Friday Night

Great idea to go out Friday night.

A little after 2am, I was finishing up my work and trying to decide whether to follow through on the plan of going out or just going to sleep. Then I got the call.

J: [lot of noise in the back] "Hey, Hrithik, where you at, man?"
h: "I'm at my place, just finishing up some work..what's up?"
J: "Dude, you still coming out to Bananas? You should come..just come! I met HBBartender, here, too..she told me to call you, too, and tell you she wants to see you! Plus..you gotta come, she's hooking me up with drinks for you, because she thinks we're brothers, and I told her you'd come - at least get some drinks off her, man!"
h: "Yeah, ok..let me finish up my stuff, and I'll head over"
J: "Ok, call me when you get here"

As I'm choosing the lamest clothes to wear by PUA standards [i.e. as plain as possible -> plain white T-shirt and jeans, albeit they are Armani jeans ;-)], I realize I'm kind of hungry, and as the night goes on, I'll definitely be hungry, so I make some eggs while I get dressed, hoping not to spill any on myself - I don't.

I fix my hair and realize that I really, really need to get a haircut. Which means I'll have to re-color it, too, which I've only just done for the 1st time before coming to school, so I already don't have much experience with it..and now, um, oh yea - I'm in another country!

As I walk towards the bar/club, I remind myself that I'm on a mission: the going out once a week rule is not just for shits and giggles, it's there to keep me in the game - help me re-gain my touch and continue the improvement process. So I run through a general guideline in my mind of how things should go down, especially in the case that a conversation begins to stall or something. And to deal with things that I know will happen, like seeing certain friends who should be there as well as HBBartender.

And of course, as Future said, "Not really to be in a confident state, but rather a talkative state.."; in other words [specifically, in Mehow's words], to "be social".

I passed a [half?] drunken couple walking by in the opposite direction, so I turned my whole head to make sure they see me looking at them and smiled at them. They looked over, looked away, the guy looked back over, I saw a glint of recognition in his eyes, but then the usual reaction I get from people a lot of times - I really have got to work on my intimidation factor haa

Just before I walk in, a guy in the pre-med program that I know sees me and back-tracks to catch up with me. Great start - puts me in a social mood, makes me realize that I am the shit, because he came back just to walk back towards the club with me, and upon entering, I'll already be walking in "with people" = Social Proof.

I pay the cover, and 1 of the 2 girls working at the front remembers me [see "woolen pants + soft phat ass" in the Party Like a Rock Star post], which is cool in and of itself because she is a cutie, and a really bubbly personality - perfect to help me stay in-state as I enter the "dreaded unknown". She gives me a hi-5 and tells me how it's been such a long time, then she gives me a raffle ticket because they were going to be giving away free drinks, and she was "hooking me up" with it. All this, in front of the other girl collecting my money, who was pretty freakin' hot herself, and in front of the rest of the club - mad Social Proof already.

Lately, I'd randomly re-read some notes and things, and 1 of those popped into my mind at this moment - 1st set on the left [or right, whatever]. So I quickly scanned the area as I pocketed my change and the raffle ticket, and because I do go to school with these people, and I am a very popular guy [despite all the chatter I get in my head, when I get nervous going out to venues "alone", there will always be people there that I know, but I can never get myself to believe this], I already knew the 1st set on the left, so it made it even easier to jump right in.

It was a constantly-shifting set, going from a 2-3set up to a 10set. And I owned it. I'd let other people chit-chat/respond to things I'd say while I surveyed the crowd [SMILE!], and then when I felt the set's energy going down a bit [so that we're not the "most fun people around" anymore], I'd just back in, and either get part of the group, or, when I was really warmed up and feeling like a true PUA baller, I'd get the entire double-digit group's focus squarely back on me..and just like that, Leader of Men switched on to all the other ladies around the venue - all they have to do is be able to see that "all eyes on me" vibe going on.

And the Pre-Selection came in the form of HBTriniMed, a gorgeous half-black, half-Indian Trinidadian girl in the class ahead of me who has this tight body on her - definitely got all the right features from each of the ethnicities. She walked through our circle-shaped set to come give me a lingering hug and chat for a minute, then walking away, shaking that ass and teasing all us guys with that very short, tight Denim mini-skirt..uunngghhhhhh, getting goosebumps just seeing that in my head again!

[..dammit, I SHOULD'VE TAKEN A PICTURE WITH HER..]

After a bit, I decide I should call my boy who got me out here, but there was no answer. So I take the set up one more time, and then go out on a high note [ALWAYS END ON A HIGH NOTE and leave people wanting more] to go find "J".

And I ran right into him as I started walking towards what used to be the club part of the venue. Literally. Right into him. And he'd been taking advantage of HBBartender being on my shit and hooking him up with drinks, because he almost didn't even realize he walked right into me. Almost.

He and I chit-chatted for a minute, then he told me to go see HBBartender, especially so she could hook me [and later, him] up with more free drinks. I walked in like I owned the place, right up to the bar, and she looked like her teeth were going to fall right out of her mouth, she was grinning so hard! :-p

So I started running some random b.s. with her, and then I remembered that I'm here not to maintain things, but progress my relations with people as well as my recovery back into the game. And from there, it was a spectacle to behold! I was kinoing the crap out of her, every chance I got, hand-holding, kisses on the cheek, etc, and then 1 of my boys "M", I've hardly seen around this term, he popped up. I'd texted him earlier in the night to see what his plans were, but he didn't know at the time where he was going, so I was genuinely really excited to see him. Keeping in mind the plan, but also the social rules [when a girl's gf enters the set, she'll totally blow the guys off to talk to her, even with body language..so, when you have a wing enter (even if he doesn't know he's a wing lol), you do the same - your friend has higher value to you than any girl, and you display that to her in a situation like this], so I turned my body side-ways to her so she was facing my shoulder while I joked around with my buddy.

And then my pimp-ass touch-screen camera came out.

Another friend of ours showed up, and I took a couple pictures of them, then they took pictures with me. And this was the beginning of the flash-game end of things. If you have the tools/means to create advantages or make things easier for yourself .. you..should..use..them!! And then "J" found me, too, and we had a couple pictures together..and already we were the most fun group of guys in the old-club area! That quickly and easily!

Now that I owned the inside, and it was all in front of HBBartender's face, I easily talked her into taking a shot with me - I think a Jager shot [?] inside of a cup of Red Bull..and I got to admit, she killed that thing! I can kill shots, but I can't chug drinks..and definitely not like she did!

Then I continued pumping her Buying Temperature, going hot-cold, Push-Pull on her, and then I decided I needed to walk around some outside, especially with this great sense of owning the place I had going on, I needed to use it to my advantage and..continue practicing gaming, since that was the point. So I told HBBartender that some of my friends were missing me, and I'd be back for her a little while.

I went in and out of sets halfway around the outer crescent-shaped area [the bar part], gaining Social Proof along the way and showing those intimidated by me that I'm not a mean scary too-cool-for-you asshole haa

It was really cool for me, too, because I literally saw/felt everyone watching me - "all eyez on me", Tupac-style.

Eventually, I met back up with "J" and a couple of his buddies, and we chilled near the bar area for a bit, having passers-by stop and talk [people we knew] or give me the "fuck-me" eyes [girls I didn't know]. And I got some introductions to girls who knew "J", but reading their body language, came into our set to talk/be near to me - gotta love body language!

A really obvious sign [if you know what's going on] happened with this girl, she's an Indian Trinidadian chick in my class, HBBrownTrini. It's funny, because I'd run into "J" earlier in the day at the gym, and 1 of the girls that he brought up was her, and talking about how she's gets around..I was kind of surprised, but not really - she'd been giving me the "fuck me" eyes ever since we'd seen each other a few terms back, but her boyfriend was here then, and I never bothered to try to deal with all that because she gives off vibes of being a very needy clingy type of girl, especially based on some incidents that a mutual friend of ours had told me..not worth it. But now, if she'd gotten over that whole thing, and needed to fuck to feel beautiful, or even for the sake of fucking, I'm totally cool with that - depends how much she's gotten around, though. I think it's more like she goes out and parties hard and wants to get laid, but then doesn't really go through with it.

The other crazy thing about her is that she looks just like a brown version of HBNeedyLocal"GF", like, exactly! They have the same face [except for their nose], same facial features, same expressions, same height, same body-type [well, HBBrownTrini has bigger boobs while HBNeedyLocal"GF" has a bigger butt], same mannerisms, same type of walk..and yet they've never met each other before..what the fuck?? And now here she was..

She was dancing just a few feet away from us..all of a sudden. She wasn't there before. And there was some guy dancing up on her, and she was wining on him all seductively. I pointed her out to "J" and our other friend. Then, I pointed out the fact that every time she did some really sexy move, she'd look..over at us. And any time the guy would try to kiss on her, she'd actually move away from him. When I looked back a minute or so later, she was still dancing, but another guy was up on her. And then another guy a few minutes after that. All the while, she stared me/us down.

I guess she caught on that we weren't planning on doing anything, because as we were chilling and talking, next thing I know, she's walked over to us, and reaches between the other 2 guys to poke me in the chest lol Guess I was right..now if only all girls made it that obvious, then we guys'd never have any headaches trying to figure women out, huh?

Anyways, so one of these girls that I got introduced to was a chick that "J" had just met earlier in the night, HBBrownVirgin - yes, she's Indian, and she's a virgin. And at first she was just talking with "J" and would look over at me, but I think "J" was not too keen on introducing her to me..I wonder why ;-) Eventually he did, though, and then he bounced over to a different area for a minute - and here I was with HBBrownVirgin.

Something about her was really sexy, so I decided to just start running game on her instead of just blabbing. One pre-conceived notion I have that I want/need to get rid of, is that Indian girls aren't fuckable. And I feel like this goes back to the cultural stereotype + my upbringing = sex is bad and wrong. I figured now was as good a time as any to get over this silly little notion.

I just started talking, doing my naturally-ingrained stuff, just allowing my mouth to run SO THAT I could focus on the other things, like body language and placement and kino and who's watching and who's not, etc, etc. THIS WAS A REALLY FUCKING GOOD IDEA - it's something that I'd learned, and it's kind of in my system, but seeing as how I haven't gone out nearly as much as I should've to maintain and build on all these little things, I need to make sure to note this and reproduce it every time.

The interaction was going really well, actually, especially with all the non-verbal things: we were in a high-traffic area [near the bar], so everyone could see and was seeing, and people I know would be going by so I could get Social Proof to her and Pre-Selection to them all in one hit, and the kino was friendly but quickly escalating, too. And then, I got hardcore Pre-Selection to her, because one girl that came by who is on my shit [she's got huge boobs, but that's about all there is to say], showed HBBrownVirgin and me that she is, indeed, all on my shit! haa

So then, I was running a Jealousy Plot-line, consciously, for an extended period of time, literally one right in front of the other. And the best part was, it escalated so quickly that I had the two girls fighting for my attention, getting louder and louder, grabbing me, holding me to keep my attention, etc - do I even need to re-state our prime location in the venue, on top of all the obvious Attraction Switches being flicked on and amplified sky-high? Not only were the girls getting hit with all this, but so was everyone else anywhere near us!

So I decided to exponentiate that side of things, by taking tons of pictures with both of the girls, having all kinds of people taking the shots of us, thus forcing them [and their friends] to take notice of us directly.

After a while of this, humongotits walked away, and HBBrownVirgin led my by the hand to the bar to take a shot together. And that's when I decided to escalate things from a physical to a more sexual mode. VERY IMPORTANT. And the other VERY IMPORTANT thing I did was LOCKING-IN!!!! God, it's ridiculous how easy it is to do, and yet how easy it is to forget!

[Like 1 time, I ran into HBTriniMed on campus at the bus-stop, and after a few seconds of talking, she locked in, leaning against the "wall", instead of me..how embarrassing to me]

Well, all the sex-talk obviously worked, because she started saying all kinds of things, but..BUT..this is also where she dropped the V-bomb on me..

..so what did I do..?

"Fuck it, just do it"

I kept going! lolll

..and what did she do..?

Yeah, she invited me over to her place. I handled that shit like it was not only not a big deal, it was not a deal at all, and so then, so did she! It's..all..about..the..FRAME CONTROL.

She told me that she had to leave, because her roommate was going, which was true because her roommate literally came up to her and told her this in front of me, and HBBrownVirgin told me she didn't want her roommate walking back alone.

But she made me pinky-swear that I'd call her and come to see her later on that night. And at this point, while we were talking, I kept bringing my face in closer and closer to hers, and when I'd talk, she'd being her face in closer and closer, so much so that at one point, we were talking, and each of our lips would touch while talking..hard to explain, but a very cool, sexy vibe in that.

When she rolled, I lingered for a minute and talked with a couple of guys who were sitting at the bar, both of whom were shit-faced, but both of whom I do know from before..we'll see if they even remember seeing me! haa

I also ran into HBTheBrownBody, and her guy-friend/bf/whatever. She and I talked for a good while, and she introduced me to the dude [he's in my class], and I befriended him quickly - in fact, he was seeking Rapport with me, so it worked out really well..I totally ignored her to disqualify myself to him as a suitor for her, as well as an indirect neg towards her. This way, I'm cool with the guy, but it leaves the situation open enough with HBTheBrownBody to see how things unfold with us in the future..

Then, I went back through the crowd, which was definitely a lot thinner than before..actually a good-sized crowd, in my opinion. It was mad packed before. But it was like 4am at this point..and yet I'd only been there for a little over an hour lol

I found the original set I had entered ["1st set on the left"], and 1 of the guys in there was just gonnnnnnnnnnnnnne, I mean, beyond simply plastered or shit-faced, he was..gonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnne.

So of course I made sure to take pictures with, and of, his drunk-ass!

I also quickly filled "J" in on what was going on and told him that since I'm apparently going to HBBrownVirgin's place, I'm going to need a little "something for my buddy", and he told me he'd work on it. I told him worst-case, I just swing back to my place first, but I'd rather not walk in the opposite direction only to back-track this way again. FROM NOW ON, I NEED TO CARRY A FEW WITH ME - the plan is always to bounce to the P.I.M.P. pad, where I'm stocked up, but for a situation like this, I have to be prepared.

Then I made my way back to inner area [the part formerly-known-as the club] with 1 of my buddies, to go meet back up with HBBartender and to get him hooked up with some drinks. I teased her a bit, after telling my buddy to figure out what it is that he wants. He went to the bathroom [not sure if all that thinking was forcing him to piss haa], so in the meantime, I went back to escalating things with HBBartender, picking the kino right back up where we left off, hand-holding and kissing on the cheek, etc. Then, next thing I realized, I'd jumped behind the bar..not really sure what led up to this, but whateverrr - I'm Hrithik, baby, watch out!

She was giggling and trying to get me to go back, and I was telling I wouldn't until she got us another shot [I'd told her when we took out 1st one that we'd take another one later], and then one of the guy bartenders showed up, and he looked all serious and pissed asking me if I work here, since I'm behind the bar..I couldn't tell if he was joking at 1st [hit was dimly lit there, and his skin color is dark as night], so I played it all cool [AGAIN, FRAME CONTROL] and interpreted it as a joke, and regardless of whether it was intended to be or not, we were all laughing our asses off by the time I was done talking!

Then my buddy "M" got back and took a bunch of pictures of me and HBBartender, in all kinds of poses, hugging, couple-like, kissing, etc. Then, I jumped back over to the other side while she poured the 3 of us shots of some burn-your-throat rum [it is the Caribbean, after all], and she started chugging water right after to kill that after-taste. My buddy buckled and got some ice/water from her, too, but I stood my ground..I could feel hair sprouting as my balls continued got a little bigger..they almost matched the size of HBBartender's eyes at this point, standing there amazed that I didn't even flinch.

Then she told me to wait for her while she closed down, etc, and gave me a quick kiss. So I went outside with my friend and met up with some of the other guys. As we started rounding everyone together, HBTriniMed was sitting near us talking to some girl, so I went over and told her that I didn't want to interrupt, but I was about to leave, etc. She and I ended up talking for a few minutes..and in doing so, she totally blew off the other girl = major IOI], so I returned the IOI with an SOI, leaning in to her and telling that she was looking sexy as hell in the Denim mini-skirt she had on. She thanked me and smiled [and I had to remind myself that she has kind of a hard face, so her facial expressions are always under-exaggerated, and I can't hold it against her because I probably give off a similar vibe to people, too, since I don't smile as much and am a really good-looking guy]. So I took that as a BIG HUGE smile, and as I smiled back at her, she told me that there was a birthday thing going on Saturday night and gave me the details, and I asked who it was for, and she goes "It's for me!" I was like "..for real? It's your birthday??", and she tells me it's next Sunday [note to self: call/text+call for her b-day :-)], and I should roll through. For her IOI, I asked her how old she was going to be..and should've prepared myself - she's going to be 22 years old..I hesitated mentally as this registered, and the fact that therefore she's only 21 at this point, and thus up until now has been younger than I'd realized, etc.

Fortunately, I was still in game-mode, and that side of me took control of my verbal and physical actions while my mind still tried to comprehend this new re-setting of facts, and I was like "Wow, that's awesome!" and gave her a kiss on 1 cheek for her birthday and the other for good luck and the year to come! And she was just giggling [I didn't remember at that point, but again, coming from her, that's a very good thing] as I gave her a hug and went back to my friends.

At this point, "M" had joined the little gathering, so I walked over to a quiet back-side spot and had a little heart-to-heart with him about how things were with him, the stuff he had going on in his life these days, all that good-feelings stuff caring friends do, especially since I hadn't seen him around in such a while.

When I started to roll, he decided he was staying back so he could maintain good relations with the head bouncer at the entrance to the place [so he can keep getting in for free], so I decided to re-join "J" and the others to bounce on out of there, especially since they were headed back towards campus, where HBBrownVirgin was waiting on me - yea, she stayed up for me, as I soon found out when I called her to let her know I was leaving the venue.

1 of the 2 girls walking back with us was HBBrownTrini, and "J" and a couple of the other guys were trying to get the 2 girls to make out. I found out yesterday that they almost got them to, too! haa

Regardless, I walked with "J" for a bit, and he gave me a hi-5/handshake and slipped me a condom - nice.

At one point, I caught up with HBBrownTrini and gave her shit for blowing me off all the time in class and around campus. I didn't realize it at the time, but I was in fact QUALIFYING HER [another thing that I didn't think to do all night, but I unintentionally ended up doing anyways..which is a good thing that it's naturally there, but I should be aware of it rather than just brushing it aside and counting on it to "just happen" - especially since like Sinn told me, I definitely must qualify, and early, to lower LMR I may face, mainly because I've got looks on my side, and that actually works against me in that kind of situation, i.e. SNLs].

So she starts qualifying herself to me, telling me that she's always saying hi to me and all this, and I called her out on it, and one of my friends was walking with us and started chiming in, too, backing me that she was in his small group for class and would still blow him off. I laughed and told her that her case was not looking too good, which prompted more qualification from her. Finally, I cut that and told her "You know what the worst part about all this is? You're not going to remember any of this tomorrow!" and she started even more qualification, trying to get out of the not-so-subtle frame I'd just put out there, and I told her, fine, I'm going to take her picture so I'll have proof that this happened. She struck a pose, I shot it, then my friend who was walking with us said to take one together [good looks, bro!] and so she hugged up on me, and we posed for what we thought was the picture, but instead he started browsing through the pictures that I'd taken throughout the night! Idiot haa But he got it right eventually, after he heard it from me..and her [ahem ahem]..someone was really interested in getting her picture with me ;-)

Finally, after dropping them off at their places, I called up HBBrownVirgin to tell her I was on my way and almost there, so she said she'd meet up outside her place. As soon as I hung up, HBBartender called me, too, and I gave her the Protector of Loved Ones spin on things - that I had to make sure everyone made it back just fine, that's what I do because I'd be really upset with myself if something were to happen to someone, so that's what I was doing, and as soon as I was done, I'd hit her up on my way back and see if she was still at the bar/club.

I met up with HBBrownVirgin, and it was so on! Except she has a roommate..so I decided to build Comfort with her, so it doesn't come off as too much of a ONS, especially since she is, after all, a virgin - that'd be really messed up. And the more I thought about it, the guiltier I knew I was going to feel if something happened..well, not something, the thing. Because we definitely fooled around and all that, but I did not feel morally right about being her first when I had no intention of doing anything beyond that..and she may become all clingy and stuff, on top of that. And of course, this is where being on a campus can work against you - everyone knows me, and my shit'll be out there if I [literally] screw someone over like this. So I'd do a lot of Take-Aways, hot-cold/Push-Pull stuff, etc, escalating physically and then stopping to build Comfort, which would of course have sexually-framed comments and themes as well, and continued cycling like this for a little while. Finally, I decided I was tired and needed to go to sleep.

And this proved to be a true test of mind over body, like that Seinfeld episode, when Jerry's brain and penis are playing chess lollllll - I had to make sure my brain won.

Because, she offered me the option of sleeping over. A few times. Then she offered walking me back. A few times. I told her that would defeat the purpose, because I wouldn't allow her to walk back alone. So then she suggested she could sleep over at my place..and I toyed with the idea for a minute, but then snapped out of it - if she stayed over, in my bed, I may still make it through the "night" [it was like 6:30am at this point], BUT..would I make it through the next time, when we woke up next to each other..?? Especially since we'd be in the P.I.M.P. pad, the huge bed, drawers full of condoms, isolation from roommates/classmates/school, etc..?

I'm not going to chance winning the battle only to lose the war.

So I resisted, and barely got out of there.

The good news is, I've got it set up so that the next time, if I decide to go through with it, it'll be there for me, AND there won't be any of these possible repercussions because there will be all this time in between for things to have sunken in with her, she'll be making her own decision rather than going with her feelings. Although..the sexual frames during our cool-down Comfort parts may take affect to set up the right direction for all this..

On my way back, I called up HBBartender, but she was already back at her place, so we chit-chatted for a minute but then I let her go..one of my boys who works at Bananas already told me that I've got her locked [he definitely played a strong role in solidifying it, too, especially when I wasn't around].

Keeping that in mind, I thought - staying on the phone means more connection time, which means more feelings that she already has, which means more likely she's going to quickly "fall in love" with me, Breakthrough Comfort-style..if she hasn't already. And that's definitely not what I'm going for, so why set her up for that when I can avoid it, right?

So I hung up.

~h