass AFCs with no game.

After scoping the scene for a while and fucking around with the guys, I decided to up things; after all, I didn't come out and be balled out like I was just to chill with the guys and drink my brains out in the VIP area..which we got into for free :-)

So I started talking to one of my buddies "P" about some of the girls around, and we were eyeing up and breaking down what was going on with whom. And then we relocated to the outer area because most of the people were headed that way, too. I spotted this one girl in a red dress/top, with some fucking chode, so I told my buddy I was going in.

I opened the guy, actually, being all chummy with him and feeling him out, befriending the obstacle as it were, and the guy got lamer and lamer the more he talked. And he brought the girl into the conversation, telling me how she likes him and all kinds of AFC shit, and the look on the girl's face said it all. She even went so far as to tell me, that she told him that if she wasn't dating someone back home, then she'd go out with him.

I laughed. I couldn't help it; in my mind, I was thinking if the guy had any game at all, she wouldn't have said something like that to him..shit, if he knew even a little of what he was doing, she wouldn't have said anything about a guy back home, period..much less been like 'oh sorry I'm with someone thousands of miles away, but otherwise I'd totally go out with you! My little cute puppy dog!' loll

So anyways, after talking with her for a bit, and having the drunk fool keep interrupting with random AFC shit, like how much he likes her, and wants to go out with her, and blahblahblah..I decided it was not worth it to deal with all this shit, so I bounced out..only to spot another Indian girl from my class, whom I'd nicknamed My Little Porn Star because of her very curvaceous body and dick-sucking lips, and she was looking fiiine.

She waved at me and smiled, so I went right in, and told her "Now that we're outside of class, you have to at least give me a hug and a kiss, because this is just ridiculous - you wave at me in class, all sleepy-looking with glasses on and stuff, so I don't think anything about it - I'm right there with you! But now you're all done up, looking nice in this cute little outfit, and you're awake..so that's not going to fly!"

She complied, gave me a hug and a quick peck on the cheek, and the biggest ear-to-ear smile I've seen on her face. Then we talked about some shit for a bit, I wasn't really paying much attention because I kept thinking about her lips wrapped around my fat cock..nice! So I just focused on making sure my body language was good, and I kept rocking out and then back in, just to let her know that I wasn't completely all into her/us at the moment, putting more pressure on her to continue trying to win me over.

She then got pulled off by a hater [who didn't even face me or look at me while he was there] to go find one of their super-drunk friends, and she kept trying to reassure me that she'd come back [I guess she could tell by the look on my face that I didn't believe her..or that I just didn't care haa].

Then me and my buddy met back up with our other 2 boys and decided to roll from this venue to the other nightspot, right near campus and my place. This is where the real fun started..

So we get in, and it's a decent crowd - half the people are from the other place, like us. The others head to the bar, while I take a detour to talk to the girl working the door [I've gamed her before, too, and have #-closed her]. She gave me a hug, and we chit-chatted for a minute, then I told her I'd come chill with her a little later when she wasn't too busy [it was already like 3am, so she knew I was just leaving her because I have other things to do, like gaming other hot girls around = social proof, plus pre-selection for when I come back].

I get to the bar area where my friends are, and I throw a napkin at HBBartender [it's a little thing we do = "our thing" aka connection -> comfort]. She starts giggling and can't help herself, comes over and starts chatting me up, smiling ear-to-ear. Then I tell her I need a hug, so she comes around the side and hugs up on me, squeezes me, and holds me.

After a minute, I gently push her off..but then hold her hand, which she squeezes back. We talk for a few minutes like this, then I tell her she should get back to work [non-neediness], while I go hang with my friends [social proof]. And I tell her not to worry, because I'll be back..

Me and my boys chill for a bit, and my chick-scoping buddy from before "P", points out this fiiine black local girl who keeps eyeing me, hard. And I catch her, a number of times, as well as take in the situation - she's there with another girl and 2 guys, and the way they're positioned, it seems the girls came with the guys and know them and are "with them". It's all good, no sweat, right? :-)

So a little later, my boys decide they're going to bounce, so I go and hug the girl at the door [HBDoorGirl], and tell her I'll hit her up later. She seems kind of sad to see me go, in her own bubbly way, and as I'm walking out towards the car, I'm thinking 'Why am I already leaving? I've got girls here to game, and I'm still having a good time..and still buzzing from the alcohol, too - why did I drink if I'm just going to go to bed??'

I get to the car where my boys are waiting up for me, and I tell them I'm going back in. They leave, and I go get HBDoorGirl again and tell her that they're being bitches and leaving already, but I still want to party..with her, once she gets off. She tells me she'll be done at 4-ish, and I tell her "Cool, come find me, we'll dance..and when I'm ready to go, I'll call my boy to come pick me up [because I'm not a loser who got ditched by his friends, I chose to stay, and all I have to do is ask them to come get me, and they will, no matter how late, etc, because that's what boys do for each other]".

At this point, I'm thinking about all the social proof that I have, and how quickly that can get shot down into the negatives if I don't quickly find a set, because otherwise even I'll soon succumb to the "weirdo by himself" category despite how baller I may be looking with my clothes and attitude.

I find a couple of people I know from class and jump in with them. And as luck would have it, the hot local chick from before who was eyeing me down, was standing right behind me, elbow-to-elbow and back-to-back. And I could see her turning over her shoulder to look my way every few seconds, so I was racking my brain as to how to enter the set..

So I bumped her. Softly at first, but then I did it again, a little harder. And a third time. And I could see she was getting kind of upset/frustrated with me, throwing me dirty looks, so I bumped her one more time, and this time did a double-take over my shoulder at her, like I didn't realize I was bumping into her all this time.

I apologized, almost to the point of over-kill, just to take it to such an extreme that the whole thing became almost absurd, and she brought up the fact that I'd almost spilled her drink, and I was like oh I'm soo sorry..

At this point, her "guy" jumped in, trying to be all Mr. Baller, and tells me that I'd better be sorry about that, and I looked at him and smiled, then turned back the girl and asked her "Did I spill your drink..?", to which she replied no, and I said to her and the guy "Well, then, there's nothing to stress about it, now is there?" while still smiling.

The girl cracked a smile, so I knew I was good with her, and the guy just huffed at me, so I knew he wasn't going to be a bother anymore. So, I body rocked back out from her towards my 2 friends, and then rocked back towards her and asked her how her night has been going. And we started chit-chatting, and each time she started to turn back towards her group, I'd turn my body faster/quicker, so as to seem like I was already doing it and mine was more obvious, so I must really be uninterested..and like magic, I had her re-opening me each time [I think twice or so this happened].

I started to turn to completely face her as she faced me, and then I started slowwwwly walking and talking, going for a mini-isolation a few feet away from both of our respective groups. We talked for a while, about what she does, what I do, mundane shit basically..but all the while, I was physically escalating with here, at first holding her hand [I put it out there, and she grabbed it], and then later pulling her in closer to me. This was great, because I had one leg up on the wall I was leaning up against [locked-in, of course ;-)], and so when I pulled her in towards me, she ended up with my knee pressed up between her legs. And slowly I started moving, kind of swaying to the music, and she followed suit, with my knee pressing up harder against her sweet spot..and all the while, we're still talking about things, comfort-building-type stuff, like what we want to do with out respective lives, etc.

I could see that she was getting hot, so I decided to push her away and tease her, so I told her I was going to go get another drink and use the bathroom. I ran into the 2set from before, and I asked my friend if he wants anything to drink. I ordered our drinks from this cuuuuuuuuute fucking bartender, definitely a new girl, and I start talking to her for a minute or two, asking her her name in the process and replying with how I have an ex-girlfriend with a similar name except hers was blahblahblah, then I completely roll off her and head to the bathroom.

I killed the drink as I pissed, and then I talked to some local dude about how the sink sucks. We talked for a minute on our way out, and he told me about another party the next night, invited me out to it, introduced himself to me, etc - see what social proof can do for you? And itm akes me out to be a leader of men in front of my chicks around watching.

I left him and went to find the girl I'd left all hot and bothered, and she'd rejoined her group [surprise]. She spotted me coming and smiled at me, waving me into the group. So I went in for a few seconds, smiled, said some random shit, and then pulled my girl back out to our isolation spot, only this time a little further out of most people's sight.

A few minutes later, her friends started leaving, and I could just see the look on the guy's face who was with her before, just all pissed off and shit - classic! So she and I chilled for a bit more, then I told her I was getting tired, and the place was starting to close up anyways, and then I asked her what she was up to now..

She told me she was still kind of awake, so she was probably going to go back to her place and chill or something, because she had work for a bit the next day..and she gives me this look..and I'm like "Oh cool - well, I'm going to head back, I'm kind of tired.." just to fuck with her a bit. And to continue figuring out logistics: if she's working tomorrow, then we won't have any spend-the-night shit, either, because she's got to get up relatively early; if her group left, obviously she has her own ride, which I didn't know before [I should've asked how she, and her friends, had gotten there] and was kind of hesitant about bringing her back to my place simply because I didn't want her knowing where I live and leading to drama later.

But now that was no longer an issue. So I tell her that I live on campus, maybe she can give me a ride. She agrees, and tells me that she's going to the bathroom first. So I go talk to HBDoorGirl, running some comfort shit on her, more linked to "you only live once" and "what are the odds that you and I met, and are here talking, right now, of all the people in the world I could be talking to" and having ambitions and passions in life. I also ran strawberry fields as well as rings-on-fingers, because I noticed she had a shiny ring on her right index finger. And she was loving all of it.

At this point, the super-cute bartender girl came up to me and started talking to me about Indian movies, so I was IOIing her like crazy for them, because she was obviously trying to impress me [remember, create your own reality]. So, I kept giving her high 5's and hugs, and then HBBartender came up behind me and started grinding on me from the back. And this was hilarious, because HBBartender and HBDoorGirl got into a verbal play-fight over me and ran off to go clean up, and the super-cute bartender was telling me that "They may look like they're playing now, but when you're not around, behind the scenes, they'll be going at it for real!" So I made her in charge of keeping me up-to-date on the drama, and she said that she doesn't get involved with drama [which got her another hug for not being a typical drama queen], and at this point I should've #-closed her, but I didn't..ah well, I had her give me a going-away hug-and-kiss, before she ran off to go help clean up.

My girl HBGarcelle came back sometime as me and the super-cute bartender were saying our good-byes, so I pretended not to see her and started talking to the big bouncer dude at the entrance, to get in good with him..which I did. Because he could totally fuck me over with the girls working there, as well as give me shit every time I come around, if he feels like I kind of invaded his area or something gay like that.

Then, me and HBGarcelle start walking towards her car, and as we're getting there, I tell her I'm not really ready to go to sleep because I'm not too tired at the moment. So she offers to watch a movie, and I ask her what she's got, and she says that I can see for myself..and we're off to her place!

The details are pretty much as can be expected, but basically we get to her place, she gives me a little tour, and I pick out some lovey-dovey/comedy looking movie, I think it had Ashton Kutcher or Josh Hartnett or someone like that in it, and we plop down on her couch and start watching it.

No more than 10-15 minutes later, this girl is like throwing herself at me, so things escalate pretty quick, until I push her off and tell her we should slow down [so I can drink some water!], and she agrees. Another 5 minutes later, and she starts kissing up on my neck, and I rub her arm, and her hand goes between my legs..so I think fuck it, and whip out my dick..

And she starts jerking me, almost violently, and I grab her hair and pull her head back and start making out with her, hard, and she starts taking my jacket and shirt off and sucking on my nipples, so then I slowly put pressure on the back of her head, and she gets the hint and goes down on me..and holy fuck, can she suck!!

[Oh shit, I didn't realize, that shit rhymes :-)]

Anyways, so she's sucking me off, while I'm sitting there watching the movie and drinking my water loll

Once I feel sober enough to fuck and not bust a nut too quick because I'm drunk, I start sliding my fingers between her legs, to find that she's wet as hellll already! And that shit got me going even more, to the point that I grabbed her, stood up, and slid the strings on her dress off her shoulders while I pulled my jeans and shit off..and just banged her doggy right on her couch.

After a while, I took her to her bed, along with my water bottle, and had her get on top, and I started splashing water all up on her tits and especially on that phat assss of hers..holy shit, that shit was fucking hot..

Anyways, so we finished up after a while, and I passed ouuuuut - I was totally drained! I got up maybe 30 minutes later, and I got dressed and used her phone to call my number, then I texted her back with my number, and then I went to let her know that I was leaving, and I'd hit her up later..and she just had this dreamy look and smile on her face..and I was thinking 'I know exactly how you feel haa..'

I called up one of my local cabbie buddies, who gave me a ride back to my place, and I crashed until like 3:30pm the next day..and still made it to the gym ;-)

~h

More Thoughts on Cold Reading

This post deals with the idea of cold reading. Keep in mind that originality is the most important quality that you can convey to a woman - from the way you dress to how you approach the ladies and engage them in conversation.

On the other hand, when you fail to make a unique impression, she's going to automatically lump you in with the last 37 chumps who tried to buy her a drink - and within three minutes of you paying for her $12 cocktail, she'll be excusing herself to "go find her friend." As if her friend is lost somewhere in the nightclub, in desperate need of food and water..

The key to building a bond with her is to engage her attention and to get her to share information about herself.

Then you'll tell her how much you relate and establish rapport with her.

One of my favorite conversational tactics for accomplishing this is by using cold reads. This technique, which as I mentioned in my previous post is used to great effect by psychics and palm readers, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they're going through, without them directly telling you.

The trick with cold reads is that the "observations" you're making apply to virtually anyone. Yet there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively.

Human beings are self-centered, and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we wish to be.

Also, people are vain. We want to be seen as unique.

Even though cold reads are usually vague generalizations [which would apply to your Aunt Bernice, just as they would to the hottie partying with her friends at the nightclub], we want to agree with the person who skillfully "reads" us, and we'll believe they have unusual powers of perception.

So forget about asking the generic "job interview" questions - "So what's your name", "where are you from", etc.

Example: if I'm in a club, talking to some babe who's acting a bit hard to get, I'll bust out a cold read along the lines of:

"You know, HB, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you're stand-offish and a bit cold. But you're actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize".

Another example: "I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you've been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you would do anything for them".

Yet another: "I can tell that you're someone who usually plays it safe and doesn't take chances, but sometimes you've regretted it because you missed out an opportunity. But then other times, you're spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances..and that's when you've had some of the best times of your life" [this one is a good one to work in for SNL-style game].

If she agrees with one of these "reads" [and honestly, I've never had a woman flat-out disagree], I'll follow up by telling her that I can totally relate, because I'm the same way.

This builds a bond between me and her instantly. In order to solidify the bond, I'll tell a quick story - one that illustrates how I'm the same type of person [a good idea: if you've got five cold reads ready to use, you should also have five short stories to illustrate how you embody those same qualities].

A similar tactic is using "Barnum statements", named after the circus showman P. T. Barnum. These statements apply to just about anybody, but they give the impression that you're tapping into her inner psyche.

One of my favorites is "I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You're on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren't you?" This is a good one, because pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision..or one that is big to us, at least.

Regardless, she'll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her. She'll probably volunteer more information - and now you're engaged in a deep, authentic conversation instead of trying to fill awkward pauses, or drag her onto the dance floor.

Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said, as if he already knew the answer.

For example, if she affirms that she's on the verge of making a big decision, nod wisely and say something along the lines of, "Yes, that's right, and you're really having a hard time with it".

In other words, claim her answer as your own.

Some other examples of cold reads that are vague yet "profound":

"You have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself".

"You've got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don't know about, and you want to pursue it..but something is holding you back".

"At times, you're really social and out-going. But other times, you're reserved and introverted".

Now that you understand the idea behind cold reads, you can make your own. Based on her vibe, the way she's dressed, and how she acts during the first few minutes of conversation, you should be able to use a "read" that applies to her.

Keep in mind that this is just one example of an original, thought-provoking conversational tactic. There's only so much I can squeeze into my posts, what with med school and all taking up so much of my time.

But I know it's helpful for you guys, and it helps me to get these thoughts and ideas out "on paper", helping me register them in my own mind more cleanly and clearly.

~h

Friday Night

Great idea to go out Friday night.

A little after 2am, I was finishing up my work and trying to decide whether to follow through on the plan of going out or just going to sleep. Then I got the call.

J: [lot of noise in the back] "Hey, Hrithik, where you at, man?"
h: "I'm at my place, just finishing up some work..what's up?"
J: "Dude, you still coming out to Bananas? You should come..just come! I met HBBartender, here, too..she told me to call you, too, and tell you she wants to see you! Plus..you gotta come, she's hooking me up with drinks for you, because she thinks we're brothers, and I told her you'd come - at least get some drinks off her, man!"
h: "Yeah, ok..let me finish up my stuff, and I'll head over"
J: "Ok, call me when you get here"

As I'm choosing the lamest clothes to wear by PUA standards [i.e. as plain as possible -> plain white T-shirt and jeans, albeit they are Armani jeans ;-)], I realize I'm kind of hungry, and as the night goes on, I'll definitely be hungry, so I make some eggs while I get dressed, hoping not to spill any on myself - I don't.

I fix my hair and realize that I really, really need to get a haircut. Which means I'll have to re-color it, too, which I've only just done for the 1st time before coming to school, so I already don't have much experience with it..and now, um, oh yea - I'm in another country!

As I walk towards the bar/club, I remind myself that I'm on a mission: the going out once a week rule is not just for shits and giggles, it's there to keep me in the game - help me re-gain my touch and continue the improvement process. So I run through a general guideline in my mind of how things should go down, especially in the case that a conversation begins to stall or something. And to deal with things that I know will happen, like seeing certain friends who should be there as well as HBBartender.

And of course, as Future said, "Not really to be in a confident state, but rather a talkative state.."; in other words [specifically, in Mehow's words], to "be social".

I passed a [half?] drunken couple walking by in the opposite direction, so I turned my whole head to make sure they see me looking at them and smiled at them. They looked over, looked away, the guy looked back over, I saw a glint of recognition in his eyes, but then the usual reaction I get from people a lot of times - I really have got to work on my intimidation factor haa

Just before I walk in, a guy in the pre-med program that I know sees me and back-tracks to catch up with me. Great start - puts me in a social mood, makes me realize that I am the shit, because he came back just to walk back towards the club with me, and upon entering, I'll already be walking in "with people" = Social Proof.

I pay the cover, and 1 of the 2 girls working at the front remembers me [see "woolen pants + soft phat ass" in the Party Like a Rock Star post], which is cool in and of itself because she is a cutie, and a really bubbly personality - perfect to help me stay in-state as I enter the "dreaded unknown". She gives me a hi-5 and tells me how it's been such a long time, then she gives me a raffle ticket because they were going to be giving away free drinks, and she was "hooking me up" with it. All this, in front of the other girl collecting my money, who was pretty freakin' hot herself, and in front of the rest of the club - mad Social Proof already.

Lately, I'd randomly re-read some notes and things, and 1 of those popped into my mind at this moment - 1st set on the left [or right, whatever]. So I quickly scanned the area as I pocketed my change and the raffle ticket, and because I do go to school with these people, and I am a very popular guy [despite all the chatter I get in my head, when I get nervous going out to venues "alone", there will always be people there that I know, but I can never get myself to believe this], I already knew the 1st set on the left, so it made it even easier to jump right in.

It was a constantly-shifting set, going from a 2-3set up to a 10set. And I owned it. I'd let other people chit-chat/respond to things I'd say while I surveyed the crowd [SMILE!], and then when I felt the set's energy going down a bit [so that we're not the "most fun people around" anymore], I'd just back in, and either get part of the group, or, when I was really warmed up and feeling like a true PUA baller, I'd get the entire double-digit group's focus squarely back on me..and just like that, Leader of Men switched on to all the other ladies around the venue - all they have to do is be able to see that "all eyes on me" vibe going on.

And the Pre-Selection came in the form of HBTriniMed, a gorgeous half-black, half-Indian Trinidadian girl in the class ahead of me who has this tight body on her - definitely got all the right features from each of the ethnicities. She walked through our circle-shaped set to come give me a lingering hug and chat for a minute, then walking away, shaking that ass and teasing all us guys with that very short, tight Denim mini-skirt..uunngghhhhhh, getting goosebumps just seeing that in my head again!

[..dammit, I SHOULD'VE TAKEN A PICTURE WITH HER..]

After a bit, I decide I should call my boy who got me out here, but there was no answer. So I take the set up one more time, and then go out on a high note [ALWAYS END ON A HIGH NOTE and leave people wanting more] to go find "J".

And I ran right into him as I started walking towards what used to be the club part of the venue. Literally. Right into him. And he'd been taking advantage of HBBartender being on my shit and hooking him up with drinks, because he almost didn't even realize he walked right into me. Almost.

He and I chit-chatted for a minute, then he told me to go see HBBartender, especially so she could hook me [and later, him] up with more free drinks. I walked in like I owned the place, right up to the bar, and she looked like her teeth were going to fall right out of her mouth, she was grinning so hard! :-p

So I started running some random b.s. with her, and then I remembered that I'm here not to maintain things, but progress my relations with people as well as my recovery back into the game. And from there, it was a spectacle to behold! I was kinoing the crap out of her, every chance I got, hand-holding, kisses on the cheek, etc, and then 1 of my boys "M", I've hardly seen around this term, he popped up. I'd texted him earlier in the night to see what his plans were, but he didn't know at the time where he was going, so I was genuinely really excited to see him. Keeping in mind the plan, but also the social rules [when a girl's gf enters the set, she'll totally blow the guys off to talk to her, even with body language..so, when you have a wing enter (even if he doesn't know he's a wing lol), you do the same - your friend has higher value to you than any girl, and you display that to her in a situation like this], so I turned my body side-ways to her so she was facing my shoulder while I joked around with my buddy.

And then my pimp-ass touch-screen camera came out.

Another friend of ours showed up, and I took a couple pictures of them, then they took pictures with me. And this was the beginning of the flash-game end of things. If you have the tools/means to create advantages or make things easier for yourself .. you..should..use..them!! And then "J" found me, too, and we had a couple pictures together..and already we were the most fun group of guys in the old-club area! That quickly and easily!

Now that I owned the inside, and it was all in front of HBBartender's face, I easily talked her into taking a shot with me - I think a Jager shot [?] inside of a cup of Red Bull..and I got to admit, she killed that thing! I can kill shots, but I can't chug drinks..and definitely not like she did!

Then I continued pumping her Buying Temperature, going hot-cold, Push-Pull on her, and then I decided I needed to walk around some outside, especially with this great sense of owning the place I had going on, I needed to use it to my advantage and..continue practicing gaming, since that was the point. So I told HBBartender that some of my friends were missing me, and I'd be back for her a little while.

I went in and out of sets halfway around the outer crescent-shaped area [the bar part], gaining Social Proof along the way and showing those intimidated by me that I'm not a mean scary too-cool-for-you asshole haa

It was really cool for me, too, because I literally saw/felt everyone watching me - "all eyez on me", Tupac-style.

Eventually, I met back up with "J" and a couple of his buddies, and we chilled near the bar area for a bit, having passers-by stop and talk [people we knew] or give me the "fuck-me" eyes [girls I didn't know]. And I got some introductions to girls who knew "J", but reading their body language, came into our set to talk/be near to me - gotta love body language!

A really obvious sign [if you know what's going on] happened with this girl, she's an Indian Trinidadian chick in my class, HBBrownTrini. It's funny, because I'd run into "J" earlier in the day at the gym, and 1 of the girls that he brought up was her, and talking about how she's gets around..I was kind of surprised, but not really - she'd been giving me the "fuck me" eyes ever since we'd seen each other a few terms back, but her boyfriend was here then, and I never bothered to try to deal with all that because she gives off vibes of being a very needy clingy type of girl, especially based on some incidents that a mutual friend of ours had told me..not worth it. But now, if she'd gotten over that whole thing, and needed to fuck to feel beautiful, or even for the sake of fucking, I'm totally cool with that - depends how much she's gotten around, though. I think it's more like she goes out and parties hard and wants to get laid, but then doesn't really go through with it.

The other crazy thing about her is that she looks just like a brown version of HBNeedyLocal"GF", like, exactly! They have the same face [except for their nose], same facial features, same expressions, same height, same body-type [well, HBBrownTrini has bigger boobs while HBNeedyLocal"GF" has a bigger butt], same mannerisms, same type of walk..and yet they've never met each other before..what the fuck?? And now here she was..

She was dancing just a few feet away from us..all of a sudden. She wasn't there before. And there was some guy dancing up on her, and she was wining on him all seductively. I pointed her out to "J" and our other friend. Then, I pointed out the fact that every time she did some really sexy move, she'd look..over at us. And any time the guy would try to kiss on her, she'd actually move away from him. When I looked back a minute or so later, she was still dancing, but another guy was up on her. And then another guy a few minutes after that. All the while, she stared me/us down.

I guess she caught on that we weren't planning on doing anything, because as we were chilling and talking, next thing I know, she's walked over to us, and reaches between the other 2 guys to poke me in the chest lol Guess I was right..now if only all girls made it that obvious, then we guys'd never have any headaches trying to figure women out, huh?

Anyways, so one of these girls that I got introduced to was a chick that "J" had just met earlier in the night, HBBrownVirgin - yes, she's Indian, and she's a virgin. And at first she was just talking with "J" and would look over at me, but I think "J" was not too keen on introducing her to me..I wonder why ;-) Eventually he did, though, and then he bounced over to a different area for a minute - and here I was with HBBrownVirgin.

Something about her was really sexy, so I decided to just start running game on her instead of just blabbing. One pre-conceived notion I have that I want/need to get rid of, is that Indian girls aren't fuckable. And I feel like this goes back to the cultural stereotype + my upbringing = sex is bad and wrong. I figured now was as good a time as any to get over this silly little notion.

I just started talking, doing my naturally-ingrained stuff, just allowing my mouth to run SO THAT I could focus on the other things, like body language and placement and kino and who's watching and who's not, etc, etc. THIS WAS A REALLY FUCKING GOOD IDEA - it's something that I'd learned, and it's kind of in my system, but seeing as how I haven't gone out nearly as much as I should've to maintain and build on all these little things, I need to make sure to note this and reproduce it every time.

The interaction was going really well, actually, especially with all the non-verbal things: we were in a high-traffic area [near the bar], so everyone could see and was seeing, and people I know would be going by so I could get Social Proof to her and Pre-Selection to them all in one hit, and the kino was friendly but quickly escalating, too. And then, I got hardcore Pre-Selection to her, because one girl that came by who is on my shit [she's got huge boobs, but that's about all there is to say], showed HBBrownVirgin and me that she is, indeed, all on my shit! haa

So then, I was running a Jealousy Plot-line, consciously, for an extended period of time, literally one right in front of the other. And the best part was, it escalated so quickly that I had the two girls fighting for my attention, getting louder and louder, grabbing me, holding me to keep my attention, etc - do I even need to re-state our prime location in the venue, on top of all the obvious Attraction Switches being flicked on and amplified sky-high? Not only were the girls getting hit with all this, but so was everyone else anywhere near us!

So I decided to exponentiate that side of things, by taking tons of pictures with both of the girls, having all kinds of people taking the shots of us, thus forcing them [and their friends] to take notice of us directly.

After a while of this, humongotits walked away, and HBBrownVirgin led my by the hand to the bar to take a shot together. And that's when I decided to escalate things from a physical to a more sexual mode. VERY IMPORTANT. And the other VERY IMPORTANT thing I did was LOCKING-IN!!!! God, it's ridiculous how easy it is to do, and yet how easy it is to forget!

[Like 1 time, I ran into HBTriniMed on campus at the bus-stop, and after a few seconds of talking, she locked in, leaning against the "wall", instead of me..how embarrassing to me]

Well, all the sex-talk obviously worked, because she started saying all kinds of things, but..BUT..this is also where she dropped the V-bomb on me..

..so what did I do..?

"Fuck it, just do it"

I kept going! lolll

..and what did she do..?

Yeah, she invited me over to her place. I handled that shit like it was not only not a big deal, it was not a deal at all, and so then, so did she! It's..all..about..the..FRAME CONTROL.

She told me that she had to leave, because her roommate was going, which was true because her roommate literally came up to her and told her this in front of me, and HBBrownVirgin told me she didn't want her roommate walking back alone.

But she made me pinky-swear that I'd call her and come to see her later on that night. And at this point, while we were talking, I kept bringing my face in closer and closer to hers, and when I'd talk, she'd being her face in closer and closer, so much so that at one point, we were talking, and each of our lips would touch while talking..hard to explain, but a very cool, sexy vibe in that.

When she rolled, I lingered for a minute and talked with a couple of guys who were sitting at the bar, both of whom were shit-faced, but both of whom I do know from before..we'll see if they even remember seeing me! haa

I also ran into HBTheBrownBody, and her guy-friend/bf/whatever. She and I talked for a good while, and she introduced me to the dude [he's in my class], and I befriended him quickly - in fact, he was seeking Rapport with me, so it worked out really well..I totally ignored her to disqualify myself to him as a suitor for her, as well as an indirect neg towards her. This way, I'm cool with the guy, but it leaves the situation open enough with HBTheBrownBody to see how things unfold with us in the future..

Then, I went back through the crowd, which was definitely a lot thinner than before..actually a good-sized crowd, in my opinion. It was mad packed before. But it was like 4am at this point..and yet I'd only been there for a little over an hour lol

I found the original set I had entered ["1st set on the left"], and 1 of the guys in there was just gonnnnnnnnnnnnnne, I mean, beyond simply plastered or shit-faced, he was..gonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnne.

So of course I made sure to take pictures with, and of, his drunk-ass!

I also quickly filled "J" in on what was going on and told him that since I'm apparently going to HBBrownVirgin's place, I'm going to need a little "something for my buddy", and he told me he'd work on it. I told him worst-case, I just swing back to my place first, but I'd rather not walk in the opposite direction only to back-track this way again. FROM NOW ON, I NEED TO CARRY A FEW WITH ME - the plan is always to bounce to the P.I.M.P. pad, where I'm stocked up, but for a situation like this, I have to be prepared.

Then I made my way back to inner area [the part formerly-known-as the club] with 1 of my buddies, to go meet back up with HBBartender and to get him hooked up with some drinks. I teased her a bit, after telling my buddy to figure out what it is that he wants. He went to the bathroom [not sure if all that thinking was forcing him to piss haa], so in the meantime, I went back to escalating things with HBBartender, picking the kino right back up where we left off, hand-holding and kissing on the cheek, etc. Then, next thing I realized, I'd jumped behind the bar..not really sure what led up to this, but whateverrr - I'm Hrithik, baby, watch out!

She was giggling and trying to get me to go back, and I was telling I wouldn't until she got us another shot [I'd told her when we took out 1st one that we'd take another one later], and then one of the guy bartenders showed up, and he looked all serious and pissed asking me if I work here, since I'm behind the bar..I couldn't tell if he was joking at 1st [hit was dimly lit there, and his skin color is dark as night], so I played it all cool [AGAIN, FRAME CONTROL] and interpreted it as a joke, and regardless of whether it was intended to be or not, we were all laughing our asses off by the time I was done talking!

Then my buddy "M" got back and took a bunch of pictures of me and HBBartender, in all kinds of poses, hugging, couple-like, kissing, etc. Then, I jumped back over to the other side while she poured the 3 of us shots of some burn-your-throat rum [it is the Caribbean, after all], and she started chugging water right after to kill that after-taste. My buddy buckled and got some ice/water from her, too, but I stood my ground..I could feel hair sprouting as my balls continued got a little bigger..they almost matched the size of HBBartender's eyes at this point, standing there amazed that I didn't even flinch.

Then she told me to wait for her while she closed down, etc, and gave me a quick kiss. So I went outside with my friend and met up with some of the other guys. As we started rounding everyone together, HBTriniMed was sitting near us talking to some girl, so I went over and told her that I didn't want to interrupt, but I was about to leave, etc. She and I ended up talking for a few minutes..and in doing so, she totally blew off the other girl = major IOI], so I returned the IOI with an SOI, leaning in to her and telling that she was looking sexy as hell in the Denim mini-skirt she had on. She thanked me and smiled [and I had to remind myself that she has kind of a hard face, so her facial expressions are always under-exaggerated, and I can't hold it against her because I probably give off a similar vibe to people, too, since I don't smile as much and am a really good-looking guy]. So I took that as a BIG HUGE smile, and as I smiled back at her, she told me that there was a birthday thing going on Saturday night and gave me the details, and I asked who it was for, and she goes "It's for me!" I was like "..for real? It's your birthday??", and she tells me it's next Sunday [note to self: call/text+call for her b-day :-)], and I should roll through. For her IOI, I asked her how old she was going to be..and should've prepared myself - she's going to be 22 years old..I hesitated mentally as this registered, and the fact that therefore she's only 21 at this point, and thus up until now has been younger than I'd realized, etc.

Fortunately, I was still in game-mode, and that side of me took control of my verbal and physical actions while my mind still tried to comprehend this new re-setting of facts, and I was like "Wow, that's awesome!" and gave her a kiss on 1 cheek for her birthday and the other for good luck and the year to come! And she was just giggling [I didn't remember at that point, but again, coming from her, that's a very good thing] as I gave her a hug and went back to my friends.

At this point, "M" had joined the little gathering, so I walked over to a quiet back-side spot and had a little heart-to-heart with him about how things were with him, the stuff he had going on in his life these days, all that good-feelings stuff caring friends do, especially since I hadn't seen him around in such a while.

When I started to roll, he decided he was staying back so he could maintain good relations with the head bouncer at the entrance to the place [so he can keep getting in for free], so I decided to re-join "J" and the others to bounce on out of there, especially since they were headed back towards campus, where HBBrownVirgin was waiting on me - yea, she stayed up for me, as I soon found out when I called her to let her know I was leaving the venue.

1 of the 2 girls walking back with us was HBBrownTrini, and "J" and a couple of the other guys were trying to get the 2 girls to make out. I found out yesterday that they almost got them to, too! haa

Regardless, I walked with "J" for a bit, and he gave me a hi-5/handshake and slipped me a condom - nice.

At one point, I caught up with HBBrownTrini and gave her shit for blowing me off all the time in class and around campus. I didn't realize it at the time, but I was in fact QUALIFYING HER [another thing that I didn't think to do all night, but I unintentionally ended up doing anyways..which is a good thing that it's naturally there, but I should be aware of it rather than just brushing it aside and counting on it to "just happen" - especially since like Sinn told me, I definitely must qualify, and early, to lower LMR I may face, mainly because I've got looks on my side, and that actually works against me in that kind of situation, i.e. SNLs].

So she starts qualifying herself to me, telling me that she's always saying hi to me and all this, and I called her out on it, and one of my friends was walking with us and started chiming in, too, backing me that she was in his small group for class and would still blow him off. I laughed and told her that her case was not looking too good, which prompted more qualification from her. Finally, I cut that and told her "You know what the worst part about all this is? You're not going to remember any of this tomorrow!" and she started even more qualification, trying to get out of the not-so-subtle frame I'd just put out there, and I told her, fine, I'm going to take her picture so I'll have proof that this happened. She struck a pose, I shot it, then my friend who was walking with us said to take one together [good looks, bro!] and so she hugged up on me, and we posed for what we thought was the picture, but instead he started browsing through the pictures that I'd taken throughout the night! Idiot haa But he got it right eventually, after he heard it from me..and her [ahem ahem]..someone was really interested in getting her picture with me ;-)

Finally, after dropping them off at their places, I called up HBBrownVirgin to tell her I was on my way and almost there, so she said she'd meet up outside her place. As soon as I hung up, HBBartender called me, too, and I gave her the Protector of Loved Ones spin on things - that I had to make sure everyone made it back just fine, that's what I do because I'd be really upset with myself if something were to happen to someone, so that's what I was doing, and as soon as I was done, I'd hit her up on my way back and see if she was still at the bar/club.

I met up with HBBrownVirgin, and it was so on! Except she has a roommate..so I decided to build Comfort with her, so it doesn't come off as too much of a ONS, especially since she is, after all, a virgin - that'd be really messed up. And the more I thought about it, the guiltier I knew I was going to feel if something happened..well, not something, the thing. Because we definitely fooled around and all that, but I did not feel morally right about being her first when I had no intention of doing anything beyond that..and she may become all clingy and stuff, on top of that. And of course, this is where being on a campus can work against you - everyone knows me, and my shit'll be out there if I [literally] screw someone over like this. So I'd do a lot of Take-Aways, hot-cold/Push-Pull stuff, etc, escalating physically and then stopping to build Comfort, which would of course have sexually-framed comments and themes as well, and continued cycling like this for a little while. Finally, I decided I was tired and needed to go to sleep.

And this proved to be a true test of mind over body, like that Seinfeld episode, when Jerry's brain and penis are playing chess lollllll - I had to make sure my brain won.

Because, she offered me the option of sleeping over. A few times. Then she offered walking me back. A few times. I told her that would defeat the purpose, because I wouldn't allow her to walk back alone. So then she suggested she could sleep over at my place..and I toyed with the idea for a minute, but then snapped out of it - if she stayed over, in my bed, I may still make it through the "night" [it was like 6:30am at this point], BUT..would I make it through the next time, when we woke up next to each other..?? Especially since we'd be in the P.I.M.P. pad, the huge bed, drawers full of condoms, isolation from roommates/classmates/school, etc..?

I'm not going to chance winning the battle only to lose the war.

So I resisted, and barely got out of there.

The good news is, I've got it set up so that the next time, if I decide to go through with it, it'll be there for me, AND there won't be any of these possible repercussions because there will be all this time in between for things to have sunken in with her, she'll be making her own decision rather than going with her feelings. Although..the sexual frames during our cool-down Comfort parts may take affect to set up the right direction for all this..

On my way back, I called up HBBartender, but she was already back at her place, so we chit-chatted for a minute but then I let her go..one of my boys who works at Bananas already told me that I've got her locked [he definitely played a strong role in solidifying it, too, especially when I wasn't around].

Keeping that in mind, I thought - staying on the phone means more connection time, which means more feelings that she already has, which means more likely she's going to quickly "fall in love" with me, Breakthrough Comfort-style..if she hasn't already. And that's definitely not what I'm going for, so why set her up for that when I can avoid it, right?

So I hung up.

~h

Some Thoughts..

..and just as I'm about to get some stuff out, HBNeedyLocal"GF" calls..awesome..we'll see how well my thoughts come out on here while I listen to her blab..

So, Monday I had my final exam for the CPM exam [turns out I got a B, which sucks because I thought I was just going to scrape by with an A]. But, at the time, I was just chilling, and 2 different groups of friends were convincing me to go to the beach, and as strange as it may seem, living in a Caribbean island, I'm not a big fan of the beach.

"Fuck it, just do it"

I decided to skip the gym and wait for my roommate to finish his quiz, he rolled back to the P.I.M.P. pad with a couple of mutual guy friends and 1 female friend. And then we headed out to the beach - and it was just what I needed.

It made me realize this is exactly why I made that rule to go out once a week - meet up with friends, chill, get away from school, and be able to practice game.

I [finally] bought a digital camera over the Christmas break, so I took it with me to the beach, and it was a damn good idea. Especially when more and more of my friends poured in to join us. And I remembered not to just enjoy myself, but also to use this opportunity to run some game, especially when my roommate's female friend had one of her girlfriends come out to join us, and our waitress told me flat-out that I was cute or hot or something..and so it began.

HBWaitress: "You know, you're cute/hot/whatever.."
h: "Well, thank you!"
HBWaitress: "..don' tink dat I'm flirtin' wit' you, dough.."
h: "Oh, I don't think you are .. I know you are"
HBWaitress: [giggle]

From there, I'd throw in random stuff her way, mainly escalating kino while being a very fun, social guy..but also throwing in indirect Attraction triggers - like buying a round of drinks for everyone, then shots for my other late-comer friends as they'd join us, etc, showing the waitress [and the 2 girls with us, too] that I was a Leader of Men and also Protector of Loved Ones.

And, I got in some practice with flash-game, using the new touch-screen camera I got..although, I have to admit, everybody else used it more than I did, but I got maaad pictures from the day, and that's all that matters - especially with my boys, and the 2 girls, and the waitress, all as action shots, which is the main thing.

All said and done, I could've pulled the half-Asian girl, definitely [my roommate introduced me as Bollywood, and that's what she called me the rest of the time, so I knew it was already on]. Me and the waitress made plans to get together after she got off work that same day, but I ended up blowing her off to make sure 1 of the guys made it back okay..good thing, too, because it turns out that he'd totally blacked out on the later part of our day, so who knows what could've happened to his dumbass! :-D But the taste of that success made me want to keep pushing and trying to work on my SNL [single-night lay] game, which is the game-plan for when I go out: 1st priority = SNL, back-up plan = Day2 the target.

On a related note, I've started wearing my right thumb ring on my middle finger, so as to better be able to use Captain Jack's Rings on Fingers routine to help set sexual frames into the interactions, end-goal being, again, the SNL.

Afterwards, I kicked it with a couple of my boys back at one of their places for a good while, then eventually got back to my place and crashed. And missed class all week, because I was so tired, and enjoying myself that day made me realize that I needed to catch up on a lot of sleep..so I did. I went to all my small group and review sessions, but the actual lectures I slept through to get rested up - mid-terms will be coming soon, and I'd rather miss class now and work later vs work now and burn-out just before the exams.

Yesterday was pimp, too, so I'll throw that in real quick - basically, I had HBLazyEye come over, and I decided I'd start to be more FB-style rather than nice guy/BF-style. And best to practice quick escalations with a girl I've already got, knowing I can have her, instead of waiting to do it with a girl later when I have to work my thing and not be able to do it because I don't know what to do or when to do it, etc.

So, girl came over, we talked for a few minutes, then I decided to introduce my camera into the equation - one of my boys, he sometimes takes pictures of girls he's banged, so I decided if I set the bar a little higher for myself, I'll keep pushing myself and thus continue improving. And therefore, I've decided that I'm going to take pictures of girls I get with, too. Which brings me to the reason why I brought the camera into the interaction with me and HBLazyEye [since it did slow down Project Quick Escalation]. However, the other advantage was that it helped me practice using pictures as DHVs and conversational material, too.

So I did that, and there were a few points when I know I could've used it with her, but I pussed out [no excuses next time, thought - everything went so well, it made me more confident in just doing whatever the fuck I want to do].

It was funny, my roommate told me the next day [i.e. today] that he was in the bathroom, and he heard us talking, and all of a sudden, everything went quiet and all he heard was making-out sounds..and withing like 10 minutes, he heard a girl's voice calling out all kinds of random words/sounds..nice - Project Quick Escalation was a success!

Next time, use the camera while banging her..and I might even be doing that this weekend..or maybe HBPerfectTits because, as the name suggests, those breasts are definitely worth capturing ;-)

Oh, and I haven't backed down from my going-out-once-a-week rule: technically, I "went out" Monday, but I'm not being a bitch - I'm going to get some work done, and then me and 1 of my boys are going to head to the near-by bar/club to chill [where conveniently, HBBartender happens to work]..and hopefully catch the post-party rush heading over that way..especially since HBBellyDancer was all on my nuts earlier in the week, texting me to invite me out tonight, and even today in person, trying to convince me to come out..

~h