Initiating and Escalating Physical Touch

I finally had a quick minute to check my email, and wanted to post up on this topic real fast, too..especially because I was thinking about my run-in with HBKraaazyBody at the end of last week and how I was very quickly [and automatically, as in completely free of any active thought] implementing little things like bounces [even if they were minor ones] to give the time-distortion effect and all, as well as getting in some Attraction to freshen things back up and a lot of Comfort to get some progression with things [it'd literally been weeks, if not a month, since I've last seen her..and her phone can't text me back..welcome to the Caribbean!].

Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component of seduction. You can’t successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility; in other words, before you can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you must first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer. Whatever form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction.

And many times, that right there is the problem: how does a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl’s not being tactile, how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away? Often we just “go for it” and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of our rushed attempt at physical closeness. Others of us decide we don’t want to risk putting a girl off, so we hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact [by the way, doing this usually sends out the wrong message - either you're not interested in the girl, or that you're simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl].

So what’s the solution to this awkward problem? Basically, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl [and therefore don’t appear uncalled-for or rushed] but at the same time clearly indicate that you’re a confident guy who’s not afraid of getting to know girls..and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact.

Ok, let’s check it out.

1. Many of us think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that’s definitely not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, just casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally saying something. The outside of a woman’s arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it’s a clear-cut sign that you’re a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don’t be afraid to give it a try – trust me, you’ll notice the benefits immediately. It makes it "normal" to be in physical contact with one another, right away.

2. Once you’ve started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it’s important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you’ve already created and also helps build it further, into mutually-felt sexual attraction. All you really have to do is make physical contact with the girl in a "disguised", honest way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn’t know the way, you can place your hand on her shoulder, draw her in a little closer, swivel both of your bodies around until you're both facing the right direction, then point to where she needs to go with your other hand, past other people or things.

3. Lastly, always try to close with contact when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, and talking for a few more minutes, give her a hi-five, a hug, a kiss on the cheek, or all of the above. A lot of times, it seems like the hard work’s been done once you've set something up for later [like a date], but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again..plus, the next time you two meet up, you can initiate the physical contact from this point of physical comfort. Remember, you must keep escalating for progression!

~h